Story U Talk Radio 03-13-26 How to Write the BEST PART of Your Story

Hello and welcome to Story You Talk Radio.

I am your host coach Debbie and I am delighted that you are here today to talk to me about your books and whatever it is you are writing.

We are coming to you live from Seattle, Washington.

And if you are new to this station, welcome.

We are KKNW in Seattle and my show Story You Talk Radio is all about helping you write your books, your blogs and rewriting your brands.

I love teaching and that is what I do here in Seattle.

I was a long time teacher at Shoreline College, I taught also at Seattle Colleges and at one point in time I thought, you know, I've taught about 12,000 students, I've had the time of my life and when people ask me about writing their books, I get really excited.

And I think that was what got planted in my mind years ago to begin a business where I help you write your books and I really specialize in memoir writing.

So today is no different than other days, I want to talk to you about how to work with memoir writing.

We don't have a guest today, so I'm going to be teaching and helping you understand some concepts of just speaking more clearly about the story you're living, but also if you want to put it in book form, I got some tips for you.

Maybe you would like to get involved in a class, going to tell you about some I've got coming up and if you are interested in writing your first or second or third book, I just might be the coach for you.

You can always head on over to my website, it's coachdebi.com and that's spelled D-E-B-B-Y coachdebi.com, click on connect and send me a note any time.

I'm the only one who reads it and I love hearing from you.

Now lately, something that I've been asked many times is how is my memoir different from my biography.

I know we talk about that a little bit, but there's always room to review a little more, right? Your memoir is not your biography and your biography is not equal to your memoir.

So let's distinguish that. Your biography, it actually began with you. Your biography is chronological. It goes from your birth to your death or to the day in which you wrote it.

So for example, if I was going to write my biography, it would begin with my birth and it would go all the way up until about today.

Even though I'm healthy and happy and I believe I will live for a long time more, my biography would cover my complete chronological existence.

And it wouldn't put any real emphasis on any time period. It would just really go over what my life has been like.

And it would hit the main things. Who's my family? What did I believe in? What do I stand for? Where did we live?

It really gets into the logistics of who you are and what you're about.

So biography doesn't lend to a whole lot of creativity except the voice that you use to write it.

But it's basically a chronological. It's a it is your story, your life story, in the chronological order that it happened.

That's what I was trying to say in the order that it happened.

Now memoir, if you ask me, is so much more interesting.

Because memoir, a lot of people will say, oh, you're writing your memoirs, you know, are you old enough and sophisticated enough for that?

I don't know where people got the idea that you have to be of a certain age or you even have to be sort of proper to do it.

Because no, your memoir is actually about some sort of theme that has run through your life or just a party for your life.

And it usually emphasizes a challenge that you went through or a real high point or a super low point.

But it also shows a transformation.

Memoir is about how you changed due to a particular theme.

And there's all kinds of themes you can write about.

But if it is your memoir you are writing about, then it is something in your real life story.

It's not fiction, it's your real story.

But you don't have to tell people exactly the year you were born, where you're from, where you lived your whole life, you don't have to go into all this data.

Memoir is really about getting into the heart of your story around something really juicy, you know, that happened to you.

Happy or sad?

Something that really changed you and memoirs can be absolutely fascinating.

Now I've written memoirs about, I read a memoir about a Japanese woman who was very small and decided she wanted to hike Mount Everest with an expedition.

So the theme was she wanted to go to the biggest mountain, tallest mountain in the world, and she wanted to challenge herself to do the hardest thing she ever did.

And she wanted to live to tell about it.

The great thing is she did live and she did tell about it and that is her memoir.

I have no idea if she was originally from Japan or not.

I don't know what high school she went to.

I know nothing about her parents.

I do remember that she was married and she had a child.

I do remember that the expedition took her away from Japan, her husband and her child for several months.

But what I really learned by reading the book was her experience on the mountain and how she got to know herself.

That's really key.

Memoir is how we change.

What did we learn?

How do we know ourselves better?

But here's something really interesting.

A lot of people will say, you know, I've got something I really want to write about.

And so they'll send me a little note.

This is always open to any of you.

If you go to my website, you can click on connect right there at coachdebi.com.

Click on connect and send me a note about anything.

I get these all the time and I love them.

And people will write and say, you know, I've been listening to your show.

I'm curious about memoir.

Do you think this idea could be a memoir?

And so they'll tell me something.

But here's what is often left out.

And I'm even thinking I need to offer you a full class on it.

A lot of people leave out the absolute best part of their story.

I know.

Like how could that happen?

You're going to take all this time to write a book and then leave out the best part.

But people, they do this thing.

They lead up to the best part.

And so they build the idea and they bring in all the characters or basically the people in their life

that help them all the situation.

They build up to them and they're like, yeah, there it is.

Okay. And so then, you know, I went back to my regular life and they just sort of jump out

where it was getting so good.

You don't want to do that.

It's tempting, though, to do it because we can lose sight when we're writing

that people were not there with us and they need.

They need you, the writer, to tell them exactly went on.

I want to help you write the best part of your story.

I want to teach you how to do this.

And I'm offering a workshop.

It's actually coming up very soon.

And if you're listening to the live show, we're going to do it live Friday March 20th.

And that's the first day of spring in the US.

March 20th, what a nice day to do something like write your memoir, the best part of your memoir.

I think what I would really love to do is offer you a one hour class.

And this is going to allow us to just go through some of the steps.

What you're going to find is, let's say I bring you about five steps,

you're going to find that anytime you have to be, for example, out with new people,

whether it be because of your job or your dating life or your faith life,

that when people ask you questions about you, you're more prepared to answer them.

You're going to find that when someone is in a heightened situation with you,

maybe you're in a bit of an argument or you're trying to make a new arrangement,

intentions are high, you're going to be able to speak more eloquently about what you want

because you took yourself through an exercise regarding the best part of your story.

It is amazing how doing something like this translates into you just living your everyday life.

But let me tell you, it is extremely helpful to take a class like this if you're writing your book,

if you are thinking or involved in writing your memoir, if you're writing self-development,

if you're even writing fiction and you're working on characters,

and you're looking at how they transmute a situation, how do they do this?

How do they go from being more of one character into a more developed character?

You want to know these steps.

So what I have on offer is a class where I'm going to teach you how to write the best part of your story.

It'll be March 20th, it'll be live, it'll be on Zoom, and it's so easy to register.

Nothing could be easier. This is how you do it.

You go to coachdebi.com, remember it's spelled D-E-B-B-Y, coachdebi.com, click on Connect.

And there you're just going to see a little form that says what's your name, what's your email,

and then just put in there, I want to come to the workshop. That's all you got to do.

If you can remember, you can say I want to come to the workshop on how to write the best part of my story,

but you don't have to. You could even just type the word workshop, and I'll know what you're getting at.

And I'll send you all the information. It's that easy.

Okay, this is a $39 workshop. It will be for one hour, and if you'd like to stay,

immediately following will be a Q&A.

And so I record it. You can have the recording. Keep it.

And you can ask questions of me live. Happy to do that.

And then here's the groovy part. The $39 you pay to come to the workshop.

If you decide you want to go on to any of my classes, if you want to learn more, if you want to have one on one coaching,

I will credit that $39 to whatever you decide you want to do next.

And that will be good for about 90 days. So even if you can't decide in that moment,

you know, hmm, do I want to do something? Take your time. Think about it.

When you're ready, we'll get you that credit and we'll get you going.

So my friends, how about I give you a little taste of it right here?

We're really talking today about how do I write the best part of my story?

It's always a shame when people leave it out.

They think we already know. But the best part of your story happens

because you the human have gone through some kind of change.

And you're pulling your readers in emotionally into your story

by showing them how you actually transformed.

So you don't want to just say first this happened, next that happened, then this happened.

After that, that happened. That's really just a long, long summary.

It's not actually a book. What I want to do is show you how you get into storytelling.

Where do you pop in those insights?

How do you show people the particular takeaways from your example?

How do you talk about the way that you transformed without being so vulnerable that you're

maybe exposing people that matter to you or even just overexposing yourself?

