How To Meditate The Correct Way: What Most Miss With Meditation | Quazi Johir

0:00Quasi here and in today's video. I want to share with you how to properly meditate. Now I've been getting this question a lot like quasi. How do I meditate? What's the right way to do it? Am I doing it right? Should I do this? Should I do the guided meditation or should I just you know sit down and do it myself? What's the right thing to do in this video? I'm going to share with you Why you should meditate? What's the biggest mistake you can make with it? You know how I actually meditate and the best way you can start meditating right now and actually the true purpose of meditation itself. So make sure you stick around to the very end of it because if you've been struggling with meditating and you don't see results from it, I do think this will be very valuable to you. So before I get started with this video, I wanted to quickly announce that you can now access our exclusive email list where I can share stuff that I can't really share on the channel as well as the free identity shifting bootcamp if you just scroll down to the pinned comments below and also the description box below you will be taken to a link

1:02where you can just put in your name and email address and you'll get immediate access to that. I'm really excited for you to access that I'm really excited to share stuff that I can't really share on YouTube because of you know, YouTube's platform and its limitations. So Let's go right ahead and get started. Now before I get started, I wanted to begin with a quote which I think will be very useful for this video and the quote I can't remember who said it, but it essentially goes something like spiritual growth is measured by one's ability to focus on wanted thoughts while at the same time ignoring unwanted thoughts. So what this essentially means is that your own spiritual growth, the mastery of life, you know, the degree to which you've attained mastery over yourself and your life, is directly correlated to your ability to ignore thoughts that you don't want and focus on the thoughts that you do want. Okay, and I believe that was this was said by this great sage Sri Ramana Mahashi, but I'm not 100% sure on that you're gonna have to fact check me, but

2:07essentially this quote was important for me to understand because it helped me understand why we meditate and and you know like what the true purpose of meditation is so the biggest problem most people go through when they enter this spiritual journey and they want to you know go through meditation they want to develop a person they want to become better is that they just meditate for 10 minutes a day and they forget about the rest of the 23 hours and 50 minutes, right and this is why most meditators I've seen you know, they've been meditating for the past 10 15 even 20 years yet stay they they still can't control their minds they still can't focus on the things that they would like to focus on an ignore unwanted things right so they still find that they haven't gotten the progress that they were promised right so I started to look into that like why does this happen? Why have people been doing this for the past 10 20 years? But they still haven't been able to see the kind of results that they want to see and what I've found is that they just do it for the 10 minutes a day without

3:10bringing that practice into their daily lives now the real purpose of meditation is to become meditative right We meditate so that we can become that we can attain that state throughout our lives Okay, so I want you to take a moment and think about this for a second Anytime we do an activity the purpose of immersing ourselves in activity is to become one is to is for the actor to become one with the thing being acted on Action is the act of uniting the actor with the thing being acted on right the doing is the process of uniting the duer with the thing being done Do you see what I'm trying to say? So in a way this is quite profound and I know it's it's getting kind of philosophical and spiritual but What I want you to understand is the the whole purpose of meditation the act of meditation when you sit down to do something to

4:15To focus on your thoughts to you know control your mind or whatever it is you're doing The whole purpose of that that's just a training wheel. Okay, that's not the medit the real thing That's just you practicing so you can bring it That state and carry it with you everywhere you go If you just understand this simple thing Nothing will ever be the same once I understood this My whole life changed because when I started meditating I didn't see any results from it You know, I was telling myself that I saw results. I was like oh, yeah, you know, I feel calmer and I and I feel this and I feel that But all the same problems were going on over and over again and even when I sat down to meditate There were just a million thoughts and my mind would just constantly go nuts and they just couldn't control it right So in that sense there are even some prerequisites to meditation So this is a very very deep topic But I want to give you something actionable for you to do right now But in order to have any Results from the actions you've got to understand the deeper principles the deeper purpose of meditation itself

5:20So that's that the purpose of meditation is to become meditative And the purpose of action is to unite the actor with the thing being acted on Okay So why do we want to become meditative? You know, you won't be asking well, please think about it this way Becoming meditative literally means you are not attached to anything right you are now a conscious observer of what's going on And only a conscious observer has the choice available to them To choose how the rest of it how the rest of their lives unfold So to give you an example of this You might be going through circumstances that you don't like Now if you're not meditative if you're not conscious You don't really have a say in what happens to your life or the trajectory of your life is If you're constantly reacting to your circumstances if you're constantly complaining you're feeling like a victim

