21. How to Know If You Have a Condemning Spirit

Why does condemnation feel so automatic?

In this episode, John Ortberg invites us to slow down, breathe, and notice something surprising: judgment doesn’t just live in our thoughts — it lives in our bodies.

Returning to the story of Cain and Abel, John shows how God interrupts Cain with two gentle questions:
- Why are you angry?
- Why is your face downcast?
Those questions open a doorway to freedom.

Drawing on neuroscience from Jill Bolte Taylor and Antonio Damasio, John explains how condemnation becomes embodied through stress hormones, muscle tension, and emotional rehearsal. He introduces the difference between decisional non-condemnation (“I choose not to judge”) and emotional non-condemnation (asking God to transform what happens inside your body).

You’ll learn:
• why condemnation feels physical
• how the 90-second pause works
• what it means to “feed the monster”
• how blessing rewires your reactions
• why you can disagree without condemning

John also shares painfully honest examples of everyday judgment (hair gel, Tesla drivers, passive people — we’ve all been there 😅) and offers a freeing realization: you don’t have to condemn anyone. Only God knows anyone’s full story.

Jesus was right all along:
Blessing is easier than contempt.
Love is lighter than judgment.
And there really is now no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Jill Bolte Taylor — research on the 90-second emotional rule
Antonio Damasio — distinction between feelings and embodied emotions
Everett Worthington — decisional vs emotional forgiveness (adapted here to condemnation)
Better Angels — assessment questions addressing the culture of contempt
George Carlin — illustration of the universal judging reflex (“everyone’s an idiot or a maniac”)

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