Ask Uncut With Britt & Ben! Embryo Custody, Two Potential Soulmates and Finding Out They Cheated In The Past

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Today's ask uncut features special guest and Britt's husband Ben!
They share what they've been up to over Christmas and New Years and how they feel now living in Italy. Ben tests Britt's Italian and this is our apology to any Italian listeners 😂

They speak about:

• Moving from Romania to Italy
• Being reunited after 3.5 months apart
• The bedroom problem they've been having
• How they've changed since being together
• Their relationship non negotiables
• How Ben feels being in Britt's content
• Conflict resolution
• Tongue wrestling

And they jump into your questions!

EMBRYO CUSTODY
My ex and I did over 5 years of IVF together and I want him to sign the embryo over to me to use solo and he is refusing. He claims to me that it's easy for him to find someone younger (I'm 6 years older than him) and he will be able to start the family that he wants. When we were together he didn't really want kids. I'm 42 and tried doing a few rounds last year with a sperm donor but they didn't work. That embryo is likely my only opportunity to have a biological baby. The next step for me would be egg and sperm donor. He has said that the only way that he will give me the embryo is if we co-parent the baby. However, he wants to stay on the dating apps and living his best life while I do all the IVF preparation and pregnancy alone. What do you think I should do?

PARTNER DUMPED ME ON BOXING DAY 
My partner dumped me on Boxing Day on our way to my family Christmas celebrations. As you can imagine I feel pretty deflated by this and I'm in shock. My question is, do you think that this was pre planned and that he was thinking about breaking up for a while? He claims that he wasn't but it was completely out of the blue. We weren't even arguing! He just blurted out "we should end this. Let's break up." I know he was frustrated from other things going on in his life so it may have been out of anger but at the end of the day the relationship is now over. I'm also after advice on how to one day get back out there because I am completely put off men and dating. 

IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE TWO SOULMATES?
I have been with my partner for 4 years. We own a house together, a dog and a cat and I feel like a proposal is on the horizon. He is my soulmate. We have shared values and interests and he is my best friend. He is the person I see myself growing old with and raising kids with. My family and friends love him. However, I've been hiding a secret. There is a guy at work, lets call him George. He is exactly my type and he has the kindest heart. Almost a year ago to the day I had a dream about him and ever since I'e seen him in a different light. Some days I am so sure he is the person I'm meant to be with, however, when I get a bit of space or time off work my feelings die down slightly. We occasionally message non work related stuff and I wonder if he picks up on the vibe too. My heart feels like I'm torn between two people. 

I JUST FOUND OUT THAT HE CHEATED 4 YEARS AGO
I've been together with my partner for 11 years, married for 7. We have 2 daughters under 5 years old. He recently had to tell me that he cheated on me 4 years ago. I am devastated and heart broken. He has been my only serious relationship and we are close and enjoy each other's company. He has had untreated depression for many years and did not seek help. Since telling me this news, he is now in a mental health ward getting treatment. He is now giving me compliments and telling me he is going to fix everything now that he is getting the help. I feel like everything is too late but he feels like we can fix it. Can I please have your advice? I feel shattered. When he cheated he slept with her twice and exchanged nude photos. They were talking for about 6 months. I look at other married couples and how happy they are and I'm just broken. I feel like everything is ruined.

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