
About this episode
Do you and your spouse find yourselves having the same arguments over and over? In this episode, Rebekah and Gabe unpack the communication mistakes that keep couples stuck in painful cycles of conflict. Seemingly small word choices like "you always" and "you never" can instantly trigger defensiveness, and why your tone often communicates more than your actual words.
They share vulnerable examples from their own marriage—from Gabe's direct "bottom line" style to Rebekah's emotional intensity—and how they've learned to replace judgment with curiosity.
Understand why men rush to "fix" problems when women often just need to be heard, and why verbal affirmation is surprisingly powerful for both partners. You’ll learn the power of "notice and naming" something you admire about your spouse this week—a small shift that can create deeper connection.
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