Success Secret: Play The Long Game | EP 48

What's going on you guys it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show where we

have real talk about family, fitness, finance and everything that would hold you back from

leveling up in every area of your life and more importantly how I personally got through

them.

Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you, I'm here to give you the truth.

What's going on you guys I thought it'd be good to reconnect especially as we enter

the end of the year, just some life updates and maybe some things for you guys to think

about.

I always wanted to remember this channel was created to document my journey throughout

time, obviously I've been more active some years than others depending on the season

that I've been at and we're probably going to start getting active again, you know, I'm

talking to a lot of people that just need a little bit of clarity, some guidance, crazy

stuff happening in the world, people still wanting to do what I think we all want to

do which is build something meaningful in life, give our families lives that we dream

of and we want to actualize and the biggest question is always well how do we do it, you

know.

I think that's why I'm going to maybe get a little bit more tactical, you guys can implement

it.

Obviously there's a ton of resources I've talked to you guys about over time which is

still available to you, but I also know how crazy life can get and making decisions.

So I was talking to a active duty Marine right now as we speak and he wanted to launch

a business.

I want to say last year, about this time last year, October last year I think, 2024.

And he was like right at the stage where he was about to launch.

And you know, I touched base with him just maybe today or yesterday or something like

that.

I said, hey man, I was everything going, you know, like you make progress, you can build

him momentum, pay him a steam and he's like, nah man, honestly, if I want to be brutally

honest, I just got stuck basically is what he said.

Life happened and this is what I want you guys to understand that this is, this is the

thing that if you can master this one thing, it will help you make progress.

See, a lot of people want perfect, a lot of people want to always know what to do when

to do it.

And they wait for that moment, they wait for that clarity.

But here's how that actually hurts you.

In business, it's very easy to first want to be confident.

And then through confidence, we think that we will execute at a much higher level.

So until that confidence is established, the natural human state is to do nothing, right?

I'd rather do nothing than to do something the wrong way.

As an entrepreneur, as a business owner, you have to do it backwards.

You have to take action, messy, crazy amount of action.

And with every step that you take forward, it gives you a different vantage point.

And I thought to my brotherhood a lot about this.

And the biggest thing that we work on is focus.

If you have a million things on your list to do, the worst thing that you could ever do

for yourself, for your mission, for your business, for your family is like, think that you

have to clean everything off your plate.

I was cleaning the loft, my kids the other day, got this ball pit for my two-year-old.

She's the more, you know, active one.

And what she likes to do is she likes to flip the ball pit over so all the balls go everywhere

basically in the loft.

Or she'll go jump in and then she'll start smacking everything out, right?

And it just creates this massive mess.

I was thinking about it the other day, as I was cleaning, I said, man, this is a lot.

And you know, we're teaching her how to clean up after herself right now.

And for kids, it can be very overwhelming.

It's like there's so many balls that throw back in the ball pit.

Where do I start?

You know, and then they get overwhelmed, overstimulated, and then they don't do anything, right?

That's why the kids can be upstairs for like an hour and maybe there's three more balls

in the ball pit, you know, not much movement, not much progress.

What I'm teaching them, and what I also did for myself was just choose an area to start.

And you just pick up one ball at a time for that's all you can do, right?

We've got two hands, okay, well, I'm going to grab one with one hand, one with the other

hand, and I'm going to walk it over.

You're like, well, this is kind of inconvenient because I'm walking, I'm wasting time walking

back and forth.

Why not just throw it?

So we try something new.

And so then I started throwing the balls into the ball pit.

What I noticed was when I would grab the balls, throw into the ball pit and I was focused,

they would go into the ball pit.

When I tried to rush the process, even though I was trying to condense time, I would throw

the balls and they would miss.

And then they would bounce off, shoot to another side of the room.

Then I realized I was being unoptimal at that point because I was trying to rush something.

I was doing it messy.

In business, we can look at that like, man, like, well, isn't that a waste of time?

Well, no, if you think about it, I created two different iterations of how to approach

the problem.

But first I had to take action.

And through action, I was able to then uncover a different problem.

Not that my way was wrong, but the way that I was conducting myself was incorrect to the

outcome that I wanted.

So then what I did was I said, okay, I'm going to slow down, pick up the balls right fast.

But when it's time to shoot into the pit, I'm going to focus.

Then I would make more.

And then I started getting more confident.

And then instead of just picking up one ball at a time or two balls at a time, I pick up

four.

Four in this hand, four in this hand.

And then I would throw them.

And I noticed based on my form, I thought they would overhand because of the way my hand

releases, some would veer off track.

And I was making about 50% of them.

So because of that, I said, okay, well, it's working, but it's only working at 50%.

So what I need to do is I need to try a different method of doing the same thing.

So then I tried underhand.

And I would be eight out of eight every time, eight out of eight, eight out of eight.

Every so often, you know, one would bounce off, but I wouldn't stop and say, oh, I need

to change my process now because I went from 50% to about 99% of the time I was making

the balls into the pit.

Why do I give you this example?

Well, in business, when you're trying to launch something or you're trying to fix something,

you hit you hit $100,000 and you're like, man, I'm trying to double this triple, this

quadruple, this what it takes is action to allow yourself a different vantage point to

then say, did that work better or did that not work better?

If it work better, is it working at 100% capacity and optimization or can I optimize it?

See when we have the courage to just take a step forward, it's a lot easier to diagnose,

to optimize and to do better, faster, stronger right after.

But imagine if I was like my kids and instead I would get overwhelmed by so many things

I have to pick up, then I have to put it into the ball pit and then blah, blah, blah, blah.

It ain't very overwhelming.

So in business, it's the same whether you're launching your business or whether you are

trying to break through that 100 K level, 200 K level, the best thing that you can do

for yourself is to, number one, give yourself some grace that you've probably never done

it before, number two, take the action, whatever you're scared of doing right now, take the

action because let's say it was wrong, right?

Let's say that I did the overhand that I'm like, man, I'm not really making anything.

At least now I know not to do it that way.

But the decisions prior to that, I would have never known that way and that method doesn't

work for what I'm trying to accomplish.

I say all of this because when you watch my journey, if you've been around the channel

for a while, it looks like I've always had forward momentum, which is true.

But I've had a lot of bullshit along the way.

I have had terrible toxic clients when I didn't understand that I didn't have to work with

everybody.

I had a lot of fluctuations in my businesses throughout the years because I was learning

how to lead not only remotely, but with different people that really weren't fitted for the

business and in the mission.

And obviously that challenged my personal operating system.

Then you mix in having one kid and then having another kid and then having a wife and

postpartum for years.

And there's a lot that I can get very overwhelming.

The thing that's always served me was displacing from the situation, I've taken a step back,

he tends steps back if I need to, so I can look at what's going wrong.

And sometimes I can feel counterproductive to do that because we have to be in a constant

state of motion to make progress.

But that goes against my philosophy, which I learned in the Marine Corps, slowly smooth

smooth as fast.

If you go slow, you never stop, you're consistent.

If you go too fast without methodology or intention behind it, what's going to happen

is it creates a slinky effect, right, you go and then you stop, you go and then you

stop, you go and then you stop.

And then you start challenging your own burnout, right, everybody has a burnout threshold.

But when you slow intentionally and you're taking steps forward and you're taking an uncomfortable

action every day, what it does is it allows you to make incremental changes every single

day, but you never stop moving forward.

And this is the whole concept of, you know, the hair and the hair is the rabbit, the hair

and the tortoise, right, the rabbit loses because the tortoise never stops.

The rabbit got so overconfident, he would go stop, go stop, but the tortoise stayed consistent.

And so what I want to impart on to you is take action, you know, it's a very scary thing

to do something you've never done before, something your family's never done before, something

people used to run yourself with has never done before.

