Stop Your Complaining

0:00Welcome back to Night Shift with Justin as King, how to transform your life one night at a time. One of the biggest ways to make significant changes in your life, in our lives, is by watching the words that we say. But years ago, I came across a challenge. Well, the no complaint challenge based on the book and complaint-free world, and the purpose of that is to go 21 days without complaining, no complaining, criticizing, gossiping, and if you slip up, you reset and go back to day one. From statistics, most people aren't able to go more than three days, and it typically takes someone about eight to nine months before they're able to go a full 21 days without complaining. According to statistics, it took me about six years, personally, where I successfully completed it. It took me six years. So a lot of people think that it's easy

1:04to stop complaining, but it's not, it's a behavioral constraint, and it exposes your mindset quite often, quite clearly. In the earlier episode, we talked about one of the steps of manifesting is to stop noticing your missteps, and removing complaints from your habits is a great way to do that. So complaining can show up in obvious ways. Like this sucks. I'm tired of this. Traffic is crazy. Traffic is insane today. This always happens to me. There's people that have a built-in sound that they might associate with a complaint, like a puff or a puff, and this really shows up internally. The commentary inside your head, that's the real challenge. The original version of the challenge comes with a bracelet, and you put that on one wrist, and every time you complain,

2:06you switch it to the other wrist, and start over from day one. So not day five, almost made it. I only complained once, but you start all the way back to day one. The big thing is that it's an awareness challenge. So the goal is to stop reinforcing what you don't want. And the inside is when you stop complaining about things, you have three choices. You can say nothing, you can take action, or you can make a request. Instead of saying I'm exhausted, you go to bed earlier, instead of saying you could never live without coffee, you cut it off 10 hours before bedtime, and quitting, complaining all together matters in the evenings, because your brain replays what you repeat. So if you're constantly complaining, your mind will continue those complaining loops in your sleep. You can take a simple inventory at the end of the night. What did I complain about today?

3:06And how can you change that thing in the future? So the simple shift for tonight is for the next 24 hours. Notice every time you complain, size, or gossip. If you want to try out the full challenge for 21 days, check out the book Complaint Free World. My name is Justin S. King. And if you'd like more information on evening routines, head over to my website, JustinS. King.com. That's it for tonight. Good night.