S9 E9 | Writing Your Way Through Grief: How poetry helps with a rollercoaster of emotions with Harry Baker

In this powerful and emotionally resonant episode of The Worst Girl Gang Ever, hosts Bex Gunn and Laura Buckingham sit down with award-winning performance poet Harry Baker to explore the raw, messy, and rarely spoken-about reality of trying to conceive.Harry shares the deeply personal journey behind his viral spoken word poem “Trying,” a moving piece that captures the rollercoaster of hope, grief, waiting, and heartache that comes with infertility, miscarriage, and longing for parenthood.Together, they tackle the emotional and mental toll of fertility struggles, the silence around male infertility grief, and the taboos that keep so many couples suffering in silence. This is a must-listen episode for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss, IVF, male factor infertility, or simply the endless wait that trying to conceive can bring.In this show, we discuss: Male infertility and grief from the perspective of a non-pregnant partner How writing and poetry can help process baby loss and fertility struggles The emotional impact of miscarriage and trying to conceive over time IVF journeys, same-sex fertility barriers, and NHS funding inequality Feeling left behind as friends announce pregnancies Why men often stay silent about baby loss and fertility issues The power of vulnerability and storytelling in grief support Mental health in infertility and why therapy helps Taboo feelings like jealousy, guilt, shame, and not feeling “entitled” to grieve How to support others going through baby loss or infertilityAbout The Worst Girl Gang Ever:The Worst Girl Gang Ever is a real, honest, and emotive podcast that covers the heartbreaking subject of miscarriage, infertility, and baby loss. Expect raw conversations about unspoken experiences, hosted by TWGGE founders Bex Gunn and Laura Buckingham. This show aims to break the silence and open dialogue around miscarriage and pregnancy loss. No more shame, no more taboo—let’s change the narrative for future generations.Support and Resources:Access The WarriorshipThe Warriorship is our free peer to peer membership platform, connecting you with others who ‘just get it’ through whats app groups, online drop in sessions, a book club, creative workshops and informative webinars. Join now and instantly connect with others who understand the challenges you face.https://theworstgirlgangever.co.uk/membership/Our bookWe are here to tell you that you are entitled to grieve, and that your grief is not disproportionate to your loss. We are here to open up the dialogue around miscarriage, so we don’t perpetuate the shame, judgement and isolation so many of us feel following pregnancy loss. We are here to equip you with knowledge, tools and guidance to support and help you in whatever way you need.https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/0008524998/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&sr=Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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