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Hello and welcome back to Lessons in Self Worth. If you are returning, welcome back. How lovely
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that you have heard this podcast and yeah, you want to return and be in this world with
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me. And if you are brand new here, a big welcome to you as well. I am Carly Ann. I'm a therapist.
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I'm a coach. I'm specialising in self-esteem and self-worth and helping people to, you know,
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reclaim their lives, live happier lives. Maybe you appear capable self-aware on the outside,
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but internally you might struggle with self-doubt, with rumination, with it feeling more chaotic
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than it looks on the outside. And yeah, I'm helping people to reconnect with,
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do I say our true selves? Are happier selves? I just feel that there are things that we can do,
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mindsets that we can develop to really help us feel happier.
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This is a brief episode today and it is just a little something from the most recent
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self-worth reset. So I run a kind of workshop-ish style free call. It's for people to come along
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to check in with your self-esteem in that space. We ground, we let go, we gather.
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You can have your camera on or off. Most people have it off. To be honest with you, you can type in share
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or not share and, you know, just be on your own journey. But, you know, with us there,
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it's beautiful in that way. And yeah, I run that for free as a way for you to pause,
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connect with yourself and all of those things I was just saying that I'm so passionate about.
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And this episode is a little something from the most recent one. If you would like to join
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the next self-worth reset, just go to the description and you'll see the link for it there.
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If you want reminders, if you want behind-the-scenes things with me because you like this podcast,
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then make sure you're inside my telegram as well. It's a very small group,
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but I'm sharing bonuses there and just a bit more of an insight, I guess.
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Anyway, enjoy. Oh, I should say the sound is not great. I didn't have a microphone on.
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So it might be, yeah, just not great sound, but I hope you enjoy it all the same.
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For the next, this next internal shift between now and the next check-in,
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you may have heard of a famous quote around this that's inspired it.
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The reason I've chosen it is because with self-esteem, when people struggle with their self-esteem,
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we're going through a time in their life where they're struggling,
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something that tends to really trigger it, really trigger that thinking, feeling,
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or not being good enough, the anxiety, the worry, the low mood,
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is some kind of rejection or failure.
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The old quote, the rejection as redirection, letting rejection be redirection.
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And this internal shift this week is about you letting rejection and failure
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and being really conscious about this between now and our next check-in,
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letting rejection and failure be redirection.
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It's trying to radical every time, I might be pushing it there,
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but let's say it for the power.
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Every time you encounter rejection, failure, a moment that shakes your confidence
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or knocks you or makes your world wobbly, I want you to pause
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and I want you to say to yourself, you know, okay, I recognize this.
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This is not my sign to beat myself up.
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This is not my sign that I am unworthy.
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Instead, ask yourself, where is this redirecting me?
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What would my higher self say here?
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Instead of that sinking feeling, instead of that shrinking, blaming, worrying,
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sometimes a depression, see this as some kind of fuel,
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the disappointment, the frustration, see it as some kind of drive,
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it's not wasted, that is how I really used to use this.
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In the times where my self-esteem was particularly knocked
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in the dating world in relationships, I would be like, right,
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we get back up, we go again, and this will not be wasted.
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I will learn from this.
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This can really shine a light on where to do the work or where to go next.
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When you notice an inner fire or an inner pool that is coming from this rejection,
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maybe, or this failure, because maybe something is really important to you.
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You can ask yourself, what will I learn?
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Will this redirect me?
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How will I use my energy to take me in a kind of positive action?
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And again, you might take that 1% tangible shift.
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So that's what I want you to practice.
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How likely does that feel?
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How confident do you feel?
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Zero, not confident at all.
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How confident do you feel that between now and the next check-in,
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you can try and find the strength in you to use failure and rejection
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as a reminder of, you know what, this is redirection.
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To check in with your self-esteem and not let it,
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not let it be your whole being.
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Don't let it define you.
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It can be crappy, but it doesn't define you.
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Does it mean I'm a bad person?
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Does it mean I'm useless?
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Does it mean I'm boring?
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Does it mean I'm embarrassing?
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It means this one thing has kind of happened.
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And sometimes that one thing hasn't even really happened.
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Who can relate to that?