#471 The Secret Ingredient to Living Your Best Life

Including Hypnosis

What if the reason things haven't quite stuck yet isn't what you want… but why you want it?

In this longer, deeper episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I take you beyond goal-setting, beyond wishy-washy intentions, and right into the one missing ingredient that makes real, lasting change inevitable.

This episode includes a guided hypnosis / deep visualisation process designed to help you connect emotionally and unconsciously with the version of you who is already living their best life — and to install the inner resource that makes it all possible.

We explore why New Year's resolutions fail, why motivation fizzles out, and how your unconscious mind can be guided to work for you instead of against you.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why "who do you want to be?" isn't enough without a powerful why

• The secret ingredient that turns desire into action

• How your unconscious mind learns just as powerfully from imagination as reality

• Why visualising your future self isn't fantasy — it's training

• A practical demonstration showing how imagination rewires behaviour

• A deep hypnosis process to connect with your future self and install commitment

• How to access the will to do whatever it takes

• Why alignment with your values creates effortless momentum

• How living your best life benefits you, others, and the world around you

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# 471 the secret ingredient to living your best life with Hypnosis

Hey, welcome to the longer episode, the deeper dive on who do you want to be? Do you remember a week ago or the previous episode, the five minute quickie, which was actually 14 minutes, was who do you want to be? And today we're going to do a process. Now it could be a deep hypnosis process, or it could be a light visualization. If you're on the video, it's probably going to be a light visualization.

 

If it's on audio, I'm going to add in some deeper stuff. So your choice. You can always flip between the two.

 

But the thing is, it's not who you want to be. It's bloody why. The why you want to be who you want to be.

 

You see, without your why, there's probably not going to be anything. You might start, you might start in the right direction of who you want to be, who you think you want to be. But then sometimes it'll fizzle out.

 

I'm sure, like me, you do like me, don't you? But just like me, you started something, maybe without thinking too deeply about it. You didn't really think about your intention. You certainly didn't think about what was important about it.

 

It just seemed important at the time, just felt that way. And you went and did it. And what happened? Fizzled out.

 

It's a bit like bloody New Year's resolutions, isn't it? We have to do this thing. We make these lists of what we're going to do. No real conviction, no real importance.

 

I could, I wish, that type of stuff. Wishy-washy wishes. And you see, to get there, you want a secret ingredient.

 

I call it a secret ingredient. It's a secret step, but it's not secret because you've got it inside you. It's a resource that's untapped.

 

It's untapped until you find your why. And when you find your why and what's important, boom. But I'm going to go into that a little bit later.

 

I'm not going to give it all away now because I don't do that. I want you to think at the moment, if you were being who you really want to be, just for the moment, doing the things that the person you want to be would be doing, the desires, the dreams that you have right now, that you over there would be doing it in your mind. Imagine that person in your mind, that ultimate vision of you, the person you want to be is actually there right now doing that stuff.

 

It's achieved everything you want to achieve. The wishes, the dreams, the abundance. And it's not just abundance of financial abundance, which it can be, but it's abundance of riches, experiences, feelings, emotions, things that touch you, touch you on the inside, make you feel awesome.

 

You know, there are experiences like you out there who is doing all the things that you dream of doing, has had a richness of experiences from where you are now to where they are over there. And if you thought about it now, just for a little bit, just let your mind go for this one. I just want you to think for a minute, imagine, just a little bit of imagination.

 

You can have your eyes open because it's just I want you to think for the moment. And you can think in words, you can think in writing words, writing is good. What would they, you be doing? What type of things would they be doing when they are fulfilling your dreams, fulfilling your desires, having this abundance of riches? Think about it now.

 

What type of opportunities would be coming your way in that situation? Because you've achieved all the things you want to do. You've done all the steps. You've created those opportunities yourself.

 

You've accessed the resources that you needed. You've learned what you needed to learn. And you put it into action.

 

You haven't just learned it. You've actually done and used the things you've learned. Because that's mastery, isn't it? Doing what you know, knowing what you do.

 

Think about it now. Imagine it right now. Say you could fly out into the future, right out there, right out to the future, to a time in the future.

 

This is imagination. So it's your time. No one can tell you any different.

 

It's you. It's your imagination. You're in charge.

 

Fly out into the future just for a minute. And if you were to look down over there, there they are, being and doing all the things you've dreamed of. What would they look like? What would they, how would you see? What would be happening to them? Imagine if you could feel it actually there and really being there.

 

How would they move? How would just, how would they be living their life? And I say they, that's you, that you down there in the future. Your best self. Overcome a few issues on the way, maybe.

 

Let go of a load of bloody issues. Let go of things like anxiety, depression, fear, guilt, anything like that. All that stuff that we don't need.

