Steve Harvey ( Strawberry letter)

0:00Hey, this is Strawberry One Click, Sarah Re Anderson. How y'all doing out there today? I hope everybody is doing well. If you're not doing well, let's find a way to get well, look well, and of course you already know it be well. Right now we get way too many to the Steve Harvey morning show with the Strawberry Letter. And the Strawberry Letter is about somebody's relationship. Sometimes it might be yours, but remember, I'm not the Strawberry Letter. I am the Strawberry Piecaster. So let's tune in to this strong berry letter, but I do not because it might trigger something in your relationship.

1:00Little my good friend Shirley's soft fairy. Are we really good, Senior? I'm really good. Okay, subject. Thank you. Subject, I'm trying not to run him away. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a 47 year old woman and I'm with a man that is out of my league. Don't get me wrong, I have a great job and I'm educated, but my past is sketchy. He's a surgeon and his daughter just finished medical school. He's been divorced for six years and he's ready to settle down with me. We met on a site for professional singles and we've been dating for almost a year. I've never been married, but I worked as an escort and lived with a man for 14 years. Some say he was my pimp, but I looked at it as a business that we ran together and we made a lot of money. During that time, I had a son by one of the guys I saw regularly.

2:00The guy found out he was the father and he filed for custody and won because of my lifestyle. I have a good relationship with my son and I pay for his private school tuition up until he graduated two years ago. I want to share this part of my past with my new boyfriend, but I do not want to run him away. I can't get that time back that I wasted as an escort, but I made sure that I changed my life for the better. My new man and I have run into my ex-pimp or whatever he was and I told my boyfriend that he's an ex-boyfriend. In the past, my ex-pimp purposely destroyed a great relationship I was in simply because he was jealous. I can't let my new man find out that way. I have not even told him that I have a son. What kind of man will be okay with this? I feel like the longer I wait, the worse it will be. I have been in counseling because I don't feel worthy of a good man like this, but I know we all have skeletons.

3:01Do you think he will judge me or dump me? Well, he might do both, but that of course depends on how he feels about you and the plant he has for you guys moving forward. You said he wants to settle down with you, but he doesn't have all the facts. He doesn't know about your past and he doesn't know that you have a son. Everyone in life, each and every one of us has a past. You are as different and you are as way more colorful than a lot of people. Yes, it is, but the thing is, you say you are no longer that person. That's what I'm going to focus on. You've changed for the better, but you can't seem to get past your past. So how do you expect others to get past your past? You are constantly judging yourself. You're ashamed. You haven't forgiven yourself. You're living with all this guilt and fear. This has to be eating you up inside. But who are you now? Who are you now? That should be your focus.

4:03You do need to sit down with this man and tell him you have a son who stays with his dad. Not telling him that looks very suspicious. Like what else is she hiding? He's going to be thinking. You do not want him to think you're faking. You do not want him to think that you're not who he thought you were. I mean, you're not, but you know, you'll have to explain that. You don't want him to find out from someone else. You will lose his trust that way. You got to tell him you have a son. He will ask you why you didn't tell him before. That's going to be a red flag for him. So I honestly think it's best to come clean with your guy now right now and tell him about your past. You got to do it. You don't have to tell him every little detail. And please don't want to mention the word. Pept to him. Please don't do that. But tell him something you have to because at some point you're going to have to face your past deal with it. Let it go. It happened. You cannot change it. You're a better person now. You're worthy and valuable. You're seeing a therapist. I hope that they're telling you not to beat yourself up.

5:10You beat yourself up enough about your past. It's time to look to the future. If your boyfriend really loves you and wants you, he will accept you for who you are now. But you also, you also have to accept who you are and who you are. Deal with that and move on with your life. Steve, I don't know if I can. Because what I'm going to tell you is going to be a little bit different from what Shirley said. And you have to wait out for yourself. All right, let's go. I'm trying not to run him away. I'm a 47 year old woman. I'm with the man that's out of my league. Don't get me wrong. I have a great job and I'm educated but my past is getting. Whenever you start a letter like this, we have a problem. How are you dating a man that's out of your league when clearly men have one objective to marry up? We will get the best chick that we could get. The one that makes us look and feel the best.

6:19So stop thinking you're out of his league because you're not. Now because I know the whole letter, I was going to tell you. You sound educated but my past is scheduled. I know a lot of people some sketchy past. I can't tell you have for me. He's a surgeon and his daughter just finished medical school. He's been divorced six years and he's ready to settle down with me. We went on the site for mental and sight for professional singles. We've been dating for almost a year now. I've never been married but I worked as an escort and lived with a man for 14 years. So I'm saying he was my parent. Right here. Hold on Steve. Yeah. We got to kill all this right here. Just going down here with these two ass go and kill down here. But you know fine. Anybody got a pass? What we gonna do? All right. Try not to run him away.

7:21Well, it's 27 year old lady. Just dating a man she claims is out of league and she says don't give me wrong. I have great job and educated but my past is sketchy. Well, her past is sketchy. But you shouldn't be you shouldn't allow yourself to be married to your past. It's the future in who you are now. That's the key to this whole thing, right? But now we have problem because we don't get some information. He's been divorced for six years. He's ready to settle down with me. We went on the site for professional singles. We've been dating for almost a year. I've never been married but I worked as an escort and I lived with a man for 14 years. So some say he was my pill. Some say he was my pill but I looked at it as a business. And we were that we ran together and we made a lot of money. Don't repeat that ignorance line to nobody else. Now we can't help you if you gonna keep saying dumb sugar honey iced tea.

8:23And that's all this is. It's right us with this information and he wants some help. Talking about I've been married I worked as an escort and I lived with a man for 14 years. Some say he was my pill. But I looked at it as a business that we ran together. We made a lot of money. What? During that time I had a son by one of the guys I saw regularly. What? The guy found out he was a father and father for custody and one because of my lifestyle. What? Lady you can't tell this to nobody. It ain't going over good with me. I don't even want you. And you don't judge like that. I don't. But you give me this information and the next word out of my mouth is I want to marry you. I'm somewhere on with me at this point. I'm just gonna be honest. But we know y'all listen Steve give our hope and all like that. You messed up though.

9:24Because you started the relationship wrong. You didn't divulge this information. And you can't pop this on this man now. I have a good relationship with my son and I paid for his private school tuition until he graduated two years ago. I want to share this part of my past with my new boyfriend. I don't want to run him away. Lady he gone. As soon as you say this, he gone. And I can't think of no man that would say unless his other hustle when he ain't being a surgeon is his he up him. Uh what? What? I hear a man's words. I don't know of a guy that can sign up for this. I can't get that time back that I wasted as an escort but I made sure that I changed my life for the better. Okay now we're working with the positive.

10:26You change your life. You move it for it. That's good. Congratulations. But the thing about seeing it is that I learned it cost you more than you want to pay. It makes you stay longer than you want to stay. And everybody got to see it that they got to deal with. Congratulations on pulling yourself together and climbing up and changing your life and I commend you for that. My new man and I have run into my ex-pimp or what I just told you to quit saying. I'm saying that. I just told you a whole lines back. Stop saying escort and pimp. Now you tell me you ran up into your ex-pimp or whatever he was. You know what he was. He was the pimp. You all run the business together. You the only one with the product and he stayed at the house collecting money. That's a pimp. And I told my boyfriend that he's an ex-boyfriend in the past. My ex-pimp. I just told you to quit saying pimp.

11:26My ex-pimp purposely destroyed a great relationship. I was in simply cause he was just. I can't let my new man find out that way. Well, how else he gonna find out? I have not even told him that I have a son. That's what I'm saying. What kind of man will be okay with this? I don't know. But that's your pimp. I'm just joking. I'm a dimflash surgeon. I'm not coaching. That's your surgeon and you pimpin' on the side. No. I feel as long as I wait the worst it will be. You've already been a year. I would be in counseling because I don't feel worthy of a good man like this. You can get out of counseling. You need prayer. But I do know we have all have skeletons. Do you think he would judge me and dump me? He goes. He goes out. He goes out. He goes out. Right this one off. Start over. Dooses. The next man you meet. Tell him that you have a son.

12:27You can leave your path out of this. What have you been doing? I've been working. Various jobs. Stop sayin' escort. Stop sayin' you had a pimp. You don't have to report that news to nobody. It ain't nobody's business. Everybody deserves to recover and get it right. Right. Now I think you should go ahead and tell this guy and see what he do. Yep. All right Steve. Please leave your comments on Kate's chocolate letter on Instagram.