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by George Campbell, taking your calls on your money, your relationships, your work, everything

and everything you got to go on in your life.

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Let's go right down the street to Nashville, Tennessee and talk to Ethan.

What's up Ethan?

Hi, can you hear me?

I got you man.

What's up?

Well thanks for having me on today and I was calling because my wife and I were in baby

step number two and we've made some pretty good progress, but we've made it to our final.

We call it the big dog, it's our final big payment and it's a student loan of 118,000

and that's one loan.

That's sick.

Yes, it's my wife's occupational therapist and that was her graduate.

That is a big big dog.

Yeah, that's why we named it that, but today my question is, if that is 6.1% interest rate

and it makes me sick to look at the balance and like it goes up like, I mean like just

from last time I checked it was sometime this week to I think last night was like $70.

Do I save any more money by like paying that weekly or monthly or I just didn't know

if I saved more if I paid every single week versus it's like every month, just one big.

I mean the faster you bring the principal down the less interest you're going to pay,

but the simplest way to do it is just apply extra to each monthly payment.

How much are you guys making?

We're facing their taxes and we made around 140 in 2025.

Okay.

What is she making?

Well, she's PRN okay at the hospital and which we just had our first baby back in July

and she's she was born a little early so she's made it a little extra lovely call it.

And so she kind of put her hours back but she made like 29,000 this last year and

but the year before we're you know before we're having the baby she had made like 65.

Okay.

How do we get her making closer to six figures so we can knock this out quick?

Well, our daughter's fixed into why we're waiting for the next doctor's appointment

because we're hoping that like she can come up like breathing treatments and whatnot

so we can hopefully free up mama to be able to work more hours.

How much are you making?

I made 120 this last year.

Awesome.

Okay.

What do you do for her?

I get some animals.

I'm a UPS driver.

Okay.

Is a room for overtime for you?

Oh, yeah.

I get plenty of it.

Okay.

I think one or both of you get hustling as soon as this baby is healthy.

Let's get this income up because that's your your greatest shot at getting rid of this

debt faster than the interest is growing because it's just one loan so there's really no

debt snowball here.

It's basically you're trying to knock out a mortgage.

Correct.

Can I say something cruel to you, Ethan?

Please.

I'm going to put a I'm going to put a a a worm in your ear and you're going to have to

promise me that once you've paid this off, you're going to take that worm out.

Are you ready?

Yes, sir.

So one time I was me and somebody's were going to a concert and one of my buddies was an

attorney and we were all meeting at his house and I got there early, which has never happened

in human history, but I got there early and we just popped on the couch and we ate

some and we watched an episode of Seinfeld and we got up after that 30 minute episode and

he goes, well, that cost me $300 or something like that because his billable hour rate

was $600 an hour, whatever it was back then.

And I remember looking at him thinking, that's a terrible way to live.

Right.

And here I am now.

I'm 100% commissioned.

I had that same thought sometimes like, well, I just watched a whole football game and

I could have been right.

I want you, every time you're not on the clock and you're not, and you're not fully participating

in your house, right?

But I want you to think, man, that hour just caught, I just donated this much more money

in interest to that bank and use that as a fuel to say, I'm going to pick up two more

extra hours and over time today, I'm going to do an extra hour tomorrow.

I'll come in for a half day on Saturday because sitting on the couch, I refused to sit

on the couch and pay them $50 in interest for the privilege of watching whatever dumb

show I just watched.

You can't do this forever.

It will melt you and your family.

But for a season to get this stupid student loan out of your life, man, let that thing just

wormhole its way into your brain.

Yes, sir.

I'm not going to pay these banks.

I'm not going to exchange, you know, kick my feet up to pay these banks some more money.

I want them out of my life.

You guys have any other debt?

No, we're currently renting, which I rent, so I like $650 a month.

Oh, that's great.

Well, we make some, all the vehicles are paid for, the only thing we have is that big

dog.

Okay, because here's what I'm thinking.

You guys, if you make, let's say 150 this year, if you really get after it, which is

very doable, you probably clear what, $9,500 a month and take home pay?

Yes, sir.

So we're there about to go.

So think about that.

If you can live off a small portion of that three or four grand, we can throw five, six

grand at this debt.

You're done in less than two years.

You're talking 18 to 24 months max.

Yeah.

Then that's what we actually even were trying to, we were just talking to the night.

And I guess we kind of put it for the driver to say it was going to come back and talk

about what we was actually trying to see what we could do in like the next 13 months.

I love it.

You said a goal that scares you a little bit and excites you a whole year.

Yeah.

It scares her.

So I'm the one that's like, there's times where I might be like kind of dragging her

along and all this.

Well, hold on.

She's been pregnant for a year and had a child like, don't drag her to like, give her some

grace.

It's been a tough year.

Yeah.

And I can be a little too intense sometimes, which she tells me it's like, I'm the hair and

she's the tortoise in law.

So, well, you get some homework now.

I'm just figuring out how much can we really throw at the debt right now and how much can

we throw at it when she's back to work full time?

Sure.

And then you can kind of get a timeline and go in and go, all right, 14 months, game on.

We're getting this thing done.

And then stick to it.

Hold each other accountable.

Do the every dollar budget.

And every month, you pay your four walls, your insurance, anything other than that, it's

going towards the debt.

Yes, I agree with you.

That's it.

I think you guys will get there.

I have a lot of faith in you and I wish you knew the best with the health of that little

sweet baby.

I don't hear that very often.

How, and you work through it with a ton of people through budgeting and helping them,

like you do those webinars and stuff, like actually sitting with people and helping

them work their budget.

It seems to me that the, for me at least, the greatest path forward would be to say, I'm

going to put a ridiculous month amount, right, 13 months, 15 months, and I'm going to

reverse engineer that and say, okay, what must be true?

$1.00 amount, what I have to come up with, and that to me feels like taking a, what

feels like a big target on the side of a wall and making it like a laser target.

Like, okay, I've got to get this many dollars this month.

I can figure out how to do that.

Oh, yeah.

And when you, when you look at like a big mountain, like he's got 118 grand, it's hard

to just look at it.

Yeah, we can ask that out.

You said six grand and it's like, oh, cool, 112, right?

It's just so, feels so insurmountable.

Yeah.

You're going to get down into small chunks that you can see on paper as if we live off

of 3,000, we will have 6,000 left over.

Yeah.

That's the fact.

So I love focusing on the facts because debt is emotional.

It's scary.

You're going, we'll never pay this off and they go, wait, you guys make amazing money.

What if you just took control of that, did a budget god in a plan, held each other accountable

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I know this is cheesy, but we had our Excel spreadsheets and we had all of our stuff.

We did this before the every dollar app, but we went old school and made a construction

paper chain.

And I hung it in the bedroom.

Arts and crafts, baby.

I want to see this thing.

I'm going to tear off a chain every week and just watching that thing get shorter.

You get below six figures, below 75 grand, 50 grand, 25, it's like an auctioneer and

reverse.

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All right, it's got you Columbia, South Carolina, and talk to Dustin.

What's up, Dustin?

Hi.

Thank you for taking my call.

Is your car okay, Dustin?

Yeah, you good?

I was rolling up to Linda.

Oh, sweet.

There you go.

Sweet.

My question is, do you risk setting yourself back on the baby steps and your goals to help family

and meet?

Here's the situation.

My dad lost his business last year and ever since then it's been a process of losing just

about everything.

He is going to lose their car, the family car, and he came to me and asked if he could borrow

one of my wife and I had cars we had to.

We have a truck that I use for work and an SUV.

It says SUV that my wife uses.

Here's the thing that would complicate it.

We have a baby.

We have another baby coming in September and that would, you know, create its own problems

with the grown family plus my dad would likely need the car for the rest of the year I'd

say.

Probably until at least around the time the baby comes and my wife and I would look at

saving for a new car.

Let me take this off the table for you.

You all are not in a position to do this.

Like at my house I have an old farm truck.

I could give that truck, I could loan somebody because I've got my car that I get to work

with.

My wife has the car that she gets to work with and we both shuttle kids around and I

have an old farm truck that I loan out regularly.

You don't have that.

So you're not in a position too.

This isn't about setting yourself back.

This is about your dad put a pretty heavy burden on you and I don't know him.

This could have been a manipulative move.

You've dealt with your whole life or it could be a guy who's just at desperation level

right now.

But the reality is you don't have it to give.

You don't have to give and that's heartbreaking.

Now you can help him work through this in other ways because he's probably in a cloudy

spot right now but it doesn't mean that we're going to be in the car giveaway business.

So what happened to his vehicle?

Did it get repot?

Did he have to sell it?

It's going to be.

He doesn't have the money to dig out of the holes in two pains behind and he's upside down

on it.

When you say he lost the business, what does that mean?

The business, he had a lot of debt on the business equipment.

There's a lot of landscaping business.

He had a large client that dropped him and then he had another customer refused to pay

him about $15,000 a service the last year.

Okay.

But he has the equipment.

He can sell off all the equipment and hopefully walk away with something.

It's gone.

What do you mean?

He's gone.

Some of it was repossessed.

Some of it he sold and paid off some of the loans.

But he doesn't have any equipment left.

Okay.

And what's he going to do for work for income right now?

Right now he's working at a hardware store and making about $2,000 an hour.

But he has another job lined up now that'll pay him about twice that.

Great.

So he's not just sitting on the couch feeling sorry for himself.

He's out there hustling.

Yes.

Good deal.

That's noble.

That's good.

Good deal.

And what's his transportation right now?

Is it still the car that's about to be repowed?

And can we sell it before it gets repowed or catch up on payments and sell it?

I think it's about past that point.

Because if you know what you could do if you wanted to is just catch him up on his payments

so that he can go sell this thing.

Which is better than repo which they're going to come after him for the deficit.

They're going to go sell it at auction for way less than its worth and then still come

after him.

And so you'd be in a better spot if you can help him catch up on payments to then sell

it outright and make more for it.

Is this something that you would use your emergency fund for?

Because that's the thing.

If I had a baby on the way, no, because right now you got to protect your own family.

They come first.

Yeah.

And so if I'm in your shoes, we're kind of in store, can storm mode right now and dad's

in his own storm mode and we all got to figure it out.