How do you share with them things that you overcame?

That internal struggle that you went through and maybe, maybe nobody in your life knew

that it was going on in real time while it was really happening.

Maybe you completely worked this out on your own.

That's a bit rare that nobody knows, but it happens.

Sometimes it's due to your relationship with higher power or with God

or with your faith that you really got quiet and you went through something

and nobody really knew about it.

There's other situations where everyone in the whole world knew about it.

You made sure, but it's still worthy of telling your story how you changed.

And it might even be that there were opportunities along the way

that were trying to help you change, but you missed it.

You missed it for a number of years until you were finally ready to take it all in,

get serious and make a big change in your life.

That's the best part of your story and I want to help you write it.

So, friends, listen, we got to take a quick break here.

We just take short commercials and then we're going to come right back

and I'm going to give you some insights on how to get this going.

Stay tuned.

Hey, friends. Did you know you can have one-to-one coaching with Coach Debbie?

You can and you don't need to worry because Coach Debbie works with every level of rider.

It's easy to sign up. Just go to coach Debbie.com and click book now.

Coach Debbie has worked with Hay House authors,

YouTube creators, PhD students and people writing their very first essay.

Sign up today and get coached.

Head over to coach Debbie.com.

D-E-B-B-Y. Coach Debbie.com.

You're writing coach from Story You Talk Radio.

Welcome back to Story You Talk Radio.

Listen, today we're talking about something juicy.

We're talking about making sure that the best part of your story gets in your book

or, at the very least, it gets in your conversations that you're not leaving it out.

Sometimes we're tempted to. We think maybe people don't need all that information or they

they want really care, but they do. People want to know you.

And it's very, very interesting, especially to those of you that still read.

I hope there's more people out there that are still reading than not.

I mean, I do understand. We have screens that are full of

drama and fun, but you know, reading is a great, great way to just take in life.

And if you're still reading wonderful writers, boy, isn't it exhilarating

when they get to that part in their story and you're really getting to know them?

You're really getting to find out what's happening with them.

It's fascinating and a great storyteller will keep you on the edge of your seat

while you go through it. Maybe for chapters at minimal for many pages.

So think about it. A really good story is going to, of course, have several elements.

And if you decide you would like to take the class, I was just speaking about coming up on March 20th,

we're going to get into some of these really important elements.

For example, that these are your human moments.

The best part of your story is when you are definitely being vulnerable, a human,

a human in the learning aspect of life.

You're definitely dealing with a certain level of struggle.

You might be overcoming struggle. You might be on your way to becoming a champion at something.

You're usually going through a time where you're experiencing a certain level of insight.

You're getting to know yourself better. So when you share your story, you want to include

those insights that came to you. Often too, we can't escape how there's often universal principles

playing out. And sometimes we overlook the fact that if we went through times of scarcity,

other people have too. If we went through times of feeling very irresponsible,

we didn't feel accountable. Other people did too. If we went through times of having heightened

creativity, others did too. Or just a huge learning curve. Everyone on the planet has gone through a

huge learning curve. And that is a universal principle. So you want to talk about these in your book.

You want to get into the empowerment. And if you take my class, I will show you how to frame

it all so you have a full story. So let me just take you through something here. I find very

interesting. My brother and I, we do this fun thing. We go for a walk around an area in Seattle.

It's called Green Lake. It's about three miles around. I love going there. It's kind of in the

heart of the city. It's got big old beautiful trees. You can put your paddle boat in the water if

you want to. Or you can do what we do. And you can take the walking path that goes all the way around.

And here's the kicker. It's almost completely flat. So I can do one three mile round. Sometimes I

can even go around it twice. But my brother and I, we go around. We have the best conversations.

But you know what else happens? We hear snippets of conversations of people walking in the other

direction as they're passing us. Now this can be very funny. You might hear somebody coming around

the corner. And you know, maybe it's a daughter and a mother, at least it looks that way. They're

coming around the corner and they're in the middle of their conversation. And the daughter says,

well, I would really like to ask out Ruby, but I haven't quite figured out if it's a boy or a girl.

And that's all the information you get because now they're past you. And it's interesting information.

Then somebody else comes by and it's a couple. And they're in later years. And one of them says,

I never thought I'd have to remind you to pick up your own diapers at the store. And

that's all you get because now they've walked past you. And then two more people come around the

corner. And one of them doesn't even realize he's got a stethoscope still around his neck.

He obviously just walked out of work. He's so used to having it around his neck. And he says,

well, I was going to ask her that, but she had a pants down. So I decided to wait until I came

back in the room. You only get these little blips of a conversation when you're walking past

someone, but you're kind of curious, what's the whole story? I mean, if it wasn't for that stethoscope,

I think it was something pretty lured. But I'm guessing it had to do with being a doctor, right?

There's these bits of conversation that we hear, bits of people's lives that we know about,

but we don't know the whole story. We don't know the real story. And what if those people are actually

people in our lives? And we want to know them better. And what if those people are us? And we want

to be able to express our own story better. I want to give you just a few details about a woman

that I used to see at the grocery store back when I was taking the bus from college. I was probably

25 years old and just in my first couple years of going to college. And I would often see the same

woman in the grocery store. I would probably be there around 3, 3, 30 in the afternoon, probably saw her

there easily twice a week. And I don't know if you're aware of this, but a lot of people don't do

the grocery shopping at 3, 30 in the afternoon. That's just not a high volume time. It was great for me,

it was probably great for this lady, but you know, slow time for the store. I saw her so often

that I started to say hi to her, thinking she probably saw me too and that it's polite,

but she never said hi to me. She never looked at me. She never even acted like she ever heard me.

And I wondered why. I didn't know why, but I wondered why. Now this was a very tall woman,

very broad shoulders. She often wore more clothing than needed based on the temperature outside.

So it might be 75 degrees outside, but she's got on a lightweight coat. And I think, hmm, interesting.

I just noticed her. I noticed the details about her that I could see, but we never had a conversation.

Ever. I saw her several times in the store. Last time I saw her though, I will always remember.

And it's still even hard for me to say it out loud. I saw her and she was just coming around

the corner and coming down the aisle. I was at the beginning of the aisle. She was at the end of

the aisle. She was coming towards me, but there were two men, one at each of her elbows holding her

closely, walking her quickly, walked her right past me. And as she walked right past me,

both of these official men, I heard her say, it wasn't me. It wasn't me. And I had this horrible

thought that this woman is in trouble. And she didn't do it. That was my thought. She just told

them it wasn't her. Now I didn't know anything else about her. And I almost, I almost wanted to go

behind, you know, her and like defender because I had seen her so many times. But I honestly,

I didn't know her. I didn't know her name. I didn't know where she lived. I just knew that she

often shopped when I did. And I knew what she looked like because I saw her a lot. So I never knew

what happened to her. But what if now this one thing I want to point out is this is when people say

out of context, this is what they mean. I don't have enough context to tell you for certain what

was going on. But I have details that make me speculate just like when I walked around the lake

over and over and over again with my brother. I'd hear little things coming out of people's mouths

and I'd speculate more about their life. But it was all out of context. Now just jump over to your

book for a moment. When you're writing, you are putting everything in context. So let's think,

what if we got really imaginative just for a moment? And we just tried to put this woman

from the grocery store being ushered down the aisle very quickly by officials. What if we tried to

put that in context? There's a few things we would have to do and that is we would have to know her

internal struggle. What's really going on inside of her? Not just in the store but in her life.

What is going on inside of her? Did this situation lead up to some sort of turning point that would

need to go in the story? What's what's this human moment really about? Is there a word we can put

on it? What it looked like to me was possible under earning. And I wondered, you know, was there

ever a time where she wasn't able to pay for all of her groceries? All of a sudden I wondered,

she wears lightweight coats sometimes on a sunny day. Is she stealing? But I didn't want to assume

anything. Here's the great news. When you tell your story, there's really nothing for others to

assume because you are going into what you experienced, especially if you care about memoir,

because memoir is an honest exploration of yourself. You're really looking at yourself in those

human moments. You're looking at your internal struggle. It's often that contrasting thing of,

I feel ashamed about something, but I'm also determined. Maybe in her situation,

if she had put it in context for us, she felt very ashamed about her earning capacity,

but she was very determined to feed her kids. Again, I don't know her story, but if she had written it,

that would be pertinent to put in. And this is why people need to be telling their own stories,

their own memoir, because they know what they went through. What is that universal principle

that she could share with us? Perhaps something about resilience. Maybe she was a model to her

children at home. Maybe they saw her as strong and capable, and they had no idea. The trouble she

was getting herself in in the grocery store. Maybe that was the only way she could feed her children.

We don't know, but listen to me on this one. When you write your memoir, you are letting people know.

You're not making everything a mystery. Those books are called, wait for it, mysteries.

Okay? If you're writing a mystery, that's the only time you leave things, you know, sort of,

oh, vague. Oh, we just don't know. In a memoir, you're really transparent about the transformation

you went through. Now, does this mean you tell every single last-gory detail? No, often it doesn't,

but you tell enough that we can follow you through all the steps of sharing the best part of

your story. See, by understanding all of this, and it's part of the reason I really want to

invite you to my workshop, you take away the opportunity to really blame someone else,

because it would be very, very easy to say, well, I'm this way because my uncle Joey was a

narcissist, and that's the whole reason. The beginning and end of why things went this way.

It doesn't make for a really interesting story if it's 180 pages of blame. But if you can really

start to see who Uncle Joey was, and why he was the way he was. But more important, point the light

back on you, your own memoir, your own stepping into a particular theme, why it was so important in

your life. How it was that you were able to glean experiences? When was your low point? What

happened because of it? How did you change due to it? What do you want to share since it? And I

can take you through these questions so you can see, what matters? What matters? What do I want to

say in my memoir? There are plenty of people that just said before they ever became an author,

I was living in everyday life. You know, JK Rowling said that about herself. She wrote the Harry Potter

series. She says I was just living in everyday life. I didn't really have anything interesting

going on in my life. I had a lot going on in my imagination though, and she wrote it down. Now Harry

Potter is not a memoir, but there's plenty of transformation in the Harry Potter story. See,

if you don't want to tell your own story, you can make up something that shows how someone else

transformed. That's an option too. We call that fiction. So you don't want to confuse it.

Memoir is your story. Fiction is one you create, you make up. I'd love to show you the differences.

We got to take a quick break here. But after we come back, I want to tell you a little bit more

about the workshop I'm going to offer, and I also want to take your questions. Right to me,

Debbie at coachdebi.com. That's d-e-b-b-y at coachdebi.com. We'd love to hear for you,

we're just going to take a quick break. We'll be right back.

Hey friends, did you know you can have one-to-one coaching with Coach Debbie? You can,

and you don't need to worry because Coach Debbie works with every level of rider.

It's easy to sign up. Just go to coachdebi.com and click book now. Coach Debbie has worked with

Hay House authors, YouTube creators, PhD students, and people writing their very first essay.

Sign up today and get coached. Head over to coachdebi.com. d-e-b-y. Coachdebi.com,

you're riding coach from Story You Talk Radio.

Welcome back to Story You Talk Radio. Guess what we're talking about today. You'll never

guess. We're talking about your memoir. You know it's one of my favorite topics,

but we're really going to the best part of your memoir today. Now, I'm just going to tell you

secret. Don't let anybody know. But over Christmas holiday, I received what we would call

unsolicited manuscripts. That is the formal way of saying that there were some sweet people out

there that follow me on the show, that figured out how to look me up, and they sent me the entire

manuscript that they're working on and said, what do you think? Now, that's a big question.

That requires a good amount of time. I do review manuscripts. However, I don't review unsolicited

ones, meaning ones I'm not expecting ones that I haven't put on the calendar, and I don't do it

for free. I'm sorry to say that. It is something that I take my highest skills to,

requires a lot of time, and it is something I love doing. I want to give you my best when I do it.

It is a $900 project. If you ever want to send me one, I will review it beginning to end,

and we will be in touch during the 60 days that I am reviewing it. So you are welcome to do that,

and to start that process, what you do is go over to coachdebi.com, click on connect,

and write to me. Tell me that you have a manuscript you'd like reviewed. Tell me a little about it,

and we'll get it figured out exactly when we can put it on the calendar, the billing,

when we can meet on Zoom, et cetera, et cetera. I usually do only two at a time. That's the maximum

I can be doing with my business. So the maximum I am usually doing in a year is about eight.

So right now I am open for unsurpt. I almost said it. I am open for manuscript review,

and you start by going to coachdebi.com, click on connect, tell me about it,

and in about 24 to 48 hours, I'm going to write back, and we'll get that ball rolling.

But let's say, let's say you haven't started your manuscript or you're in the middle of it,

and you want to make sure, oh, you get the best part in there, you talk about it well,

you're interesting, you're on top of it. It's usually right around the middle of writing your book

that the weird self-talk monkey mind begins and says, what are you doing? What are you doing? Oh,

my goodness. I don't know how to keep going. I think I've said everything I've ever known.

I don't even know if I'm on point. Oh, she's coachdebi is probably asleep. I need help right now.

Well, you just pop on this podcast, which is on all your favorite podcast stations.

And you listen to a show just like this one, or you send me a note, or you get in line for that

workshop. Right now, I have got lots of space available for March 20th. That's the next workshop

on how to get the best part of your manuscript written because this is where people flub it up.

They do. They flub it up. They're writing this beautiful book. It's going along. It's

lyrical. It's inspirational. We're following you. And then all of a sudden, it's almost like, you know,

cans of beans come falling down on our feet. And you're like, that's it. It's all I got. We're done.

And it's a painful moment. It's painful because we were really invested in your story.

I want to help you write the best part of your story. So right now, think about this.

There's these clichés, we say, out in the world. And they usually tip you toward what your

manuscript is about. For example, people that are writing memoir are often turning their pain

into their purpose. So cliche. So cliche to say, oh, you turned your pain into your purpose.

Use that cliche to help you because what that really means is that you went through something

very difficult. You went through loss. You went through an illness. You went through a betrayal.

You went through a huge change, but you have now become someone totally different.

You have now found what your real calling is. There was this huge gain for you

in that the hard experiences showed you what your real strength is. That pain got turned into

purpose. That's an excellent reason for writing a memoir. Another cliche, we hear it all the time.

And yet, if you follow it, might even show you why you're writing your memoir. One is the power

of your own resilience. We hear that all the time. It's in self-help books everywhere.

Oh, you've mastered the power of your own resilience. Well, these are usually stories about

refusing to give up. You absolutely want to know the depth of your story and the depth of

yourself. You're someone who got really knocked down, but you keep getting back up. That's you.

You are resilient and you owe it to your readers to take them to the best part of your story,

where you're really sharing that resilience. You might have to get into a little bit of pain.

There might have been some real persistence going on until you evolved into your genius or your talent.

But we want that. We want to hear the best part of your story. Don't skip over it.

This next one, reinventing yourself. I was even going to have an entire retreat on this,

because if you can learn how to write about how you reinvented yourself or commit to reinventing

yourself, go through it and then write about it. Oh, man, you have got a book that people want to

read. This is where you, as the person, the main character in your book, you are moving out of an

old identity and leaving something behind, but it really requires a whole new mindset to have

that new life you're building or that you've already built. It does. It requires almost giving

yourself a personal lobotomy and joining forces with brand new belief systems so that you can

show how you reinvented yourself. It's a great theme for memoir, but nobody's going to get to hear

about it if you leave the best part out. If you don't really get in to that part of your story,

it's easy to do because you'll feel like, but I told them all the things that led up to it. They

know who I am. They know I've made it. You don't talk about making it. You don't talk about

that point where you were standing at 25,000 feet elevation and you're looking out. You're seeing

the landscape from a whole new perspective. We want you talking about that. Don't leave it out.

