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I wish you enjoy the tale.
My partner's child mooched off my residence for 12 months and when I evicted her, she attempted to incriminate me for mistreatment with fabricated health documents but her own.
Mother exposed her lies.
I, 44M, have been dating my girlfriend Erica, 42F, for the past two years.
I should probably give some background first.
I own a small but successful consulting business that I've built from scratch over the last 15 years.
I've always been focused on my career, which probably explains why I never got married.
I met Erica through mutual friends at a dinner party and we instantly connected over our shared experiences of putting careers first.
Erica works as a senior project manager at a tech company.
She was married before but her ex-husband passed away when their daughter Simone, 21F, was 15.
It was a difficult time for them.
He had been battling cancer for two years and Erica had to balance caring for him, raising Simone and maintaining her career.
After he passed, she focused on giving Simone the best life possible, working extra hours to put her through college.
When Erica and I started dating, I was initially hesitant about dating someone with a grown daughter.
My previous relationships have been with women who either didn't have kids or had younger children who lived with their fathers.
But Simone was already in college when we met and she seemed very mature and welcoming towards me.
She would often join us for dinner when she was home from college and always showed interest in my work, asking questions about running a business.
After dating for a year, Erica moved in with me since my house is bigger and closer to her office.
It's a four bedroom house in a nice neighborhood that I bought five years ago.
Simone had her own apartment at this point and was working as a junior marketing executive at a startup company.
She seemed to be doing well, she had graduated with good grades, landed a job quickly and was living independently.
Erica was incredibly proud of her and I admired how well she had raised her daughter as a single mother.
Everything was going smoothly until about eight months ago.
The tech industry started experiencing massive layoffs and Simone's company was hit hard.
Being one of the newest employees, she was among the first to be let go.
The timing couldn't have been worse, she had just signed a one year lease on her apartment three months before getting laid off and the penalty for breaking the lease was substantial.
When Simone called Erica crying about losing her job, my girlfriend was naturally worried.
Simone had some savings but not enough to cover rent and expenses for more than a couple of months.
Erica suggested that Simone move in with us temporarily until she found another job.
I agreed because it seemed like the right thing to do.
We had plenty of space and I remembered how tough it had been when I was starting out in my career.
The first month went surprisingly well.
Simone would wake up early, spend hours updating her resume and applying for jobs online.
She even had a few promising interviews.
She was also helpful around the house, doing her own laundry, cleaning up after herself and even cooking dinner for all of us occasionally.
I actually enjoyed having her around because she brought a different energy to the house.
But things started changing after the first month.
I noticed she was sleeping in later and later.
Instead of job hunting, she would spend hours binge watching Netflix shows or scrolling through social media.
When I casually asked about her job search during dinner, she would get defensive and say she was waiting to hear back from companies.
By the third month, the situation had deteriorated significantly.
She would wake up around noon, order expensive take-out using her mother's credit card and spend the entire day either watching TV or hanging out with her friends.
I worked from home three days a week, so I saw firsthand how she was spending her time.
She stopped cleaning up after herself completely, leaving dirty dishes in the sink for days, not doing her laundry until she ran out of clean clothes and treating our house like this.
I tried talking to Erica about it, and while she agreed that Simone needed to put in more effort, she was worried about pushing too hard.
She kept saying the job market was tough and Simone might be depressed about the situation.
I understood her concern, but I also felt we weren't doing Simone any favors by enabling this behavior.
We decided to have a family meeting.
We sat down with Simone and explained that while we understood the job market was challenging, she needed to show some initiative.
I even offered to help her look for opportunities through my business network.
We suggested she consider temporary work or even a job at a local coffee shop until something in her field came.
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Instead of appreciating our concern, she got angry and said she had a marketing degree from a good university and wouldn't degrade herself by working retail.
This pattern continued for six more months.
Every time we tried discussing jobs or asking her to contribute to household chores, she would either blow up at us or make empty promises to do better.
She started treating my house like her personal party pad, inviting friends over whenever we were out and using our things without asking.
Once, I found out she had been using my home office and computer when I wasn't home, claiming she needed it for job applications.
The final straw came last week.
I had a client meeting canceled and came home early to find Simone hosting a party with about ten of her friends.
They had made a huge mess in my living room, were drinking my collection of expensive whiskey, some bottles worth hundreds of dollars, and had ordered over $200 worth of food using my credit card without permission.
When I confronted her about it, she just shrugged and said, it's not like you can't afford it.
That's when I lost my temper.
I told everyone to leave immediately and inform Simone she needed to move out by the end of the month.
She started crying and saying she had nowhere to go that her old apartment had already been rented out and all her friends lived in small places.
Erica backed me up this time and said she agreed that this behavior couldn't continue.
We gave her two options, either start actively looking for work and contributing to the household or move out instead of taking either option seriously.
She spent the next week acting like nothing had happened.
She continued her same routine and even had the audacity to ask me for money to go shopping.
Yesterday, I finally put my foot down and told her she had 48 hours to leave.
