You're Not Shaytaan... Right? | Mufti Menk

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

إن رمضان تمبر فليه

as much as people say that shaitan is tied

and yes it is correct to a degree

that the big shayatin or the chief shayatin

are actually tied

but the little ones are roaming around

remember one thing

تمبر فليه in رمضان

you need to control your anger

because the reward of your fast

will be nullified or minimized

and you might even be sinful actually

when you do not control your temper to the degree

that you begin to abuse others

you oppress them, you say wrong things

and it causes a problem

that will flow beyond the month of رمضان

رمضان is a month of solving matters

finding solutions, bringing hearts together

bringing people together

but unfortunately many people

creating problems in the month of رمضان

or become prey to those who create problems

without realizing that you know what

here is the hadith of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم

he says that if someone were to abuse you

or to say something bad to you

you reply to them by saying I am fasting

that's the hadith

the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم

instructs us to say I am fasting

why should you say I am fasting

because I am not supposed to be getting angry

I am supposed to be a person who is conscious of Allah

this is my moment to develop takwa

and consciousness of Allah

I want to come out of every day of رمضان

closer to Allah than I was the previous day

and I want to exit the entire month

a changed person

one of the things you and I suffer

is the tempers

either our own or others or a bit of both

so what we need to realise is

if you are not going to work on your tempers

nothing is going to happen

it is going to get worse as time passes

you become less and less tolerant of others

or you become a person who really

doesn't even think before he or she speaks

is that what you want?

in fact Allah does not want that

Allah knows you are a human being

but he wants you to work hard on your character

your conduct, your tempers

so this is the month of رمضان

tempers flare in the month of رمضان

I have witnessed it

and I am sure nearly every one of us

has witnessed it

whether it is this رمضان

previous رمضان

or whenever it might have been

but you find Muslims

good people sometimes

decent people who pray five times a day

people who fast the whole month

but they do not control their tempers

they do not control themselves

they become so angry at little things

calm down

every time you have

squeezed yourself

every time you have actually extinguished

that tempers

you get such a great reward

Allah says

the ones who will earn paradise

are the ones who control their tempers

meaning they have extinguished their tempers

and the ones who forgive others

now that topic of forgiveness is a topic of it

on its own, however

what we need to know is

don't hold petty things in your heart and mind

it will make you ill

it will cause problems for you

in your mind and your body

and your relationships

little things let them go

major things look into them

and try and see how best

you can navigate through them

solve the problem perhaps

and Allah will grant you goodness

in this world and the next

may Allah bless us all and help us

to control our anger and temper

and remember when we say the Shiaatina

tied in the Ramadan

we are only talking of

the chiefs of the Shiaatina

the little ones are all roaming around

and still causing disaster

on top of that

sometimes we as human beings

that's why the Qur'an speaks about

minal jinnati wan nas

insura to nas

when Allah refers to

the Shiaatina of jinn

kain the Shiaatina of mankind

in fact in another place in the Qur'an

Allah Almighty actually says Shiaatina

inswal jinn

that there are two types of Shiaatina here

that from humankind and that from jinn kain

we Allah protect us such that we are never

considered Shiaatina and at the same time

control yourself

Allah grant us ease

that we are never considered Shiaatina