125. Why Being Wanted Doesn't Always Feel Safe | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 4)

What does it mean to want connection and be terrified of it at the same time?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble is back with Courtney for Part 4 of their live coaching series, and this one touches something most women feel but rarely have words for. Courtney arrives with a question that hits deep: why do we want to be wanted, but then not feel safe when someone actually wants us? Jenn and Courtney unpack the very human need to be wanted, what happens when that need has historically come with pain attached to it, and why so many women end up exhausted from molding themselves into whoever they think everyone around them needs them to be. The conversation moves into identity in a big way, specifically the question of who you actually are underneath all the performing, and Jenn guides Courtney through a roots visualization to start building out her "I am" statements from the inside out. This is raw, real coaching, and it might just be the permission slip you didn't know you needed.

You might want to listen if:

• You crave closeness but pull back when someone actually gets close
• You feel like you've lost yourself trying to be what everyone else needs
• You struggle to answer the question "who am I" outside of what you do for others
• You want practical tools for building a stronger sense of self
• You are working through anxious attachment and nervous system patterns in relationships

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