Segment: Why Most People Don't Really Know Who They're Marrying

From the husband who wants to check out because his wife nags and doesn't reason with him to the revolutionary truth that every person has a melting point that determines who they ultimately become, and why the brutal truth about why marriages collapse is that we spend years learning careers like medicine and law but expect to master marriage in six months when the microwave mindset of competing with AI and technology will never work in relationship, the wisdom that nothing good comes easy and if we want to fix society we must be willing to pay the price to reorder and rewrite the storylines, the realization that most families have broken people terribly and immensely but it's only the clothes that cover their idiosyncrasies, the challenge to the younger generation that you may have been broken in the family you come from but you mustn't repeat the cycle, the warning that if you haven't looked critically at how to affect the things in your childhood you wish had not happened you're going to give a double dose of that to your children, the dangerous reality that some ladies picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine which is a very faulty and erroneous mindset to have, the call to raise daughters who would not think like that by looking frantically for whoever can take you through psychometric analysis that can tell you about you beyond you to clean the contents of water that had been infiltrated and corrupted, the powerful statement that women don't just blame the ladies, blame fatherhood because the woman is created by God to draw inspiration from the father, the message to present fathers to bless your daughters and look for a woman you can trust to help the process of healing and restoration, the quantum reality check that helps discover the reason why a person is the way the person is because nobody is created to be a nag or irresponsible, something was broken somewhere, the woman who nags because her husband never listens to her and really hears her out, never pays attention when she's talking so she forces him to hear what she's saying without knowing that men are not wired to handle nagging attitudes, the man who goes or complains that she doesn't reason with him and even when he wants to have a conversation it doesn't really happen so he's lost the desire to even sleep with her and is checking out, the question that determines the next line of action: what effort have you made to seek help for both of you, the wisdom that nobody has monopoly of knowledge and you may be excellent at your work and business but you may not know everything when it comes to relationship, the realization that there is no situation that cannot be handled and made better when it comes to these dysfunctionalities if you're willing to pay the price and say I want to marry right, I want to have my marriage work, I want to be a blessing to my partner, the revolutionary belief that we are not also willing to pay the price to fix the family institution and the responsibility raised on the head of the male because they are the heads but the neck turns the head, the neck that you allow to be dysfunctional will tell you the wrong direction so why don't you fix the neck, the critical truth that the content must be sorted out before marriage not six months after you thought you knew them because will you practice medicine or law just by being exposed to tutelage in two months or six months when careers require years of exposure, the challenge that this generation wants to bring microwave mindsets into relationship. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey