Rosh Hashana - Daddy's Home!

0:00Good morning. Good morning, Rabbi Otay. Welcome back to breakfast on the class breakfast on the class today is dedicated in honor of the birth of baby boy Shore born to Nicola and Ben Shore may he grump to give you endless nachat sponsored by their family Mazanto of Simanto and Abruq we now know that the name of baby boy Shore is Moshe Rayun at the breed yesterday should have only nachat also dedicated by Andy Dushet in honor of his wife Ilana Dushet is birthday at the 21st anniversary with the deepest love gratitude and appreciation of everything Ilana does for her husband and her family may I share my blessed with a happy birthday and a wonderful anniversary filled with good health abundant success and many more years of joy, fun and adventure together beautiful also dedicated lovely memory of Adele Azra Khalash al-Minoj by the Dilbad Freida on a Oscar as sponsored by a son Marvin Azraq sponsored an honor to be dedicated in the miracle of speedy and the belief of Washington Ma about the last

1:00half of Moshe Rayun at the moment been fortunate Mazal also dedicated loving memory of Gabriel Amos and sister Rosa Waqneen the next man Rosa Badrubi Shemov and Masouda sponsored by a net in Gabriel Amos with the foes of the Ma and Karob of Ali also was a fortunate and high brother for the most in the health of Khanabad, Sima Fega denikian loving memory of Nishmah Samir Mour Meir Yaqobis Reben Naima the son Abda La Vaishom was a modest loving and very humble man passed on the second of Tushre Tafshin Nuntet a young age 28 years ago Nishmah Tobin Ganayde donated by his wife and son Nishmah Tobin also a week of co-responsive by David Yashin honor of you and substantial capacity to go to the end every day and the learning for this week is dedicated by the tour of center silver donors Ronan Kamin at the Washington Ma of Meir Shalom and Khayyah. I also want to wish Mazal Tobin my brook to the entire love family for the beautiful naming of their baby yesterday of Gabe and Brooks the daughter Olivia Jade

2:04very special Bezadashemish Abizoché to see tremendous nakhat from her as well it's a very special thing to have two beautiful new babies in the family so Mazal Tobin as well to the Demaghi Lo and Shore families for Olivia Jade and for Moshe Hayun Bezadashemish Abizoché to have much nakhat from them and her foashemah for Gabriela Bat Dalya less but most certainly not least represent the class is dedicated in loving memory of Jochai Kapla Lillunishmat Jochai bin Mazal Aleva Shalom the Kapla family Tehane Shmato Eden she rise high and high and big and Eden Mikaedem that should be a melisio share for his loving and dedicated family my friends let us begin welcome to the last day of tapshin hay vav we are now my friends in the final hours of this holy and special day

3:11so of this holy and special year so we have only a few hours left to be able to take advantage and to take the chance to fix the things that we're walking into the courtroom with so it's like the famous song goes the final countdown rabotai so with the remaining hours left in the in the year with that in mind I want to share with you our breakfast in the class for today my friends there is a magnificent and a beautiful halacha which on the surface seems halakhik on the surface seems legal but under the surface actually carries with it a tremendous amount of importance of emotion of spirituality and unfortunately unless you pay close attention you might just miss it

4:17the halacha I'm referring to is the line the idea that there's a line in the amida that if we forget it we need to go back and repeat the entire amida what am I referring to of course which line when we say in the bayhaha baruch ata amonai instead of saying hake la cadosh the holy god instead we say hamelech a cadosh the holy king doesn't seem like that much of a difference doesn't it god is king and king is god you know I could have imagined that heaven would let that one slide but that's not the halacha halacha is that if you by mistake say hake la cadosh the holy god instead of the holy king pause stop return to sender go back to the beginning and start to amida

5:20again and the question is why why is it such a big deal why does it matter so much that we've swapped the language of the holy king from the holy god my friends I want to share with you a very powerful idea and really this concept appears and reappears and reappears many many times during this specific time of year you know there's an interesting law that says that if a person prays a person prays and then they finish praying rosa shana it should not really take a nap on the morning of rosa shana at least until after chatsot it should not be napping it should not be sleeping why say khazal if a person is sleeping on rosa shana tishan mazal his mazal will sleep for the year

6:30you slept on the day before chatsot now to just to be clear there's a little bit of a misunderstanding here technically the idea was meant that you woke up and you prayed nets and then you stayed up until chatsot if you woke up and went to the nine o'clock of a nyan so you already slept in the day of rosa shana so it's not about going back to sleep it's about sleeping on that day so not everyone is strict with this but to me the point here is not to ask you to do this the point here is to drive home and understanding why is it that the Torah that I shim ke so much when I have nap time tishan mazal he don't sleep on rosa shana one final question to round this out al-khameem tell us that when a person on rosa shana yom kippur approaches the