 

A little bit of grief just disappears because now we've got the learnings and now you can see yourself having that abundance, the abundance of life that you dream for. Yeah. You can even feel it now, can't you? I can feel it for you.

 

I can imagine what you're seeing and it's brilliant. Be so proud of yourself over there. You've achieved it.

 

Well, you know, because you use something to get there and it was worth it, wasn't it? Just seeing yourself there. It's so worth it. Putting the effort in, doing the reps, living out your intention with every heartbeat.

 

Just take a moment to take that all in. Yeah. Feels quite good, doesn't it? And that's just imagination.

 

So here's the thing. Come back to now. Come back to now.

 

And just understand now, your unconscious mind likes to work from the past. Your past experiences, because your past experiences is what we learn from. Can't learn from the future, because it hasn't fucking happened.

 

But it loves to use the experiences of the past to create behaviours and beliefs that keep you safe and allow you to get what you want. Sometimes there's a bit of a clash because, you know, it's trying to do something for you and it's not quite working, such as that anxiety, that fear, that guilt, that grief, OCD, all the stuff, all the syndromes you can think of. It's trying to do its best for you.

 

But if we learn from the past, then everything in the now becomes that much better. It allows you to access all the resources that you need to have the life you dream of. And because you, well, you know, I said you can't learn from the future.

 

Thing is, or can you? Can you learn from the future? I believe you can. I told you, you can't. I said your unconscious mind can't.

 

Can't learn from the future. But the thing is, and here's the real kicker, your unconscious mind, your best friend has real problems. Problems in a good way of understanding and realising what's imagined and what's real, because what's imagined appears to be real to your unconscious mind.

 

I'll give you a quick example and it's a really simple example between real and imagined and how things can change. Just imagine you were standing in front of me. In fact, if you're not standing in front of me, stand up.

 

I don't care where you are. Stand up and push both arms in front of you as if you were looking through your fingers in front of you. Just point your fingers out there and just turn to the right.

 

Turn to the right as far as you can go without straining. If you've got a bad back, don't do this at all. But just turn to your right and notice as you look through your fingers, when you're in that furthest point, just make a mental note where you've got to and then bring your arms back and bring them down to your sides.

 

Now close your eyes and don't move your arms, but imagine you're lifting your arms and turning to the right. Imagine going and doing what you've just done in real life, but imagine going six inches, what's that, 15 centimetres, 150 millimetres past that point that you got before. Just imagine going, oh it's so easy to go past that point and then bring your arms all the way back in front of you.

 

Have them come back to your sides and then imagine again, don't move them, eyes closed, just lift them up again. Imagine lifting them up. It's the imagination.

 

Your arms are staying by your sides. Imagine those arms going to the right again, going past that first point, going past that second point, that six inches, 150, whatever it was, and imagine going even further and further and further, as if you can go all the way around to the back of you, like an owl, but with your arms. Imagine it's so easy to stretch all the way around.

 

It's not even a stretch, it's just a movement and you can see all the wall in your mind. Going further and then bring your arms all the way back to the beginning in your mind, allow them in your mind, imagination, to come back to your sides and be in your body again. Now open your eyes, now lift your arms in real life, lift them up again where they are and now turn to the right and notice how far you go.

 

Yeah, isn't it weird? You go further than you could before. And how does that happen? Because your unconscious mind doesn't realise what's real or imagined and you've done it. You've done it in your imagination, so your unconscious mind thinks you've already done it, so you can do it again.

 

See, we've learnt from the future because you haven't done that yet, have you? Yeah, isn't it interesting? It's weird, it's a lovely weird, but now let's just imagine we're going to do it with, say, hypnosis or visualisation depending if you listen to the audio or you're watching. So here we go. Now it's going to be a little bit spacey I guess, just a little bit, because we're going to close our eyes.

 

Because I want you to close your eyes, because I do, and the reason I do is because it's going to take all the distractions away from you, so please do make sure if you're going to close your eyes, you do not need anybody's attention or no one needs your attention. You're not driving, you're not doing nothing like that, that you're working machinery and all that stuff they say about, because we're going to close our eyes and we're going to go deep inside our own mind, into our own imagination, maybe unconsciously, because we're going to guide your unconscious mind into your future self and then we're going to find that one resource, that one resource that you will never use before when you haven't got what you wanted, when you've got what you wanted, you've used it before but you didn't realise it. So now just have a look around, make sure everything is safe and sound, get really comfortable, you can sit down, lay down, do whatever you want, find a comfortable place, as I say, where you'll be undisturbed.

