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What your financial issues don't have anything to do with finances or money? What if instead, it had to do with your relationship to the thing that you want?
In today's world, money is the main method people use to get the things that they want and need.
Because of this, we tend to immediately jump to the conclusion that the reason that we aren't
getting what we want is that we have a financial issue. In other words, that our problem is directly
related to money and our relationship with money itself. But what if I told you that your financial
issues may not have anything to do with your finances or money? What if instead it had to do with
your relationship to the thing that you want? Do me a favor and think about the thing that you
want or need, the thing that you think that you need money to get. Now, go ahead and take money
out of the middle so that your face to face in a very raw way with the thing that you want.
What is the pain about? How do you feel towards this thing emotionally? What painful thoughts arise?
It is in these painful thoughts and feelings that you can recognize what within you is
oppositional to the having of the thing that you want. So that you can grasp this concept,
I'll give you two examples. Kevin has been trying desperately to work his butt off at a job
so that he can climb the ladder of success and set himself up in life. No matter how hard he works,
things keep happening that prevent this from happening. He wants to have an income that's high
enough to be able to buy a house and a good car and to be able to provide for himself and a partner.
Why does he want this? Because Kevin really, and I mean really wants a woman in his life as a
life partner, he has identified finances as the necessary way to get this. Upon hearing the idea
that maybe his financial blockages are not about finances, but rather about his relationship to
the thing that he wants, he mentally takes finance out of the middle. So he's face to face with
his relationship to the thing that he wants, which is a female partner. And immediately his heart
sinks. He feels despair and doom. He hears the thoughts, no woman wants to be with a guy that
doesn't have his life together. And no woman is going to want to be with me. Beneath all of this,
is that Kevin feels the thing he wants will not want him. What this points to is that beneath
all of this is terrible self-esteem. What is blocking Kevin's abundance is not finances or blockages
about money. It is his belief that he is undesirable as a person. And so resolving this will do far
more regarding Kevin's abundance than focusing on finances or his mentality around money ever will.
Carmen has recently been putting a lot of time into watching financial experts talk about money
and investment strategy. She wants wealth. When she thinks about it, what she really wants wealth
for is a sense of freedom and personal power. She cannot stand it when she is forced to put up with
things that don't feel good just because she doesn't have the money. She hates that feeling
of powerlessness within human society and powerlessness to having the experiences that she
wants. She also loves that sense of freedom where you can do whatever you want and go wherever you
want and get whatever you want. When Carmen takes money out of the position of being the middleman
and is forced to face her relationship to freedom and her relationship to personal power.
You know, the things that she thinks that money is going to get her. Suddenly so many
oppositional patterns become obvious. One, her identity is completely wrapped up in being part
of the Mexican-American culture. Financial struggle and powerlessness is part of her cultural
identity. Suddenly she is afraid that having freedom and power and money for that matter would
change her identity in scary ways. Who would she be? Two, she realizes that her primary protection
strategy is to act small and helpless. This makes people step in and protect her and help her.
It disarms them. She realizes that having power makes her feel really unsafe because power
causes people to see who is a threat and treats you like one. Three, she realizes that personal
freedom feels sinful and morally dangerous because she was raised Catholic and was indoctrinated
with the belief that one should of course place God before their own self-interest, even if it means
self-sacrifice and suffering. Four, she realizes that as much as she is desperate for it, freedom
makes her feel like she has no safety net in life. Total freedom means that she is solely
responsible for her life, both for the getting of what she wants and for the failures and mistakes
she makes. This feeling feels like pressure and she's observed herself going back into the
security yet constraint of making other people responsible for her. It's as if she needs an
authority figure to feel safe in the world. What is blocking Carmen's abundance is not finances
or blockages about money. It's her relationship to personal power and freedom. And so resolving
this will do far more for her abundance than focusing on finances or her financial blockages
ever will. You might just notice by doing this that you are so stuck on finances as being the
only way that the thing you want or need can come to you, that even though you see finances as
the way to get what you want, you actually see finances as the barrier to getting what you want.
As the oppositional force to getting what you want. So on a subconscious level and energetic
level, you see finances as the bad guy and are in fact pushing against it. This mentality is a
pretty serious financial blockage in and of itself. The best place to start when it comes to taking
money as the middleman out of the equation is to sit as if in meditation and bring the image or
idea of what you want into your conscious awareness. You know the thing you think you want money
to get, right? Just observe your reaction. Pay close attention to your physical, emotional,
and mental reaction. When you first just think about the thing that you're wanting. And second,
when you think about already having the thing that you want. When any negative emotions or
uncomfortable sensations arise, see if you can identify them and see if you can identify any
negative thoughts, especially associated with them. Some things that you can consider when examining
your direct relationship to what you want. You know the thing you think you need money to get
are the following. Looking back at the last three times that you were close to getting this
thing that you want. Can you identify any patterns regarding what you think prevented you from
really getting it? Keep in mind that if the same external obstacle shows up, it can often point
to an internal defense mechanism that is masquerading as bad luck. If you were to watch yourself
in your life from the outside as if watching a movie character in a movie, what would you say
is preventing them from getting what they want? Also, what would you say about their relationship to
what they want if you're watching them from the outside? What was your relationship with this
thing that you want in childhood? What attitude do your parents, other authority figures, maybe even
siblings and peers have towards this thing that you want? Also, what is their relationship to it
themselves and what is their relationship to you having it? What attitude did your culture of
origin have to this thing that you want and what relationship did your culture have to you having
the thing that you want? Are there any traumas that you've experienced relative to this thing that
you want and do those experiences actually feel resolved or do they still feel unresolved?
If they're unresolved in what way? Are you using this thing that you want to try to get away from
something? If you wanted this thing so you never felt a certain way ever again, what might this
point to you desperately trying to avoid? Answer this question too. The thing I am afraid I would
have to become to get fill in the blank with what you want is what attitude do the people you
currently spend time with or does the culture you currently live in have towards this thing that
you want? If money can't be the answer and you were to ask yourself the question, why don't I
already have this thing that I want? What answer immediately and spontaneously comes up?
If you were to ask yourself the question, what is the thing that I want's relationship to me?
What answer immediately and spontaneously comes up? How might having this thing that you want
change your identity, especially in scary ways? When you ask yourself the question,
what bad thing will happen as a result of me getting fill in the blank with what you want?
What answer immediately and spontaneously comes up? If you had the thing that you want,
what would be the biggest risk? Now complete this sentence. If I had fill in the blank with what
you want, the price I would have to pay for it is, if you knew you didn't have this thing you
want because you didn't deserve it, what would be the reason that you don't deserve it? And what would
you have to do in order to deserve it? When you think about getting the thing that you want,
do you run up against any feelings or thoughts regarding your own capability or competence?
Complete this sentence. If I stopped struggling for the thing that I want, I would have to face
fill in the blank. When you watch every single thing that you do over the course of an entire day
and over the course of a whole week, how much of the things that you do directly serve the
getting of the specific thing that you want? And when you examine what you get out of doing
each thing that you do, can you identify something that you are subconsciously far more committed to
than the thing that you say that you want? This may take some reflections, some soul searching,
some being with uncomfortable emotions and some deep inner questioning, but improving your
relationship directly with the thing that you want tends to do more for unblocking financial
blockages, more for your abundance overall, and more for the getting of what you are actually
wanting than focusing on money ever will. Despite it being the financial blockage that almost
no one talks about, have a good week.