I would honor my dad by having a, if this is possible geographically, having a face-to-face

conversation to saying, Dad, I 100% get that you're in trouble and I really honor the

way.

You're setting a good example for me as a young dad for when life throws you a whole bunch

of curveballs in a row, you put on your belt and you went to a hardware store, right?

That's honorable.

And I got a new baby on the way.

I've got a youngster.

I'm not in a position both financially or with vehicles to help you out, man.

It breaks my heart, but I'm just not in a position to do that.

That face-to-face man-to-man conversation, assuming, A, he's not going to throw a temper tantrum

and he'll actually hear you, right?

I have a rule that I only have conversations if somebody can hear me, right?

And if they're angry or frustrated or think, I owe them or whatever would be in the case

here, you can decide whether you'd have that, but that would be a neat way to honor him

to say, Hey, I want you to know I see and I'm proud of you and I simply don't have

it to help with right now.

Do you know the deficit on his payments, the exact number?

$2700.

Goodness gracious.

So this is more than two payments, unless this is a giant payment.

It is two payments that is a over $1300 payment.

Goodness gracious.

So I just, I don't have it.

Yeah.

Hey, let me, let me tell you this.

There's a psychologist out of New York, her name is Becky Kennedy and she's a friend

of mine and she gave me this new definition of guilt I want to pass to you.

She said often what we sit called guilt is not that at all.

Guilt is a feeling that's in that side of our chest that's right and good when we violate

our own values, right?

You haven't violated your own values here.

The guilt that you think you're feeling, you're trying to take his sadness and his franticness

and his fear and you're trying to manage that for him and you can't do that, right?

And so it's you saying I'm not violating any of my core values.

I'm doing what's right for me and for my wife and for my young child and the child that's

about to be here and I'll sit with you while you have these feelings, these big feelings

of fear and terror and embarrassment and shame, all that stuff that he's feeling, but

I can't hold that for you.

I'll sit there with you, but I can't carry it for you.

And I know all of this.

You're talking to two guys who love their own dads.

I know this is, this is heavy for you.

Yeah.

But you know what else it is?

It's a line of the sand.

We go, I want to be in the position to where if this ever happened again, I could help.

And I wouldn't flinch.

It would be such a small part of our world that I get to help the family that I love and

it wouldn't set us back.

And so it's, I mean, this is one of those things where you start to run away from the decisions

that your parents have made.

Not the character.

He sounds like he's a great guy, but as far as the decisions and the financial place he

put himself in, highly leveraged and running a business that he still is going to owe a

bunch of debt on, you know, I'm never going to put myself in that position.

I'm going to pay cash for things.

I'm not going to owe other people money.

And this is the other side, when we talk about financial freedom, I, I don't do a great

job of talking beyond my own house, right?

Like I want my house to have peace, but part of my house having peace is knowing I can help

folks out when I think it's the right thing to do, right?

And so this is yet another encouragement for you and your wife to stay the course.

You have paid off everything you own.

You've got yourself an emergency fund saved up.

You got a new baby on the way.

We're going to continue to walk these baby steps all the way out.

And I want to be in a position one day that come what may I can help out, right?

Hey, let me just, like you're a good son, man.

Really?

He's lucky to have you regardless if you can fund his misbehavior.

He's so lucky to have a guy who cares this much about his old man willing to walk through

this with him.

You're a good son and by drawing this line here and having the courage to have a face

to face with him, you're also showing courage and like honored for your family too.

Your, your wife and your two young kids.

Yeah.

Thank you for that.

Like it's, it's an honor to talk to you.

Okay.

Thanks.

And I love your book.

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Thank you.

Yeah.

I think the, the hard part about building an on anxious life is these moments.

It's not, it's, it's simple, but it's real, real hard in, in real life, right?

Okay.

All right, brother.

Keep going doing the next right thing, man.

George, this one's hard.

This is one of those like, uh, and again, we should probably talk about this more.

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Yeah.

This is the, I've taken care of my family and my bills.

I drive this vehicle or we live in this size house or we don't go out to eat this often

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Let's go talk to Monica and Indian in Indianapolis.

What's up, Monica?

Hi, how are you guys?

I'm good.

What's up with you?

I'm good.

Thank you so much for taking my call.

I love you.

And my sister love you.

George.

Oh, that's sweet.

Why doesn't your sister love me?

All right.

I get it.

Teach has been happening since high school.

All right.

So what's up?

So yeah, I've been having a conflict with my husband.

I work full time.

He works full time.

And then he also has a second job, a second part time, a second job, that's part time,

excuse me.

And we've been thus far using his income from his part time job as extra principal

teamage towards the mortgage.

But he now starting in March wants to use that income towards investing in crypto.

And I'm not on.

That's an oxymoron.

Awesome.

And we just have a lot of conflict on it.

So I wanted to get your guys' thoughts.

I'm a bit afraid of being controlling because I grew up in a home where my mother was

very controlling and wore the pants in the house.

And I don't want to be like that.

You're not being controlling.

If my wife said, hey, I know we got debt to pay down.

I'm going to go gamble in Vegas instead.

Are you okay with that?

I think it's wise as a spouse to say, that's not a good idea.

Those are opposing goals.

What about the last two months with crypto has made your husband be like, you know what?

I think I need to get in on this.

I know he has a friend who's in on it and he claims and this friend claims that he's very successful in it.

Recently successful because it went down 50%.

50%.

It's lost 50% of its value in the last two months.

Which makes me think, well, maybe he's trying to buy the dip.

Everyone's going, now's the time, man.

It's going to climb back up to 100,000.

And maybe it does.

I'm not here to play back the tape of your from now and be wrong.

That's fine.

I just think there's a guaranteed outcome of paying down your mortgage.

There's a guaranteed interest rate, which is your mortgage interest rate,

that you're making by paying down this mortgage.

So really what this is, there's a difference in risk tolerance and you guys have different definitions of winning.

So you're just not on the same page.

You value different things right now in your marriage.

Okay.

So it's really a conversation about unity.

And he thinks, well, this is our path to financial freedom.

And you're going, nope, my financial freedom looks like less risk, not more.

And keeping this conversation the fight about crypto,

you're never going to get below the surface of the water.

You're all going to make a lot of splashes and you're going to take in a lot of water up your nose.

But you're never going to get to the actual issue, which is under the water,

which is, hey, we made an agreement that we wanted to never owe anybody any money again.

And you're violating that agreement.

Okay.

That's the real issue.

This is a trust issue, right?

Yes, definitely.

And often, I wonder if your mom ended up wearing the pants,

because that's who she was, or if she ended up, because over time, she felt like she had to.

Yeah.

I still don't want to be like that because I unfortunately, like, wasn't her way more than my dad.

It's dad when it comes to what they did with me.

I mean, I initially as a child.

Not that.

And that's why it's imperative for you to not fight this on the surface.

Don't engage in a proxy war.

This is not about crypto.

This is about him feeling like you can't tell me what to do.

This is about him feeling bored.

This is him feeling prideful.

FOMO, right?

Fear of missing.

Right.

Fear of missing out.

And this is about you saying, hey, we made a deal.

And you're violating our core.

Like, have the true conversations underneath the thing.

Okay.

But just for whatever it's worth, George and I are 100% on your side on this one.

Oh, thank you.

I've never won against the crypto bro yet.

So just know, I don't think this is going to be easy to win him over because he is so

convinced that you guys are missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime.

Right.

And George gave you the best.

Like, I just view this as sitting at a blackjack table in Vegas in the house as one four times

in a row.

And the guy next to you is like, dude, they can't win five.

This is it.

Let's go all it.

All right.

Put all your chips on.

And they might.

Right.

It's maybe you win this time.

But maybe you don't.

I just talked to a caller.

The wife found out about some financial infidelity.

He took out a HELOC.

$250,000.

Put it into crypto.

Lost it all.

Wow.

He claims he hit the sell short button instead of sell, which we all know is a lie.

And so this is what it leads to.

I'm not saying this will be your husband, but there's a level of like fear, greed, pride,

that lead to a risk meter being broken, which leads to desperate, really bad financial problems.

Yeah.

And so paying off your house, nobody calls in saying, oh my gosh, worst decision of our life.

We are deeply in debt.

They're not.

You're debt free.

So it's an opposing goal that you guys have.

And I would get to the bottom and say, hey, what are you really hoping crypto will do for us?

Is it quick wealth?

Is it freedom?

Is it the securities at FOMO?

And then share your why.

Hey, paying off house for me makes me feel safe, makes me feel stable.

And the security matters more to me than the potential of making money.

And if you want to be a gangster, you can say, hey, we pay this house off and we get this

much cash in the bank.

Not going to.

To buy.

To buy crypto.

I like that compromise.

There's 25 grand to go by as much crypto as you think you can get.

Once we're baby step seven and we're already investing 15% of our income into retirement.

Now we can go play.

Now you can use your fund money to go do this.

Yeah.

Okay.

How much is left on the mortgage?

Um, 244,000.

Okay.

And how much are you guys paying extra right now?

What's your total payment?

Our mortgage payment.

Well, our mortgage payment is 2400 and we've been paying double.

Nice 4800.

Yes.

That's awesome.

And so based on that timeline, when will you guys pay this off?

Um, if we keep paying double, it would be paid off four years within the next six years.

Okay.

My guess is he goes, man, six years the long time to be paying double.

It would be easier if I could 10X my money and put it into crypto and then we could pay off the mortgage.

Is that his thinking?

I think so.

Yes.

He wants to shortcut this and speed up the process.

Okay.

I always go back to this proverb because it's so grounding for me.

It's Proverbs 1311.

Health gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it.

And you know what, you know what, a marriage quick is, it's wealth gained hastily.

And when you do it little by little, you tend to lower your risk, increase your peace, and you stick with it.

You're not going to make any rash decisions when you work really hard to get this money or pay down the debt.

You're not going back in because you sacrifice for it.

I can't imagine how many people who have leveraged their souls and watched it all get cut in half the last couple of months.

I don't have a penny in crypto, but even it makes my stomach hurt just thinking.

It's 24.7.

At least the stock market closes.

You could be up at 3 a.m. watching it go up and down.

And so for me, it's just not worth it.

I got other things to be anxious about.

Don't need one more dad to the list.

I'm good.

I got a dog on two legs right now.

So let's worry about the real thing.

