Inside the Mind of an Avoidant Woman: Dating, Motherhood and Business

Most people ask if avoidant women even exist. They do. And this conversation is one of the most honest and revealing looks at what avoidant attachment actually looks like from the inside of a woman who lives it every day.

Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Carly Randall, a self-identified avoidant woman and strategic business partner, for a live coaching session that covers everything from two avoidant partners trying to make a relationship work, to avoidant mothering, to why asking if you would still love me if I was a bug is actually one of the healthiest things an avoidant woman has ever said.

What you will learn in this conversation:

1- What avoidant attachment actually looks like in a woman and why men so often mistake it for selfishness 2- Why avoidant women lose respect for anxious partners and what that tells you about what they actually need 3- What happens when two avoidant people get together and why it can actually work with the right systems in place 4- Why the black and white switch of I am all in or I am completely done is one of the most dangerous patterns for avoidant women and what to do about it 5- The difference between taking space to regulate and taking space to dodge and how to tell which one you are doing 6- How avoidant mothering shows up in real life and what the biggest risks are for the children of avoidant parents 7- Why telling your kids mommy needs a break without giving them context is one of the most damaging things you can accidentally do 8- Why an avoidant woman suddenly asking for reassurance is not a sign she is becoming anxious but a sign she is finally becoming secure 9- Why the feeling that you do not want to be a burden is actually rooted in adoption and early abandonment and what it is really asking for

If you have ever wondered whether avoidant women are real, what they feel, how they parent, and whether they can actually build a deep loving relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for.

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