6:20You're blaming external circumstances. You don't take any responsibility for what's happening You won't be able to act In a way that'll help you change this circumstance or you know move you and shift you onto a different path different trajectory to life right The only way you can do that is if you stop reacting is if you stop getting pulled by those thoughts and feelings that are arising And you can now there's only if there's a separation between you and the thoughts and feelings right So the purpose of being meditative does exactly that it creates this separation That's what we want to do we want to create this separation so that there's a clear watching a clear observing And that you start to see that you're not this character this body or this mind you are not your thoughts Sometimes people will have thoughts they don't like and they'll start to think oh, why do I have these thoughts You know these are such bad thoughts these such perverted thoughts. Why do I have them

7:22Instead of judging them you simply view them as what they are Thoughts right it's just data in and data out And if you can just start to look at the mind, you know most of mankind suffering will just disappear But you'll never be reactive and you'll always have a say in which thoughts you focus on the ability to focus on the thoughts that are wanted or be there and that will determine how your life unfolds right so When you gain mastery over the mind and body you essentially gain mastery of your life That's literally it gaining mastery of the body means In a simple yogic sense not excessively indulging in anything not Lacking in anything not getting too much sleep not getting too little sleep not eating too much food not in too little food So keeping the body in balance Right and keeping the mind in balance is simply becoming meditative learning to watch the thought and see

8:23That thoughts are just thoughts not me like oh, you know bad thought oh me had bad thought me bad for having bad thought you know So that's the biggest takeaway I want you to you know get from this video now in terms of how to meditate the proper way to do it I want to share with you just that so Here's basically four steps on how to actually meditate the proper way to do it So by now you've probably maybe tried out some guided meditations you probably listen to music while you meditate and all of those are good right but If you really think about it I Back in the ancient days They had none of those You know yogis they didn't have any of those they just simply sat down quietly and meditated Maybe sure they had a guru to guide them in meditation, but they didn't always have that the guru would teach them and guide them in meditation Give them the training wheels so that they could learn to do it themselves So the ultimate goal is to be able to independent of all

9:24Music and you know guided meditation be able to do it ourselves and bring it with us in every single Area of our lives in every single activity that we do right in our day-to-day So let's jump right to the four steps the four most effective steps on how to meditate and this is how I've done How I've started off so? Number one what you can do is there's two types of meditations that I like to do and initially when I started off I preferred one over the other And the one that I did was I would simply set a timer on my phone for 15 to 20 minutes And I would put a spot on the wall right in front of me now It's important that you don't put like an image or anything because it'll invoke more feelings So put a put something that you're neutral towards an object that you're neutral towards or just a dot on the wall And simply stare at that dot for 15 to 20 minutes Right this way when you keep your eyes still your mind also doesn't wander

10:25You could do that or you could observe your breath and that's my personal favorite You just sit down and you simply look at your natural breathing patterns You don't have to inhale an exhale Look at your natural breathing patterns and how you breathe and just simply observe that and observe the point at which you know You you breathe in and you inhale and observe breath going in And breath coming out breath going in coming out now what will inevitably happen Is your mind will get lost in a thought that's too strong like a cloud will come and it'll be too foggy and it won't block your focus. What do you do then you simply Try your best to acknowledge And then observe and then zoom out of that when you acknowledge the thought and you see it as a thought You stop engaging with it and then you can return back to observing thought or looking at the spot It's as simple as that Every time that happens an intrusive thought comes up you just look at it you observe it

11:28You let it be and you focus on whatever else and of course, you know This is easier said than done, but with practice Again, this is you developing a skill the skill of being meditative with practice this two will come Okay, that's step two and step three Reaching the ultimate meditative state is when you So what happens to me is I'll feel my breath slowing down and my body just getting still I'll stop moving and twitching and trying to correct my position I'll be sitting comfortably and you can sit comfortably on a chair on a couch But the important part is that your head and your spine and your pelvis they're all in one line There's three points. So imagine like three chakras one here one your solar plexus and one in your Spline or whatever that the pelvic area, right? So Imagine those three chakras being on one line just being straight

