Think Feel Do: Fix Your Money Mind w/ Ashley Quamme

You know that pit in your stomach when you open your bank account late at night? That moment where the numbers load and your heart rate spikes before you even see anything? That is not a math problem. That is a mental and emotional one. And if you have been avoiding your finances, snapping at your partner when the Amazon package shows up, or telling yourself you will deal with it tomorrow, this episode is for you.

Stoy sits down with Ashley Quamme, therapist and founder of a practice built on helping people understand the intersection of their mental and emotional world and their financial reality. What comes out of this conversation is raw, honest, and something a lot of financial content will never touch. Money has meaning. It is tied to your identity, your security, your freedom, and your sense of whether or not you are going to be okay. When you ignore that layer, no budget in the world is going to stick.

Ashley breaks down a simple three-word framework called Think, Feel, Do. It comes from the therapeutic space and it creates a map of what is actually going on inside you when financial stress hits. Not just what you did, but what you were thinking, what you were feeling, and what that drove you to do. She walks through how to actually use it, why you need to physically write it out, and why doing it while you are emotionally ramped up is one of the biggest mistakes people make.

They also get into business ownership anxiety, the noise versus truth conversation around structure and emotional capacity, why men in particular resist this kind of work, and why Stoy believes your mental and physical health are the most important investment you will ever make. Way before stocks. Way before mutual funds.

Watch the full episode on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/qUv3gbe9NSY

If you have been white-knuckling your way through your finances and wondering why nothing is sticking, this is the episode. Think. Feel. Do. Start there.

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