You got a dog on wheels.

That's true.

He does have a wheelchair now.

Thanks, John, for bringing it up.

Appreciate that.

Not a lot of people could say, hey, you know what?

I got a dog on wheels.

At least it's not a Tesla.

You have one of those, too?

I do.

Over two.

Even better.

What else you got?

I don't have any crypto.

So that's the good news.

But here's the people think we are anti-crypto.

Well, we are anti-get rich quick, anti-greed, anti-pride, anti-destroying your marriage.

Anti-doing things out of order.

Yeah.

There's a time and a place to have much crypto as you want.

After you've taken the existential risk of your home getting taken away,

of your cars getting taken away, of your ability to take care of your family,

getting taken away.

Replace this with sports betting, whatever you want.

It's just there's a risk here.

It's speculation.

It's unwise and it's not investing.

And there's way better ways to access peace.

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Let's go to Manchester, New Hampshire and talk to Terry. What's up, Terry?

Hi, thanks for taking my call.

Of course, thanks for calling. What's up?

So I'm just looking for a little bit of advice.

I'm 60 years old. I just ended a career in which I'm receiving a pension.

And I started a second career, which I'm hoping to work for about the next 10 years.

And I'm just wanting to make sure I'm on the right track as far as what I should be investing over the next 10 years.

Very cool. What's your new side hustle? I mean, it's not even a side hustle. What's your new career?

Yeah, I'm consulting. So I started in LLC.

I'm debt-free except for my house. I only owe about 60 on my house.

But all I have right now is that pension. It's about 47,000 years.

And I know that's not going to be enough. And I'll tell you, I don't have anything else because of a couple of things.

First, I just found you guys a few years ago.

But I also have a special needs adult fund.

So throughout, he's an authority. So throughout the years, when things come up,

and every time I think I have a little bit of money to set a size, something comes up great.

So then I have to spend or I do spend.

So here I am, and I'm getting a little worried because if you continue to have needs.

But I just want to make sure I'm on the right track. So I have a 47,000 pension.

My gross income is about 130 to 150 a year.

I have expenses from my business. So about 30K, I'd say.

And I'm just trying to figure out how much do I put aside.

How much do I try to invest between now and then?

I feel it comfortable. I feel like it should be like my goal should be about 300,000.

In an investment account? Yeah.

Okay, at 70. So that's your goal.

And you still have the mortgage.

And the goal for, I would say, let's go into retirement completely debt-free, house and everything.

And so I would be investing 15% of your awesome income while paying down extra on the house.

And in no time, you're going to pay off that house with this income.

That's why in the next few years, it's gone.

Which means the following seven years, we can now max out retirement options like for you, a self-employed person, a solo 401k.

So I tried to ask my tax person and my investment guy about that.

And they both were just like, you don't need that.

But they're complicated. What did they say you need?

They have me right now in a, I wrote, I wrote some 403 B money into a SEP IRA.

That works too.

I like the solo 401k because the contribution limits are massive, especially for someone your age, because you have catch-up contributions.

So you're talking, I think it's 80 grand this year for someone in your shoes?

Okay.

Which is insane. You can really catch up on retirement with those kind of numbers.

And so I would look into that as an option on top of your IRA.

Terry, I'm going to ask George a question on your behalf.

Okay. He's smarter than I am at this stuff.

So Terry, how old are you again?

60.

All right, George.

My gut tells me that if I was in her situation and I suddenly stumbled on, not stumbled on, I created $130,000 to $150,000 in extra value.

So in New Hampshire, I'm going to guess, you'll take home 80 of that after taxes and then you're going to have 30 of that off the top.

So you're going to have $50,000.

I would feel an intense internal pressure to not put a penny in retirement until I could just, so everything can get that house taken off.

Like that, like clear my house at 60 grand, work maniacally to get that risk taken off.

So I've got that taking care of.

And then I would spend the next however many years just socking every penny away and trying to live off that 47.

Could I find a world where I just condense my expenses, my travel, all that kind of stuff, lived off that pension and I just started saving everything?

Is that bad?

I wouldn't say it's bad. I think either way, if you did it on paper, you'll kind of get to that finish line either way.

But if you're tracking through the baby steps, it's 15% until the house is paid off and then we're maxing out retirement.

And so I like the idea of you flexing this safe, this investment muscle because you really haven't.

It's been the pension the whole time. And so you'll get used to not seeing that money in your bank account.

And I can crunch the numbers for you here. Let's say you pay off the house in three years. Could you pay it off by 63, but 20 grand a year towards it?

Yeah, I can.

And then after that, the mortgage is freed up on top of the money you can throw. How much could you throw a month after that if you keep making what you're making?

Three grand a month?

Three grand a month.

Okay, so three grand a month from 63 to 70, you'll have $362,000 at our 10% rate of return.

And then I just let that sit really.

Yeah, if you let us sit, I mean, what we've seen in the stock market rule of 72, it'll double.

If you get a 10% rate of return, that money would double every 7.2 years.

So if you didn't need it, you could live off of your pension for a few years. It's just going to continue to grow.

And if that's in a Roth 401k, it's going to be completely tax-free because you used after tax dollars to fund it.

Okay.

The thing about that, it's like net income, 360 grand.

And then if you create a special needs trust.

No, I would tell you if you were way out of line.

But you told me your goal is 300 grand in that investment account plus your pension, you will be okay.

Okay.

And if you do four grand a month, you'll have 483 grand.

And so you can play around with the numbers using our investment calculator to kind of figure out what that future is going to look like.

And I would create a special needs trust for my child that if something happened.

I'll need to find out more about that because I feel like I never have enough money to do that.

Okay.

Yeah, I would dig into that.

But if you end up with 400k in retirement funds, retirement accounts, plus your pension.

And I don't know how pensions work with trust and with special needs trust.

I don't know whether it would be transferable or not.

There's survivor benefits, something like that.

But I would dig in and get every bit of that information.

And by the way, some of that panic is the wrong word but that growing, knowing it's tiny right now.

But it's getting bigger that sense of angst, right?

Like you're 60 and then you're going to blank and you're going to be 70.

And your special needs child will be 40.

That it feels like guilt almost like I need to take care of him.

What am I doing?

I didn't make enough money and you start like a lot of that type of angst is quenched when you have real information.

So I'm going to hit the nail on the head with that because that's what I'm feeling a little bit frantic about.

Yes.

Exactly.

So finding somebody and saying, I want to learn about this.

And here's the words I use now.

I want you to teach me like I'm a ninth grader.

And I ask folks that about any purchase I'm making, if I'm going on a hunting trip,

if I want to learn about this electric circuit thing, I want to learn how to work on lawnmower.

I ask people, teach this to me like I'm a ninth grade.

And I walk away learning how to actually do this thing.

And at least even if there's no way you're going to leave that conversation feeling great, right?

Like, oh, he's going to be like, you're going to realize, oh, I got a decades worth of work to do.

But you'll have real information and an actual lit path on what direction to take.

I think you're going to feel a whole lot better when this is knocked out.

I would reach out to a couple of state attorneys in your area and just get a feel and go with the one that you like,

that you trust and have them explain it to you and have them walk you through what is this going to cost the setup.

It might be a few thousand bucks.

But you will sleep so much better at night knowing that you've taken care of your family and now we're on track for retirement.

And George, this goes when it comes to finances, when it comes to retirement, when it comes to future,

that angst that we all feel.

And the closer you get to the third and fourth quarter of your life, the bigger that anxiety gets,

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There's one path only and it's through it, right?

And often that path is lit with real information.

And so getting real information on a special needs trust using the ranzi retirement calculator to say,

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Getting facts on paper because your emotions will cloud your judgment and it goes all over the time.

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Let's go out to H-tone and talk to Gary.

What up Gary?

Hey guys, how are you?

We're good.

My brother, what's up with you?

Good.

Not too much.

Really enjoy the show.

My question is I've been happily married for coming up on 26 years.

I hit the wife lottery.

We've been financially very fortunate during our marriage.

At this point, we're in a very good place financially.

But we have never really followed or kind of strictly adhere to any sort of budget.

I cherish that entire time.

I have tried throughout the years at various points to get married.

Get my wife on board with at least sort of looking and following some sort of budget.

But probably mostly my fault, those discussions just end up in arguments.

And I just wonder at this stage, at this point in our lives, I'm considering.

I'm looking at retirement hopefully in the next few years of the ability to retire.

Is it worth it to continue to try and fight that battle?

And if we may do and gotten by with the way we've been doing it,

is it worth it to try and get that time to continue to get her on board?

I have a physical aversion to the words just getting by.

Yeah, maybe I shouldn't say, maybe that's the wrong word as far as it.

We're just in a good place.

Have you all just out-earned your spending for all of your marriage?

Pretty much.

Let me ask you this.

It's been me on a single, maybe just being lucky on how we are.

It should be me on a single salary that whole time.

So just talking to you and me and George and a couple of million people.

Just us three guys.

Why do you want her on a budget?

You know, I so it's of course, you know, as we consider retirement, you know,

the bigger the earnings bigger, it's going to turn off.

And you know, we want to, you know, frankly, we want to be it.

We want to be able to sort of stress free, live the retirement.

We, you know, we both want it.

So if you sit down with her and talk about a budget as a path to,

and I'm going to use language that Texas males don't use, okay?

If you sat down with your wife and said, hey, we're heading into retirement.

Our life is about to change dramatically.

Time wise, financially, all of it.

And I won't feel safe in my own skin unless we have a plan with our money.

Would you join me in that?

Versus her feeling like a budget is you trying to control her.

If you were open and honest about, hey,

I want to solve for peace and the fourth quarter of our life,

the back half the third quarter and the fourth quarter.

And that means, here's what peace looks like for me.

I'd love to hear what peace looks like for you.

And then how can we agree together on, here's how many dollars are going to come in from our investments,

from our retirement counts, et cetera.

And here's what it costs to live our life.

And just live in that reality as a way to have peace and inside your own chest to feel safe.

If she won't join you in that, she looked at you and rolled her eyes and was like,

I'm driving this suburban, I'll care what you say.

Then A, you know what she truly thinks about you.

And B, yeah, there is a futility to that.

Because you've married somebody who doesn't care about you, really.

Doesn't care about her, doesn't care about anything other than what I want right this second.