Another thing, this is very interesting. People try to leave this out of their memoirs and the memoir

will just fall flat and that is where a person will find their own strength in an unexpected

place, an unexpected situation. They'll think, well, it was just really basic. I was just a church

one day and then this happened and my life changed by the being by the moon. Done. No! We want that

story. We want you to spell it out for us. I get calls from moms. In fact, we've got time,

just barely time if there's a mom out there that wants to write in today. Moms will tell me,

being a mom is an everyday thing. My story doesn't matter. Oh, really, really your story doesn't

matter. You get up at three o'clock in the morning and go to work and you have a whole community that

helps you raise your children and you've moved them across the country to get away from that person

in your life that scared you and now you've built your own business and uh-huh and you're

you're wanting to just say I'm just a mom. Nobody. Nobody is just a mom. Nobody. The story behind

your way of being a mom, your journey through motherhood. If you want to tell it or you can't leave

out the best part and for you, it might be something unexpected. It might be that really

timid moment where you found your strength. Think too about this one. This is so so cliche. You

might think this couldn't possibly be a book. But how many times have you heard someone say,

oh, I had to learn it the hard way. That is so cliche. They've been saying that since the

beginning of time, Jesus probably walked the earth and said it at least once. Bless him. But at

the same time, if you learned it the hard way, then you learned it in a way that is worthy of your

words. Tell it in your memoir. Same with that whole courage of starting again. How many

time did you have to go through Groundhog Day to finally go, oh my gosh, I see this so differently

now. Tell us. Tell us what happened so you could see it so differently. Tell us how you found

yourself worth. How did you have to be vulnerable? What did you crawl through to get there?

We want to hear these stories. Now you might say, but I'm not an author and all I'm going to say

is you're not an author yet. But you become one by deciding you have a story you want to put on

paper. Most of the stories I hear, I'm talking 98% of the stories I hear are fabulously interesting.

Only once in a blue moon does somebody share something where I'm just not sure what their real

story is. But after a little bit of time and me asking more questions, them being a little more

vulnerable, them being a little more honest. Oh, now we see. Now we understand the full story

and that's what they almost left out. The best part of their story. You might be falling victim to

this too. And if so, I really want to invite you to my upcoming class. It's going to be in,

if you're listening to this in real time, it's going to be March 20th at 12 o'clock Pacific time,

3 o'clock Eastern time. I'm going to offer it on Zoom and it is so easy to register. I offer

this class periodically, you know, maybe two, three times a year. So it'll probably be the end of

summer before I do it again. I would love to see you in the March 20th class to register. It

couldn't be easier. Just go to coachdebi.com coachdebi.com and Debi is spelled D-E-B-B-Y.

Just click on connect. And when you do that, you can type in workshop. You can type in I want to

come to the workshop. You can type in teach me more about my memoir, whatever. And I will send you

all the details. It's really that easy. I didn't set up all these different buttons to click,

and you know, round about tons of things to read. I'm only going to do that once you go to the

website and you write to me, then I know who to send it to. Coachdebi.com, click on connect. And

just say I want to come to the workshop. That's all it takes. It is a $39 workshop. You will get

your money's worth. And to ensure that, if you decide that there's anything you would like to

study, whether it be my ongoing 90-day course, or if you want to work with me one-on-one in writing

your book, that $39 will then get credited to whatever you decide to sign up for.

I have worked with people writing memoirs that wrote because they were a mom and they went through

an extraordinary experience. I've worked with people that were business owners and had extraordinary

experiences. People that were lost in an addiction overcame it to some degree, had life experience

and wanted to write it down. People that were in accidents,

in terrible pain, wanted to write it down. People that thought they were going to die from something,

but they changed. They changed deeply. I've worked with people that have found faith.

I've worked with people that walked away from faith and walked back into it. There are so many

stories. And what I want you to understand is if there's something inside of you saying,

I wonder if mine matters, I'm a good person to help lead you. And if it turns out that your story

would be most effectively shared, if you worked with a coach in another genre, I can probably help

you get connected with someone. I would love to be that person to get you going on your journey.

I'm coach Debbie. I come here live every Thursday at four o'clock. I bring you a new topic about

writing, whether it's your blog, your brand, or your full length book. We do this every week.

And I look so forward to having you back. So until next week, my friends, Namaste.