She started screaming about how I was trying to destroy her life and how I never liked her because she was a reminder that Erica had a life before me.
Erica tried reasoning with her, explaining that this was about her behavior and not about our relationship, but Simone wouldn't listen.
She's now staying with a friend and has been posting on social media about how I'm a horrible person who kicked her out during a recession.
Some of our mutual friends are saying I'm being too harsh and should have given her more time since she's practically family.
But I feel like I've been more than patient for the past year.
Ida for finally putting my foot down.
Update 1
It's been two weeks since my last post and the situation has escalated beyond anything I could have imagined.
After Simone moved out, she started sending me threatening messages saying she would make me regret kicking her out.
At first, I didn't take them seriously.
I showed them to Erica and we both thought Simone was just angry and would calm down eventually.
The messages started getting more aggressive over the next few days.
She would send long paragraphs about how I had ruined her life and how she would make sure everyone knew what kind of person I really was.
She even started contacting my business associates on LinkedIn, telling them they should reconsider working with someone like me.
Then three days ago, I was served with legal papers at my office.
Simone is suing me for harassment and emotional distress.
According to her lawsuit, I created a hostile living environment and made her mental condition worser during her stay with us.
She claims I constantly belittled her career choices, made inappropriate comments about her appearance and lifestyle, and threatened to kick her out if she didn't comply with my unreasonable demands.
The lawsuit states that I forced her to do excessive household chores, monitored her movements, and restricted her access to food by installing locks on the kitchen cabinets.
None of this is true, we never even had locks on our cabinets.
She's also claiming that I deliberately sabotaged her job search by giving bad references to potential employers when they called.
Again, completely false because I never received any calls from employers and she wasn't even actively looking for jobs.
But the most shocking part is the amount she's demanding, $50,000 in damages for emotional distress and lost wages.
Her lawyer sent a settlement offer yesterday, saying they would drop the case if I paid $30,000 in issue to public apology.
They're threatening to go to the media if we don't comply.
Speaking of media, Simone has already started her publicity campaign.
She's been giving interviews to local news websites and blogs, painting herself as a victim.
She's created a social media page called surviving toxic step parents where she shares her story and encourages others to share similar experiences.
She's even started a bill fund me page to help with legal expenses in her fight against these type of things.
The whole situation has turned into a circus, some of our mutual friends have started taking her side without even asking for my version of events.
A couple of Eric's old friends from her mom's group have suggested that, as an older man dating her mother, I should have been more understanding and supportive.
A few have even implied that I had ulterior motives for letting her stay with us in the first place, suggesting things that make me sick to my stomach.
I've hired a lawyer who says we have a strong case since all her claims are baseless.
We have security camera footage from the common areas of the house that shows her daily routine.
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Sleeping late, hosting parties, and generally doing nothing productive.
We also have text messages where she admitted to using my credit card without permission, and her social media posts from the time period show her bragging about living rent-free and not having to work.
But the damage to my reputation is already done.
Two of my business partners called yesterday, concerned about the negative publicity.
I've had to explain the situation to several clients who saw Simone's social media posts.
Even my sister, who lives in another state, called to ask if what she was hearing was true.
Erica is absolutely devastated.
She can't believe her daughter would go to such lengths just to get revenge.
We've tried reaching out to Simone multiple times to resolve this outside of court, but she's refusing to talk to us unless we agree to her demands.
Earlier sent a message saying all communication should go through him.
The worst part is how Simone has turned this into a mother daughter issue.
She's telling anyone who will listen that her mother chose her rich boyfriend over her own daughter, and that we conspired to throw her out on the streets.
She's sharing childhood photos on social media with captions about how much things have changed since her mother found a new family.
Erica has been crying every night, torn between her love for her daughter and her knowledge of the truth.
She wants to reach out to Simone directly, but our lawyer advised against it since anything we say could be twisted and used against us in court.
Some of Erica's relatives have been calling her non-stop, asking how she could let this happen to her daughter.
I'm gathering all the evidence we have, security footage, text messages, credit card statements, social media posts, and witnesses who can testify about Simone's lifestyle during her stay with us.
Our lawyer is preparing our response to her lawsuit and will be filing a counter-suit for defamation and emotional distress.
I'll post another update after we file our response to her lawsuit.
Right now, I'm focused on supporting Erica through this nightmare while trying to save my business reputation.
It's unbelievable how quickly someone can try to destroy your life with false accusations.
Update 2
It's been a month since my last update, and everything has changed dramatically.
The court date was set for last week, and we were all preparing for an ugly legal battle.
But something unexpected happened two days before the hearing that turned the whole case upside down.
Erica was cleaning out their old shared iPad when she discovered that Simone had never logged out of her social media accounts.
She wasn't planning to snoop, but a message notification popped up that caught her attention.
It was from Simone's best friend, asking if the plan was still working.
Out of concern, Erica started reading through their old messages.
What she found was shocking.
Simone had been planning this lawsuit for months, long before we asked her to leave.
There were detailed conversations between her and her friends about how they could extract money from me.
The messages went back to just two months after she moved in with us.
