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The Wedding Night documentary | Rachel Elitzur
About this Episode
video version of this episode: https://youtu.be/RK7_--5f0Tc
What happens when intimacy is expected before it’s understood?
The Wedding Night is a striking and deeply intimate documentary by Orthodox filmmaker Rachel Elitzur. It explores a rarely discussed reality inside ultra-Orthodox Jewish life: couples who marry after only a handful of supervised dates, then face the expectation of consummating their marriage on the wedding night.
The film grows out of Elitzur’s own traumatic wedding-night experience, which led her to seek out others with similar stories. Many participants felt unable to appear on camera, so their voices are heard anonymously, paired with carefully staged reenactments performed by actors. A very unusual method of storytelling. In the shorter version published in the New York Times in December 2025, the actors were totally removed.
📰 Here is a shorter version of this story appeared in The New York Times:
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/12/02/opinion/ultra-orthodox-jewish-wedding-night.html
🎥 Here is the full extended documentary The Wedding Night can be watched here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lOnex1o5h8&t=5s
🎬 Instagram link to filmmaker: Rachel Elitzur
https://www.instagram.com/elitzurachel/
This film connects to broader conversations I’ve explored on this channel about sex, intimacy, silence, and expectation in Orthodox and Hasidic communities:
• How Hasidic teens learn about sex
https://youtu.be/Gk917OpgS_Q
• My own painful experience leaving an arranged marriage
https://youtu.be/GvLO9Vhid44
• An intimacy coach shares delicate, rarely voiced perspectives
https://youtu.be/AUdw8W71Gv8
• Pearl, a Hasidic woman, speaks about her own and her children’s matchmaker marriages
https://youtu.be/yQ_GgbC9RD4
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-frieda-vizel-podcast--5824414/support.
What happens when intimacy is expected before it’s understood?
The Wedding Night is a striking and deeply intimate documentary by Orthodox filmmaker Rachel Elitzur. It explores a rarely discussed reality inside ultra-Orthodox Jewish life: couples who marry after only a handful of supervised dates, then face the expectation of consummating their marriage on the wedding night.
The film grows out of Elitzur’s own traumatic wedding-night experience, which led her to seek out others with similar stories. Many participants felt unable to appear on camera, so their voices are heard anonymously, paired with carefully staged reenactments performed by actors. A very unusual method of storytelling. In the shorter version published in the New York Times in December 2025, the actors were totally removed.
📰 Here is a shorter version of this story appeared in The New York Times:
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/12/02/opinion/ultra-orthodox-jewish-wedding-night.html
🎥 Here is the full extended documentary The Wedding Night can be watched here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lOnex1o5h8&t=5s
🎬 Instagram link to filmmaker: Rachel Elitzur
https://www.instagram.com/elitzurachel/
This film connects to broader conversations I’ve explored on this channel about sex, intimacy, silence, and expectation in Orthodox and Hasidic communities:
• How Hasidic teens learn about sex
https://youtu.be/Gk917OpgS_Q
• My own painful experience leaving an arranged marriage
https://youtu.be/GvLO9Vhid44
• An intimacy coach shares delicate, rarely voiced perspectives
https://youtu.be/AUdw8W71Gv8
• Pearl, a Hasidic woman, speaks about her own and her children’s matchmaker marriages
https://youtu.be/yQ_GgbC9RD4
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-frieda-vizel-podcast--5824414/support.
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