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In this episode of the Owaken Podcast, Lukis Mac and Hella Omega explore self-love as a daily practice of meeting yourself unconditionally, tuning into what you truly need and backing that love with aligned action, rather than seeking approval, validation, or external rewards.
They discuss how childhood conditioning can create conditional self-worth through achievement, people-pleasing, food, shopping, and other coping mechanisms. They emphasize the importance of self-sourcing your needs to break these loops and build self-trust by keeping promises to yourself.
The conversation highlights the somatic impact of self-abandonment, especially for empaths, and the level of effort required to realign with personal power, authenticity, and disciplined growth, without falling into self-loathing.
They share practices for connecting with your future self, including meditation, breathwork, and journaling, reframing effort as a form of spiritual devotion. The episode closes with a powerful question:
“Who are you doing it for?”
Timestamps
00:00 Self-Love Takes Effort
01:12 Setting Intentions
02:17 Defining Self-Love
03:33 Actions Over Words
06:25 Conditional Love Patterns
09:31 People-Pleasing to Authenticity
12:02 Self-Sourcing Your Needs
14:19 Empaths & Somatic Alignment
19:21 Building Capacity & Discipline
26:49 Self-Trust & Keeping Promises
28:45 Future Self Vision Practices
32:40 Devotion, Not Settling
36:40 Closing Question
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In this episode of The Awakened Podcast, we're diving deep on self-love and the effort required to live a life of devotion to yourself.
Not only to be out in the world, to be achieving amazing things, to be living a life that is about you fulfilling your potential, but also to be connected to your deep truth.
Guided by your soul, your spirit and your heart.
Doing things not to get approval or validation from other people, but because you genuinely want to and it lights you up.
Self-love requires effort. It ain't easy, and this is why we're going to have this conversation to help you to get clear on what it's going to take, what's involved, and what unique self-love means to you.
Welcome to The Awakened Podcast.
Where we share practical spirituality from modern living.
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Here we are.
Another one.
Welcome.
We're excited to dive in.
We're supping on water and electrolytes today.
Yeah, keep it clean.
Keep it clear.
If you want to join us with a coffee, a cacao, a matcha, a tea, whatever you've got, then go ahead.
You know how we do it? You can close down your eyes, taking a nice deep breath, and through your nose, and out through your mouth.
Watch your intentions today, Hela.
My intention is to connect to that embodied sense of self-love, and speak directly from it to everyone listening, so that their transmission is clear, and it lands in people's hearts, and it's really felt.
I just want to be honest and real, and support anyone at home who might be struggling with this, because I know for us, we struggled with this for a very long time, so we have a lot to say.
Yeah, cheers, all right.
Cheers.
Take a sip.
Oh, this is good, but honestly, I was thinking I'm like, I kind of wish I had a cacao right now, or a little match, or something, but you know what?
The electrolytes are hitting.
It's good.
Okay, so what I want to get right into is just clarifying what we even mean by self-love, because I think that word gets thrown around so much.
And I also believe that while people say it, and they might think they know what it means, I don't think they know what it means.
I think a lot of people are actually confused. It feels abstract. They might think they love themselves, and maybe they don't.
Maybe they're not actually connecting to our definition of self-love.
So let's start there. What do you think about it?
Self-love is a daily practice. It's about meeting yourself unconditionally, and tuning into what you truly need in the moment, and then being willing to give yourself that.
And every single day is going to be different, depending on your energy levels, your capacity, and what's going on for you.
But self-love is a daily practice, so it's about tuning into what you truly need, and then being willing to give yourself that.
Some days that might look like really slowing down, and honoring more rest, and some days that might look like overcoming your own excuses, and rising up and moving forward.
So every single day is going to be different, but it's a daily practice of meeting yourself with unconditional love, and giving yourself what you need.
Yeah, two things that really stand out for me, based on what you just shared, one is being tuned into yourself, like developing an intimate relationship with you.
Rather than going through the motions in life, actually having a connected sense of what you need to feel supported, to feel present, to feel well, to feel challenged, to feel inspired, energised, all of those beautiful things.
And then the second part of it is, it's not just something that you say, it's action. It is following up, I love you, self, with, I'm going to now show you, and it reminds me that in any relationship, that's how it is.
