Through Your Spouse's Eyes

I remember an awkward moment for my wife and me a few years ago while we were at a friend's house

for dinner. Everything was fine until the host couple got into a brief argument at dinner.

Which one of them was it fault? Well, that depends on who you ask, me or my wife.

When we got into the car later that night, I turned to Jean and said,

can you believe he started a fight with her right there at the dinner table?

Instead of agreeing with me, Jean said, what do you mean? She's the one who started it.

We talked about the argument all the way home. We were amazed that we had each notice entirely

different behavior from the wife and the husband. Looking back, it's no surprise.

Jean and I are different in a lot of ways. I'm a man, she's a woman, I'm extroverted,

she's introverted. The list of differences is long. It's why we each see the world in unique ways.

I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. You're probably as different from your spouse as I am

from Jean. It's why you see relationships through different lenses, including your own marriage.

It's also why you may have a hard time settling disagreements, because you both think you're right.

My suggestion is change your viewpoint. Every solution will lie somewhere in the middle of you

and your spouse being on the same page with one another. And for that to happen, you need to see

things well through your spouse's eyes. To help your marriage thrive, go to focusonthefamily.com.

I'm Jim Daley.