My hope is that's not the case, my hope is for 20 years when you've brought up budgeting.

It's been about, you're spending too much, why'd you buy this?

We didn't need that.

We don't even have a budget and then she just decides to go to war back with you, right?

She associates the word budget with stressful money fights.

Yet another complaining husband.

I do all of this, so I deserve this and you come home and you got another box from Amazon.

Right, that kind of fight.

And I don't know if that's the case.

Does that sound familiar?

Yeah.

Yeah, I think that's, I think that's fair.

You know, I've listened to you guys and I've tried to, you know, the last time I brought it up,

you know, it was sort of eye, eye statements.

Yeah.

It was on a vacation, you know, it was about a trip and, you know,

it's getting up last minute and, you know, I said, you know, we can't do that.

And I tried to go back and later explain it said, you know, I'm concerned about, you know,

I would do that, but we should sort of went back to, you know, my first reaction,

which was no and said, well, that really caused stress.

Yeah, the way I, you know, so I don't, you know, just equal blame on,

equal blame.

So I don't want to make it sound like it's just her.

No, well, of course not, but own that, own that up front.

I have not done a great job of talking about this for the last 25 years.

Are there, I guess, are there kind of tools or resources that I should read?

I don't, maybe I'm just a bad at it.

I think it's just a different approach.

I don't think you need to read a whole book.

I'm writing the book right now, actually, I just left a meeting right before this show.

I'm writing that book right now.

It's just not how it won't come out till October, I think.

But so it's not in the world that I know you just saved the word budget for the very end

into the, how are we going to do this?

All right, we'll just make a financial plan.

It happens to be called a budget, but start with the vision, the dream, the fear.

We want our life to look like.

Man, we've just floated through and we've done really well.

But I have not done a good job leading us in this area and really crafting a vision for what's going to happen

when I don't want to work or can't work anymore.

So how old are you guys?

So I'm, I'm, I'm 53.

She is a little bit, a little bit older than that.

What's your net worth?

And so probably about five and a half to six million.

Amazing.

So you guys are living pretty good.

We, well, that's, you know, and I guess it's, you know, you could retire today, right?

Probably, I probably could, but, you know, it's sort of, you know, believe it or not.

We look back and it's, you know, it's an obscene amount of spending.

Well, are things feeling tight?

You can still say, hey, we've done really well.

It's crazy that we've worked this hard, have this level net worth and things still feel tight.

I would love to have extra money.

Yeah, right now, I mean, absolutely.

They do not feel tight.

So, so a budget for her isn't a matter of survival.

A budget for y'all isn't a matter of survival.

It's a really a tool to bring you all together and say, what do we want the next 25 years to look like?

And that's a totally different conversation.

That's a different path.

It's a transparency and clarity tool.

Yeah, take, take her on a half day retreat and say, I want to plan our next 25 years.

And I'd love to hear what you want that to look like.

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Let's talk to Daniel in Des Moines.

What's up, Daniel?

Hey, you guys still good to talk to you.

You too, brother. What's up, man?

Just hopefully a quick question here, but I am looking at taking a position in full-time ministry later this year.

And I'm wondering is it number one?

Is it morally okay for me to take a religious or religious exemption from social security and Medicare?

And then number two, if it is, is it wise kind of considering, I guess, the circumstances I'm in.

What are your circumstances?

So nothing huge. I mean, in my wife, we're debt-free, decides the house.

We're already investing 15% into retirement.

But we have a baby on the way and the other thing too is going into a position like this.

I'd actually probably be taking about a 20K pay cut.

So those are kind of it.

And the other thing too, I guess, is I wouldn't be hired on as a W2, it'd be a 1099.

So I'd be paying the full extent of social security and Medicare that I think it's worth 15%.

If I were not to take that exemption.

So it's like you've already made this choice.

There's a lot of reasons. This is a tough move.

Yeah.

There's a lot to think about too of what you're giving up here.

And listen, I love the idea of not having to pay all these extra taxes for a system that isn't giving me great returns.

But you've got to think about things like term life insurance, you get strong term life in place of something

where it happened to you, strong long term disability insurance because you lose that with SSDI, long term care insurance.

I've got, yeah, and I've got the long term, I've got where I guess I should take.

I've got term life insurance.

We're good there at the long term disability.

That is one thing I was thinking about too.

But yeah, yeah.

I'm going to be honest, I have a bias to this question.

And my bias is not representative of reality. It's just my experience.

And that is, I've just sat with too many 60 and 70-year-old pastors who lived on property, lived in a church house.

And got paid pennies.

And they have zero, nothing.

And so the discipline it would take for me personally to never waver in saving for future me and future wife and future family.

I can say I don't think I would have that type of discipline.

And so while these programs are a mess and absolute dumpster fire, they are still something.

Sure.

And my fear is you're not doing this, not because you have another long term plan in place.

You're doing this because you're trying to make this job that you really feel called to take.

Like financially palatable today.

And that's making a decision for you.

I'm definitely trying to bridge the gap between the band getting now anyway and the pay I would be getting.

Yeah.

And again, that's solving a problem for today you.

But it's really leaving future you high and dry.

Yeah, if you're having to justify this by saying, well, if I take the exemption, I'll get, you know, 10% back.

But you're not going to be investing the difference that you're saving if it's already tight.

And if your income stays pretty low for the rest of your life, all to get an exemption.

Well, that was a terrible plan.

Right, right.

So as I was looking into this and looking into all the different things anyway,

tax benefit wise anyway, like housing lounges and all this stuff too.

I think it would be palatable anyway to actually keep investing just about the same amount we are right now.

And if I did take that exemption, it wouldn't be so much as a 20,000 pay cut as probably more of a 10 to 12 pay cut,

which is still in my life works too.

So she's making okay money to win.

And so I'm kind of, yeah, I might just be trying to justify this all, but.

Yeah, that's that's kind of what I mean.

So let me ask you this hard question.

Can you afford to do this?

Yeah, it would be tighter, but I mean, we've looked into it and you know, I felt this call for.

She probably the last five years and.

Even for if I was to completely take a step away from the money side of it to.

For our future family, I think this would probably be still the right.

Right thing to do.

Just because of.

I know there's, you know, there's definitely different stresses and ministries, but the job I'm in now, you know, I haven't been happy with since.

I got into it.

Oh, there's, there's few stresses like full-time ministry stress.

I grew up in the whole ministry.

It's chaotic.

And it's, it's noble and it's worthy and it's awesome, right?

I have a gut reaction growing up in this household gut reaction to groups of church leaders who pay ministers very low.

And expect them and their families to show up in certain ways that are financially impossible, right?

So that's my own baggage.

I won't put that on you.

Is this new job going to give you opportunity?

Will you have time?

I know a lot of ministers do stuff on the side.

My dad had a mowing business on the side for seasons or he did janitorial work to help make the bills during those seasons.

Do you have opportunities where you could do that too?

Yes, yes.

So I'm working as an electrician full-time right now.

So outside of that, there's definitely, you know, side work I could be doing on the side.

You know, if we really needed it too.

And the other thing too that makes me a little bit more comfortable with this is,

I've seen in the same of you, you know, like ministry positions typically do not get paid very well.

This one is definitely on the, I think, the higher end of what would normally get paid for this position.

So it's definitely more palatable on that way too.

But yeah, there is other ways I could be making income outside again.

And again, I want to say this a lot.

We don't do ministry for money.

Right?

Like we don't do it to get rich, right?

Right.

And like that's, that's like get struck by lightning kind of thoughts.

Like I want to do this one and get rid of it.

Yeah.

That's not what I do this.

But also there is a reality.

It's very, very expensive to be alive today.

Right.

Very, very expensive to have a child and the feed and clothes that kid these days, right?

And educate that kid.

It's just, it's insane.

And so there is a reality to it also.

Right.

Yeah.

And that's, that's one of the other things that is kind of just weighing on this decision anyways.

We got a baby on the way coming in September.

Yeah.

It's our first one anyway.

And you know, obviously I want to take care of my family too.

And maybe you take this job and you keep hustling on the side for a season to stack cash.

Right.

And you just, you and your wife shake hands and say we're going to have a really busy six

months until a smoke clears on our new job, our new life, our new like when we have the,

you can do all the math on paper we want.

But there's a lived reality when this is the only amount of money in the checking account.

And this is the bills we have, right?

And you add a new mouth to feed on top of that.

And she, your wife comes home and says, hey, I just can't stomach going to work anymore.

And do we have, do we have, are we setting ourselves up for, we're going, this new value is going to emerge.

And we can't afford to take that value, right?

Because you have to work because I took this job like so it removes your options and flexibility.

Yeah, that's right.

That's right.

So it might be that, hey, I'm going to keep working electrical work on the weekends.

And I'm going to keep working electrical work on the evenings and doing our jobs and whatever.

So that we can be as flexible as possible so we can have peace in our house.

Right.

And by the way, you'll have to pay social security on that sidewalk.

And so you'll never escape the system, unfortunately.

Definitely knew that.

Yeah, again, I always want to tell you like, what would I do in my house?

I would, I pay into social security and Medicaid.

And so George and you?

Yeah.

Your next steps would be just calculate how much you need to invest your lead to replace all the benefits, evaluate your insurance disability life insurance.

Make sure that your organization meets all the IRS rules to do this.

And then only proceed if you know this thing is airtight.

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And then you can move forward.

But I, I would not just go out.

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Our team's going to pull up my screen here.

So if I fat finger something, I'm sorry.

There's no Wizard of Oz today, just me.

All right, let's see what it spits out.

And what's really cool, John, is it analyzes the question and asks me follow-up questions.

So it's a real conversation just like you'd have on the Ramsey show.

And we're going to see what kind of follow-up questions it asks.

I'm guessing it's going to need to know, well, how much do we have saved?

When do we want to retire?

All right, I want to kick some stuff.

I'll kick some numbers to you.

Okay.

So it's going to, yeah, let me scroll to bottom here.

So it's walking me through how to calculate your nest egg.

If you want to have this much, here's how to calculate that.

And at the bottom, it says, what do you think your monthly budget would look like in retirement?

All right, let's pretend we have, I'll put a big number up there.

Let's say we were going to have $7,000 a month in expenses.

Okay.

Monthly budget, $7,000.

