S9 E35 - Alex - Recurrent miscarriage, IVF & grieving far from home.

In this episode, we sit down with Alex, who opens up about the heartbreak, confusion, and sheer emotional exhaustion of navigating multiple miscarriages while living halfway across the world from home. Now based in Singapore with her husband - and with zero plans to head back to the UK - Alex has had to make sense of her losses within a healthcare system that doesn’t always cushion its words or soften the blows. Cultural differences meant that some of the medical conversations she faced landed with a thud: blunt, clinical, sometimes bordering on cruel.

Throughout the episode, Alex describes the emotional toll of repeated miscarriages - the way each loss chips away at you until you feel like this cracked, fragile version of yourself, desperately trying to glue the pieces back together again. Her IVF journey has involved genetic testing, endless decisions, and the constant tug-of-war between hope and self-protection. She’s made lifestyle changes, like going gluten-free, in her determination to give future embryos the best possible chance.

And woven through all of this is the gang: the friends, the online communities, the people who show up and get it when the world feels impossibly heavy. Alex’s story is a powerful reminder of how vital compassion and understanding are when talking about pregnancy loss - and how much it matters when someone finally says, “I see you… and you’re not alone.”

Key Takeaways

• Alex relocated to Singapore for her husband’s work and is settled there long-term.
• She has experienced multiple miscarriages, each bringing its own unique heartbreak.
• Cultural differences in Singapore’s healthcare system can lead to abrupt or blunt communication.
• After receiving a harsh diagnosis, Alex trusted her instincts and sought a second opinion.
• The emotional impact of loss can feel like being a cracked vase, with resilience chipped away piece by piece.
• Her IVF journey included genetic testing after repeated miscarriages.
• She has made lifestyle changes, including going gluten-free, to support her fertility.
• Support from friends and online communities has been essential throughout her journey.
• The episode highlights how deeply compassion and sensitivity are needed when discussing pregnancy loss.

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