Segment: Marriage Requires the Right Mindset - Why Your Mindset About Marriage Must Change First

From the dangerous mindset that the devil is the one destroying families to the revolutionary truth that until you tame the common enemy you and your spouse can never be on the same wavelength, and why the brutal truth about why millennials and Gen Z don't trust marriage is because the Bible has been corrupted, ministers and preachers have messed up, the older generation managed broken marriages, and some never saw any marriage at all leaving them with no examples to glean from and take into their life journey, the young people coming from broken homes who came from homes that seemingly looked as if they were standing but had no examples they could use as blueprints for their own marriages, the realization that changing the narratives of corruption surrounding marriage so we can trust again is not about money because if your mind is right then as a man thinketh so everything about your perception of marriage is your mindset, the wisdom that until this mind is reguided whatever conversations we hold about marriage will not go far because it's a thing of the mind, the dangerous saying that love is sweet but when money is inside the love is sweeter which is taking advantage when you must understand the purpose for marriage and the purpose for money in marriage, the candid admission that money is sweet, money is comfort, money makes love go to hell but to make that money work for us there also has to be a corresponding peace on understanding and intentionality, the critical question of should women tell their husbands exactly how much they earn with the answer that it depends on who the woman is married to because it's not a blanket yes or no, the right thing being 101% financial transparency but the reality that not every marriage is the same, the marriage where if a spouse knows everything you earn the children's school fees may not be paid, house rents will not be renewed, certain basic needs and utilities will not be taken care of not because the other person is bad but because of the antecedents that need to be understood going back to how we were raised, the man counseled who said all through his life before he married he never had savings, never opened accounts, chopstick finish and start again chopstick which you can't blame because of the effect of upbringing, the woman who should open up completely if she has a husband that understands management and how to handle finances so the two can join heads together making the best out of finances, the dangerous reality of having a man who even when he knows how much you earn finishes it with drinking or taking it to take care of people when thousands of human beings have been exposed to this reality, the man who when the wife used to hand 100% of her salary to him wasn't unfaithful, wasn't playing around with women but used that money to visit people who are not well and the money finished in two weeks leaving children's school fees pending and money for food finished while he filled the car to run around contributing zero to the household. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey