
The Two Arrows: Why We Suffer More Than We Need To
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Two people can go through the exact same experience - one stays stuck for years, the other moves on in days. What makes the difference? In this episode, I share a Buddhist teaching called the Two Arrows that explains why so much of our suffering doesn't come from what happens to us; it comes from the story we tell about it afterward. I'll show you how your brain collects evidence for whatever you already believe, why your first interpretation usually isn't the truth, and the one question that helps you break the pattern before you fire that second arrow. Plus, a moment I witnessed in a store between a teenage boy and his grandfather that shows all of this in action.
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What if some of the things you believe are simply “true” about your life are actually stories your mind has created?
And what might those stories be costing you?
In this episode, we’re exploring the invisible space between what happens and what you make it mean, and how those interpretations can shape your emotions, relationships, choices, and ultimately your life.
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