12:29So this this whole spine your spine must be straight. That's what I'm trying to say So just keep your spine straight Wherever you're sitting now, I would recommend that you sit somewhere that you don't fall asleep Or you sit somewhere that doesn't like like a couch if it's a very cushy couch You're gonna hunch over and it's your spine's not gonna be straight right? So do that sit straight take some time set a timer on your phone or whatever and Just observe your breath or watch the spot on the wall anytime in truce of thoughts come Observe it acknowledge it go back to Observing the breath or observing the spot Okay, that's step three and when you feel your breath slowing down And your body relaxing you'll actually feel this you'll almost feel like you're letting go of control over your body You stop twitching or anything this is when you're reaching that meditative state and that's When you become very very relaxed you become extremely relaxed

13:33so Stay with that state as long as you can okay, that's the purpose the purpose of meditation is well the one of the Big keys of meditations is to get to that state right and I love to get to that state It did just it's it's something else. It's undescribable So that's step three and step four is bringing this Realization with you throughout the day. So anytime before you do an activity anytime you know Something happens you just take a minute to slow down and you bring that realization that meditative realization The realization of relaxation how you you were relaxed when you're sitting down bring that into the activity just simply Observing your breath or keeping yourself still For a few moments throughout the day and not just going all over the all over the place with your activity That's literally it. It can be as simple as that if you just do that You'll become you'll get into that state again, right?

14:34So with that I conclude this video. Thank you so much for watching. I sincerely hope this was helpful Let's do a quick recap of what we talked about today We talked about meditation what the purpose of meditation is what's the correct way of doing it and we discussed that You know spiritual growth is measured by one's own ability to Manage their thought processes to focus on unwanted to get rid of unwanted thoughts ignore them and focus on the wanted ones And the real purpose of meditation is to become meditative the real purpose of any activity It is to unite the doer with the thing being done in doing okay and becoming meditative allows one to unattach from The reactivity of life and whatever Current whatever the current trajectory is so that you can choose your trajectory from this point forward If you don't like what trajectory your life is going in you can simply choose which trajectory you move it to

15:36Right that's why we want to become meditative so we can become conscious and choose How our lives unfold everyone should have a saying that no one should live a life that they don't want to live I think there was also another saying that you know if you're born poor then It's not your fault, but if you die poor then it's your fault right so Now we talk about So next we talked about how to meditate and I gave you four steps number one is you can do two forms of meditation Either observe your breath or look at a spot on the wall Those are the ones that I started with and those are the ones I can talk about I've never really gotten into guided meditations or anything like that because I've always found the natural process is more effective But that's just my personal preference if guided meditations work for you great do them uh number two So number one observe your breath and look at a spot and set a timer for at least 15 minutes

16:37Step two is when your mind starts to wonder and some thought that's very strong comes up You simply just let that thought be there you acknowledge that thought okay thought is there And you let it be let that be and you zoom out of it and you focus back into what it is you're doing Step three is you'll reach the meditative state when you feel your breath slowing down and this usually happens around the 10 minute mark so around the 6 to 10 minute mark you'll feel yourself getting super relaxed and your breath will slow down and You'll almost feel extremely still in the body right there will be no twitching or anything or any correcting necessary anymore And that's the ultimate meditative state which is what I like to call it And step four you want to bring this realization with you throughout the whole day Take some moments throughout the day to just get back into tap back into that stillness what it felt like

17:40and just center yourself look around you look at yourself And just in that way you know if as long as you're not lost in any activity You'll be centered right So with that I conclude this video. Thank you so much for watching I sincerely hope this is helpful Leave me a comment letting me know what you thought of this you know if you'd like me to make some whiteboard videos If you'd like me to make another video about this if you have any questions if you'd like me to make any future videos Leave me a comment let me know that if you're new to the channel Make sure you like comments subscribe hit that little bell there So you're notified of any new video that I proud and also if you'd like to work closer together With us the link to do that is in the description below Who we typically work with our people who are business owners and entrepreneurs who want to take their businesses to the next level And what they're seeing is they have the tactics and strategies but tactics and strategies on the problem The real problem is them internally. They feel like they have a block and that's why they're stuck at that certain revenue level If that sounds like you just click on the link in the description to apply to see if we can help you and I'm looking forward to seeing you there And we also have a free Facebook group open for you so you can click on the link in the description to sign up for that

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