Why Dating Is A Failed Concept

Why is dating broken? 

Why are young men flooding back to church? 

In this conversation, I sit down with Patrick Coffin: Catholic broadcaster, close-up magician, and host of The Patrick Coffin Show. We go deep on the real reasons relationships are falling apart: and it goes back further than you think.

We cover:  → Why dating is a failed concept (and what humans actually need)  → The 3 "divorces" that broke Western civilization  → How your image of God shapes your attachment style  → Why empaths and narcissists can't stop finding each other  → The difference between emotional permanence and emotional impermanence  → What the Traditional Latin Mass has to do with secure attachment  → Why "spiritual but not religious" is code for "I don't want to be challenged"  → The biochemistry of feeling loved (oxytocin, vasopressin, and cortisol)  → How to repair after conflict: the skill most families lost 120 years ago Plus: Patrick performs a live magic trick that lands.

This is the intersection of faith, neuroscience, and attachment theory: the stuff that actually changes how you bond.

🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Patrick Coffin's Podcast: https://patrickcoffin.media  True North Community: https://patrickcoffin.media

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