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Science Soul Success
Today we ask a blunt question that changes everything: who’s on the bus with you as you chase your goals. We break down why clear invitation plus real enthusiasm builds the kind of team and culture you can’t build alone.
Suite Spots:
• revisiting the foundation from The Energy Bus: you drive, you choose direction, you protect your fuel
• rule four as a leadership practice: inviting people and sharing a clear vision
• why vague leadership repels strong teammates
• rule seven: enthusiasm as a recruiting and retention tool
• becoming the chief energy officer at work and at home
• the neuroscience behind emotional contagion and mirror neurons
• naming the cost of isolation and the fear behind staying silent
• a practical challenge: invite one person back onto your bus
And if you enjoyed today or if it spoke to you today, I would like you to share this with someone who could use a boost, who maybe needs to get on your bus or you need to jump on their bus. And if you haven't subscribed, I want you to join my bus for sure. Follow me! see you tomorrow!
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Greetings and welcome. Welcome back to the sweet spot. Today is Wednesday, but as you know,
it's not just any Wednesday around these parts. Around these parts, we call it will it
all Wednesday. It's all about winning this Wednesday and I'm so glad you're here. I'm
Dr. Derek Sweet. I'm your host here on the sweet spot. As you know, I'm a board certified
skydress. I work in performance circles. More than that, I'm your teammate here in a game of life.
We've been unpacking this week in the sweet spot. A great book here called The Energy Bus.
It's a book that has these 10 wonderful lessons that we are unpacking and learning about
that are helping us be really strong and really optimistic as we go through the game of life.
And on Monday, we established the foundation. We said the first lesson was, you are the driver of
your bus. We're not going to let the circumstances or the history or somebody else's opinion drive
our bus. No, you. You're going to drive your bus. On Tuesday, take action Tuesday. We talked about
the tank. We filled the tank. We talked about how desire, vision and focus remember those three.
We said that the desire, vision and focus, which was the second lesson that this character George
learned on the bus, desire, vision and focus formed a three-part ignition system. And we linked that
yesterday to how the brain's reticular activating system is literally wired to orient us and to
orient our attention to whatever direction we're giving it. Remember that? We talked about running
on clean fuel yesterday. Take action Tuesday. And the clean fuel was purpose, joy and genuine
belief. That was as opposed to the dirty fuel that corrodes the engine over time, the fear, the
anxiety, the stress, the comparison, the negativity, right? That dirty negative fuel we talked about that.
So you know who you are. And you know where you're going. And your tank is full.
That's where we are because we've been in the sweet spot unpacking the lessons from this book.
So now that you know who you are, you know where you're going and your tank is full. Wednesday,
when it all Wednesday asks the next great question. Who is on the bus with you?
Yes. Who is on this bus with you? Remember our character in the book George has a horrible life.
Things are going wrong. His marriage is job. Family, everything is going south on him. His car gets
a flat. It breaks down. He gets on a bus. He meets his woman named Joy. And she's giving him these
lessons and we learn the lessons. He learns that you have to drive your own bus. You have to have the
right fuel. You have to have the direction. But we are reached a point where the first three rules
that we got are good. But the question is, who's driving? Who's on the bus with you? The bus that
you're now driving? And that's where rules four and seven, the relational heart of this energy bus
suddenly appear. Up to this point, the author has been talking to us about our choice, our direction
and our fuel. We're clear on that. Your choice, your direction and your fuel. But that's not
enough sweet spotter. He adds rule four here. And rule four says, you have to invite people on
your bus and share your vision for the road ahead. And then he adds another rule. I'm going to
skip to rule seven because they go together. He said enthusiasm is the secret sauce. Enthusiasm
attracts more passengers and energizes them during the ride. So rule four, invite people on your bus
and share your vision for the road ahead. And then rule seven. Enthusiasm, you're being
enthusiastic is going to attract more passengers and energize them for the ride together. Rules four
and seven. These two rules address something. No, no high performance. No individual worth his or
her soul can avoid forever. You cannot win alone. This is when it all Wednesday. You just don't
win alone. Anytime you are a winner and you really look at it, other people have been involved
in helping you win. Absolutely. You're not going to win a championship alone. You're not going to
win over a company alone. You're not going to create a legacy alone. You can't create a family alone.
