Vanessa Van Edwards: How to Liberate Yourself from Social Anxiety

"Captivate" is more than just the title of her new book, it is the effect that Vanessa Van Edwards has on audiences through her videos, articles, and data-driven insights. Vanessa is a self-described recovering awkward person who went from hiding in the bathroom and avoiding people at parties to literally writing the book on deciphering human behavior. She founded her own research lab, the Science of People, and has traveled the world as a speaker presenting her findings to prestigious universities, Fortune 500 companies, and media outlets such as The Today Show, The Wall Street Journal, and much more. Learn from the certified fraud examiner, body language expert, and author as she shares practical insights for decoding human behavior in this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Original air date: 8-1-17 SHOW NOTES Vanessa explains what drew her to the science of solving people and why everyone has a cipher. [6:44] Vanessa provides the keys to understanding yourself or someone else. [10:07] Tom and Vanessa discuss the gravity of language, personality types, and neuroticism. [13:40] Vanessa explains why self-soothing is important to balance. [19:00] Vanessa explores the notion of radical honesty and deconstructs ambivalent relationships. [22:53] Vanessa reveals the one question to ask that uncovers toxic relationships. [26:50] Vanessa breaks down why she believes you can smell emotions. [30:58] Tom and Vanessa discuss leveraging your uniqueness to communicate the right message. [33:54] Vanessa talks about the personality matrix, radical honesty in relationships, and the resource theory. [39:39] Vanessa reiterates the importance of self-soothing and emotional versus logistical worries. [49:30] Tom and Vanessa touch on the link between happiness and learned helplessness. [53:43] Vanessa shares how she turns small moments of unhappiness into gratitude totems. [57:30] Vanessa defines the impact that she wants to have on the world. [59:28] FOLLOW VANESSA: FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2tQoA9n INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2uM1oxi TWITTER: http://bit.ly/2uMmn34 LINKEDIN: http://bit.ly/2vwrbrj WEBSITE: http://bit.ly/1mfaup9 YOUTUBE: http://bit.ly/2uLGzTb SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at⁠ https://impacttheory.co/AG1pod.⁠ Secure your digital life with proactive protection for your assets, identity, family, and tech – Go to⁠ https://impacttheory.co/aurapod⁠ to start your free two-week trial. ********************************************************************** What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... 1. STARTING a business: JOIN ME HERE: ⁠https://tombilyeu.com/zero-to-founder?utm_campaign=Podcast%20Offer&utm_source=podca[%E2%80%A6]d%20end%20of%20show&utm_content=podcast%20ad%20end%20of%20show⁠ 2. SCALING a business: see if you qualify here: ⁠https://tombilyeu.com/call⁠ 3. Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox:⁠ https://tombilyeu.com/⁠ ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO IMPACT THEORY & MINDSET PLAYBOOK AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ apple.co/impacttheory⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/⁠ Tik Tok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en⁠ Twitter:⁠ https://twitter.com/tombilyeu⁠ YouTube:⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices