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Kim, Jason, and Amy dive into the complexities of apologies, focusing on the difference between genuine regret and false apologies. Through role-play and insightful analysis, they explore common pitfalls such as deflecting blame, making excuses, and failing to acknowledge the impact of one’s actions. They emphasize the importance of sincere apologies and provide actionable tips for making amends and fostering better communication in the workplace. Tune in to learn how to transform “I’m sorry” from hollow words into meaningful actions. Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast. Episode Links: Transcript Fake Apologies Are on the Rise | The Atlantic How to Apologize Like You Mean It | The New York Times The Power of Apologies | Harvard University The Art of a Heartfelt Apology | Harvard University 5 Ways to Recognize and Respond to an Insincere Apology | PsychCentral The Narcissist's Prayer | The Life Doctor On Repentance and Repair | Danya Ruttenberg How To Encourage Feedback Between Others In The Workplace | Radical Candor Fried Green Tomatoes Movie Clip: Parking Lot Rage | YouTube Connect: Website Instagram TikTok LinkedIn YouTube Chapters: (00:00:00) IntroductionKim, Jason, and Amy introduce the episode on the importance of knowing how to apologize and explore false apologies.(00:01:21) Role Play: "Sorry, Not Sorry" Sam vs. Patient PamA role play exercise to highlight common false apologies.(00:04:28) Breakdown of False ApologiesThe hosts analyze the role play, explaining why statements like "I'm an asshole" and "I was just kidding" are problematic.(00:11:13) The Power of Humor and ApologyThe role of humor in apologies, the impact of power dynamics, and why humor should never "kick down."(00:13:13) The Narcissist's PrayerIntroduction to the Narcissist's Prayer, a pattern of defensive behavior.(00:14:52) Structuring a Genuine ApologyAnalysis of what constitutes a meaningful and effective apology, and insights on making amends and acknowledging mistakes.(00:19:39) The Five A's of ApologizingThe five A's of a sincere apology based on Maimonides' principles.(00:28:38) Apology as an Ongoing ProcessThe need for ongoing change after an apology and the challenges of altering long-standing habits.(00:30:16) A Powerful Example of ApologyA poignant example of a sincere apology from a troll to Lindy West, highlighting the components of a good apology.(00:33:06) Radical Candor TipsTips for a thoughtful apology process, emphasizing the importance of sincerity and accountability.(00:34:54) Conclusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices