Loading...
Loading...

Today, I bring you a Radiating Faith sermon inspired by my time in Japan and one of the biggest cultural differences I have noticed: quietness. With my fiancée Camille helping facilitate the conversation, I use that experience as a doorway into Scripture to explore what the Bible teaches about speech, silence, discernment, and self-control. This episode is not about pretending that silence is always holy or that speaking is always wrong. It is about learning that there is a time to be silent and a time to speak, and that godly wisdom helps us know the difference.
In this sermon, I walk through key passages from Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Psalms, James, and Ephesians to examine how the tongue can either build people up or tear them down. I talk about how many words can lead to sin, how a gentle answer can turn away wrath, and how the tongue has the power of life and death. I also explain why guarding our mouths is not the same as being mute, but instead means speaking with intention, humility, and awareness of consequences.
I also apply this message to real life in relationships, arguments, online behavior, podcasting, public discourse, and everyday conversation. Camille and I discuss how familiarity can make people careless with the ones they love most, why modern culture often rewards emotional outbursts instead of patient listening, and why Christians need to become better at cross-cultural communication, conflict resolution, and self-control. I connect that to the Great Commission and the need for believers to engage people with truth, calmness, and conviction instead of noise, hostility, or reactionary speech.
This episode is ultimately a call to reflect on how I use my words and how you use yours. Whether it is on a stage, on social media, in prayer, in marriage, or in ordinary conversation, speech matters. I close by encouraging listeners to lean on the Holy Spirit, prayer, fasting, and Scripture so that our words become a source of life, blessing, and godly influence rather than harm, confusion, and regret.
Website: https://coupleonukes.com
Exodus, Honor Your Heart, & Nulu Knives: https://www.coupleonukes.com/affiliates/
Want to be a guest on Couple O' Nukes? Send me a message on PodMatch: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1726279485588093e83e0e007
Sign Up For A PodMatch Account: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/coupleonukes
*Couple O' Nukes LLC and Mr. Whiskey are not licensed medical entities, nor do they take responsibility for any advice or information put forth by guests. Take all advice at your own risk.
Constantly exhausted and stressed, introducing Exodus, the biblical supplement with seven
divine ingredients for real wellness, featuring organic barleygrass, wheatgrass, allos,
saffron, cumin, frankincense, and merr. Plus a mineral blend that generates healing molecular
hydrogen, experience more energy, less inflammation, and enhanced performance. Exodus is your
path to total rejuvenation. Try risk-free with our 60-day guarantee.
Use the custom link in the description below to start your journey now.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to Radiating Faith, the Ministry sub-series on the Kapo
Enix podcast, where I preach solo sermons, review scripture, and go over other faith-based
and faith-related materials. Today's episode is inspired by my current journeys across
Japan. It is my second time in this country, and it is a different culture than America
in many ways. And today's sermon draws from one of those differences. I am here with
my lovely fiance, Camille, and she is going to be helping facilitate this sermon and Camille.
What would you say so far in an honest review about your time in Japan as far as some
of the cultural differences that you have noticed and experienced?
It's been a good experience so far. The most notable thing is how quiet it's been compared
to in America. Just walking out in the streets in the restaurants, everyone seems to be keeping
to themselves. And yeah, it's generally like the vibe here is just quieter and more
peaceful, it seems like. For sure, I think I like it and I don't
like it. I suppose what really irked me last year, and I've kind of gotten used to it
this year, is being quiet in a restaurant. For me, a restaurant is not just about food.
Here the restaurant is more about food. Get your food and go, eat your meal and go.
It's a lot of people who are by themselves on their phone, a lot of their restaurants
are set up for people to sit by themselves, mostly business people on the way home from
work are going somewhere on a commute, especially in the train stations and near those areas.
But for me, a restaurant is a social experience. It is a place where people go to have camaraderie
loud laughter and stories within a respectful, you know, radius and death of course. But that has
been the biggest adjustment for me. And you'll find that like the loudest restaurants that we've
been to actually have been the ones that were more Americanized or near more tourist destinations.
