The Secret To A Longer Marriage

In this 20th-anniversary episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast, Jason and Jana Shelfer deconstruct the "happily ever after" myth to reveal the actual relationship mindset required for an extraordinary marriage. If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are "in different keys," this conversation provides the sheet music to get back into harmony.

We move past the "yes, dear" cliché to introduce a powerful personal development tool: the "Yes, And" Rule. Learn to stop negotiating away your individual joy and start building a shared life that feels like a playground instead of a factory floor.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn To:

• Master "Yes, And" Dynamics: Replace compromise with collaboration so both partners win.
• Stop the "Gnawing" Effect: How to identify small irritations before they grow "monster teeth" through negative attention.
• Apply the One-Degree Shift: Why tiny course corrections in tone and habits completely change your relationship's destination.
• Avoid the "Venting Trap": Why partner-bashing in social groups reinforces a doom loop rather than solving problems.

Living Lucky® Nuggets:

• Stop Dimming Your Light: True harmony requires both people to show up as their brightest selves, not draining batteries to "keep the peace."
• Marriage is a Playground: Keep novelty alive through shared adventures—ballroom dancing, travel, or new hobbies. Without fun, you’re just maintaining a factory.
• The Power of Reframing: Use a life coach or mentor to reframe hard seasons into "skill-building" seasons. The problem isn't your life; it's the conversation you’re avoiding.
• The Alignment Formula: Align your thoughts, feelings, and actions with a higher power first. When a couple aligns toward one goal, magic is accelerated.

Stop "tolerating" your relationship—start celebrating it. Hit play to discover the recipe for a marriage that stays spicy, strong, and soul-aligned!

Marriage advice, Relationship communication, Personal development for couples, Growth mindset, Living Lucky, Positive thinking, Overcoming resentment, Secret to long marriage, Alignment for success

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