And let's say between me and my wife, we have $500,000 in retirement.

Okay.

And let's pretend I could go back in time.

And I'm, I don't know, 35 years old.

Got it.

Must be nice.

And I want to invest $500 a month.

I will invest $500 a month.

Okay, let's see if it can figure out how much we really need to create this nest egg.

Create this nest egg.

Live off of the income once we are work optional or fully retired.

And it's working, it's working.

It's tail off here.

Who we got?

Found five Ramsey resources.

It recapped our situation.

Our monthly retirement goal.

And it says, here we go.

It's calculating based off a seven to eight percent withdrawal here.

It's showing us our target nest egg is about $1.1 to $1.2 million,

not including Social Security or any other income stream.

So it says, are you on track?

Right now, you already have $500,000 saved.

And it's going to continue to grow.

It will reach about $2.7 million in 30 years at age 65.

That's pretty incredible.

So selling us, we are on track.

And if you invest more, you could have more.

And that makes me feel really good.

Thanks, Ask Ramsey.

Yeah, not bad.

That's that easy.

It's pretty great.

Not a lot of people can get through the phone lines.

And Googling things is going to send you into 19,000 rabbit holes

that is not the Ramsey advice that you trust.

So go check out for yourself.

Go to ask your question RamseySolutions.com.

You'll see the search bar there.

It says Ask Ramsey.

Or you can click the link in the description if you're on podcast or YouTube.

All right, let's go out to Santa Fe, New Mexico, one of my favorite places in the United States.

And talk to John.

What's up, John?

Hey, John, did you hear what you were talking about?

We're doing great, brother.

How can we help, man?

So I'm buying my first D-cool.

I'm sorry.

I'm breaking up on you.

Yeah, you're breaking up for me.

Sorry.

Are you inside of a tunnel?

All right, we might have to try again later.

All right.

And we tried our best.

We'll try to get you on a clear line here.

I will go out to Christy in St. Louis instead.

Let's talk.

What number is she for?

What's up, Christy?

Hi, how are you guys?

Remarkable.

How are you?

I'm doing pretty well.

I've had a question.

I am 28 and my fiance is 26.

We are planning to get married in April of 227.

And I'm trying to figure out kind of how we're going to pay for that.

We did get the gift from his parents that they're going to spend about $25,000 to help us with the wedding.

And we're budgeting about $40,000, just with extra cost and all that kind of stuff.

But I have about $69,000 to $70,000 in student debt.

We don't have any other debt.

And I'm wondering if we should use part of that gift money to put down towards my loans,

or if we should put all of it down towards the wedding and then cash for the rest,

or put all of it down towards my loans and cash for the whole wedding, or...

George may disagree with me.

I would not take a gift from my fiance's parents to pay off my student loans.

I would use that money towards the cost of the wedding.

We weren't told them.

We weren't told them that's what we're thinking about.

I would not do that.

If I gave my kids...

Yeah, I wouldn't do that.

If they said, hey, this is y'all free and clear to use however you want.

That's a different story.

If they said, hey, we want y'all to start your marriage off debt free.

We're going to pay your loan.

That's another thing.

But them saying, hey, we want to support...

We know you guys are struggling.

You know, y'all are working really hard.

We have $5,000 to help pay for a nice wedding.

And y'all are like, cool.

We're going to use that to paint the house.

That would not be cool.

That's my take on everything, George.

No, I agree.

If it was going to clear your debt today and it frees you guys up to cash flow this whole thing,

then I'd be like, okay, that makes sense.

You're essentially just trading the money one way or another.

But I would just use this money for the wedding because you need it.

It's not like you just have $100,000 sitting around.

Yeah, the option you're not mentioning is you and your fiance deciding,

we're going to do our wedding for $25,000.

And essentially putting 15 grand towards your student loans.

Yeah, that was another option.

The only problem is we did put a deposit down on a place.

It's an all-inclusive in Florida,

which is where we're wanting to get married because our families live out there.

And it's going to be about $28,000 for the actual wedding.

That's only if it's 100 people.

And we all know that that's probably not going to happen.

It's going to be like $120.

And then they charge per head.

So we're trying to like offer that a little bit.

We're expecting it to not cost the $40,000,

but we really just want to have a safe buffer.

Okay, but hold on.

We're okay.

Hold on.

Yeah.

You are telling this story as though this thing is happening to you.

And I want you and your fiance to get back in the driver's seat of your own lives.

The only things that are going to happen with this wedding

are what y'all sign your name to and what y'all allow.

That's true.

And so if there's only 100 spaces,

there is only 100 spaces.

And we're going to have to be grown-ups until Aunt Edna's cousin's sister's dog's roommate can't come.

Yeah, and I'm very okay with that.

Like I'm very much like a...

I'm as a boundary,

and I don't need these cousins at my wedding,

but he's on the other side.

He's got a really big family.

And I can guarantee you,

his parents' $25,000 investment is going to...

That strings attached.

They're strings attached.

And Edna will be on the invite list.

And so that might mean,

what did you...

What are you in for this wedding venue if you canceled today?

We could check out for $500.

Sorry, $500 down for the deposit.

All right.

I would much rather lose $515,000.

And we could pay a $500 stupid tax and say,

whoa, let's get back in the driver's seat.

Yeah, the only thing is though, like...

I know you don't want to do it.

But here's the thing.

I don't want to just do whatever I want to do,

and then take a gift and say,

I have to do it this way,

because I was so out of control with my wants and my spending

that I'm going to use this to cover up the last time

I was out of control with my wants and my spending.

And I took out a bunch of student loans.

Well, my student loans actually...

I needed that because I got a master's in physician assistant studies.

So I make like a really good salary.

And I needed that for that job.

So...

What do you guys make here once you're married?

So once we're married,

he'll be a captain in the Air Force.

So he's going to be making like 110 growth salary.

I'm making the Louis Salver make right now,

which is like 100.

And then I'll be making like 120 to 150.

Awesome.

You guys can knock out this debt quick once you're married.

So that's good.

And you should be able to cash flow

the rest of the wedding without issue,

if you continue on, right?

Yeah, well, my thing...

Yeah, I was going to...

Right now I'm starting to hopefully bonus up my job

because I have the ability to do that.

So I'm right now putting down about $2500 a month

towards my loans,

and then I'm putting down $4,000 a month

when I start actually when I move in with him in like two months.

Awesome.

So I'm going to be chunking it down,

and I'm not going to be putting anything down

towards the mortgage with him.

You can uncover the mortgage.

So that's going to be a godsend.

But then I was also thinking like to get gazelle in 10th,

one on I just also,

in addition to my 50 hours a week,

go pick up, you know, a door dash job,

and then...

Yeah, good dude.

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All right, let's go back to Santa Fe de Mexico

and try John again.

Hey, John, what's up?

Hey, how's it going?

How much better?

We can hear you well.

What's up, dude?

The reception in this building is not very great.

I'm doing good.

So I am buying my first vehicle this coming up Monday.

I'm buying it from a coworker at work.

She is selling it for $2,000.

The truck is worth about three.

I'm trying to figure out how much insurance coverage I should get on it.

I've been checking different policies.

I've been checking.

I get quotes from two or three different companies trying to figure out

which one is better with claims and rates and all sorts of different things.

I'm just trying to figure out with the truck being worth so low,

how much coverage should I get on it?

Where are you at financially?

So I'm just started working at my first job within the past.

I think about six months or so, six, seven months.

So I have about a little over at least 1500 saved in my emergency fund.

I have just under 4,000 in my car funds.

I have plenty of money for the truck and also for repairs.

And then I have a pretty good being taking account as well.

So I'm financially stable from where I'm at at the moment.

Do you have any debt?

I do not have any debt.

Can I just shout you out for getting a $2,000 truck and not getting your first job

and going out and buying the biggest dumbest truck you can get like I did?

Good for you, bro.

I didn't know those exist.

My parents had taught me well.

What can I ask what truck this is because I want it now?

Yes.

It's a $2,000 Toyota Tundra.

Yes.

Did you get a pre-purchase inspection on it?

They got an inspection a few months ago whenever they were first talking about selling it.

And so I know what needs to be fixed.

And they've been doing some minor things like spark plugs and all changes.

Okay.

All I really need to do are a couple major things.

Okay, cool.

And you have the money set aside for that.

Yes.

Bro, I have a Gen 1 Tundra and I love it.

I love it.

Well done.

So you're talking about how much coverage should you get because it's so cheap?

Yes.

All right.

So the one you definitely need, it's non-negotiable is your liability insurance.

Correct.

You have to go 250, 500, 250.

That's just a split on that.

And that's because if you hit somebody the chances of their car being 50 grand is.

Yes.

That's 250k per person bodily injury, 500k per accident bodily injury and 250k property damage.

So that's the part that it doesn't matter what car you're driving.

You need to protect everything else.

Okay.

So beyond that, we're talking comprehensive coverage, which is theft, fire, weather, all of that.

If you're like, hey, I could probably cut this because I can replace the car.

If forward a burn up, I can just go buy a different one.

And then same with collision.

If there was damage to your car from an accident, insurance isn't going to write you a check if you don't have that.

So if the car is paid off, it's older and low value, which yours is and you could replace it from savings, then I would do it.

What you might want to do is hang on to get all of these coverages for now and then drop it once you're in a better place financially once you have 10 grand in an emergency fund.

Okay.

Because you're riding it fairly tight between the money you have for the car fund and your emergency fund to where you get one more emergency on top of the car being, you know, done.

Now we got a real situation on our hands.

So I would personally get it for peace of mind so I can sleep good.

And once I'm doing a little better, more money in savings, then you might want to look at dropping, you know, collision or comprehensive.

Okay.

And then also with the collision comprehensive, would it be a smart item using my car fund for repairs and also saving up for a new car like a better car, you know, a few years down the line.

I'm going to pretty much ride this one to the ground if I can.

So what if you better to get a like a $500 deductible or $1,000 deductible?

If you can swing a $1,000 deductible, it'll lower your premium.

Okay.

And so because you have the money and you could handle the extra $500 of risk, I would take that.

Okay.

And the one other thing you should look into is uninsured and underinsured motorist protection.

Mm-hmm.

You know, if medical expenses, if you're hit by an uninsured driver, hit and run injuries, we're seeing more and more of this sadly.

Where the person driving the car didn't have insurance and so you're not getting anything.

So that's worth having.

And what I would do is jump on to RamseySolutions.com slash insurance.

And we have trusted pros, a whole network of them across the country, including in Santa Fe that can help you price all of it out and say, hey, what would it be if I added this?

Okay, what if I took that away?

What coverage do you think I should have based on my situation?

They'll walk you through all of that so that you're confident in what coverage you're getting and getting the best price because they'll shop the top companies.

And John, let me tell you in my house,

I have a new fancy tundra.

I have my wife's car and I have my old Gen 1 Toyota that we use out and on for hunting trips and stuff like that.

I have full coverage on the two nicer cars.

I have liability on the tundra.

And basically, I'm just making a deal with the devil that if it wrecks, if I wreck it or somebody hits it, it's just gone.

Okay.

And so, but I do, even though I don't have a payment on their cars, I do because those are nice and I want them to be replaced if something happens to them.

So I pay more for that coverage.

Now, I also want to tell you one more thing.

I have a Gen 1 tundra.

I drove it for years before I spent crazy money trying to make it cool.

Okay.

I'm not interested in bells and whistles.

I know, but this is like a, this is a drug.

Once you put that first thing on it and then the second thing on it, you're going to start seeing cool tundras everywhere.

You're going to be like, oh, I want to get new suspension.

I want to get bigger tires.

And so just continue to hold the line like you've done so far.

Okay.

That would be awesome.

And by the way, I have a feeling this car will outlast you.

So trying to drive it into the ground, best of luck to you.

Did you mention how many miles it has on it?

It doesn't matter.

Just over, just over 300,000.

Yes.

I just wanted to know to let people, because they go, John, it's got 100,000 miles.

It's going to burn up on the interstate tomorrow.

And I go, oh no.

It's a toy out.

We've driven the Alcan in our code and Honda like three times.

So I mean, there wasn't have over 300 miles on it.

Fantastic.

Try to set a world record.

Well, it's just not hard with those.

I think someone did over 500,000.

Oh, easy.

It's pretty incredible.

Well done, man.

Well done.

Man, you're a wise young man.

That's good for your brother.

Very few young guys are thinking this way.

Yeah.

Most guys are picking up a thousand dollar truck payment.

A month.

Not a two thousand dollar.

Exactly.

By the way, can we be honest?

This truck doesn't look nice.

I'm not turning hands at the stop light.

No.

Except for bad reasons.

They're like, oh my gosh.

No, no, no.

There's, there's tons of people who are like, that's awesome.

It's rock and roll.

That's pretty rad.

But yeah, he's not going to meet somebody and she'll be like, I'm falling in love with you

because of your truck.

If somebody goes out with him, he'll know, oh, she really likes me.

Right.

Because it's not going to be because it's truck looks cool.

But man, that's so wise for future him.

Yeah.

And honestly, a good, you know, $200 detail, you'll feel like it's brand new.

To you.

It's pretty sweet.

That's exciting.

$200 detail.

Where do you get those?

That's the going right in my neighborhood.

I don't know where you live, John.

They probably have an up charge for the lower family.

That's way more expensive than that.

I got a good guy.

I love the mobile ones.

They come to the end of the driveway.

They get it done.

For $200?

Yeah.

Well, maybe you have a gigantic truck.

I have tiny toy cars.

That is true.

That's the different.

Tiny electric toy cars.

There's a lot of square footage in your truck.

Could they use a screened wiper to wipe off a Tesla?

They use special gloves.

It's so sensitive, just like me.

I bet they do.

That's another hour in the books.

We'll be right back on the Randy Show.

Welcome back to the Randy Show in the Fair Winds Credit Union Studio.

I'm John Deloney joined by George Campbell.

Let's go out to Columbia, South Carolina and talk to Lee.

What's up, Lee?

Hi.

Hi, John and George.

How are you doing, brother?

Good.

How are you guys?

We are doing all right, man, man.

How can we help?

So, I'm trying to break out of this paycheck to paycheck thing.

And I'm looking for some advice.

Excellent.

I'm glad you called, man.

Tell us more.

What's your financial situation?

So, long story short, I owned a sawmill.

I produce railroad ties, cross ties.

I lost my contract two years ago.

I went and got another job as a mechanic.

I'm making 12, 80 a week.

And I have three different loans with mortgage included.

The mortgage is 130 at 4.5.

And I have 10 years left on it.

The second one is five years on a 4.5, 45,000.

A left on it.

And then the last one is five years at 8.5, at 50,000.

That was to clean up my line of credit that I had for the mill.

And then I have two credit cards, 1, 2500, 1, 2000.

$8,000 that I loaned from my family, and then 5,000 miscellaneous.

So, my monthly payments, everything except food,

like lights, mortgage, and the loan payments of 4, 190 a month.

And I just can't get out of it.

So, what I'm considering is using the equity from my house.

I bought it for 160 with seven acres just prior to COVID.

And I talked with an auctioneer, and he thought he could probably get upwards of 400 for the property.

So, my question is, would you guys advise me to do that or hang in there and see what I can work out?

What did you say your mortgage payment was?

It is roughly 1300 a month.

Okay, so it's about a quarter of your...

Now, that's not your take home pay of the $1280, is that gross?

Or is that what it actually shows?

That's gross.

That's gross, yeah.

So, it's more than 25% of your take home pay, but it's not on fire.

The mortgage isn't the problem.

You're trying to sort of shortcut it and clean up the mess

by just selling, would you just go rent somewhere?

Probably.

Okay.

Because you wouldn't be in a spot to buy another place I'm guessing if you sold it took...

Now, you could clean up all the debt with the proceeds.

You'd clean up the mortgage plus all the other debts, which add up to what?

What's the total amount of debt you have?

Not including the mortgage.

283 months.

Oh, not including the mortgage.

Yeah.

Okay, so you got 150 there.

So, yeah, I mean, you got $150,000 of debt making 60 grand?

Gross?

Yes.

Yeah, the math is not math in here unless there's something that we can sell or liquidate

or use a bunch of savings that you have sitting around.

Is there anything like that?

I have no savings.

I do have my equipment still, and that's...

I'm sure you don't...

The lumber market is like...

And so that tanks the value...

I could possibly get 30 to 40,000 for my equipment, and that's about all the assets I have.

Okay, so that would knock your debt down to maybe for Lucky 110,

but then we're still making 60 grand.

So if there's no room for growth with your income right now or you could double that,

then selling the house would give you a nice clean slate if you're ready to change your behavior.

Well, we are.

And by we, who else is involved?

My wife and I have two children and another one do any day.

Wow.

Well, congratulations.

Well, thank you.

Congratulations, Dan.

Yeah, lots of stress.

No time like the president to clean this mess up.

Yeah, well, there's other people involved now.

Is your wife staying home with the kids?

She is, and she...

She would be more than ready to start clean as well.

Yeah.

She would rent somewhere for a thousand bucks if you sold?

Yes.

Okay, you said that so quickly that I feel good about it.

I would personally, in your shoes, I definitely would consider selling the house.

It doesn't sound like there's a lot of variables in your life that are about to change.

There's nothing you could sell.

Your income's not going to go drastically.

I don't know that you could get seven side jobs.

You could clean this up over the next few years.

But I think with the stress of the baby on the way,

it would just be so much more freeing to sell the property rent for a while

and start to rebuild a solid foundation.

You said this property that you bought for 160 is now worth 400?

Roughly, yes.

Our area has seen a rampant increase in commercial manufacturing and et cetera.

And we're also close to an army base.

There's a lot of people looking for houses.

Okay.

I would not take the word of an auctioneer.

Okay.

I would go to ramdysolutions.com slash market and get with one of our real estate pros.

Okay.

Who will come in and do comps in the area, projections in the area.

Because you may at your property sold at auction maybe at 400,

it may sell in the housing market at 600.

Okay.

So do I know a similar,

who actually in trailer house with an acre or two sold for 400,

like very close to me?

Yeah.

Your area sounds a lot like what happened in Nashville a few years ago

and stuff got bananas.

Right.

And so I would sit down with a true real estate professional that you trust.

And we have a whole network of them that I'd suggest you get with.

That's who I get got with when I sold and bought houses.

So it's not, I'm not asking you to do something I wouldn't ask.

I didn't do it with my own family.

But get a true price on what this property will go for.

And here's the other thing.

You and your wife have to make an iron clad commitment.

Because if this works,

you're going to be sitting on what, $250,000, $300,000 cash.

You can sneeze and that money's going to be gone.

Because suddenly you'll need a new car.

You're going to upgrade your truck.

You're going to want to do this.

And that money will just be gone.

You all will have to make an iron clad commitment.

That this money goes into retirement.

This money goes into an emergency fund.

We never, ever, ever, ever borrow money again, ever.

And we have to learn to live on a budget with our $65,000 your salary.

Sure.

Because you're going to feel rich for men.

And bro, you're going to burn.

You're going to crack open your nest egg at a real young age with really young kids.

Man, you're going to be a mess.

Yeah.

So the game plan?

We're both ready for something different.

Good.

So the game plan would be if and when you sell,

use the proceeds to pay down all of your debt,

the money left over is going to become your emergency fund.

Three to six months, I would lean towards six months, single income family with three kids.

I'd feel a whole lot better having six months of expenses saved up.

And then beyond that, any money beyond even that,

then it's okay, we can start saving back up her down payment.

Let's not get out of the housing market for too long.

Because guess what?

The next house you buy is probably going to be a half million dollars.

So you're going to need a giant down payment to make that payment work with your $60,000 income.

Right.

So that's the homework.

We're going to put this all to good use.

And like John said, no lifestyle creep.

We're not having fun here.

This was a reset.

It was kind of like we went through like a bankruptcy and it's sobering.

And now we want to do the right thing so that we're never in this position again.

Yeah.

I mean, it just burns you down every day trying to get on it.

I'm we've made progress.

We paid off a $13,000 credit card last year, but it's good.

Yeah.

Yeah, I mean, you got a mountain ahead of you with that 150.

And so that would based on the math.

It's a decade plus just to get rid of this.

So I would sell.

I would rebuild.

I try to get that income up and you guys will survive this.

And I'd be renting for a while.

Yeah.

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Today's question comes from Abigail in Pennsylvania.