So I think that's really something different for me. But as you mentioned, it is very quiet,
just outside walking around. There's not a lot of howties and hey, how you doing. And you
know, stuff like that. Not a lot of confrontation, which is nice too. You don't see a lot of street
beefs. I know just walking around Savannah, Georgia. I've seen people pin someone against a wall,
be like, where's my money at? You know, like we've seen stuff like that. And there's a lot of
confrontation and just a loud culture in general. You and I even went to a park yesterday. And even
with probably 50 young children at the playground, it was still very quiet. And so that is the
inspiration for today's sermon. See, the Bible calls us not to silence and to muteness, but to
self-control to measure to understanding there is a time and a place to speak. And I think that's
really important. You know, I believe that based on a lot of studies, we've seen language is
really important. In fact, what I've come across interviewing guests on the show is that the more
access to language there is, the greater emotion of control an individual has. This was especially
seen in children who if children only knew extremely pissed off and happy, then they couldn't express
their emotions to the full range as if they knew words such as, I'm frustrated or I'm agitated or
I'm annoyed or I'm not resentful, but I am not understanding like the more language you have to
express your emotions, the better you can express them. So language is really important.
It is the use of that language that is what is being told here in the Bible to be measured.
We're going to be drawing mainly from proverbs and ecclesiastes along with other parts of the
Bible. Now, Camille, are you ready to get into this? So I'm going to have you start us off with
proverbs 10, 19. When words are many, sin is not absent, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.
And this goes exactly into what we were talking about which is control. Again, it's talking about
many words and that's not knowing many words. It's using many words and talks about sin is not absent
and that's because the more you talk, the more likely there is a chance for you to sin. And that's not
to say never talk. Therefore you will never sin. We know that sin is also present in our actions
and in many times our unspoken thoughts and words and it's about what we do. But
controls speech is very important. And one thing I want to make clear to is that, you know, the use
of language is so important as I've mentioned, but I want to talk about this isn't about
silence and this is about control. And one thing we see is that like in this society, like,
obviously there's a lot of thoughts that are the same as American thoughts, but they're not
expressed the same. And one thing I want to focus on as well is that time and language are kind
of proportional in a sense that when you initially react to something, a lot of words come to mind,
you have a lot of things you want to say. And that's why they say everyone has a different
guideline. Some people it's 30 days after an incident, some people it's five days, some people
it's a few hours. We all have different cooldown times. So that is why they talk about
cooling down before you say anything or sleeping on something before you say anything because
your initial reaction generates a lot of words. And yes, conflict should be resolved as soon
as possible, but there is a period where there is just a generation of so many words and things that
shouldn't be said or that could be said, but shouldn't be said because they are very emotionally
charged. And Camille, do you have any thoughts on that? Now, I think that's true that when people get
in a really emotional state, what they're saying is very exaggerated and it's far from reality or
it's hard to look at things logically and people often just want to lash out and say things that they
don't mean. Right. And it's not easy. It takes time and practice. I know this is something I actually
personally struggle with a lot more, which is I call the knee jerk reaction, something a lot of
people deal with. And that's because you do have such a rush of emotions when certain things happen.
And I do think that is important. And I want to move into Proverbs 133, which says that those who
guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin. And
this goes hand in hand with what we're saying or rather lip and lip, tooth and tooth, mouth and mouth.
So to speak, no pun intended. You know, because it talks about guarding your lips.
And guarding in silence are two different things. Again, this is knowing the time and place.
And guarding, I think that also means having a mindset of knowing the reaction or the consequences
of your words. You know, that's why they say choose your words wisely, right? This can be
when you're in court. This can be when you're in a marital disagreement. This can be friendships.
This can be a conflict with the church. There are many times to guard your lips, which is, you know,
saying, be aware of what you're saying or what you are not saying and the impact of that.
Right. And this has the word rashly. We know rashly is there for a specific reason,
which is to emphasize the hastiness of the speaking and the emotional charge of it, right?
This is to say, but those who speak will come to ruin. It says those who speak rashly. So it's
important to know about this, right? Guarding your mouth is a form of guarding your life, right? When
you are watching what you're saying, you're weighing the consequences and therefore looking at how
that will impact your life. And I think that's important. You know, and I'd love for you to take
us into the next one, which is Proverbs 151. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word
stirs up anger. Now, this is one that has been a part of my life, unfortunately, because people
have said, you are just being, how to say, you need to be a deescalator instead of a returner
or defensive or instigator, which is a lot of times during conflict. People want to give back
the same energy they're receiving. So someone is being angry and loud. Now they're going to get
angry and loud. But what we see here is that is only going to lead to the increased escalation
of the matter that a harsh word is going to stir up anger. But when you stay calm and cool and
collected, grounded in truth and gentleness, it does help calm the other person down. Now,
if it comes off a certain way, it can't aggravate them more. But in general, when you are being
anchored in truth and gentleness and seeking toward that piece, it can have a much greater effect.
