Wife's Dilemma: Love or Pride?

On April 2nd, a woman married over 20 years just found out her husband has been in a passionate

affair for a year with her own friend, uh, high achieving career type.

He admits he loves her too and wants to stay married, but flat out refuses to end things

with the mistress who's in an open marriage herself.

She's torn up inside, feeling she can't compete and too proud to try anyway.

Deeply in love since day one, she doesn't want to lose him, but wonders if demanding

he choose would kill his feelings for her.

The big question, can she handle sharing his heart, even if it wrecks her?

Folks are weighing in that love can survive betrayal sometimes, but why is she the one

agonizing over demands?

Real talk.

It's his mess, yet she's framing it like her fault if he walks, that imbalance

hits hard on self-respect after decades together.

The advice cuts deep, a grain teaches you your pain doesn't count, that is freedom

trumps your well-being, that inner voice of dignity, yours existed before him, don't

betray it for half measures, say no and he might finally wake up to losing you for real.

Bottom line, the real loss to Dodge ain't him, it's you, stand tall, whatever storm

hits next.