Don't Treat It Like It's An Emergency

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Welcome to Alive and Free Origins,

the podcast where we continue to discuss

common misconceptions, practices,

and sometimes even outright lives that make things

like anxiety, depression, trauma, and addictions

of all kinds extremely hard if not impossible to get rid of.

We'll keep sharing what has worked in thousands of cases

to change that and make freedom a reality.

Only now will be going even deeper.

Also bringing back to the table the one thing

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God.

So stick around for some bite-sized ideas

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All right, let's piggyback on what we just said last time.

About the danger of aha and breakthrough moments

and we're going to talk about what those tend,

what those sort to leave through

if that's what you believe needs to happen.

But I do need to put a disclaimer in here.

The disclaimer is this.

If the only thing that needs to change in you

is an idea, then an aha moment or a moment of recognition

that that idea is false and that the world

is actually something different,

which is still inputting something new.

It is putting a different world view in.

But if that's all that need to change,

then an aha moment or a breakthrough moment

is all that's needed.

And that's why you can have these massive shifts

in behavior because the only thing that was holding

the behavior in place was an idea.

But very often,

in a large majority of the cases,

especially when we're dealing with mental health,

things like depression, anxiety,

past traumas,

the addictive behaviors,

anything of that nature, angry outbursts.

I mean, you talk about,

it doesn't really matter what it is.

Those have involved so many habitual behaviors

that when you go in and you change the ideas behind them,

you can feel great,

but then there can be this dissonance.

You're like, I understand that this thing in a whole new way,

but I don't understand why I still have these behaviors.

I talked to somebody recently who was dealing with that very thing.

They had come and learned and broken through

a lot of these originating ideas

that had been holding them stuck

and their behaviors changed a little,

or a lot, I guess, according to him.

They changed a lot, but they didn't go completely away.

And so he would give these moments of total freedom

and then just be like, I still don't understand why,

on occasion, I'm still locked in these places.

And that's because there are other ideas in place

and that there are other habits of behavior,

habits of the way that they move in the day.

I mean, you have so many habits.

I have so many habits.

We all do.

And those need retraining.

If they don't get retrained,

then what happens is that we start to believe

that these breakthroughs, these aha moments,

are really the stuff that's the pill,

that if I can just have the right,

get my body to the right vibration and right frequency,

and if I can just have this breakthrough,

and if I can just raise my energy,

and if I can just have an aha moment,

if I can just have a deep insight,

if I can just have this one experience

that everything will be okay,

and can you feel the franticness in that diagnosis?

The first thing you have to learn about getting rid

of anything that is a problem in your life

is that you have to not be frantic about getting rid of it.

Because if you are frantic about getting rid of it,

your whole body is being trained to treat it like something

that is more powerful than you.

And that is not an idea.

Not a worldview you want to have,

because then if it ever shows up,

it'll overpower you again.

That's the way you're training yourself.

The first order of business is a stop believing

that something like this is an emergency,

even though it is in some cases.

But you've got to get rid of treating it like an emergency.

See, you've got to step back and be calm and methodical,

and you have to be able to train it in a different way,

because if you don't,

what entertains you train you?

And if the thoughts around this,

oh, this is, oh, man, I've got to get this done on.

If it just hits this out of the way,

this will fix everything.

That is a death sentence.

It is not helpful,

and it will just create more chaos in your life.

And you'll never be able to rest.

But we've learned to treat things like an emergency.

We've learned to respond out of fear

and to make changes when things get bad.

We respond to pain and fear and punishment

and problems and things of that nature.

And I'm as big a culprit as anybody else on this.

That training has to stop.

So the first step is you've got to step back.

I recently began learning how to trade in stock options.

So everybody has a stock market.

Everybody who has a retirement account

is already playing the stock market.

And the stock market tanks,

and then it rises,

and then it tanks, and it rises,

and the idea of a retirement account is wonderful

until you start to look at the details

about what people have in their retirement accounts,

and how the people's retirements

aren't actually covering their expenses these days anymore.

Because of the way that the stock market has been going,

and the way that inflation has made things more expensive,

and it's just not covering up.

And so I figured since a retirement account

is already looking at the stock market,

I might as well learn how to understand

how to work with the stock market.

And the first thing that I had to start learning

was that like the sense of urgency,

oh, I got to get this taken care of.

Oh man, now's the opportunity.

Timing the market, getting the right thing,

all that other stuff.

If that doesn't disappear,

you're going to make some big,

honken mistakes.

And believe me, I made them.

I'm speaking from experience.

I made multiples of them,

until I started to learn

that if it feels like an emergency,

I need to back off.

I need to do it differently.

It doesn't mean don't take action.

It means take action that is not from a place of emergency.

And guess what?

This works in martial arts as well.

So from the stocks,

if I start to take actions that are disciplined,

that they follow a system,

that they have rules in place,

that you just don't cross that line,

then slow and steady,

but like bigger growth than happens

in a normal person's account,

where somebody else is managing it,

and only spends 10 seconds a week

or something on it,

or a minute a week on it,

whereas I get to do it

and it makes me a little bit more time,

and I get to monitor it a little bit more.

But then there's more care in it,

and I get the chance to do better at it.

That steady growth starts to happen,

and the same thing happens in martial arts.

When I treat what's coming as an emergency,

then it locks me up.

My body goes into an emergency state,

and that means hyperadrenaline,

raised heart rate,

muscles become taught.

That means I start to get locked in my positions,

and I can't move as well.

My actions become jerkier,

I start to become tunnel visioned,

and the movements become much more predictable,

and emotions start to rise.

All of this stuff happens in an emergency setting.

Emergencies are like,

your body can function there,

but it tears your body apart,

and it is the least effective way of handling things,

but in a last-ditch effort, it can save you.

So it's like the very last emergency hatch.

Unfortunately, in a normal martial arts setting,

we're like that all the time.

We get tense, we get greedy,

we get afraid,

we get all of these different things,

and you gotta get rid of that.

So Vladimir is teacher of Ryabko,

who I only trained with for a couple of days,

who was an incredible human being,

but he used to sit there and talk about,

you know, like you want to move,

like you're buttering toast.

You don't, like the toast pops out of the toaster,

or the thing dings,

and you don't, like,

jerquely grab the toast out of the thing,

and like,

and then you grab your knife,

and you just like slam it onto the butter,

onto the bread,

and all that stuff.

You don't do that.

It's a very smooth, easy action.

It has plenty of power to spread butter.

It has sufficient for the activity,

and it's all that,

and you're not excited about it.

You're not sitting there,

like, freaking out if it doesn't get done.

There's no, like,

raise my heart rate,

or anything like that.

That's how you want to engage

in an altercation,

in a confrontation.

That's how you want to engage

in everything you're doing,

and then Vladimir will talk about it,

like, don't treat it like a confrontation.

Even if a guy's coming out with your life,

with a knife,

think about it,

like, they're just a piece of the landscape.

There's a guy with a knife there.

There's a trashcan over here.

There's that dog pooping on the yard over there.

The sun's coming down.

There's some leaves in this tree.

I happen to be wearing this cool jacket.

Like, it's just another piece of information.

And when you have that,

mind-frame,

the way you move

becomes stealthy to the other person.

And your ability to respond

meets the situation just as it is,

and whether you win or lose,

like, you're far more liable to win

and get out of there,

than you would be

if you were treating it like an emergency.

Same thing goes for all of these mental health issues.

First order of business.

Don't treat it like an emergency.

And that's enough to chew on for now.

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