You can live alone and you can be alone. But many of the things you want to accomplish in life
require connection. At some point in your journey and my journey, our bus needs passengers.
Especially if we want to be winners of what we do. And how we fill it, how we fill the bus
determines everything about where this bus is going to go and how it's going to go. And the author
writes that the main character George needed to do two things simultaneously in order to ensure
that his bus was going to get to the destination in the right way. Rule four and rule seven.
Rule four was invite people and and share your vision. Yes, these two things have to be done
together. You have to share your vision and invite the people in. Don't just tell them what to do.
Don't just recruit bodies for seats on the bus. But open the door nicely and lay out the
destination and let people choose to get on board the bus. Here's a line from the book.
You not only need to invite people to join you, you must tell them where you're going and how you
plan to get there so they know what they're signing up for. That's a leadership principle.
It's disguised as a bus metaphor, but that's a leadership principle. People need to know
where they're going with you and how you plan to get there. The greatest teams in history
were not just assembled. They weren't just put together. They were they had an attractive force
around them, right? The players wanted in. The staff wanted to be contributors. The communities
and the audience and the fans wanted to belong to this. They loved it. Everybody was in this
synagogistic attractive force thing because someone cast a vision clear enough and genuine enough
and everyone saw it. People were attracted to it. You cannot attract the right passengers on
your bus if you're going to be vague and if you're going to be selfish and if you're going to be
just sort of closed off. You have to be clear though about what you're doing. People don't like
being around vague people that are ambiguous and it's shifty and they can't figure it out.
So this rule about the idea of you inviting people in, got to open the door and you've got to
share your vision. Does that make sense? And then the other rule that went along with this,
the author said, is be enthusiastic. Now why would he say be enthusiastic? The reason is
enthusiasm is a magnet. When you're enthusiastic, you attract, you attract things, you attract people
not only that you energize what's around you. So it takes rule seven here, takes rule four further.
It says your enthusiasm is not a personality tree. It's an actual tool, a recruiting tool,
a retention tool. It's an energy transfer mechanism. Don't you like being around people who are
positive, genuinely positive, not fake positive, but genuinely positive and genuinely enthusiastic.
The authorized enthusiasm comes from the Greek word and fields, which means inspired or filled
with the divine. When you bring that level of inspired energy to everything you do,
you know what happens? Other people feel it. Energy is transferred. People feel your energy and
they want to be around you and they want to be your team. If you're not getting people on your
team part of this, kind of think about what energy you're giving off. If you're going to walk
them and be all negative and like it's a bad day and you're going to be pointing out all the stuff,
if you're going to flatten the rule without giving any energy back,
well then that's the issue. And remember, it comes from the Greek word enthusiasm comes from
the Greek word and fields, which means inspired or filled with divine. Let that breathe for a second.
Filled with the divine. That's energy. That's not manufactured high pour forced
positivity. That's genuine overflowing energy that comes from a person who truly believes,
who actually believes in where they're going and what they're about. Have you been around those
kind of people? Aren't they fun to be around them? Are you one of those kind of people?
The author Gordon, he says that you lead from the heart by becoming the CEO. That's right.
Becoming the CEO of your workplace. But what's interesting is that we think of CEO's chief executive
officer and I know quite a few, but that's not what this author meant. He meant chief energy officer.
You lead from the heart by becoming the chief energy officer of your workplace, of your home,
wherever you're functioning. Are you the downer? Are you the Debbie downer? Are you the chief
energy officer? Not fake, but bringing some enthusiasm into the moment. It can change everything.
Because before there was strategy, before the structure, before your systems,
you know what people are reading? They're reading your energy. The energy you as a leader,
as a parent, as a husband or a wife, as a father, as a student, what you bring into the room.
You could be a patient and your doctor walks into the room and if she has the wrong energy,
he has the wrong energy, you can feel it right away. So because energy is important before structures,
before systems, before strategies, it's super important that you figure out your own energy and your
enthusiasm. And if you want to be a winner, you've got to have that level of enthusiasm.
