Segment: Don't Marry Blindly - Create a Blueprint for Your Marriage Before You Say 'I Do'

From the dangerous mindset of sizing people based on physique and six packs to the revolutionary truth that nobody will remember you for your work achievements more than family and the children that carry the legacy, and why the brutal truth about marriage longevity is that the older generation had a level of tolerance the younger generation doesn't have because younger people are not ready to put in so much and leave when they're not happy when happiness is not a gift that comes in a breath of gold but something you work out with a threshold of patience, the powerful manifesto every couple needs before engaging: a blueprint, a working document that maps out where you want to see your marriage on your 10th anniversary covering finances, children's upbringing, career, spirituality, sex, everything so you don't marry blindly and walk into it without direction, the woman's perspective that values transparency, honesty, truthfulness, faithfulness as four words describing one thing because faithfulness means you are faithful to me and not cheating unless the woman didn't love you and you have somebody outside and it's only psychoning from you to fix the one she's interested in, the 33 years plus of marriage proving that date night and spending quality time means so much to a woman who wants a man whose presence they can feel, the revolutionary advice that most women choose men they can allow themselves to respect because a man is wired for respect as their greatest desire and love language, the capital letters warning to never marry a man you cannot respect because no man wants to marry another man and your intuitiveness as a woman should be mixed with humility because men are logical and don't want to be challenged even if you have a point to make, the realization that you can say good morning and it means good morning or you can say good morning and it means disrespect so if a woman wants their marriage to work and have the man feel like the man in the home give that man respect, the marriages that are not really getting better because the younger generation doesn't have the tolerance older generations had and are not ready to put in work, the happiness trap where everybody thinks if there's no happiness we work out when if everybody is working out what will be left of this institution, the early years of marriage being the most challenging season filled with expectations that get smashed coupled with raising children when you have a husband that is extremely intelligent, hardworking, and out there achieving so much but wasn't really available and you hadn't planned for the lack of availability, the seven years with four children that was big challenging but they set out, understood themselves, and gave him the space to become the best thing he was, the endurance through eight years that was a bit unstable and then started settling in bringing them to a season where father is seven on earth, the other couples whose early years are thrilling and then suddenly something strikes and the storm comes in and you compare the past and the present discovering the early years were extremely smooth but now you're in this challenging and testing season, the sitting back now to say I bless God for everything that happened because it brought the best out of us, the secret to surviving your early years of marriage, and why the ultimate truth is this: stop sizing people based on physique and six packs because that six packs man can put you in grief tomorrow and that lady that is like an angel that got missing from heaven can send you to an early grave, beauty is good and six packs is good but you should slow it down and promise yourself that you receive family that in the midst of the confusion and chaos in the world you will stand out. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey