Stop Outsourcing Your Emotions: Healing Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and the Nervous System with Béa Albina

What if your perfectionism isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival strategy?

In this episode of Say It Out Loud, Vasavisits down with the brilliant and unfiltered Béa Albina — UCSF-trained nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified life coach, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing.

Together, they unpack why so many high-achieving women are still trapped in people-pleasing cycles, how our nervous systems are wired for self-abandonment, and why “just breathe” isn’t always the answer.

Béa breaks down the science behind Emotional Outsourcing — her term for the unconscious ways we hand our power, peace, and self-worth to everyone but ourselves — and how to finally come home to your body, your truth, and your voice.

If you’ve ever said yes when you meant no, this episode is your wake-up call.

Connect with Béa:
Instagram → @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp
Book → End Emotional Outsourcing (out September 2025)
Website → beatrizalbina.com

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