Respect Is the Line—Once It’s Crossed, It’s Time to Go

Hey, everyone. Welcome back to Words of Wisdom.

Respect is the line. Once it's crossed, it's time to go. Okay?

If you're in a relationship and that relationship is progressively getting worse over time,

you need to pay attention to that. That's not something to ignore or brush aside, okay?

A healthy relationship should grow mature, become stronger as time goes on, not slowly break down.

You might be in a relationship where both people are able to communicate calmly.

When something comes up, you talk about it respectfully, resolve it, and then leave it there

because it's been dealt with. You don't carry it around for weeks or months, okay? You don't

weaponize it later. You talk, you understand each other, and you move forward. That's how it's

supposed to work. Communication, resolution, and then peace. It doesn't have to be complicated.

Most times you guys, we are the ones who make things harder than they need to be.

But if time goes on and the dynamic starts to change, that's when you need to wake up.

Maybe the calm conversations turn into raised voices. Then the raised voices turn into yelling.

Suddenly communication is not about understanding each other anymore. It's about winning,

blaming, and tacking. That's when you know the direction of the relationship is going the wrong

way, okay? And if it escalates even further to the point where your partner starts calling you

names, whether it be the B word or anything else, that's no longer just an argument. That's verbal

abuse. When someone starts telling you that you couldn't afford to live or you live without them

or tries to make you feel small, that's not love. That's demeaning someone. That's tearing someone

down instead of building them up. Relationships are supposed to support each other, not destroy each

other. Okay? That's the moment you need to recognize the giant red exit sign. When communication turns

into yelling and yelling turns into insults and disrespect, that's your signal. Get out. Just get the

fuck out. Do yourself that favor. Because if you stay, it usually doesn't magically get better.

It escalates. The patterns repeats and each time it gets worse. Sometimes people call it intuition,

sometimes people call it the universe sending you signs. Okay? But when something in your life is

clearly breaking down and you keep ignoring it, life has a way of turning up the volume until you

finally listen. If you refuse to leave when the signs are obvious, the situation will become

and often becomes more painful until you're forced to face the truth. And by then, you may have

spent years being unhappy. No, life is too short for that. You guys, we are here only once. Why spend

that time living an anger, resentment or misery? Okay? And another thing, just because a relationship

ends, it doesn't mean it has to end with hate. Let's take the four letter word hate and replace it with

the four letter word love. Okay? I can't stand when breakups turn into these immature battles over who

gets what? Right? Sometimes the healthiest response is simply saying, you know what? Take it. I don't

care. My peace is worth more. If the relationship is not making you happy and nothing is changing,

then it's time to walk away with dignity. Okay? At some point, you guys, you loved each other.

Why not acknowledge that? Why not respect that history and move on peacefully?

Hmm? Good questions to ask. In many cases, you know, people can, people can care about each other

from a distance, even, even remain friends. The only exception is when there's real abuse,

physical or serious, serious emotional harm. That's the only exceptions. In those situation,

the answer is quite simple. Get out immediately. Your safety, your well-being and your life matter.

And the truth is, every fucking life matters. You guys, everybody matters. Not just black lives,

not kids. Everybody's life matters. Okay? Every single one of us has a purpose here.

That purpose isn't to suffer endlessly in toxic situations. It's to live, to grow, to love,

and to bring some joy into this world. We all have the power to change our lives when we decide

to take responsibility for our happiness. Okay? If you're in a relationship,

love your partner, but also love yourself. Protect your peace, maintain your boundaries.

If those boundaries keep getting crossed and the relationship keeps getting worse instead of

better, then you already know the answer. Personally, I'm at a point in life where I value my peace

more than anything. I'm in my late 50s, you guys. And I have no problem being alone. I actually

enjoy my own space. I'm not afraid of it. My boundaries are strong now stronger than they've ever

been. And I'm okay with that. I am okay with that. And if the right person comes along great,

if not, that's okay too. What's meant for me will never pass me by. And the same goes for you.

Life has a way you guys of bringing the right things at the right time. Okay? The bottom line is this.

If your relationship is progressively getting worse, there is no reason to stay and suffer through it.

Life is simply too short to live unhappy. Okay? If this message spoke to you, hit that like button so

more people who are stuck in unhealthy relationships can hear this truth. Share this episode with someone

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and building a life rooted in love, self-worth, and truth. I love you all so very much, all of you.

God bless.