So you can't expect that you're going to be perfect at it.

You're going to screw up along the way, you're going to build a business that you end up

actually not liking, can't king that, or you're going to be like me and actually build

a business you love and then try to chase quick money and do a wrong business decision

and trusting the wrong people and then losing years of time, which happened to me, you

know.

Fortunately, I understood the lesson that God was trying to teach me, which was every

great entrepreneur goes through seasons like that.

And one thing that I'm learning and I'm continuing to learn, you know, people think I'm like 45,

which I compare myself a lot, which is, you know, a toxic trait.

To people that are like 45, 50 years old, I'm 32, what I've been able to do at 32 years

old is like a top percentile thing.

And I don't say that's like brag on myself.

I say that because I had to actually do like market research and be like, is it normal

for me to have accomplished what I have at my age?

Number two, is it normal for me to accomplish what I have at my age with my background

and upbringing because that does a big thing.

You know, I was born in the Philippines.

We grew up in humble beginnings in the United States, family started going through divorce

and shoot at 10 years old, you know, I've known nothing but like hardship leading all

the way until I was 18, even from 18 to about 26 years old, you know, it was just a

shit show of life.

I was just trying to get by.

And it wasn't until I started looking at all these things that I'm talking about with

you today and that I've been talking about for years where things actually started to

change because I started to change because my mindset started to change.

My focus point started to change, how I deemed success, how I defined success changed,

who I surrounded myself changed, you know, and that's the part that can get very uncomfortable.

You have to become more than you ever were and you got to step into arenas that you've

never been in and every new arena that you join, you're like at the bottom of the totem

bowl.

So you know, I always want to remind you that even though every year over year life

has gotten better, it comes with equal amount if not more challenges.

You know, a lot of people are like, back when, you know, I was making $100,000 a year

in corporate, I was supposed to be like, man, it must be so nice to make $100,000 a year.

Then I'd have, I'd make $100,000 in a year and I'd be like, damn, I got different problems

and now these are fucking stressful problems, you know, there's more on the line now.

When I started making $200, I was like, fuck.

Like I thought I wanted to make double, but that came with double the responsibility.

Then double that, double the responsibility again.

So we're four X, what I was used to.

And so this is why personal development is such a big thing.

Your ability to manage and handle stress and make decisions under dress is like key.

It's the only thing that makes somebody lose in business.

And I think that when we go through hardship, which I did, you know, a couple of years ago,

I went through a very big hardship.

Sometimes it's very easy for us to feel imposter syndrome.

Like we did something wrong or we're not who we thought we were.

And like so many what-ifs and so many fucking just lack of confidence, self-worth issues start coming up again.

Like there's so much that's part of this journey, which is why as corny and cliche as it sounds,

it really is like a long game.

You know, you have to be willing to do this for the long game.

Otherwise, when you go through your lows, which you will, we all do.

Okay, like anybody that tells you like they just like fucking crushing it.

They don't, they haven't.

And there's a couple of years ago where I posted a video just me completely breaking down

because of the stressors of business and life.

And it's important to show those things because, you know, there's other people,

just a couple of steps behind me who are probably looking at me because I've talked to you guys.

And you guys think that it's like just fucking rainbows and sunshine, but it's not.

It's a lot of random things, you know.

There was a time where business started picking up again and then, you know,

we had this health care with my daughter and it just fucked me up so bad, dude.

I thought I was being a bad dad, but, you know, I really had to come to terms with like,

well, medically, like there's nothing you could have done.

There's nothing you could do.

And so we have to sometimes like look inward and see like, fuck, or human going through a human experience.

And we're just trying to do the best that we can.

And that's why it's just so important to like always stay plugged in.

Always like, even if it like takes everything that you got to like continue to reprogram your mentality,

it's so important, man.

There's been so many times throughout these past few years where I just wanted to like give up.

And I've been asked my wife like, Hey, so what happens if I just like give up on all this shit?

Would you still support me?

Would you still love me?

And she said, yeah.

And she and I both know like I would never do that.

You know, but sometimes it really does get that hard where you're just like, man,

grass is greener on the other side.

Don't got to deal with all this shit and responsibilities that a business owner has to deal with.

But, you know, it's part of the game.

And it's very important to always recognize that if life is hard for you now,

you can choose a different life.

There's the mediocrity doors right there.

It's always available to you.

But that's going to come with its own hardship, you know?

And so you got to kind of ask yourself, well, what kind of hard life do I want?

Do I want a hard life where at least I get to try to self-actualize and create something meaningful in my life?

Or do I want the hard thing where every day I also have to live with the thought that I didn't go all out?

I didn't go all into myself.

And when we talk about things like this, it's so powerful because then, you know,

the younger buck can like listen to the stories and be like, oh, shit.

I guess it's not always rainbow and sunshine.

You know, I got to be prepared for what's to come because business will crush and then business will get crushed.

You will crush and then you will get crushed.

And it's about asking yourself like, are you an ecosystem that supports you during those times or are you not?

Because if you're not, it sucks.

Can you do it?

Absolutely.

I do it.

And it sucked.

It really sucked.

So I don't really know where, you know, I really want to bring this home.

It's just I just felt called to reconnect with you guys.

And because there's a lot of you that don't comment, you don't like, you don't really engage with my channel.

But I know you watch and I listen.

And I've also gotten messages here and there, whether it's email or on Instagram or whatever.

That the content has helped.

So whoever it is, that's out there.

That's like, fuck, I really want to dominate this dream that I have.

I just don't know if I can do it.

I hope this helps.

You know, I hope these little inputs that I put on the channel help.

And even if I'm not like super active here because I'm more active on a different channel for that season in my journey, you know, I hope you go back to it to the same philosophies I've taught for years.

Because everything that I've taught for years is everything I still apply to my life.

You know, nothing's really changed.

I've changed, but I've basically remained the same as far as my operating system goes.

I fully believe in everything that I was talking about five years ago.

I fully believe in them today.

And that's what's kept me going.

You know, so just understand this game is about really not stopping, but more so like asking yourself what causes me to stop.

And what is the solution that I need to provide myself, uncover, you know, pen to paper, whatever, that will allow me to finally break through because the reason why, you know, you might get stuck in a season that you're in is because you have not yet learned the lesson that God or life for the universe is trying to teach you.

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And what I found is God works in very mysterious ways.

He'll put you through shit.

He's put me through shit.

I'm just like, man, I don't even know why this has to happen.

And it's trusting that it's serving you in some shape.

We reform, even if you don't see that clearly yet.

So that's all I got.

You know, I always love to hear from you guys.

I always love to hear, you know, how you're doing, how things are progressing.

If these, you know, videos and inputs and recorded diaries are helpful, you know, that always inspires me to do the next one.

But as always, you know, subscribe, like, share, do the thing, and just keep going, man, you know, like we just can't stop.

No matter if we win crazy for a year or we lose like crazy for a year in the grand scheme of things, it's a blip of time.

As long as we can always come back to that, it's just a blip of time.

You know, bounce back, then you'll be good to go.

The bounce back, it's a fight.

But when you bounce back from the bounce back, the confidence that you achieve, it's priceless.

So prices and I will tell you this, it never stops being scary.

It's always going to be fucking scary, bro.

Every level, you basically have to risk it all all over again to get to the next level because, you know, if you stop risking, you stop investing yourself, you stop investing time, you stop cultivating your skillsets or expertise,

that becomes your new normal, which then becomes your new mediocrity level.

And if you're just like me, something's always going to call it to you and say, Hey, you know, your potential is far bigger than this.

But I need you to dig deep, I need you to figure out what's holding you back and I need to work through that to break through it.

Stop trying to go around it because that's what's wasting time.

See you on the next one.

That's the show.

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