S10 E7 - Marj's story, recurrent loss and secondary infertility

💔 Episode Summary

In this episode, Marj shares her deeply personal story of miscarriage and secondary infertility, a journey marked by repeated loss while trying to grow her family for a second time.

She speaks openly about experiencing ten losses, including chemical pregnancies and an ectopic pregnancy, and what it has been like to carry that grief while still showing up as a mum to her daughter. Marj reflects on the emotional toll of living in constant uncertainty, the strain and strength it brought to her relationship, and how vital it was to reach out for help, especially during lockdown when everything felt even heavier.

Throughout the conversation, Marj emphasises the power of community and the importance of talking about loss, even when it feels impossibly hard. She shares how her mindset has shifted over time, moving slowly towards acceptance and learning how to live alongside grief while still holding space for hope.

This episode is a reminder that secondary infertility can feel deeply isolating, that loss does not cancel out gratitude for the child you have, and that healing does not mean forgetting. It means finding a way forward, together.

💬 Key Takeaways

• Marj’s journey through miscarriage has been long, painful, and ongoing.
• She has experienced ten losses, including chemical pregnancies and an ectopic pregnancy.
• Reaching out for support was essential, particularly during lockdown.
• Mindset can shape how we survive loss, even when it does not remove the pain.
• Community support helped Marj feel less alone in her grief.
• Parenting while grieving brings its own complex challenges.
• Loss tested Marj’s relationship and ultimately strengthened it.
• Speaking openly about her experiences became part of her healing.
• Talking about loss helps break shame and silence.
• Acceptance came slowly and continues to evolve.

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