7:42holy beddeen of the shamaim on rosa shana already they write in all of the righteous people into the book of life and they write in all of the wicked people into the book of the opposite of life that happens on rosa shana but says the gammara if a person is not a sadik and they're not a rosa what does that mean when we call that guy confused correct what do we call him benoni a guy is a middle of the rotor okay halacha is this benoni he is talui ve omed he's hanging around and waiting until yom kippur if he does tishuva great if he doesn't do tishuva he's also written in that other book barmanan

8:48there's a famous question that's asked by Rev Blazer he asks we know that a sadik is a person who has more righteous elements to them than non righteous more mitzvote navelot so esli sefer kuchavya he says why does the gammara say a sadik ishuva he gets written in the book of life what should you have to do one more mitzvat if you're in the middle and you're 50-50 I don't know go out be khabad for the day take a pair of tiffilin out to the street put tiffilin out 50 guys did 50 mitzvote good to go why is the gammara specifying that I have to do tishuva if I'm a benoni why can't I just do whatever mitzvat one

9:50everyone get the question answer is actually the same for all three questions and let me explain if a person they add that in their house and they're thinking you know I really should call my parents before shabbat before the holiday I need to call them and then they before they call them they sit down in their recliner before you know it they fell asleep they wake up they call their mother and father how does it feel for their mother and father to get a phone call from their son very nice are they aware that the person fell asleep no let's change a scenario it's not a phone call instead your parents came to visit you in your house

10:58they sit down with you in your living room and you probably fall asleep on them and if there are an hour you take a nap you're like oh hi ma hi da how you doing we came to visit you all the way from wherever and you took a nap I don't understand you're not excited to see us the context in which a person is relating to God changes the nature about whether or not their behavior is seen to be disrespectful is seen to be a barometer a sign of how connected or not connected they are to asha and we know during this period of time from Rosanna till Yama Kippurim haka dos barru descends from on high and he comes to all of us and he's prepared to hear he's prepared

12:03to create a relationship he's prepared to forgive he's prepared to let things go and he walks in the door on Rosanna and you're sleeping now it's one thing if you're sleeping at the nighttime I'm a human being I'm exhausted but I just came as 10 a.m. what are you doing sleeping why are you jumping up and down why are you going crazy the old relationship that we had when I was far doesn't cut it for when I'm close so you slept on Rosanna would God came to visit a judge you that means you have no respect for the judgment that means you have no respect for the judge that means you have no your atshana and fear of heaven that means you don't believe that Hashem runs the world you think you're going to sleep through

13:07your court case and you're still going to be okay in the language of the Pasuk you have a person who says ki bi shirrut li bi elikh I'll go however I feel like going shalom yehli i'm going to be fine no one could do anything no one could touch me God included that guy has a rude awakening tishan masalat let his masal fall asleep my friends what is the difference between a god and a king some of us may have seen the coronation of the king where the live or in video some of us may have caught a glimpse of a king has any one of us seen God God is distant although he is close in our perception he's far away lives in the shaman

14:13you can't see him when you talk to him you don't know if you've been answered your relationship needs to exist and your understanding and your feeling and your mind and your intellect and your consciousness a malech is immediately close he's in your life he lives in your country or in your hemisphere or in your world on the time of your makipurim of roh shana of asad i met ishura hasham says to us i'm coming to you i'm going to make the effort to come to you because you have not made enough of an effort to come to me so i'm going to give you this magnificent chance i'm coming to you i'm waiting for you i'm connecting to you you're sleeping i'm coming to you and you still don't notice the difference between a malechak

15:20dos and how elak idosh you can't feel me you don't sense me you haven't changed your ways so that you would refer to me in another way start again stop from the beginning my friends i wanted to imagine for a minute if you deeply hurt somebody you set some horrible things you acted in a way which was really not okay and for a while you guys weren't talking for a while maybe there was a little bit of a passive aggressive relationship for a while things were not what they should have been you're embarrassed you're ashamed or you're stubborn and you won't take the first step

16:22so your parents or your spouse or your child who wants to fix things even though you were the one that hurt them comes around and says let's make things better yeah butchers some flowers here's some troklets let's start again let me tell you this even if the reason why you messed up the relationship in the first place is because you spoke in a mean or cruel way or you did something inappropriate if you walk into that meeting with flowers it's not enough if you walk into that meeting with a diamond earrings it's not enough if you walk into that meeting with a coupon for a dinner for two and a fancy restaurant it's not enough there's two words that they need to hear you say I'm sorry if you've not said I'm sorry

17:31nothing else that you're gonna do is gonna work you know why because they came here to fix the problem that's why they're here anything less than I'm sorry is not enough you can do some very nice things but that doesn't fix the past you have to address the elephant in the room says you're a blaser when Hashem opens the gates of Tishuva when he comes close to you nothing but I'm sorry is gonna do so this is a time that we have to take in a very serious manner to feel like Hashem has come into our homes I mean anyone here does real estate yeah a couple people who've done real estate show departments there's an old trick

