You're Not Losing, You're Lasting

If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?

In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.

You’ll learn:

What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)

Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noise

How to know if your attorney is playing defense—or building a quiet offense

What questions to ask if you’re unsure who’s really fighting for you

Power Line:
“You’re not losing. You’re lasting.”

Because lasting takes more strength than lashing out.

Next Steps:

Ask your attorney: Are we being tactical or just quiet?

Get clear on the plan. If they’re prepping depositions, trial outlines, or settlement proposals—they’re moving.

If they’re not? It might be time for a second opinion.

For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who isn't. This podcast is a system for getting through it without losing yourself.

Every episode fits into one of three phases: Get Clarity, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Start wherever you are. Nothing is out of order.

Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce.

Book: mybook.gettingdivorced.org
1-on-1 Coaching with Corey: coaching.gettingdivorced.org

New episodes Thursdays during the season.

Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.

For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.