Of course, like I said, you have to make sure you're coming off the right way because you can come
off as ignoring or not being attentive to the matter or not caring as much. And so it's the
expression of that care and that attentiveness and respect that is so vital. What do you think about that?
I heard of struggling to quit smoking on your own, whether it's cigarettes, vaping or marijuana,
breaking free can't feel impossible. But imagine waking up every day, feeling confident, strong
and free from the burden of smoking. You can get there with the right support.
Join the honor your heart community and take control of your health with a monthly membership
designed to help you quit for good. You'll get the honor your heart e-book and audiobook,
personal e-mail support to guide you through the quitting process, and online support group
to keep you accountable. Weekly journal prompts ton cover what's driving your habit.
A live interactive session every month to keep you motivated. It's time to break free.
Use discount code 15off at checkout and click the unique link in the description to start your
journey today. Your heart and your future will thank you.
Yeah, I think it's important to realize what you value more, either like defending your own
opinion or your perspective or if you value the relationship more or calming down the situation,
just thinking about your reactions to that.
Right, and throughout this, we'll be getting into how the tongue has the power of life and death,
and one such case of that is Proverbs 154, which says,
the soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.
And so we see the tongue is the same, right? It's a single, I don't know, a muscle not a
organ technically, but it's a single part of us, and it represents not just the physical capability,
but the tongue represents, you know, speaking here, and we have two different adjectives,
right? We have soothing and perverse. So we know that the tongue is capable of being many
different things, and in one, we have a tree of life, which represents, you know, blessing.
You could be a blessing on someone's life. Right, tree of life means you are providing,
you're nurturing, you are there for some, and crushing the spirit, well, that's pretty self-explanatory.
This can be what we see a lot of, unfortunately, cyber bowling, bullying, hate speech, you know,
degrading someone, belittling someone, speaking not in alignment with the faith, and it really
shows the dual nature. And I think what's so important here is we have power over our tongue, although
our tongue has power over life and death, and ultimately our lives, we are the guide of it. And so
we choose whether our tongue is a soothing one or a perverse one, and then this goes well into
in blame the rappers by Tom McDonald and DAX, you know, DAX talks about making music is a privilege
in a choice, you know, some, some destroy in some give life and paraphrasing the lyrics there,
but he talks about like music is part of what the tongue creates, and people say, oh, rap is
evil, rap promotes this and that, rap is a genre, rap is a style of the tongue, and people choose
whether it is a soothing tongue or a perverse tongue. And unfortunately, we see a lot of people
make it a perverse tongue, one that sexualizes and demonizes beauty, one that promotes, you know,
things that are violent and hateful, but we see plenty of rap that glorifies God that is about
mental health, recovery and hope. So, you know, the tongue is not just about speaking, it's about
singing and music and writing and all these places, we have an impact from podcasting to social
media clips to just our conversations as parents and mentors, you know, even to how we deliver
the message of the word, and what would you say on that? Nothing add?
Then we can move on to Proverbs 17 verses 27 through 28, and I'll let you read those.
The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint and whoever has understanding is even tempered,
even fools who are thought wise if they keep silent and discerning if they hold their tongues.
Yeah, so I like that use words with restraint, right? It doesn't say use no words, it talks about
restraint. You know everything you can say or what you could say to deliver it more harshly,
but you're going to restrain your words because, you know, that's what it says, the one who has
knowledge, right? And I think what it speaks to is not just intelligence in the matter of knowing
words, but it really self-awareness and emotional impact, what your words will affect when it comes
to that person or you or the situation, and whoever has understanding is even tempered, you know,
again, going back to how your emotions affect your own language and words,
and even fools are thought wise if they keep silent and discerning if they hold their tongues.
And that goes back to, you know, that's not to say that people who, when it talks about fools,
right? You got to look at the original language of the Bible. A fool is not just like an idiot or
a goofball here. A fool is a immoral person. It is a morally lacking or failing person, you know?
