When You Feel Bored with Your Own Business {B'Day Fun D7 Ep 214}

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Hi everyone and welcome to this episode of Tuesday Talks with Darlene. Today let's talk

about when you feel bored with your own business. Now before I start, please like, subscribe,

share, comment, everything. That helps me to get the message out there. I would love for this

YouTube video this episode and my channel to go, you know, get a lot larger. I would have really

appreciated it. Thank you. Now there's a phase in business that no one really prepares you for.

The beginning is exciting. Everything is so new. Every when feels electric. Every idea feels so

urgent that you just have to do every one of them and then one day you realize it all feels familiar,

predictable and maybe even a little dull. That doesn't mean that you're failing at anything.

It doesn't mean you've outgrown everything and it definitely doesn't mean that you need to

burn everything down. No, it doesn't mean that at all. You might think it does, but it doesn't.

It just means that you're evolving. Now, boredom, it could be a sign of mastery.

What once felt stretching now feels repeatable. That is fantastic. That means things are working

and that's not stagnation. That is actually competence. You've heard of the four, what is it?

The incompetence, not me, whatever. You've now got to the competence because everything feels

repeatable. It feels like you can do it easily. This is because you've built systems,

skills and that muscle memory. It's really good. It's so good, isn't it? The nervous system

settles once something becomes familiar. Just tune in now to your body. What is happening when

you think of your business? Does it feel relaxed? Does it feel exciting? Those two are fantastic.

When the adrenaline of the new fades but steadiness replaces it, that is when your nervous system settles.

And steadiness can feel boring if you're used to the intensity, you're used to the adrenaline.

That was me. I was in a career where adrenaline was so important. It was needed.

And when I let go of that career, my body didn't know what to do. I would work on my business,

and I would need that height. I needed it. It got me through until I learnt. I didn't need that

anymore. I didn't need that height because I'd learnt other ways of recognising wins and

that in my business, without that adrenaline. Because when you master things, it doesn't feel

dramatic. It feels grounded because your nervous system settled. And grounded can be misinterpreted

as uninspired if you are quite excitement with growth, which is what I did. That adrenaline,

that excitement for me, I'm growing, I'm growing, I'm growing. And steadiness doesn't mean

you stop changing. It doesn't mean that at all. Because if you're aware, growth is quieter than

overreaction. Big reactive change can be, this is just coming from me, can be loud. It could be

deleting offers, rebranding overnight, pivoting impulsively, just to feel that momentum again,

to feel that adrenaline, to get that height. It can be addictive. And I was well aware

that because of my career, because of needing that adrenaline, I was addicted to it. And I needed

to relearn how to live life without it, how to run a business without needing the adrenaline,

because I don't need the adrenaline. The adrenaline is there for emergencies, for when I need to fight

or flight or whatever. That is when the adrenaline is important. Your real growth is deliberate.

It might be refining your positioning, deepening your message, raising standards instead of replacing

everything. Restlessness doesn't require destruction. You don't need to be a volcano. Sometimes it

actually requires direction. I want you before you make any big moves. I want you to understand

what boredom is actually asking for. If you are feeling bored, instead of doing something, pause.

And actually ask, say boredom, what are you telling me? Because when you talk to the boredom,

when you talk to that aspect of you, the answers that come through can be so profound, even if it's

one word. We don't need a whole conversation to get their awareness. One word can be enough.

When you pause, I want you to identify the real source of the restlessness. Are you creatively

underestimulated? You may need challenge, not collapse. Are you misaligned with your messaging?

This calls for refinement, not reinvention. It may do. Of course, there comes a point where you

may need to reinvent. That's okay. Listen or ask. Or are you simply craving novelty?

That's human. We are human beings. And this doesn't mean that your business is failing. It doesn't

mean you're not being a good business owner. You're being a good business owner by listening.

