Colluding

"That which we resist, persists," in this therapy session featuring Figs and Teale trying to hide from a negative cycle.

Timestamps:

00:59 Introduction to the session: Figs & Teale colluding not to process

02:52 A Sensory Cycle

06:57 Subverting expectations: Why wasn't Teale excited to be in therapy?

09:39 What you resist persists

11:24 Sometimes compliments can land like a threat

15:31 Session begins — Do we need airpods

16:58 Therapist prompts them to be aware of their bodies

17:27 Reflecting on previous session (ft. shark story diversion)

20:55 Teale asks Figs to speak more quietly

21:53 Teale and processing a lot

22:28 Letting things go — Figs feels Teale is asking him to change a lot today

24:02 Teale perceives anger from Figs

25:54 Figs settling into the idea that he's someone to be scared of

26:17 Teale feeling like she's too much

28:12 Conflict over sleeping arrangements & sensory differences

29:42 Figs & keeping the radio on all day

31:52 Teale's overwhelm & senses

32:35 What do we do?

34:10 Waiting for "the main course"

34:40 Last session from Teale's perspective

35:51 Therapist wants Teale to access her deeper feelings

36:28 Figs doesn't cry often & when he does Teale gets excited

36:58 Figs feels like he's waiting for some future event

37:59 Teale feels like she's in an excited, positive place: Appreciates Figs

40:00 Figs points out that Teale made the positive moment about Figs

40:55 Appreciate from Teale canmake Figs feel threatened

41:46 Partially coming from a place of Teale wanting appreciation

42:34 Therapist brings up Teale bouncing things back to Teale

43:29 The layers of Teale validating others

46:05 Positive sides of this validation

47:13 Figs feels more seen in his life now

49:31 Therapist wants to devote more attention to Teale's deeper places moving forward

51:27 Session ends — Three main takeaways

52:00 1. Be aware when you're in a negative cycle

53:00 2. What you resist persists

54:55 3. Appreciation can touch negative feelings, too

57:43 Thank you!

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