That's why continually talks about fools. It means spiritually, right? And even fools are thought
wise if they keep silent and discerning if they hold their tongues. Again, this talks about
if what you're going to say serves no benefit and if it is only to hurt or to condemn or to kill
and it's not alignment with the faith, then it's better to be silent, you know? And that means even,
even fools are thought wise if they keep silent and discerning if they hold their tongues. So even
people who are morally flawed, they have that emotional understanding, that self-awareness,
and you can look at the impact of their words, then they are wise. They are discerning, you know?
And these are people who normally aren't. And it shows that there is wisdom in quietness.
You know, quietness isn't a lack of knowledge or stupidity or, you know, not caring. It is,
there is a wisdom to it. And then we'll get to Proverbs 1821, which I already referenced earlier.
It is one of the most known passages of scripture. Would you read that for us, Camille?
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
So what do you think on that?
I guess whatever you say, whatever message you put out, the right people will find it or
whoever needs to hear it will take what you say and apply it to their lives or actually give it
some thought instead of just letting what you say pass right by.
Well, and the most important part here is those who love it will eat its fruit. If you look at
the love of the tongue of death, right, you will eat its fruit. And what this means is people who
use their tongue for death, which is that condemnation talk, which is that. And this is in condemnation
like you're living in sin. This is just hate, involing, sexism, racism, and, you know, all this evil
talk will eat its fruit. Or what is this fruit? Well, we know that the fruit produced by a tongue of
death is sin, is living in sin, is not repenting, and is dealing with the consequences of that sin.
So when talked about, we'll eat its fruit. We know that if you are living with a tongue of death,
there are consequences for that. And you're going to eat of that fruit, which means you're going
to experience those consequences. If you look at it on the positive side, if you love a tongue that
has the power of life, then the fruit is a good fruit. It is a fruit of, you know, blessing and helping
others, living in alignment with the word and being a blessed in return, not because of your good
actions, but because when we live in alignment with God's will and his word that we live the most
prosperous life that God has planned for us. And so I think that's, I love that for those who
love it will eat its fruit. Ultimately, we have a decision over which fruit that is, but
the emphasis here is really on the power of death, the tongue of death, because people are more
obsessed with that than the power of life, unfortunately. And it's up to us who are doing the good
mission to try and put out good information and word. And one thing I have found is it is more
efficient for us. And this wasn't my idea, actually. It was a guest on my show, really opened my
eyes. I was complaining about all the misinformation online, all the hate and combining what he said with
this proverb right here, Proverbs 1821, I would say we can't go and cut out the tongues of death
from every person, but we can have a tongue of life. See, we can't go out there and erase all the
misinformation or constantly combat it. What we can do is put out right information, spread it,
promote it, and try to do what we can with it. So rather than trying to get rid of the tongues of
death that are in this world, use your tongue of life to spread the good word and to hopefully inspire
other people to choose life with their tongues. And with what they do, what do you think about that?
And then we've got, would you read for us, Proverbs 21, 23, very similar to one we read earlier.
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity.
Right. And again, guarding your mouth and your tongue and again, that calamity being the
consequences of what you say. Consequences physically, spiritually, emotionally,
relationally within your community, your family, your friends, or whatever it is in your life.
And then I love the Cleasy Astes. Again, it's one of my favorite passages, a scripture,
one of my favorite, you know, parts of the Bible that I share from all the time. And this
says it right here in Ecclesiastes, chapter three, verse seven, a time to tear and a time to
mend, a time to be silent in a time to speak. This is again, going back to the very beginning when
we open this up, the Bible is not about silence. It is about the right time and the right place.
And that is so important. I mean, we talked about this all the time. I recently just spoke in
episode coming out tomorrow about how there is a time and place for everything. Jesus was angry
and spoke angrily at certain times. Jesus was weeping and spoke sorrowfully at times. Jesus
was leading and positive at times, right? And he showed us that there is a time and place for
everything when it comes to speaking and expressing our emotions. And as you continue to, I know
a lot of y'all might be like, well, how do we know what the right time and place is?
Lean on the Holy Spirit and continually study the word and you will find the guidance for when
it is at time and place to speak. And now we'll move into Ecclesiastes, chapter five,
verses one three two. Guard your steps when you go to the house of God. Do not be quick with your
mouth. Do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on
earth. So let your words be few. And this is just about humility and reference in acknowledging God.
