
About this episode
We put love on trial — literally. Drew and I squared off in a full debate over whether romantic love is overrated. I made the case that love is basically your brain's con man, a neurochemical hijacking designed to make you delusional about deeply flawed people, and that the most intoxicating relationships are often the most toxic. Drew fought back with the evidence that love is the foundation of social infrastructure, physical health, and long-term happiness. By the end, we came to a gentlemen’s agreement: a framework that explains why we're all chasing the wrong kind of love, and what the right kind actually looks like.
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00:00:00 Introduction
00:02:21 Round 1: Love is the Brain's Conman
00:23:33 Round 2: Love as Social Infrastructure
00:43:48 Round 3: Love and Happiness
01:05:29 Round 4: Why We're Drawn to People Who Hurt Us
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