My husband and I are at a crossroads and need your home buying advice.

Should we buy a house that is affordable but not in the city that we love?

Or rent for another year until we can afford to buy where we prefer to live?

It's an old brainer for me.

It's the quickest question of the day ever.

I'm renting for another year to get the thing I want.

It's called delayed gratification.

If there was some sort of like urgency we have to move now for whatever reason then move now.

But then you're kind of stuck there.

You don't want to be buying a house and selling a year later.

That's going to cost you.

So rent for another year.

Home buying a home is the biggest financial decision you'll ever make.

So do it with caution and be planted there.

I don't even have anything to add.

That's just my take.

One man's opinion.

But I want to live somewhere that I enjoy living.

It's not even that.

Is that too much to ask?

I want to live where I want to live.

And if it's going to take one more year of sacrifice then outstanding.

So be it.

I'm glad they didn't say,

or should we just buy a house now we can't afford in the year?

That was my fear.

That's a very different question.

But if you're willing to wait, just do it right the first time.

Let's go out to Philadelphia where we were born and raised.

And talk to Melody.

What's up Melody?

Hi, how are you?

Outstanding.

How are you?

We're doing great.

Thanks.

Excellent.

I'm calling today because we have started an addition on our home.

And because of change of plans,

we're going to add a little bit more to it and increase cost.

We are max at our budget.

So I was looking for some advice.

I was looking for some advice.

Do we take a home equity loan?

No.

Or should I sell some stocks that I have?

Oh.

I didn't know we had an option B.

This is nice.

How much do you have in stocks?

So I have a brokerage account.

This is in a retirement.

And there's about 328,000.

Well, let's go.

How much of that are you going to need to liquidate to finish this?

I'm thinking around 60,000.

Okay.

Are we going to spit shake that this is 60 grand?

And it's not going to turn into 150 grand?

Because it's already gone for once.

Yeah.

We've already been down this road.

You know what?

It's jolly.

Well, may.

You know, it's kind of touching go with the price of construction costs.

And they.

Well, they rise.

But you didn't you didn't sign a contract that said I'm going to build this for this price.

No, our builder.

My husband's able to work with him.

So he works at an hourly rate.

And we are purchasing the building material.

Yeah, but this.

Are you saving money in your left hand that's costing you more money?

You're right hand.

Meaning if you had signed a contract and said, I want this, this addition for $210,000,

shake hands, they are responsible for sourcing materials when they continue to go up and up and up and up and up.

But by saying, hey, we can do this for 175,000 just by all GC it.

And I got a guy who work hourly.

Now y'all are into a significant, you see what I'm saying?

Yeah.

It may be too late for that.

But we're very, we're much in a position where we don't have solid answers or solid.

That's the part that scares me because this could be an endless project.

Yep.

And so I would get some real hard numbers before continuing this thing.

What is your house worth before the addition?

According to zero, around 300,000.

What's the total addition going to cost you based on what you currently know with all the extra you're going to have to put in?

75,000.

Okay.

And you said you still need 60 to go.

So you thought this thing was going to cost you 15?

No, no, no.

I'm sorry.

75 was the original.

What happened was it's going to be a four car garage and we thought, oh, let's add in second floor.

Okay.

So it's going to be really $135,000 edition.

Probably.

Almost 50% of the home value we're adding.

Are there homes in your on your street that are worth that?

Because I'm scared you're going to overbuild the neighborhood.

Nobody's looking for a $500,000 home when the rest are 350.

We're going to figure out a whole life.

It's this is not something that we're looking to ever.

How old are you guys?

Movers come out.

47, 48 years old.

Wow.

You're talking 50 more years in this.

I wish I was as confident as you.

I love my house and my neighborhood, but man, I'm not bold enough to make that statement.

You have transformed this project into a, I'm oversimplifying it, but a four pillar four wall project to a two story edition.

I think that's worth hitting the pause button and going and talking to a contractor to see what it would cost to do this thing.

And if you might come back and it's triple the price and you're still in better shape, great.

I would at least want that piece of mine.

Because once you start adding second floors, dude, I want this thing insured, embonded, and I want it done right.

That's just me.

And that's what I would do at my house.

What would I pay guys hourly to do all kinds of stuff?

I would not pay people hourly to do this big of a project.

You want the full scope of something this big?

What was the brokerage account earmarked for?

You know, honestly, that's kind of like our savings.

When we have extra money, we buy stock and we look at it as if we need it, it's going to grow.

Okay.

So this wasn't for something else and now we're robbing Peter to pay Paul.

It's totally fine if you use some of this money to finish the edition.

Correct.

Okay. I would calculate how much you'll pay in capital gains tax.

Right. Well, that's kind of the concern.

And with the high returns right now on the market and the percentage rate of buying right now, which one is the better choice for us?

Well, I could tell you I would take off immediately, again, as for me in my house, I would not put on the block the very house I'm trying to put an addition on that's supposed to be my house for the next 50 years.

And when you take out a HELOC to fund another project on that same house, you're putting the house itself on the block.

I would not do that.

So whatever you do, we are not going into debt for this edition.

And if you do want to continue on, I would liquidate parts of the brokerage and you can kind of choose which stocks are selling off.

And you want to choose the ones that are going to have the least amount of capital gains.

And if you need help with that, you can reach out to a Smart Vester Pro and go to Ramsey Solutions.com for that.

But John, I was reminded of this verse from Luke 14 that I just want to read out loud because it's so perfect for the situation.

For which of you intending to build a tower does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it.

Less after he has laid the foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him saying this man began to build and was not able to finish.

That's a roast right there.

I mean, I don't put a shovel in the ground until I've shaken hands and we've agreed on a price because it's an endless list.

And I don't trust myself.

I like the fact that when I shake hands, there is always a, if you change after today, not only is it going to add cost for whatever you want to actually change and do, there is a percentage penalty.

And that puts a, that puts an extra hurdle, an extra set of breaks on my whims and let's just do this and let's just do this because she's right.

It's going to be, let's add a second story.

And then it's like, well, let's just put a bathroom up here and that's going to turn into we need to have another entrance to the back.

What we're going to be here for the rest of our lives, we want.

Yes, and suddenly you've burned through that brokerage account and you're taking out.

Well, if you're, the problem is it's exacerbated when you take out debt because you're using your house like a piggy bank.

And so it's so much easier to go, well, we can just do more.

Yeah, we don't have the cash.

We can just take more of the line price.

But if, if every time you sell one of those stocks, you have to pay the capital gains on it, you're going to be very particular about what you sell and how much money you're bringing in.

And that's going to act as a set of breaks on this endless bill.

Bringing friction back into the process is the way to make a wiser decision.

And, and I, I trust Melody that she's going to live in this house for 50 years.

I don't see that happen almost ever, ever, ever.

I'll be impressed.

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Squat to Dallas, Texas and talk to Anne. Hey, Anne, what's up?

Hi. Thank you for taking my call.

Of course. Thanks for calling. What's going on?

Thank you. I'm so grateful, actually, that someone can look at my situation from outside of the box.

I am considering to file a bankruptcy and I was wondering if you would recommend doing that or not.

Honestly, I don't want to do that because I'm very grateful that the banks gave me that money back when I needed it.

So I want to pay it back, but I feel like I just can't.

Tell us about your situation. How much do you owe?

So I owe. I have five credit cards and two business loans that totals to 123,000.

And I also owe about I owe about 35,000 to the iOS and back taxes.

I used to make about a hundred and fifty four years.

Then a thousand a year. And in 2024, I made only 52,000.

In 2025, I made 51,000.

I did start doing all kinds of gigs and delivery and driving for over.

I set up on anybody's store. I started selling everything in my expensive suits and things.

Trying to help me. I also had to file for forbearance last year.

I've been out of forbearance for about nine months.

And I just had to file for another one in the second one.

And that's a good thing and my car is paid off.

Good. All right. So before we get to the actual money part.

Okay. What were you doing for your job when you were making a hundred and fifty greener?

What are you doing now making only forty?

I own a business while I sell real estate.

That's what I do. I sold real estate.

And as you know, I don't know, you know, real estate hasn't been selling very well.

It's been a tough season. Okay.

Why do you need business loans for real estate?

I back then. So when things were great, you know,

so around twenty thousand was for marketing and set from the website and following up with clients.

They did. They took over all my marketing, you know,

come team for me and did everything so I could focus on my clients.

Okay.

And then sixty thousand was used with a small business administration that was taken out during COVID.

That loan is haunting, haunting small business owners still.

But so George is going to walk you through the money side of this.

Okay. But what I'm hearing is deep, deep shame.

And I want to free you from that. Okay.

Okay. Like you're not the dollar amount you bring home.

So yes, your business has crashed. Okay.

You are still a person worthy of being loved.

You're still a good community member.

You're still a fellow Texan, right?

And so you have to back out of the the muck in the mud and the actual stress you have

from real bills that need real dollars to pay them. That's all real.

Okay. But on top of that and underneath that,

the sense that I am a human failure.

All that is doing is bringing extra weight to an already challenging situation.

I want to free you from that. Okay.

Yeah.

Let's set that nonsense down.

It might be that moving forward, you sell real estate as your side hustle and you get back in the

nine to five eight to five.

I'm going to go clock in somewhere and I'm going to go get a real job all day every day with benefits.

I love it.

Get in there and I'm going to do that.

And I'll sell real estate at nighttime and on the weekends until the market picks back up.

Maybe that's the move. I don't know. But I want you to get to the core who am I?

And if you're a great real estate agent, what that tells me is you're somebody who serves other people.

You're somebody who listens well, you're somebody who fights for their clients.

And that type of heart is useful in a million different industries.

Okay.

Mm-hmm.

And so trying to hang on to my identity as a realtor is drowning you to the tune of 110 grand a year.

Let's let that go and say, okay, who am I?

I'm somebody who helps people when they when they need help.

I'm somebody who shows up.

I'm somebody who listens.

I'm somebody who fights for people.

And man, that opens you up to a whole suite of different career opportunities that backfill your purpose on the market.

Okay.

Cool.

Yeah.

I like that.

Okay.

So let's walk through the money stuff.

All right.

And are you covering your four walls right now?

Are you covering your basic bills?

Food, rent, utilities, transportation?

Yes. That's pretty much the only thing I can cover.