It's one thing to say, like for example, in romantic partnership, I love you, but how do you demonstrate that love, right? In any relationship, the demonstration of love is as important as thinking about it, and feeling it, and saying it.
Your words can be meaningless if they're not backed up with action.
Exactly. So I think right off the bat there, there's an invitation for all of us to look at, how do our actions align with love or not?
Yeah, are you saying one thing and then doing another thing? Yeah.
Like are you telling yourself, you love yourself, but you're not actually meeting yourself in the moment and giving yourself what you need?
The other part of it that I'll add here is more of the internal, and that's connected to what you were saying around being tuned in.
You can do a lot of things that look like self-love, but it's actually about where it's coming from.
And vice versa, there are also things that we do that are challenging, that are stretching, and that are sometimes even temporarily stressful, but are being fueled by love.
Yeah, we'll self-love requires effort, doesn't it? It's like any other relationship.
Your willingness to put an effort determines the type of relationship you're having with yourself and life.
And we all have a unique relationship with life, and life is responding to the way that we're showing up.
So it's not just about the words that we're saying, it's also how you're backing it up with action.
Like you said, many of us are withholding love from ourselves.
We can be very judgmental and critical to ourselves on a daily basis.
But that's having a conditional relationship with self-love.
It actually takes effort to interrupt those patterns and choose again, to choose a more empowering way of meeting yourself in the moment when you might be being quite judgmental towards yourself.
That's what it means to practice self-love in that moment.
It's to meet yourself where you are, and instead of judging yourself and lowering your vibration and draining your energy,
to actually give yourself what you need, which might be words of affirmation, which might be encouragement, which might be time to reflect and to coach yourself up.
But ultimately there's a more empowering way of meeting yourself in that moment, rather than judging yourself.
Yeah, I've experienced this for sure, where I've loved myself when, for example, it's almost like earning rewards where if you be a good girl, if you be a good boy, then you're lovable.
And I think a lot of the time we are unconsciously repeating some patterns from childhood.
And we don't even realize that the way that we love ourselves can be a version of how we were loved or how we were rewarded.
And I've seen this with you where, for example, you would love yourself through food for a really long time.
And for me, I noticed that I would love myself through buying myself something.
And I was speaking with my mum the other day because we've been on this like quit shopping challenge.
And we were talking about how, when I was a kid, she would take me out and buy me something as a treat, you know.
And there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing even remotely bad about her expressing love by being like, I want to buy you something nice.
But it's interesting how as children and then fast forward into adulthood, we can start to symmetrically experience the signals of, I am lovable and I am safe when this happens.
And that can become quite unhealthy and it can even become addictive, right? Like in the case of food addiction or a shopping addiction or whatever else it may be.
I know for many people that we work with, they have been loved as children when they were achieving.
Loved when they were getting good grades, loved when they were doing well at sports, whatever it may be.
And so then we are unconsciously chasing, I am good enough, I am worthy.
And what we are speaking about is actually the effort required to cultivate a foundation that is unwavering.
Like not, I am lovable when I prove that I'm lovable externally through what I do, but I am lovable because I exist.
I am lovable because I am in my essence. I am good enough and worthy just as I am right now in this moment without having to achieve, like you said, without having to get some sort of result just in being who I am.
That also has been a big one for me, like I remember with my relationship with my father that I would feel like I needed to prove that I was good enough through external achievements, through status, through being like, look at me, like I, I did something really great, are you proud of me?
Do you think I'm good now? And it became like this bottomless pit of feeling like I wasn't good enough and I needed to do another thing to keep up.
It's like being on a hams to wheel of chasing approval. And internally, it was like a question mark, am I? Am I? Are they responding? Are they noticing?
And one of the things that has really helped me unlock a deeper level of self love is unplugging from that program and going, I don't need someone else's approval for me to love myself and approve of myself.
And I noticed that as, you know, a recovering people pleaser, I was in a habit of self abandonment and a big one for me was if I'm too much, then I'm not lovable.
And if I make myself small and easy to be around, then I will be loved. And gradually, as I did this more and more, especially, you know, into adult life, my sense of self respect and confidence was gradually eroding.
Like I didn't have confidence. I didn't feel strong as a person. I felt like my role in social dynamics was to be submissive.
And it would show up more and more in situations where I actually needed to be assertive, where I needed to be a strong leader like in our business, where in social situations, I was surrounded by people who are really confident and empowered.
And being submissive was not respected or admired or giving equal energy. And so it was confronting like, whoa, what got me here, what got me love is no longer working.
And I need to confront that this has actually been me playing small. And I need to evolve how I get love and turn it into self love, self confidence and self worth.
That allows me to then be authentic.
Yes, so that's where self love is about effort, right? That effort to do the things that might be challenging or difficult with the things that don't feel familiar in the moment.
That is an act of self love.
Yeah, absolutely. I think up until that point, I had been working on self love, but more in the soft sense, like, I'm going to nurture myself.
I'm going to slow down when I need to. I'm going to embrace rest and not feel guilty about it.
That sensitive side of me needed a lot of nurturing to just feel safe to be, for example, with my feelings and be like, it's okay to feel sad.
It's okay to not have a lot of energy on certain days.
That was beautiful, and it was necessary. But the next frontier, for me, was going, oh, wow.
I feel safer and more lovable when I'm small.
Yeah, and that's about authenticity and authenticity isn't always easy in the moment. It does require effort to be your authentic self when you feel like shrinking and playing small and not taking up space.
It requires you to step up and to play bigger in the moment, which is often uncomfortable.
I would define my relationship with self love as self devotion. It's really showing up for the younger parts of me. That didn't feel good.
Because growing up, I didn't feel good. That's truly how I felt.
And I remember many times growing up where I would be reaching for things externally to make myself feel better.
Whether that was reaching for food or for something else to give myself a temporary sense of relief from what I was truly feeling inside.
I might be feeling upset or sad or dysregulated or overwhelmed, and I didn't know how to meet those feelings.
So I learned by reaching for something externally like food, it would give me a temporary sense of relief. It would make me feel better for a moment.
But it's only temporary, so then that fades away and then you're left with those feelings.
And oftentimes there can be even another judgment that comes from reaching for something you might feel shame or guilt around that because you don't feel good about that behavior.
When it's a loop and it's ongoing and you don't know how to break it, then you can feel shame when you enter back into that loop and you spiral into that behavior.
So one of the ways that really supported me to get out of that is self sourcing what I need.
And we talk about self sourcing as a concept and self sourcing is about meeting your own needs.
It's been willing to slow down enough to pause and to tune into yourself like we've been talking about and ask the question, what do I truly need in this moment?
And then once you know what that is, then give yourself that.
Instead of looking for it out here, be willing to give yourself that.
And that's a form of self love. That's a form of self devotion.
It's a form of showing up for yourself when you need it because there might be parts of you that don't know how to regulate yourself.
And you might have been conditioned into reaching for things externally to make you feel better.
And that could be anything, right? We all have different ways of coping.
And ultimately what I'm talking about is a coping mechanism.
But if that's no longer serving you and you recognize that, then self sourcing is the way out of that behavior.
And that's not always easy. It does require effort, but that's what we're speaking into.
Self love is a daily practice and it takes being tuned into yourself and having awareness around what you need because with awareness comes choice.
Yeah, so true.
What's wild is when you're in that habit of outsourcing love and validation and approval, you aren't going to be able to meet what people want you to be across the board.
You could be perfectly loveable to one person in one area, but another person doesn't like that.
Another person finds that not enough or too much. And I've been doing somatic work specifically over the last year or so on the scoliosis that I have in my spine.
And what I've realized is that a lot of the experience that I'm having in my body with this curve is to do with contorting myself to be what other people have needed me to be.
And in that I have lost my alignment, you know, alignment of the spine, alignment and ways of being alignment and authenticity.
And it's helped me to understand that a lot of what I've thought bothered me or that wasn't okay was just an overlay.
And when I really get aligned with myself, I'm fine. I'm okay. I approve of myself. I like that about me.
I don't think I need to change those things. I can honor my truth. It's only when I start to lose my center and go, okay, maybe they're right.