And one thing too is, you know, Jesus Christ even has talked about not rambling on when you
pray to make a big scene or to use many words, but to respect and acknowledge God in God's time,
even though it got exist out of time, but that reference and also knowing his understanding of
your words. And I think this is really important. You know, it's about that humility, especially before
God. And I think with even people as well, you know, how we use our words is a huge reflection
of our respect for them and of them. And then going on to Ecclesiastes, chapter five, verse three.
A dream comes when there are when there are many cares and many words mark the speech of a fool.
Again, this is just further emphasis of scripture connecting, you know, excessive speech with that of
a fool. Again, one who is morally flawed or immoral, you know, again, it's talking about how
excessive speech can be foolish spiritually. Again, a place for sin to occur or where thought is
not happening as fast as the words. Therefore, the consequences aren't weighed and things are said
that shouldn't be. And Ecclesiastes, chapter five, verses six through seven. This is really
important. Again, talking about sin, do not let your mouth lead you into sin. Much dreaming in
many words are meaningless. Therefore, fear God. And I think a good practice is, you know,
they talk about doing things as if for Christ. So when you're speaking, how would you speak to God
on this matter? How would you speak to Christ on this matter and let that be a guidance for your
speaking? We let familiarity with someone take away our ability to, you know, weigh the consequences
of our words. We allow it to take away our respect. And I think the fear of God is important,
you know, in watching our speech and not letting our mouth lead us into sin. You know, that is one
of the downfalls of free will is that we can choose how we speak and sometimes we let us be led into
sin by our own mouth. And then there's a few other that we can get into, including Psalm 141,
verse three, said a guard over my mouth, Lord, keep watch over the door of my lips.
I think this is a really important one because we know that we're supposed to be art or mouth,
right? We just read a bunch from Proverbs, saying, please, yes, to use that speaks of that. But when
we struggle with that, where do we turn to? What do we do? Well, here we're saying, set a guard
over my mouth, Lord, keep watch over the door of my lips. I think this is great, you know, as a
prayer for application, you know, like how do we apply this to our life or how do we get help for
this? And that is ask God, you know, ask God for help for a couple of different things that will
help you with your speech, which is patience, being the greatest one. Give me patience, give me a
greater understanding of the impact of my words of this situation of the emotional and spiritual
consequences. What do you think, Emil? Nothing, Ed. Are you weighing your words carefully
as in accordance to scripture? Sure. Oh, yeah, when you say, let the Lord keep a guard over your
mouth and to guide your words, I think that just means speaking with intention. And I liked what
you said earlier about how we often get lost in familiarity and how a lot of what comes out of
our mouth is just like habit of speech or the people that you're speaking to, maybe you, you're so
used to them, you take them for granted or they are just so familiar that the words that you say
to them, they lack substance or you use your words carelessly when you talk to them and it's not how
it's not an accurate representation of how much they mean to you or how important that relationship
is. I agree. That's kind of what I was leaning into was just thinking about even relationships
in my life, how I think, especially when it comes to marital or romantic relationships, like
you don't, I feel like how you argue with your spouse in the very beginning of your relationship
versus later on does change, unfortunately, you know, like you, if you were arguing, well, maybe not
everyone, but I feel like if you were arguing with your spouse compared to like if it was the first
date with them, like you're so quick to want to maintain the peace and have good conflict resolution
because you're focused on that desire outcome of I don't want this person to leave and you know,
we're still getting to know each other, but then later on, I guess people get lenient
or complacent in the security of, oh, you know, it's my wife or my husband, they wouldn't leave me
even if I, you know, talk to them this way and therefore they argue on a more harsher level.