 

Okay, so it's time, time to enter hypnosis. So you found that comfortable place, somewhere where you'll be undisturbed for the next few minutes and as you sit and lay down, you can just breathe normally and I want you to take a wonderful, gentle in-breath for the count of four and then hold it for the count of four. And as you breathe out gently for the count of eight, allow your eyes to close and then breathe normally and as you breathe easily and effortlessly, I want you just for a moment, bring that issue to mind and set your intention to solve it, to let it go, to find a better way.

 

We're going to find better ways and as you do that, begin to start to make every in-breath more gentle than the one before, as you drift down, every in-breath more gentle than the one before, just all the way down. Just going into trance is easy. All you have to do, drifting down, is be prepared to do whatever it takes.

 

As you breathe and want the change, as if you're being drawn inside and I know you want the change, you're drawn inside to that most comfortable place. I know you'll get the results you want where all you have to do is let yourself go and you can do that. Maybe you'll just think of how it'll be and then as we drift past five, we go to four, drifting even deeper down.

 

How soft the muscles around your eyes could be. And what would it be like if they were so soft? And that softness was to spread through every muscle as you breathe out. So with that out-breath you're drawn inside and the muscles just get so comfortable too.

 

Dream of all the things, maybe even dreams. Letting go. Letting go to sleep in trance.

 

Now you can, naturally, nothing, but safe place to dream with your imagination, where we go inside, imagineering. Because imagineering and your imagination is yours and yours alone. Comfortable, lasting change.

 

And as you imagine what you want to have in life, how you want it to be, the emotions you want to feel, you can begin to just notice the muscles behind your eyes. The value, how soft could they be? Pure, wonderful values of life. And those wonderful behaviours.

 

And as you notice they can be even softer than that. You see, you can imagine that softness again will permeate. And that's what you can do with these processes.

 

Just allow them to happen. Comfort can spread, having the will to do whatever it takes. Being drawn into comfort.

 

Maybe how you want to live. Become aware of that place of comfort. And as you become aware of it, it's all over.

 

It begins to spread. Get bigger. That's right.

 

Because this is what it's all about. Being comfortable. Mind is listening to every word I say.

 

So whilst you drift and dream of all those wonderful things you want to have happen in life, your unconscious mind can now find a way to help you. It knows the direction you want to go. And that's all you need to do.

 

With crystal clear action you want to go. You don't need comfort resonating with you. Change.

 

You don't need to know the how. You just need to know the why. Your why.

 

Having the will to do whatever it takes. And your best friend. What will allow you to do? In harmony.

 

And how good would it be for you? And then how good would it be for those around you? Maybe you'll become aware of zero. That's right. Over there.

 

Zero. And as we go into zero. Because in a moment you'll enter and go through zero.

 

And when you do, my words will become your reality. And you'll follow and do everything I say with one caveat. And if I say anything at all which is against your values, your morals or anything you'd ever do, then you'll ignore that suggestion.

 

Your dreams. And what this is, to guide you and go deeper still. So when you go through zero, you'll be in that wonderful hypnotic state where my words become your reality.

 

To find new ways. To guide. To guide you to that wonderful change.

 

The last change. So go through zero now. Minus one.

 

Minus two. Minus three and minus four and minus five. And maybe you'll drift up to minus four and minus three.

 

But you'll just go to whatever level, however depth of trance that is appropriate for you right now. To sleep in trance. Into trance.

 

Into change. Just breathe and allow yourself to drift inside. Into a wonderful comfortable place.

 

And as you drift into that comfortable place, I want you to imagine now. Imagine that future self. The one we thought about just a little while ago.

 

That future self that is living out your desires. Living out your dreams. Living with abundance.

 

Abundance of joy. Abundance of love. Happiness.

 

Just enjoying every heartbeat. Fear has disappeared. Grief.

 

Anxiety. Every negative emotion has just disappeared. What's in its place? Imagine now.

 

You can feel what's in its place. Maybe it's that wonderful self-esteem. That feeling good about yourself.

 

I have that inner strength. That inner strength that is like, I'm just here. I'm just here in me.

 

I'm rock solid. I'm okay. I'm okay with me.

 

I'm okay with me in this world. My confidence is in my competence. And as you feel that, what emotions are you experiencing now? When you're living your true self.

 

Being that ultimate vision of yourself. That best version of yourself. Living your dreams.

 

Your desires. Living in abundance of everything. What will you see? How will you see the world? Will you see it slightly brighter? Will you see it more welcoming? Will you see it as an opportunity? How will you speak to yourself? And what will be those positive beliefs that you have that affirm who you really are? You might even smell and taste success.

 

And feel that feeling of ultimate comfort in you. Because you're totally safe here. Living your dreams.

 

Living your desires in total abundance. Every emotion is positive. Every behavior supports you.

