Stop Sibling Fights Fast (Scripts That Actually Work)

Are you exhausted from the nonstop “That’s mine!” “Stop touching me!” “It’s not fair!” battles—and you’re wondering what to say in the moment without yelling or punishing?

What if sibling fights weren’t something you “managed”… but something you could actually heal at the root—with simple scripts that build emotional strength, self-awareness, and better behavior over time?

In this video, Greg & Rachel Denning (extraordinary parents of 7, world travelers, and family coaches) share real-life, word-for-word scripts for the most common sibling conflict triggers—from toddlers to teens—including fighting over toys, possessions, personal space, copying/mimicking, fairness, name-calling, snapping, blaming, and even aggression.

You’ll learn how to stop doing “symptom management” and instead resolve the underlying causes—so conflict doesn’t become your family’s daily culture. The Dennings break down their calm, connected approach: validate first, teach the principle, role-play the skill, and use natural consequences (without harshness).

Key Takeaways:

✅ Stuff is never worth the relationship — don’t let toys, beds, or “my space” become a source of ongoing conflict.

✅ Start with validation — calm the emotion first without picking sides so kids feel seen and can actually listen.

✅ Teach the cause, not just the moment — long-term change happens when you heal the “infection,” not just manage the symptom.

✅ Use identity-based coaching — “Who do you want to be?” helps kids self-correct and choose maturity.

✅ Build self-awareness on purpose — asking “How does that make you feel?” trains kids to notice bitterness vs. connection.

✅ Separate together, not alone — when a child can’t calm down, you don’t banish them… you co-regulate and help them reset.

✅ Hold hard boundaries on big domino behaviors — name-calling, insulting, and aggression must stop because they poison family culture.

✅ Use natural consequences that teach — consequences should be connected, agreed on (when possible), and strong enough to create change.

Memorable Quotes:

🗣 “Never let stuff become a point of conflict in a relationship.”

🗣 “If you’re going to choose to be bothered by small things, how often will you be bothered?”

🗣 “We can’t only give attention to symptom management—if we want permanent results, we have to focus on the cause.”

🗣 “Who do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be?”

Chapters

00:55 Addressing Sibling Rivalry

01:31 Healing Underlying Issues

02:21 Practical Strategies for Conflict Resolution

07:03 Navigating Sibling Conflicts

09:47 Teaching Emotional Intelligence

14:37 Calming Techniques for Heated Moments

19:53 Addressing Annoying Behaviors

24:48 Promoting Personal Responsibility

28:18 Building Perspective on Family Dynamics

29:29 Handling Name-Calling and Insults

37:43 Building Resilience in Children

38:13 Parental Responsibility and Empowerment

40:27 Emotional Bank Accounts in Sibling Relationships

41:20 Understanding Fairness in Family Dynamics

43:38 Teaching Fairness and Sharing

43:49 Addressing Physical Aggression in Children

48:37 The Importance of Accountability and Consequences

49:13 Fostering Ownership and Responsibility

50:35 Eliminating Jealousy and Competition

51:21 Standing Up Against Bullying

54:37 Creating an Extraordinary Family Life

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