And that's why this is one of the important lessons that this character had to learn on this bus.
Remember this dude had a bad day. He had a lot of bus and he's getting 10 lessons. We just got
like four of them, right? He knows he has to drive the bus. He knows what kind of fuel he has to get.
The direction he has to get. But today he's learning that he's got to invite people on the bus.
He's got to be enthusiastic about the bus. He's got to share the vision.
That's what we have to do brother, ancestor, sweet father. And the reason this is important and the
reason this works, I'm going to give you the neuroscience. Why? Because here on the sweet spot,
we're all about one. Science, soul and success. And here's the science of enthusiasm,
the science of why you and I really ought to take pride and take real caution to be sure
that we're not a downer because there's such a thing called mirror neurons, mirror brain cells.
Yeah, your brain contains a class of neurons called mirror neurons. They go back to the early
1990s they were found. And these brain cells, these mirror neurons, they fire when you perform an
action and when you observe someone else performing that same action. So they're a part of a
neurological architecture that underlies things like empathy and imitation and social connection.
It's why people kind of do what other people do.
So and here's what this means in a room full of people, right? When you walk into a room with
positive energy and the people around you begin to sink with you emotionally and neurologically
if they're your brain start to sink. And the research on this sort of emotional contagion
stuff shows that our system are designed to pick up what other people's systems are doing.
It's why when people are clapping, everybody claps, we're laughing, everybody laughs,
some people want to run, they all run in a crowd. The brain has this mirror neuron thing going on
and it's real. That's why certain cultures I've noticed over the years could walk into a locker room
and it can change the locker room just because of their energy. Certain leaders can make
everything feel and make everyone feel like everything is exciting and we're going to make this
happen. Some players even on losing teams can make everyone around them feel better.
So enthusiasm is not a soft thing. It's not an optional thing. It's a biological force and
science. The science says that you're either using it intentionally or you're losing it
passively. Where are you on the enthusiasm scale? If I asked you today,
how enthusiastic are you as a person? 10 being super enthusiastic and energetic,
one being like flat and with no enthusiasm. Where do you fall?
Because your energy is not private. In case you think that it's never private, it belongs to
everyone in the room. People know and read that. Absolutely. So think about that today as you
move through when it all Wednesday. And as we close on when it all Wednesday, I want to speak to
somebody today who's doing everything alone. You have the vision. You have the desire.
You've been filling the tank. You've been listening to the sweet spot. You know what we said
on making those Monday take action Tuesday. You're in when it all Wednesday but you're doing it alone.
This is for you. You've been treating the bus like it's a solo vehicle. You've been afraid to
invite people in and you have probably have good reasons. You're afraid to share your vision
anymore. You're afraid that your enthusiasm would look like some kind of weakness or like you're
being naive. I want to say this to you directly today. Isolation is not discipline. It's not. It's
a trap. Silence about your vision is not humility. And keeping people off your bus is not protecting
you. It's limiting you. You will get more done in team fashion. The greatest performers have
ever worked with. The ones who sustain excellence over years and decades are the ones who learned
eventually that they need passengers on the bus. Not passengers who drive for them. Remember
Monday we took care of that. We said you got to drive your own bus. But you want passengers who
would help you stay buoyant on your journey. Passengers who fuel the journey, who save the destination
and say, you know what? I believe in that. I like what I'm seeing here. I can get with this.
I can mess with this. I want to, I want to help. How can I help? One of the greatest things I
love in full circle of practice or even here with the sweet spot is when somebody says, hey,
I want to, can I get interviewed or can I, can I jump in? What can I do? Or they give me a topic
or an idea? It's, it's so amazing. It reminds me that I'm not alone. And that's why we've been
opening up the sweet spot recently to interviews. I hope you saw the interview with Darsal Dillard
Sweet. Hopefully you saw the interview at Can Clark as well. I don't know if you saw those too.
And we have so much more. We have Roger Hines. We have so many more great names.
Coming up Kendall Blaspy is coming up. Oh my goodness. Lay on. Great. Oh, there's so many, right?
Anyway, I'm digress. I digress. So you want passengers on the bus and trust me. We got a lot of
passengers here on the sweet spot coming up for you. What I want to leave you with today?
