Ask Uncut - My Exes Were Hotter

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Love Trapped Podcast
Keeshia - Virgin River on Netflix
Laura - La Casa Homewares 

Then we jump into your questions!

MET A GUY BUT HE IS SO YOUNG
I‘m 36 years old and I met a guy on an intercontinental flight a month ago. It was weird, because even before ending up talking I felt completely relaxed around him and had the urge to rest my head on his shoulder (I didn’t btw). My friend, who was sitting across the aisle from me, even snapped a picture, because she thought we looked good together. In the final hour of the flight he finally started a conversation and that last hour just flew by. He asked for my number and texted me a few hours later and we’ve been texting ever since. I suspected he might be younger than me from the beginning, but didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s from a different country than me, works in the military and is currently deployed abroad. He has now invited me to his home country this summer and put together a full itinerary to give me a real experience of his home. And let’s just say our interests align 100%.
Yesterday I finally asked how old he is and it turns out that he is only 24 years old!This is a much bigger age gap than I would ever have imagined, because he comes across as very mature (more mature than many men my age honestly). But I‘m at a loss - how do I proceed from here? Interested to hear your take on this! 

BF SAID IM NOT AT ATTRACTIVE AS OTHER GIRL FIRENDS (AFTER 8 MONTHS)
I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months and it has been the most amazing time. We’ve got similar values and hobbies, get along amazingly, have never fought once and have aligned goals for the future. From the moment we met, we haven’t stopped texting, our chemistry was amazing, and he was the first to introduce me to his family, as well as say I love you. True penguin material. Then 2 weeks ago, I asked him his thoughts on whether in a year’s time, we should move in together (we both live alone currently). He said he had to think about it, then two days later, he turned up at my house out of the blue in tears and said we needed to break up. When I asked him to talk through what had happened, he said something felt ‘off’ about us but when I asked if it was something I did, he couldn’t give me any examples. After talking it through, he agreed that he was having a meltdown from other life troubles and he wanted to give us another try.

Two days later, I asked him if being together is really what he wanted and he completely backflipped on having ever wanted to break up. He was extremely happy to stay together. When I asked him why, he paused and said ‘please don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not as attractive as my previous partners. But I am attracted to you! More than enough! And I talked to my Dad about what’s important to me and everything else in our relationship is perfect!’ Given we met through an app, I didn’t alter my photos, plus we’d been together for 8 months, I thought that wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m second guessing our relationship. What would you girls do in this situation? Extra info in case it helps with context, I’m 32, he’s 30, and we both came out of long term relationships, 1 year prior to getting together.

DO I GO FOR IT WITH MY SISTERS GROOMSMAN
Help- am I overthinking this? Last weekend was my sister’s wedding, a beautiful day celebrating love! One of the groomsmen, someone who went to uni with my now brother-in-law, was also single, and I sensed a kinda flirty vibe over the night. He has messaged me since and now I’m wondering if it is a bad idea to engage. He seems like a nice guy and our chats were lovely and lord knows the dating apps are not offering up anything better but if we date and it doesn’t really go anywhere, or worse it goes badly, then every time my family are reflecting on my sister’s wedding photos then BAM there will be this guy, and me, in the bridal party. Or worse, I make things awkward between my sister who has to be on my side and her husband who has been good friends with this guy for years.I’m leaning toward don’t engage because it’s not worth the potential drama but help me weigh up the pros and cons here.

FRIEND SWEARS AROUND OUR KIDS AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPROACH
Hey girlies, I have a close group of girlfriends and we all had kids around the same time and catch up pretty often. The kids range in age from 18 months - 3.… I’m starting to notice varying parenting styles and one friend in particular often yells / swears at her toddler… but swears A LOT around the kids in a more general sense. It’s VERY different to how I parent. I don't yell or swear at my kid ever and try not to swear in front of my kids…. and it is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable. How would you navigate this? I haaaaaate confrontation but I feel like it might have a negative effect on my kid and that’s my biggest concern. Thanks guys, hope you can help me with this one 

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