
#90 Feel Invisible? This Simple Confidence Shift Will Change Everything
About this episode
In this episode, Valerie and JM unpack the real meaning of self-confidence and why it has nothing to do with being loud, forceful, or outspoken. Through relatable examples and clear explanations, they explore how low confidence shows up through hesitation, second‑guessing, and freeze responses, while genuine confidence is rooted in belief, stability, and calm decision-making.
IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:
- What self-confidence really looks like – Understand why calm presence signals more confidence than loud behavior.
- How low confidence shows up in daily life – Recognize signs like second-guessing, hesitation, and freeze response.
- How past experiences impact self-confidence – Learn how early criticism or trauma can lower belief in yourself.
- Tools to rebuild confidence gently – Use posture shifts and anchored self-talk to strengthen inner stability.
LINKS AND RESOURCES WITH THIS EPISODE:
- "Put That Stuff Down" and its sequel (book) - A recommended read exploring the complex relationship between trauma, PTSD, and clutter. It offers personal stories, psychological insights, and practical advice. Click here to learn more: https://up.dowellht.com/bestseller-clutter-and-trauma
- Join the thousands of people using the post-trauma secrets and decluttering by starting here: https://dowellht.com/freeyourself
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