Like maybe I do need to be more like that. Maybe I do need to accommodate more of their needs rather than my own that I start to self abandon and become contorted and out of alignment.
So I want to bring this in to the conversation because there's a somatic manifestation to how we treat ourselves.
When you hate yourself, when you abuse yourself, when you abandon yourself, your body responds to that.
And I've experienced this through skin issues, gut issues, spinal alignment issues, postural issues.
Literally, how you feel about yourself is showing up in how you hold your body and your posture.
Yeah, this is a really important conversation for all our empaths out there who might lose connection to themselves on the daily and be putting their attention and energy out here.
And then in doing that, they can abandon themselves in their own needs. And that's exactly what you're speaking into.
So for any empaths out there, the way through there is to bring your connection back to yourself instead of focusing your energy and attention out here on other people and how they're showing up and how they're responding and what they might be thinking.
Bring your energy back to your center back to you because this is where your power lives.
You don't have any control over how people are showing up out here. And in truth, it's none of your business.
Your business is to remain in relationship with the deepest parts of you and lead from that place, which requires you to be connected to your personal power.
When your energy is scattered and it's out here, you are losing connection to your personal power.
So the key is to bring it back to yourself and then from there to connect into your own truth, like ask yourself, what's my truth?
What do I believe in this moment and what do I need and allow that to inform the way that you're showing up?
This practice of asking yourself how you actually feel about things and what your truth is is so simple and yet it can change your life.
We do this every day and it is a continual re-alignment with your authentic nature.
It allows for more energy flow. And as I was saying before around the Semitic aspect of this, how you feel within yourself is also showing up and how you breathe.
And when we are connected to ourselves and we're present and we feel regulated and safe, then our breathing reflects that.
Something I've noticed a lot with people is that when they're not present in their own bodies, they're more likely to hold their breath.
You know, you can be concentrating on someone, you can be in a conversation, you can be feeling tension and you don't even realize that you're holding your breath or you're breathing in a really shallow way.
That's generating more tension and it's kind of as form of dissociation.
We are starting to go more up here into the mental plane rather than being grounded in the body.
So along with asking yourself, how do I truly feel and what's my truth?
You can also start to ask yourself, am I connected to my body right now and how do I feel in my body when I love and approve of myself?
Yeah, that's the key because a lot of empaths are losing themselves throughout the day because they don't know what's theirs and what's other people's.
For example, is this emotion mine? Am I feeling my own feelings right now or am I picking up on someone else's feelings?
Am I entering into a space and I just feel a lot of what's happening in the space and then I'm responding to that rather than being connected to my own center and leading from there?
And connected into what we've been saying about the effort required to love yourself, a lot of the time this does not feel natural.
This feels counter to what you think is natural, but it's because you are so programmed.
So many of us are so programmed and that's okay. You can unravel the programming.
You can return to your original nature, but if there's certain things that feel really hard or like effort to you or unnatural,
it doesn't mean that it's wrong or that you shouldn't do it.
There have been countless things that we've had to push through that have been like shoving-ish uphill.
Yeah, and that's about building your capacity to do hard things because for a lot of people, it's not about healing anymore.
They've done a lot of that work and now it's about building their capacity with doing hard things.
And it requires you to move outside your comfort zone and challenge those parts of you that want to stay in the familiar.
Yes, it's not going to feel natural at first, but through the process of doing those challenging things, whatever it might be,
for some people it's going to be using the voice.
For some people it's going to be leaning into healthy forms of conflict where you stick up for yourself, where you have an opinion,
where you express yourself, where you take up more space, where you say no, where you stop people pleasing.
That might be the area that you're being asked to build capacity in.
It looks different for everyone, but this is a part of self-love.
This is about meeting yourself unconditionally and giving yourself what you need.
Ultimately, this is the way you self-parent yourself out of those old patterns that once serve you,
that now might be holding you back.
This is 100% where you and I are at now and cultivating more self-love.
It's building capacity, it's waking up and being like, I don't feel like doing the thing and I'm going to do it anyway.
And committing to building self-respect.
The key that I want to land on this is when we're doing this, it's not coming from self-loathing or trying to prove.
Like I said earlier, it's all about where it's coming from and you can push yourself beyond your perceived limits
from absolute self-love and devotion.