18:34that real estate agents use when they come to show you a spot it's famous it's almost a cliche they turn on the oven and they bake cookies you walk in what does the house smell like cookies smells like warm smells like your child but it smells like your mom just made some dessert feels at home yeah I mean obviously that's if you're American if you're Persian or they make gourmet salsi if you're halavi they fry kibbeh right you're asking us they put up a challenge you understand what I'm saying you walk in and it feels like home now in a real estate notes that they're trying to sell the house they need the person to like the house so you want to make it homey is there anyone that would try and sell a home

19:42and not clean the house you think who you're welcoming in and what perception do you want them to have of the home my friends when you go home after this class I wanted to think you know it's coming over for us shanamiels Hashem is coming the king straighten up the house let it be neat cook something in the oven so the house smells good scrub the toilets steam your suit shine your shoes all of these things speak to the fact that I realize I'm going to greet the king and as you do those things your mindset shifts to a place where that's the preparation men if you're going to go to the mcvette

20:44today what you should what do you do you think to yourself if I needed to be clean I would jump in a shower but if I want to be cleaned by a shem I need to give my soul a shower that happens in the mcvette when you're dipping there's lots of thoughts of tishuva but I always think a person needs to think I need to clean myself the king is coming you have a beautiful suit you're both for the holiday you didn't check it for shanamiels put the suit away don't wear it imagine God says to you you know I'm not a fan of dark green you show up in a meeting wearing a dark green suit what does that say I don't care about you I don't listen to what you say I don't care about what you care about

21:44well God tells you in the Torah I hate shotness why are you going to come to show wearing the thing you told you like you don't put on to see any other day of the year you should and we have to see here if anyone that's willing to put on will give you a pair of wool to see for free that's the way you fulfill the mcvette or right now according to Sephardim only with wool to seat Russia shanami you're not going to wear to seat what are you crazy look at his book you have had a guest and you know their favorite flower is roses you go out of your way I know you like the roses you know that they like bobca you bring bobca how shem don't need bobca more than he wants your apple and honey he wants your to seat he wants your non-shotness he wants you to make sure that you set the the timer so you didn't turn on and off the lights on the holiday

22:49King is here he's in my house he's with me for 10 days I have to be on my best behavior someone wants to ask me I don't understand what are we fooling us shem 10 days I'm going to behave so nicely the whole year I don't do it what am I sketch doesn't God know that I'm just putting on an act the answer is of course he knows of course he knows but imagine he have a son of a chief rabbi and the chief rabbi son it's no longer religious it's one thing for the guy to break shem at in the privacy of his apartment in Tel Aviv but when he comes to his father's house and his turns out doesn't his father in front of me in my house

23:55everything has to change from tonight until keep on the way that we behave not because we're pretending but because when I shem is right here it demands a higher level of engagement of attention of sensitivity you got to watch your mouth you know people unfortunately they had certain businesses they curse nonstop the certain businesses that are famous for it used to say the traders on the floor had a mouth like a toilet bowl you know and even I'll tell you there's people that I know you speak to them rabbi shem at chalom discussion rabbi if you ask them a question about their business and they start talking shop within 10 seconds they're dropping an f-bomb it is and that

24:56can't help themselves but they know that when they're with the rabbi that's how they should speak if you be careful when you're with the rabbi how should you be when you're with the rabbi's boss with haqados barahu with the world's boss so today along with a reckoning and thinking of the mitsubot that you need to do in the coming year ive roth that you're gonna stop doing in the coming year i want you also to think if i knew and felt and believed that asha was coming into my life for 10 days what do i want to write down what are my own 10 commandments for myself what elevation of behavior of speech of interaction i mean imagine you were watching a video that you know i'm not saying it's terrible

25:57but it's not so nice what's on your father walks in the room sits down with you on the couch your rabbi walks in sits down with you on the couch how uncomfortable do you feel careful with your eyes careful with your mouth all the rest of the year you're not so strict on kosher now you're gonna take a shim out to eat in an enc place and everybody wherever they are because everybody is on a different level you bump it up in arch normally you go to a place with a weak ash kaka only go to places that have the best ash kaka normally you put the feeling on at home come to the school i said you make this shuvah normally you talk in the kinesh decide i'm not speaking in the back and ask it from the minute i come in until the minute i leave all of these things they represent not me fooling god but me saying to

27:01god i know that you came i'm grateful that you came i'm gonna use this chance to repair our relationship and you'll see already the way i'm behaving change because you've come to stay with me thank you for the opportunity to fix it and be better i'm gonna start right now the school shanim rabot ni moti tohot i want to wish you all bez atashem a magnificent year a year filled with berakhah a year filled with all of your tefilot answered bez atashem we should merit to have the shidukhim or the children or the khinuk the pernasa or the happiness or the shalom all of the blessings that we could possibly ask him ashem we should merit to experience them be karov mamash in our lives barok alayla olam and ben faan ben tabi khanan ya ben akashaam