 

Every belief is wonderfully supporting to your highest values. And as you feel this feeling of a good life, just notice for yourself how good it is for you. Be aware how good it is for those around you.

 

The people you mix with. Your family. The people you help.

 

And notice how good it is for you to be like this for the little old planet Earth. Because when it's good for you, good for others, and good for planet Earth, it means you're living totally ecological. Totally aligned with who you're meant to be.

 

And just notice here with these feelings, these wonderful emotions, from this future you. Your best self. Living your dreams.

 

Your desires in abundance. I want you to begin to understand, unconsciously, consciously, just let it happen. Understand how important this is to you.

 

Feel the feelings of how important it is. You might not be able to describe it in words, but just notice why it's so important to you now. To be able to live like this.

 

Why do you want it so much? Feel its value. And feel it with gratitude. The gratitude of being able to live your life, and experience life, at this wonderful best version of you.

 

Your best self. And if you want, you can make it even realer. Even more better.

 

Intensify the feelings. Intensify what you can see, hear, and feel. Imagine all the things you can do in all different areas of your life.

 

In your relationships. With yourself. With your friends and family.

 

Feel how important this is to you now. In all areas of your life. And when you feel how important this is.

 

How it's so much value to you. And this is the key. Find that resource inside you now.

 

The will to do whatever it takes to achieve this goal. This you. Because that's all you need.

 

The will to do whatever it takes. You know now how important it is to you. How wonderful it would be to be like this.

 

And imagine having it now. Having it all now. Make it so real.

 

So real. The will to do whatever it takes. And as you do that.

 

Commit. Because it's up to you now to make it happen. Commit to making it happen.

 

Commit to making your dreams possible. Because they are. Make abundance possible.

 

Because it is. Creating your reality now is so possible. Creating and experiencing joy, love, happiness.

 

Having the thrill of a heart with more joy than you can stand. And get your unconscious mind to access that resource. And that belief of having the will to do whatever it takes.

 

Into every cell. Imagine however you would imagine it. This is going into every cell of your body.

 

The neural pathways firing and wiring together. The synaptic gaps. Creating all of this.

 

Because now this is real. The only thing you have to do now is do it again. Because it's all inside you.

 

Together. As one. Where you can now go find your passions.

 

Live your passions. Share your passion. In selfless service.

 

Giving to others. Giving to the world. And thereby living your life in such a wonderful way.

 

Feel that sense of gratitude. That your unconscious mind and your conscious mind are now aligned. Creating this in the now.

 

Because you now know you have all the resources you need. And whatever you think you are, you're more than that. Whatever you dream of, you're going to have more than that.

 

Everything is possible now. Because you have the will to do whatever it takes right now. Take a deep breath.

 

Imagine locking it in place. Take another deep breath. This or something better.

 

And allow your eyes to open. There. It's called and we're back in the room.

 

And that's it. That's the ingredient. The will to do whatever it takes.

 

That's all you've got to say to yourself. I've got the will to do whatever it takes. I've got this.

 

And remember that feeling of living your dreams, living your desires, living in abundance. And with those feelings, you will find whatever you need. You'll find the right mentor.

 

You'll find the right ingredients, the resources, the opportunities. Because they'll come to you. You'll attract them with this wonderful feeling.

 

So hook into that feeling as many times as you can. Listen to this again, as many times as you can. As I say, if you want it as a deep hypnosis, then go to the audio version as well on Personal Development Unplugged Podcast.

 

Yeah, the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast. Remember which one it is. I've only got one.

 

Yeah, go find that on any of the platforms. It's around everywhere. They'll have that.

 

And if I can, if I can extract it and put it on my website, paulclothonline.com forward slash podcast. That's where I have all my hypnosis tracks. And if I can separate it out and give it there, just for you.

 

I hope you enjoyed that. This is a different way of working now is deep imagination, visualization, hypnosis, or whatever you want to call it, with wonderful processes to get your unconscious mind to do the stuff that led by your conscious mind. Your conscious mind is a goal setter.

 

Your unconscious mind is a goal as you want, but you have to set it in the right direction. You have to give it is why why it's important to you and commit to having the will to do whatever it takes because it is important. And if it's that important, of course, you'll have the will to do everything.

 

You'll do whatever it takes. Please share this if you can, because I want everybody to live their best self, not in the future, but right now. And every moment in the now get more and more better.

 

If you could share it, that'd be great. It gets out into the world, more people get this, it gets a wider coverage, whatever it is, but just if you could, that'd be brilliant. Please share to everyone you can.

 

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I hope you enjoyed it. I did. And let's start creating the lives that we that's what we're here for.

 

Create the lives that are due to you.

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