Some relationships are opposite where as they continue to get to know one another, they learn
how to talk to one another in the ways that they need to, but I think when I was talking about
getting lost in familiarity, part of that was like, I don't want to say you lose respect for that
person, but you don't hold that same standard of respect for professionalism sometimes when
it comes to arguing. And I guess there is more forgiveness for that kind of conduct. I think,
you know, a first date forgiveness versus we've been married for 10 years, the forgiveness of
that is different. And I don't think that's something that should be taken for granted or
relied on, but I think it's something that often is, that makes sense. And I think it is really
disappointing because if you think about it, you should be giving like the best version of yourself
to the people who you are closest to and who stay with you. Like you said, that politeness,
that professionalism, that respect, it's sometimes it's even more reserved for strangers or people
who actually don't know you at all, but the people who are closest to you, they get to see the
raw version of you and they've witnessed the worst parts of you. So I think everyone should be
more mindful to, I guess, yeah, watch their words and treat the people closest to you with more
respect and intention. Right. And this ties directly into James chapter 1 verse 19. Most of us have
heard this one. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. And
this is part of what love is in accordance to the Bible. And I think this is really important,
that quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. I think this is more important now
than ever before with the, we call it the polarization of the moral landscape, the political landscape,
the social landscape of America and across the globe. We see a lot of emotional outbursts and
people running away from conversations instead of staying grounded in listening and being quick
to listen, slow to speak. Instead, it's kind of like we see people say, okay, you think this way,
I'm not even going to investigate, I'm just going to leave. And there are certain moral boundaries
that you should have where you do not engage to a degree, but I think part of conversion,
like a lot of Christians or anyone of the faith, they want to say in this little bubble of other
believers, that is not the great commission, the great commission from the cross to the discipleship
is going out to the people who are different from us and having conversations with them. This
quote right here, everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
This is like one of the foundational keys of being a good disciple and evangelizing,
because you cannot have cross cultural communication, whether that is to a different religion or just
a different moral standard or a different societal construct, if you are not quick to listen and slow
to speak. And I think a lot of people don't want to go talk to Muslims, they don't want to go talk
to Buddhists, they don't want to talk to people who are far left or different than what would be
an alignment with the Bible, because they just want to quickly judge, talk over them, get angry and
argue. And we've seen, like, even with this assassination of Charlie Kirk, what we've seen is
the ability to just have conversations are being reduced into violent acts. Now an assassination is a
very big example, a very prominent, you know, dramatic example, yeah, although it is real and truth,
but even just like we've seen so many people at fast food restaurants at college campus debates
on podcasts, wherever it is, storm off angrily or just walk away or make a big scene, we've seen
people detracting from the point of the conversation by deflecting to something else or by making fun
of the person they're debating rather than focusing on the conversation itself. And so this quote is
pivotal to our society right now more than ever before, at least in my opinion, what do you think,
Emil? No, I agree. I think it's what you were saying earlier about that knee-jerk reaction.
People don't even want to listen to other opinions that you're so focused on,
defending their perspective and their opinions. I agree, you know, and we need more open-mindedness.
And I mean it differently than how a lot of people are saying to be open-minded and then saying
that Christianity is evil and closed-minded and boxing it off as something which isn't open-minded
at all. And I think that we need more people to listen and speak. And unfortunately we see a lot of
people just being cut off or censored or whatever it may be. And one thing that I guess is really
nice about the podcasting platform is that you can have those conversations in that environment. And
I mean I guess you can still walk away of stuff but podcasting is allowing these conversations to be
had and available for a lot more people. So I think that's really important that we have this
you know platform along with the in-person debate tables or debate clubs or you know other
spaces where people can have these conversations. And it's really important too for families.
We have a lot of divided families now and a lot of it is just okay, you know this and around
Cole feels this way or this grandparent feels this way. We're just not going to talk to them ever again
instead of trying to come to a resolution. And sometimes you can't, you can't always come to a
resolution. But I think a lot of people are just jumping the gun to let's just cut them off. Let's
block their phone number or let's not answer their calls. Let's just not invite them for Thanksgiving
anymore. We need more communication unless just coldness, blockingness, ghostness, you know all
the stuff that technology has made even more viable for people. If I'm on that James chapter 3 verse 5
through 10. The tongue is small but it makes great boasts. It can bless God and curse people.
I really love this quote of scripture right here because it provides such a clear example.
It can bless God and curse people or it doesn't say here but we could say it could curse God.
You know that's what our tongue is capable of. It could it could bless people.