And I think that's what you and I are doing on the daily and it feels so good.
But people who don't do that or have a kind of unhealthy relationship with their own discipline or pushing themselves
may interpret someone pushing themselves from self-love as the opposite.
So what I've noticed is I have had to anchor in to how do I feel about this?
What's true for me?
What does self-love look and feel like for me today, regardless of what anyone thinks about that?
Because there have been countless situations, honestly, especially lately, like it's happening more and more,
where I'm pushing myself and I'm feeling so proud of myself.
Like I'm becoming someone that I admire and I'm like, you go.
Like I know that for so long you would have never done those things and I'm so proud of you.
And then someone will come in, out of my field and be like, that's too much.
That seems really unhealthy or you're going to extremes or whatever it may be.
And it can bring up like all of the old feels for me at least that I used to have around not loving myself and being insecure
and susceptible to other people's criticism.
And then I have to go again.
How do I feel about this?
What's true for me?
Realign, re-anchor, keep moving forward.
Yeah, that's true.
That's true for all of us.
When we start playing bigger, the world will attempt to limit us.
And that might show up exactly how you're saying.
Someone questioning the way you're showing up or you're doing too much or you should slow down.
You should take a break.
You should relax more.
They're overlaying their own conditioning onto you in the moment.
And the sooner you can recognize that, the sooner you can let it go and come back to your centre.
People will try and limit you as you start to play bigger.
And it's up to you to rise in the moment.
And it's not just other people that will try and limit you.
It's your own self-talk that will try and limit you too.
It's the parts of you that want to keep you in your comfort zone and your old familiar reality.
You will be tested.
And this is a part of self-love.
And it's a part of growth.
And it's a part of stepping into the version that you came here to be.
A practical example of that for me is when I enter into the gym.
I can come up against myself and my own disempowering voice.
I would call it my weaker self.
So I might be putting in reps at the gym and let's say my weaker self comes in.
My weaker self is like, you've done enough.
You should stop there.
You don't need to keep putting in reps.
And I know that this is a program.
So I question it in the moment and I'm like, nah, not today.
This is an opportunity to coach myself up.
So by coaching myself up, I access my personal power.
So I might say things to myself like, you've got this.
This is your moment to go all in.
Keep showing up yourself.
You're doing an amazing job.
Keep putting in those reps.
And I pour love into myself in that moment.
And through that practice, I get energy.
And then I want to show up more because I'm feeling myself more in that moment.
But if I was to listen to the voice of my weaker self, then I would stop.
I would probably pick up my phone and I'd start scrolling and I'd have a break.
And I'd go back into the comfort zone.
And each and every single one of us have our own version of this.
And this can be happening a million different times a day.
And it's up to us to challenge it.
And this is a part of self love too.
This is why self love requires effort because you have to be willing to challenge the weaker parts of you
that will try to keep you in your comfort zone.
I'm so glad you brought this up because everyone listening needs to be reminded.
You do not need to have perfectly self loving thoughts to choose self loving thoughts.
You can have thoughts that are critical, mean, unhelpful and disempowering
and witness them and choose again.
Not today.
That is what the reality of self love actually looks like for most of us in practice internally.
It's the things that no one sees.
I'm not going through my life 24, 7, being like, you're amazing.
I love you so much. I'm so proud of you.
There are plenty of moments where I'm not feeling good about myself.
And I recognize that pouring more energy into the disempowering thoughts spirals me down.
And it's not worth it anymore.
I'm done with feeding those disempowering thoughts.
And so instead I will notice them and I will turn to my practice.
I'll go and do five minutes of breath work.
I'll turn on a class in our app and I'll transform whatever that is by feeling my feelings,
holding space for myself, and then choosing again.
And that's like the marriage between the masculine and the feminine.
Allow yourself to feel your feelings.
And then move forward in alignment with what you want.
It's that balance that is going to get you where you want to be
to become the embodiment of the person you want to be in the most honest and healthy and sustainable way.
Yeah, I think it's really hard for a lot of people to practice self-love when they don't trust themselves fully.
And this comes down to not just how you're speaking to yourself on the daily and the actions that you're taking,
but are you following through with your word?
