Why Men Struggle To Love Themselves: Real Talk About Shame, Regret, & Isolation

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Today, I sit down with Jason Lyle to have an honest conversation about men’s mental health, addiction recovery, suicide prevention, and faith. Mr. Lyle shares his journey from serving as a pastor for over a decade to losing his position due to sex addiction, the impact that had on his marriage, and how unresolved trauma from early adoption shaped his patterns of behavior. We discuss how isolation, shame, and guilt drive many forms of addiction, including pornography, relationships, substances, and destructive coping mechanisms.

We explore the relationship between faith and responsibility, focusing on how spiritual language can sometimes be used to avoid accountability rather than pursue healing. Mr. Lyle explains how nervous system regulation, breathwork, cold water immersion, meditation, and self-inquiry helped him interrupt destructive impulses and regain agency over his choices. Our discussion highlights the difference between being alone and being lonely, and why community is essential for men navigating recovery, especially in a culture increasingly shaped by screens and virtual connection.

Later in the episode, we talk about the work Mr. Lyle does through The Sacred Grit, Adventures and Recovery, and his men’s retreats. He outlines his process for helping men confront shame, rebuild self-worth, and develop self-discipline through embodied practices, reflection, and shared experiences.

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