In these messages, Simone openly admitted that she wasn't actually looking for jobs during her stay.
Instead, she was deliberately prolonging her unemployment to build a case against me.
She had been keeping a detailed diary of every interaction with me, twisting innocent conversations into something sinister.
She even instructed her friends on what to say if they were called as witnesses, creating false stories about seeing me act aggressively toward her.
The messages also revealed that Simone had been secretly recording conversations in our house, hoping to catch me saying something that could be used against me.
She had been intentionally provoking arguments, trying to get me to lose my temper on camera.
Thankfully, I had always maintained my composure during our confrontations.
When Erica confronted Simone with this evidence, showing up at her friend's apartment where she was staying, Simone initially tried to deny everything.
But when Erica started reading the messages out loud, Simone broke down.
She admitted that she and her friends had come up with the plan after they found out about my business success.
They thought that since I was well off, I would rather pay the settlement than deal with negative publicity.
Erica was heartbroken but decided to do the right thing.
She took all the evidence to our lawyer, who immediately filed it with the court.
The messages not only proved that Simone had filed a false lawsuit but also showed premeditation and conspiracy to commit fraud.
When Simone realized her own mother was going to testify against her, she panicked.
She tried to withdraw the lawsuit, claiming it was all a misunderstanding.
Her lawyer, after seeing the new evidence, immediately withdrew from the case.
But by then, it was too late to simply walk away.
The judge was furious about the attempted fraud.
During the hearing, she berated Simone for wasting the court's time and trying to use the legal system.
Not only was Simone's case dismissed with prejudice, but she was ordered to pay our legal fees, which had mounted to over $15,000.
The judge also referred the case to the District Attorney's Office for possible criminal charges related to the attempted fraud.
What made it worse was that several of Simone's friends, who have been involved in the scheme, are now facing potential legal consequences as well.
The friend who let her stay after we kicked her out has been named as a co-conspirator since the messages showed she was actively involved in planning the fraud.
We've completely cut Simone.
Erica changed her phone number and blocked Simone on all social media platforms.
She says she still loves her daughter but can't enable this kind of behavior anymore.
Some family members are pressuring us to forgive Simone, saying she's young and made a mistake, but we've decided to stand firm.
The whole experience has been eye-opening.
The same friends who were quick to believe Simone's lies are now awkwardly trying to apologize to us.
My business partners, after seeing the court documents, have been incredibly supportive.
But the trust in our community has been damaged, and it will take time to rebuild.
I'll post another update if anything significant happens, but for now, we're trying to move forward and heal from this betrayal.
Update 3
It's been six months since everything happened, and I felt I should share one final update.
Life has slowly started getting back to normal, though things will never be quite the same.
Erica and I got engaged last month, I proposed during a quiet dinner at home.
We're planning a small wedding next year, just close friends and family.
The aftermath of Simone's lawsuit has had lasting effects on everyone involved.
Her friend's father, who was a partner at a law firm, lost several clients when they found out his daughter had helped plan a fraudulent lawsuit.
The friend was fired from her job when her employer learned about her involvement.
As for Simone, she's been struggling to find work and marketing because the court documents about her fraud attempt are public record.
Over the past few months, Simone has been trying to reach out through various family members.
She started working at a retail store three months ago.
Ironically, the kind of job she had refused to consider when staying with her.
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Yes.
According to her aunt, who still keeps in touch with both sides, Simone claims she's learned her lesson and wants to make amends.
She sent several letters apologizing for her actions.
In them, she explains that she got caught up in her friend's influence and the idea of easy money.
She says she regrets trying to destroy my reputation and hurting her mother.
Last week, she even sent a check for $500 as the first installment toward paying back our legal fees.
But neither Erica nor I are ready to let her back into our lives.
The calculated nature of her actions, planning the fraud for months, trying to manipulate the legal system, attempting to destroy my business reputation, and worst of all, breaking her mother's heart.
It's not something we can just move past with a few apologies.
Erica still cries sometimes when she sees old photos or when someone mentions Simone.
She's in a mother support group now, connecting with other women who have had to distance themselves from their adult children.
It's helping her process the guilt and grief.
Some family members think we're being too harsh.
They argue that Simone is still young and deserves another chance.
Her grandmother especially has been pushing for reconciliation, saying life is too short to hold grudges.
But they didn't see the malice in those text messages or deal with the anxiety of facing false accusations.
The whole experience has changed how we view relationships and trust.
We've become more private, more careful about who we led into our lives.
My business has recovered, but I'm more cautious now about documenting everything and having clear boundaries with employees and clients.
We're focusing on our future together.
We bought a new house in a different neighborhood, somewhere without memories of Simone.
We're planning to start fresh after the wedding.
Maybe someday, years from now, we'll be ready to consider letting Simone back into our lives.
But for now, maintaining distance is the healthiest decision for everyone.
This will be my last update.
Thank you to everyone who supported us through this difficult time.
Sometimes the hardest part of being a parent or step-parent is knowing when to stop enabling destructive behavior, even when it breaks your heart to do so.

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