And the minimum payments as well.

I'm basically like chiseled over or self trying to self stealth, you know,

quote my old, you know, whatever I own.

And to pay those minimum payments really because I have several of them and they're not small.

Yes.

And show them like irs payment alone is six hundred and seventeen dollars every month.

And how long is that payment plan for?

35,000.

I don't think they had like a year.

Okay.

Well, your goal up front is the irs debt.

That one rises to the top because they can really mess with your life.

So we want to get them off our back before we tackle the business loans and the credit cards.

Now that's going to take getting our income up.

That's really the variable here that you can control.

Okay.

And so this is going to be the hard work.

It's easy for me to say go get more income.

But I can crunch some numbers with you to show you that bankruptcy is not the only option.

In fact, I wouldn't recommend it as an option for you because it will destroy your financial life in a whole other way.

I really don't want to do that.

I really don't.

I want to pay with it off.

I feel like you're just not going to do that.

So think about this way.

Yeah.

If we reverse engineer this and just put some facts on paper right now and try to just step away from the emotions.

If you put, this is a big number.

But if you put $3,200 towards your debt, you would be debt free within four years.

Really?

Yeah.

That's the math.

Take you have $158,000 in debt.

So you can divide it by however many months whatever your goal is and go, all right, that's the number I need to come up with for my debt.

Now that means you need to go make $7,000 a month in order to do that, right?

Uh-huh.

You need to have enough money to cover your bills, cover your insurance basic expenses and every extra dollar is going towards your debt.

And if you do that within a few years, you can climb out of this but not making $39,000.

We need to get back up to a six-figure income to knock out six figures of debt.

Are you tracking with me?

Right.

And that means I'm going to go find a $50,000 or $60,000 your job.

Uh-huh.

And make more every single year.

You're going to be so good at your job, they're going to be promoting you so fast and if it's self-employed.

Now self-employment, in real estate, it's a tough gig right now.

And so to John's point, if you can go find something that is salary, benefits, steady, you're going to feel so much better about climbing out of this because you're not waiting on that next commission check to come through.

Why? Why?

And by the way, four years of $3,200 a month, that sounds insane, right? It's a long time.

But a seven-year shackle around your ankle from bankruptcy is way worse.

Yeah, and I've been trying to pay the software years anyway.

I've probably paid it in multiple, but you know, it's on me.

Well, it's whack-a-mo right now.

And so instead you're going to do the debt snowball method and I'm going to help you walk you through this.

I'm going to give to you my book, Breaking Free From Broke, Total Money Makeover and give you the every dollar budgeting app so that you have a game plan.

Instead of just spraying prey, we're rooting for you.

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But hold, I stand at the door and knock.

If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come into him and dine with him and he with me, Revelation 320.

The quote of the day is from Bruno Mars.

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My ceiling in the bedroom.

You can't knock on Opportunity's Door and not be ready.

Alright, let's go out to the 5.1.2.

Let's go out to Austin, Texas and talk to Natalie. Hey, Natalie, what's up?

Hey, guys. I'm certified to talk to you.

We're excited to talk to you. What's going on?

I am 27 and I'm wondering should I buy a house this year by myself or wait until

marriage to share that whole experience and homeowner responsibility.

We're not engaged yet, but probably headed that way in the next like year or so.

Obviously, I don't want to bank on that happening.

Oh, you're so wise.

It also seems like a huge milestone that I want to share with him.

But I also don't want to miss a good opportunity to buy a house.

Well, are you financially ready to buy a house on your own right now?

Is it stands?

Yes.

Tell me about the money here. What are you thinking about buying?

How much do you have saved?

I've got saved about 300,000.

Natalie, what are you doing?

I've just been blessed.

What's your income? People want to know how you did this.

My income fluctuates.

My base is around 117, but the job I'm in has some pretty awesome bonuses.

And you have no debt?

No debt.

I love it.

Hold on, you've been blessed, yes, fair.

And you've been really wise and a good steward of this money.

I would like to think so, yeah.

I have lots of friends in Austin, Texas.

And if they had that kind of money, it would be invested poorly in really flashy automobiles, houses they can afford.

They would be up to their eyeballs, right?

You're in like the 0.001%.

The fact that you're a single woman no debt with 300 grand sitting in the bank.

So you've worked your butt off to be blessed.

Does this guy know?

Yeah, I'm very curious because I'd be like, let's get married sooner.

Yeah, what's this idiot waiting on?

Because not only do you have money, you're like a wise, good human being.

Yeah, he does know and get this.

He doesn't let me pay for a single date.

Yeah, you know why?

Because he's Texan.

Well done.

Yeah, he's a good one.

Yes, well done.

I love it.

So should you buy a house?

I know you want to share the joy and the truth is he's going to get the joy of home ownership for the rest of his life.

Like if I just picture it, if he's stepping in the situation and you are fiscally responsible, you've got a reasonable mortgage payment.

Now he steps in with his income too.

And now you guys crushed through this mortgage.

I don't think he's going to be like, man, I just really wish I was there at closing.

You know what I mean?

And by the way, I don't know who you've talked to.

I have bought a lot of houses over the years.

None of them have been a pleasurable experience.

And by the way, that includes when I am using a mortgage lender that I trust, a realtor that's a friend of mine, and the closing attorney is a college roommate of mine.

The whole process is still so stress-induced.

I hate it.

And so I don't know what you've imagined this will be like, but I almost think you'd be doing both of you all a huge favor if you just bought this house.

Okay, and don't share the grief with him.

I mean, he's going to share the grief if he's dating you.

Fair point.

And there are some things to think about, though, with a long-term decision like this.

You know, where do we both work?

Is this going to make sense for us?

Are there going to be major renovations?

Do I like the area?

Does it have good schools in case we start a family here?

So there are things to think about, but I would go ahead and get your foot in the door of this housing market, especially before it ramps back up, because I have a feeling at some point it's going to get crazy again.

Why do you feel is the 300 grand as burning a hole in your pocket?

What do you feel like you're missing out on?

I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

I'm just so sick and tired of dealing with property management companies.

You get to deal with yourself soon enough.

You're like, this toilet's not working.

Oh, dang it.

I got to fix it.

Sometimes I would rather just do it.

Yes.

That's a true Texan right there.

For Natalie, I'm so proud of you.

I would definitely start shopping, start to see what's on the market, what's in their budget, stick to a 15-year fixed rate mortgage, make sure the payment's not more than a quarter of your after-tax income, and you will be in such good shape.

Because once you have dual incomes, maybe you decide once you have a kid, I want to stay home, and it'll be a no-brainer, because you did it everything the wise way.

Or let's just take two years and let's just pay this house completely off, which would be amazing.

And there will be a multi-multi-multi-multi-million.

Have a paid-off house before I'm 30, and I can do whatever I want.

That's amazing.

Good for you, Natalie.

That's awesome, dude.

Let's go out to Houston and talk to Kevin.

Hey, Kevin, what's up, brother?

Hello.

Who's down?

Good, man. What's up?

Oh, yeah.

So basically, graduating law school in May, and having a lot of trouble finding positions.

I'm about to take the bar exam in a few days, and just wondering what advice you guys had.

What kind of law you want to go into?

Well, I was hoping to be in-house council somewhere.

I would love to do that. That's a little tougher to get into.

Yeah, that's tough for a first-year grad.

That's almost impossible.

Yeah.

Like my students and my friends who are attorneys, that was always like a destination.

I want to get there one day.

Right?

Yeah.

And I mean, I'm also looking into a more realistic option for like family law as well.

Okay.

Stay planning.

So have you-

I'm just-

Oh, sorry.

Are you struggling with- have you sent out a bunch of applications?

Yeah.

I mean, hundreds.

Okay.

I lost track at this point.

So when somebody tells me they've sent out hundreds of resumes, almost always they are applying

to online job application inquiries.

Is that- is that true for you?

Yeah.

I mean, I think I would put it into different categories where, you know, I have tailored applications.

I mean, I've still been hundreds of those and applications through context that I know.

Okay.

But, um, yeah, and then the category of like, okay, let's just put a resume in, put a cover letter in.

Yeah.

Where we go from there.

And personally, I don't count those because the- the ability for anyone to even get to those

resumes these days is so hard.

Right?

Um, I much prefer you focus on- folks you went to school with.

Um, a lot of my students would- one person would get into a firm and then two or three of them would

end up working at that firm or one person would get a job at the DA's office and then four of them would fall under the- like-

that tended to be what I saw how my students got their foot in the door places.

Um, do you not have access to a career services department at your law school?

Um, I do, but it's very limited, especially in my case.

Like, they don't have a lot of postings and, you know, when you do talk to them, they just refer you to the postings.

And in my case, I got a scholarship in a law school in a different state.

Mm-hmm.

And now I'm trying to get my license in Texas.

Yeah.

Do you think that's hurting you?

Yeah.

On top of not having to pass the bar yet?

Yeah.

I mean, obviously not passing the bar, but yeah, the lack of opportunities through the schools a little rough.

Yeah.

Right.

Here's what I would focus on.

I would put every single aim, every gun I have at passing the bar jam.

Period.

I would join both the local community bar association and the state bar association.

And I would look at every government opening right now in a one hour radius.

And you might not want to do government law.

You may not want to do assistant DA work.

You may not want to do that kind of work, but that might be the only work available to you.

The way those are opportunities for you to get a ton of different cases and a ton of different clients

and rub shoulders with a ton of different attorneys and judges that can help you begin to network for your next move.

But that would be where I start, right?

I'd quit applying and start going, all right.

I need to set up 15 conversations this week with people that are in this space.

Maybe it's the alumni.

Maybe you know a judges clerk.

Whatever it is, just go, hey, I'm going to hang.

I'm going to see how I can add value to their life, get to know them.

It's not a desperate plea for a job.

That's right.

I'm just looking at the connections and they might know a guy who knows a guy and that's how you get it.

Or that temp job or contract work turned into full-time work.

Or they knew somebody who was looking for somebody.

That's how people get jobs in the real world these days versus the spray and pray.

I click some buttons and hopefully it's in digital.

And nobody's calling me, yeah.

Yeah.

And it wouldn't surprise me if your university where your graduating has an alumni group in Texas.

Check them out too.

Thanks for calling, brother.

Thank you.

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