Are you keeping your promises to yourself?
Because if you're constantly breaking your promises to yourself,
then it's really easy to lose trust in yourself.
And when you don't trust yourself, it's difficult to love yourself.
Self-trust is about keeping your word and doing what you said you're going to do.
And the more you do that, you can prove to yourself that you are reliable,
that you do have your own back, and that you're willing to show up for yourself.
Because if you can't rely on yourself to show up for you,
then who can you rely on if you're not even willing to show up for yourself?
Many of us not only have a conditional relationship with self-love,
we also have commitment issues with ourselves and our own goals
and the things that we want to create and the way we're treating ourselves on a daily basis.
Like if you can't commit to yourself and your own goals,
then that's the place to start through building trust with yourself on the daily.
And you can break that down into small steps of winning the day.
Choosing something that's going to feel like a win,
that's going to feel like progress, and then acknowledging yourself as you take action,
celebrating yourself, and proving to yourself that you can do it,
that you can rise to the occasion, that you can figure it out,
and you do have what it takes.
And the more you practice that, and the more wins you get underneath your bow,
the more you start to trust yourself and respect yourself and show up for yourself.
And it's like you can build momentum through that practice where
then you just want to keep showing up for yourself, it feels good to show up for yourself,
it feels good to do more, it feels good to take action, it feels good to be an alignment
rather than being in that state of self-loathing and self-judgment and self-abandonment.
Something that you and I have done a lot over the years,
which has changed our lives, is envisioning our future selves.
And you hear this around on the internet a lot,
but I want to break down how we personally do it,
because it's so powerful, and it's something I'll keep doing for the rest of my life, I'd say.
If you want to start being guided by the vision of your future self,
one of the best places to start is with one of these three things.
One, meditation, sit in quiet and start to feel and envision who you want to be.
The second is breath work.
By going into a non-ordinary state of consciousness,
you can start to expand your perception of what's possible and get a lot of clarity.
You can connect dots between who you were as a kid and what lit you up,
to what you sensed for yourself spiritually, what lights you up the most,
what opens your heart.
And when you connect into that at a more somatic level through practices like breath work,
it really ignites a fire to get going.
And then the third practice is journaling,
being able to script out the details of who you want to be and how it feels
and a typical day in your life and what you value and what characteristics you have
and how people describe you.
As you start to get clear on the vision of who you're becoming,
the next step of this is you're going to have to confront the reality
that in order for you to become that version of you,
you are going to have to change.
You're going to have to change how you think,
how you behave, what you prioritize, your daily habits,
and that's going to require effort.
And if you are committed to stepping into that future,
you can start putting in those reps and making that effort
from the deepest state of self-love and self-devotion.
So the effort becomes like a spiritual practice.
It becomes an act of love and care.
Like, I'm madder and I am worthy of stepping into this future.
And you know what, some days it's going to feel like a fight.
It's going to feel exhausting and hard
and you're going to want to throw on the towel
or you're going to be like, why isn't it happening already?
Like, I'm not there, I'm not that version of me.
You are not alone, we all go through it.
Keep putting in the reps because they are stacking.
That compound effect is so real
and you will find that the more you keep going,
the more you are transforming your identity
and you are closing the gap and becoming that version of you.
Yeah, that's what it's been for me.
Self-love hasn't been passive.
It's been a fight.
Like, I've had to be willing to fight for myself and my dreams
and the things that I want to create.
Then I've had to be willing to slay my weaker self through the process.
And every day is different, but it's really taken an unreasonable level of getting feisty
and getting into the healthy fight response
and mobilizing energy and showing up
and taking action no matter the excuses
and what's coming up in the moment.
I had to be willing to fight for myself
because for a long time I was in the freeze response.
My energy was shut down.
I'd walk with my head down.
I wouldn't feel confident or empowered.
I had low self-worth.
I had to be willing to rise.
I had to be willing to challenge that
and meet the parts of me that didn't feel good enough
and didn't feel worthy and fight for them.
I had to be willing to fight for the parts of me that wanted to give up.
Now that took real effort.
And it still takes effort to this day.
I've just put in enough reps where now I know what it feels like
to feel somatically connected to my most empowered self
so I can access that now.
But before I didn't have that connection
before those neural pathways weren't there.
So I've had to create that.
I've had to build that.
I've had to step into that moment by moment
with the way that I speak to myself
and then backing it up with action.
Something that I want to land to everyone listening
is that self-love does not mean settling.
It does not mean just accepting yourself as you are
in a spot where you don't feel comfortable or happy.
It does not mean that you give up and just go,
okay, I guess I better just love myself.
Self-love is devotion.
It is work.
It is rising to the occasion
and being a creator in your own reality.
Self-love is a prerequisite to be able to fulfill your potential.
And as you are showing up and putting in the reps
and making an effort to shape yourself
into the version of you that you want to be,
you get to love yourself in the process.
You're not berating yourself or punishing yourself.
You're learning to love yourself in the journey.
Be proud of the fact that you're putting an effort.
Be proud of the fact that you care enough
about the opportunity of being alive
to put in work.
If you are not putting in work in your life,
are you really appreciating the gift
that it is to be here on this planet?
A lot of people are tapped out.
A lot of people don't believe in themselves
and don't feel worthy.
A lot of people think that they don't have what it takes.
And isn't that another level of self-love?
Not just at the level of your flesh
or the level of your personality.
What about loving yourself at the level of your spirit?
The level of being a spiritual being having a human experience.
This amazing opportunity that you're into incarnate.
And loving yourself enough to tap in
and go, show me, guide me, help me.
I want to be in service to you.
Like every day, ultimately,
the self-love that we're talking about in the devotion
all comes back to that.
It's sitting again and again on the mat
with ourselves connecting spiritually
and saying, guide me, show me.
I love you.
I'm grateful.
I know you love me.
Like we are doing this together.
I am the body.
I am the vehicle.
As you said the other day,
you are the player of the game.
But the body, you know, you're amazing friends
who shared about that.
It is so true.
You have this body.
But you know who's operating this body?
The spirit that is illuminating you.
It is your consciousness.
And your consciousness is working in partnership
with your personality and your conditioning.
So the best thing that you can do
is strip away that conditioning
so that your soul can get on with the work
of fulfilling your potential.
Change the player, change the game.
Shout out to Nick.
So loving yourself is being willing to show up
for your own dreams.
Being willing to invest in yourself,
being willing to back yourself,
being willing to go after what you want
because this is your life
and you only get one life in this body.
Can you show up for your life to the fullest?
That's what self-love is.
Being willing to be unreasonable
around your dreams
and give it your all.
If you're not showing up for your dreams,
then who is you're the only one
who can show up for you
and what you want to create?
We keep saying this.
No one can create what you want for you.
And you know it sucks.
Like it really sucks.
Holding back
and feeling like you're not good enough
and then watching other people
choose to love themselves
and go for it.
Stop doing that.
You know what it feels like
to not show up for yourself
in your own dreams
and the things that you came here to create.
Remember, the things that you truly want to create
will plant it in your heart
and in your mind for a higher purpose
and it's up to you to actualize them into reality.
And you wouldn't have been gifted those dreams
if you weren't capable of creating them.
But it will require effort
and it will require self-love
and it does require you
to show the F up on the daily.
Yes. Oh, I feel this.
So we're about to wrap up
and we're going to share some closing words.
I just want to share one question
that I think is useful
on top of the amazing questions we've already shared.
And that is,
who are you doing it for?
The effort,
the things that you do to be impressive,
to be enough,
who are you doing it for?
And if that answer is not you
or your younger self
or your future self,
it might be a really good idea to reassess.
And again, turn to your younger self
and your future self and your soul
and go, well,
if I was to do what you want me to do,
what would I do?
I'm doing it.
So when it's all set and done
and the lights go out
and I move on to whatever's next
that I can reflect
on my human experience
and know with 100% certainty
that I showed up for myself
in this lifetime
and I went all in.
And that's what I want.
Cheers to that.
We hope that this episode has inspired you
and reminded you of the self love
that's available directly within you.
You can turn it on
and turn it up right now.
And we would love to hear in the comments
what is one way that you are going
to choose to love yourself more today?
Big love.
We'll see you on the next episode.