The tongue is small but it makes great boasts and it shows like it's true like the tongue itself
is physically small but it has such great power power to the side of life and power to the side of
death. You know as much as blessing or cursing God blessing or cursing people so I love like
that shows a clear example of what it can do and what it should do is bless God and what it should
do is bless people. You know by compliments by acts of service through what you can offer through
speech making an impact highlighting great causes speaking friendly with one another. One thing
that I always talk about is how being on a cruise is it's almost like you're living in like
a perfect movie because everyone is so friendly you could I mean I'm sure there's a couple
grouchy people on a cruise but almost every cruise I've been on you can start a conversation with
anyone and they're in such a good mood because they're on vacation they'll talk to you hey I'm
I'm from Georgia from South Carolina I'm from California how you doing you know looking good like
the amount of compliments and friendly exchanges I've experienced on a cruise ship it's like
where's this once we leave the cruise ship where was this when we were coming to the cruise ship
why have we become such a society you know where in some places such as New Jersey where you don't
greet each other well for hey how you doing you mind your own business otherwise people give you
the middle finger or curse you out you know or in New York you know I'm walking here but
for being like there's so much of this but the rather a huge lack of just even friendliness
and passing by you know and that's not to say also then hospitality is real but
living in the South having been born in the North I've seen a huge shift in like how people
greet one another and from regular day to day life to being on a cruise seeing how people change
it's like we should be using our ability to talk to bless one another with kind words always you
know but we don't see that we see a lot of hatred in this world a lot of isolation and it's
truly sad now we'll move on to Ephesians chapter 4 verse 29 do not let any unwholesome talk come
out of your mouths but only what is helpful for building others up and this is a part
discipleship in self-control you know monitoring our free will by using it again to build others up
this is kind of tying into what I was just talking about like there's no need for unwholesome talk
to come out of our mouths you know there are things that are thought that shouldn't be said and I
think this is important this part of the reason why I don't believe or support in cursing you know
there are people who do it and you know I can't stop them but I think like there's no reason to
use profanities like you can make your message be known without the use of them even if you have
to make a harsh or a strong point you know and I think that there's just a lot of unwholesome talk
and I think the digital age has allowed a lot of people to get away with saying a lot of very
unwholesome, lute, erotic sexual races or hateful stuff online with no consequences or minimal
consequences so even though we can do that doesn't mean we should do that you know and I think
that's the most important part here is it says do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your
mouths we know that we can talk and wholesome and quote get away with it and we know ultimately
there's no getting away with anything under the watchful eyes of God right but in this world
in these consequences a lot of us have the ability to talk on wholesome and get away with it but
that doesn't mean we should I like that it says what is helpful for building others up that's
what you should be talking about and I think that's again something that we have straight far away
from and I want to get into you know again that tongue I just want to do a little Hebrew
Lashon Lashon is Hebrew for tongue and again it's not just the body part it talks about speech
expression influence and moral direction which is really important and I think that again this
whole sermon was kind of inspired by Japan now I'm not saying their way of society is perfect
or it's what should be copy pasted everywhere it is a noticeable difference though I think that
anyone would notice it the train cars will sometimes have you know like 30 40 50 people all
crammed together and it's just complete silence you know and that's not to say that talking
to track some of society or that is wrong you know they had their way of living America has theirs
Europe has theirs the other parts of Asia has theirs right every culture is different
but it did remind me of how there is biblical truth in the controlling of speech and silence again
not that silence is holy and speaking is evil but that as a clear at Ecclesiastes puts the best
there is a time and a place you know and there is a level to what we say is important you know
it's about discernment and everything is always about discernment so I think that's really
important part in Camille do you have anything you want to say along with this I guess just
speak with intention and yeah like you said there's a time and place for everything so
right so with that ladies and gentlemen I just want you to take away from this sermon
reflect on how you use your ability to talk is it to make an impact is it just casual conversation
is it too hate and if so what can you do to refine your speech we know we can refine it in a
few different ways with conversation with God through prayer and fasting and then by reading
the scripture and looking at how do the alignment of what we say and what God wants for our life
lineup so speak with discernment lean on the Holy Spirit lean on praying lean on the word and
have good impactful conversations and words wherever you go whether it's a small platform
a big stage or just your day-to-day life it's important again the tongue has the power of life or
death that bless occurs use it wisely struggling with alcohol but traditional recovery programs
haven't worked discover thrive alcohol recovery a private science-backed program built around
the Sinclair method with licensed doctors expert coaches and real results thrive helps you rewire
your brain and reclaim control it's discrete affordable and built for real life

Couple O' Nukes: Self-Improvement For Mental Health, Addiction, Fitness, & Faith

Couple O' Nukes: Self-Improvement For Mental Health, Addiction, Fitness, & Faith

Couple O' Nukes: Self-Improvement For Mental Health, Addiction, Fitness, & Faith