On the sweet spot. What I want to leave you with on when it all went say, here's what I want to
leave you with. Vision without invitation is loneliness.
Enthusiasm without direction is noise.
But if you take your vision and you add the invitation to it, you invite others onto the bus.
And then you combine that invitation with genuine enthusiasm.
That's how you get to your destination with joy, with freedom, with love.
That's how you build championship culture. That's how it gets built. People should feel that
enthusiasm. When I do the sweet spot, I'm in. I'm all in. I love it. That's why something's
I'm laughing. You're like, why is this dude like why is he so happy? I don't know. I just
that's the end feels. That's the divine inspiration. You've got it. All of us have got it.
Just got to access it. Nobody wants to get on a bus driven by somebody who looks like they don't
believe in what they're doing or they don't want to get to the destination.
No, your enthusiasm and my enthusiasm is what's going to recruit people to you.
And you want to be a winner on Wednesday? Start by being enthusiastic. Be more enthusiastic.
And the ancient wisdom back to some and then we're out. Remember Nehemiah he was a
cup beer for the king of Persia, right? Nehemiah in ancient wisdom. That guy, interesting dude.
Right? Wasn't a big time general or politician? Wasn't a man of like real power, but he had a vision.
To rebuild the walls of Jerusalem, remember that story? You should go read it.
I think it's chapter two. Nehemiah 217, right? He said, come, let's rebuild the wall of Jerusalem,
he shared it. Right? And enthusiastically, he said, we will no longer be in this grace.
See, he didn't try to build a wall alone. He did it. He invited people. He had a vision. He spoke up.
And he shared the destination with clarity and conviction so there are enough people who were around
them. They didn't say Nehemiah go kick rocks, get out of here, whatever. No, they were like,
nah, I'm going to help you. I'm getting on your bus. And that's what you want today's sweet
spotter. It's winning all Wednesday. Who's on my bus? Okay? Who's on your bus?
And I know you got a lot. I saw my mom give it to me and I was telling her, mom, I'm impressed with
you. You have like a lot of friends. And I'm impressed with how many of them are around you, how
genuine they are, how you, they're such great people. I would call them my name, but I don't want to
get myself in trouble with her or her friends, but she has a tremendous friend's bus, a bus,
a bus full of friends. Mom, I want to get on your bus. So rule four and rule seven in this book,
the energy bus that we're talking about written by John Corden really tells us to not only drive
our bus, but bring people on board, share the vision. And it's backed up in the ancient wisdom.
It's backed up in in story philosophy. It's, it's important. So as we close this window
of Wednesday, let me challenge you. Let me give you a sweet spot challenge today. I want you
to identify one person you've been doing life or work without. You've cut them out.
Someone who belongs on your bus, but they haven't been invited. Maybe it's a collaborator.
It's a teammate. Maybe it's a mentor or friend. Somebody whose energy fuels yours. Name that person.
Name that person. Is there somebody that belongs on your bus today?
Reach out today. Don't wait for tomorrow or event today. Make it now's always the right time.
And share something about where you're going, your vision, your project, your season. In fact,
I'm in. And ask yourself honestly. Ask yourself this today. What does my energy say to the people
around me? Does it say the destination is real? Does it say I believe we can get there? Does it say
I want you on this ride? Does it show energy? Does it show enthusiasm? Are you the chief energy
officer? Are you the CEO of your space today? We often call the prefrontal cortex of the brain
the CEO. Well, this is the CEO, but it's a chief energy officer in every room you go to today.
In every phone call, in every interaction, I want you to be enthusiastic.
This is the sweet spot. This is when it all Wednesday and this is not the sweet. Love and blessings.
I'll see you tomorrow. And if you enjoyed today or if it spoke to you today, I would like you to
share this with someone who could use a post who maybe needs to get on your bus or you need to
jump on their bus. And let's let's go on a ride together. And if you haven't subscribed,
I want you to join my bus for sure. Love and blessings.

Dr. Derek Suite - The SuiteSpot

Dr. Derek Suite - The SuiteSpot

Dr. Derek Suite - The SuiteSpot