Boredom is information and it's not an emergency. Once you treat it as information, your response

becomes more measured. Because we're responding, not reacting. Those two mean something totally

different. Reacting is more when there's an emergency. When you react, you come from the emergency

side of it. When you respond, you come from a calmer place. Because in business, for me personally,

there's no real emergency. I went a whole, I think, was two weeks without having a website,

because I was changing things over. That wasn't an emergency. I didn't get online. I didn't

like panic and go, oh my goodness. I don't know. No, I just like, okay, you know what? I will not

won't have a website for a while. At the time for recording this, I am having trouble transferring

my episodes over from the first four seasons. And I'm still not panicking. They are still not

out there on Apple and Spotify. All of these episodes are because I'm with a new host.

I'm not panicking, though, because you know what? I'm going to rebirth. When they go over,

I'm going to have like a bit of a logic ceremony and say, guess what? My episodes are back on

Apple and Spotify. I'm not panicking. And that is so cool. In the past, I would have panicked

like crazy. The adrenaline would have been going. My cortisol levels would have been crazy.

And now I'm like, you know what? I can't worry about it. It's out of my control. I'm doing everything

I can. And there's a back and forth. And yes, it's a little frustrating. You can hear it in my voice.

You can, if you're watching on YouTube, you can see it in my manner. I'm not worried.

I'm not bored with my business. I love my business. And when things happen,

I want you to adjust without burning it down. You don't need to burn things down. Why not update

one layout of your business at a time? It could be your messaging. Or maybe even those beautiful

visuals that you do. Or what about the delivery? Not your entire identity.

Add stimulation inside structure. And there are going to be people that say, but I don't like

structure structures, boring, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Every single thing in life is a

structure of some kind. Without structure, you are confused. And yes, I am getting

firm with this because quite frankly, I'm sick and tired of people saying, I can't do structure,

blah, blah, blah. Guess what? You can't run a business profitably without structure.

Guess what? You've got structure when you create content. That structure. Okay, I'm going to create

the content. Then I go to visuals and then I go to do that. Guess what? That structure.

So I'm getting firm with you. You need the structure. If you want to make money in your business

and you want to bet on board employees or whatever, you need structure.

Now you might have new content angles. There might be deeper climate conversations. And there

might be higher level problems to solve when you look at the adjusting things. You might actually

raise your own standards instead of chasing the newness. Now, those standards could be boundaries.

It could be whatever it is because often, boredom fades when your expectations expand.

I'm going to say that again, often boredom fades when your expectations expand.

And this is a form of maturity. I'm not saying that you're immature. I'm just saying it's,

if you want to use the word wisdom, it's a level of wisdom. It's a level of awareness.

And you don't need to react to every internal shift. As I said, reactions is for emergencies.

What happens when you have internal shifts? You assess. And this is where experience in

business really shows. As you have that experience, you realise that long-term success requires

emotional regulation. And that is why I keep talking about reaction and responding.

If you want long-term success, response is the way to go. Not reaction.

Because not every uncomfortable season in business requires a dramatic change. And you see it on

social media. Oh, look at me. I've had to do this. And can I tell you, most of those are just fake.

It is a clickbait. There is so much clickbait out there now that you don't know what's real and

what's not. Follow those that you know are authentic, that you know are real and are not creating

clickbait. Because those people that are creating clickbait will eventually fade.

And you won't remember them.

When you have change, it requires patience. And lasting growth

includes neutral seasons, not just expansion spikes. We need to rest. We need to relax.

It is so important. Think about the earth. It's not growing all the time. It has times of

rest and relaxation. And the ability to stay steady when things feel ordinary is what separates

the professionals from the perpetual beginners. And I mean the perpetual beginners, the ones that

feel like they're always in the beginning stage. Excitement is not the only metric of alignment.

Now if you're feeling bored with your business right now, pause before you interpret that as

failure. You may not be stuck. You may simply be ready for a deeper level of refinement.

Business doesn't stay illiterate forever. I do not mean too. You can have periods of that

electricity and that is awesome. And that is going to happen in business. Businesses mature.

There is wisdom. And so when this wisdom happens, your role shifts from chasing the adrenaline

to working with intention. Because as I said, growth doesn't require demolition. It requires

disarmament. And disarmament with who you work with, including clients and coaches.

Because not everyone is right for you, for your energy.

Sometimes the most powerful move you can make is to refine what actually works instead of starting

over just to feel something again. Thank you so much for watching, listening, subscribing,

liking, sharing and commenting. I really do appreciate your time and your energy.

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