You're GOING TO Want to GIVE UP | EP 007

In this episode, Phil Bohol talks about the relentless pursuit of personal growth and self-actualization. He compares individual challenges, emphasizing that true effort varies from person to person, and warns against letting ego and pride dictate one's perception of success. Phil shares his own struggles to illustrate the universal nature of this journey, urging us to seek out our unique potential and embrace the hardships as part of our growth. He insists that life's purpose is an ongoing quest, demanding continuous effort and resilience. This episode is a call to action, challenging us to reject complacency, confront our inner weaknesses, and relentlessly pursue our true calling.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

Timestamps:

(01:37) - Give Your Very Best

(03:05) - The Hard Road Ahead

(05:03) - This Game Doesn’t Stop

(06:37) - Pushing Beyond Your Limits

(08:19) - Hearing The Call

(11:18) - Fighting Your Lower Self

How many more days?

How many more weeks?

How many more months?

How many more years?

If you're like me, you choose.

I'm f*cking done.

Now.

I choose discomfort now.

I choose to live the best life I could live, even if that means I have to suffer in the short term.

[00:00:30] A little f*cking blip in my life.

One month, one year, five years, ten years?

In comparison to the rest of my life?

F*ck it.

It is what it is.

I gotta do what I gotta do.

[00:01:00] You're gonna want to give up so many times.

There's gonna be so many times in your journey of wanting to change your entire f*cking life that you're suddenly gonna look in the mirror and ask yourself, “Why the f*ck am I doing this? It seems like nothing is going my way. It seems like every time I try, some more sh*t happens.

When the f*ck am I ever gonna get a break? When the f*ck is it actually going to be easy this time? When is it going to be easy for me to finally f*cking win? I feel like I've tried and I've tried and I've tried.”

[00:01:30] Here's the truth, brutal truth.

You haven't tried nearly enough as you think you have to your ability.

Think about somebody that goes to the gym, somebody who can deadlift 500 pounds tries very hard.

[00:02:00] Somebody who can only deadlift 50 pounds also tries very hard, but that's only based on their level.

50 pounds?

It's not a lot of weight.

500 pounds is a lot of weight.

But to both people, because of where they're at in their journey, both feel like it's extremely hard to lift that weight.

But you got to understand this.

What you feel here, lifting 50 pounds of weight?

To somebody else, it's like, it's not really that bad.

[00:02:30] So I'm telling you right now, from a guy that f*cking came from nothing, what you're going through right now, the trials that you're going through right now, not that bad.

Trust me, I get it, I know.

“Phil, you don't f*cking get it. You've never been in my position. You've never done the sh*t that I've done. You've never had to go through the exact very f*cking thing that I'm going through right now.”

Look, I get it.

You've never done the sh*t that I've had to go through either, but you don't see me here bitching and moaning about where I was struggling.

You don't see me bitching and moaning about how hard it was for me.

[00:03:00] What you see for me is, “Oh, that was part of my journey. Oh, that was part of my process of growth.”

I want you to understand one of the biggest f*cking things, man.

If somebody could have ever taught me this sh*t, it was to tell me that ego and pride actually exist in life.

See, our ego, our pride, tells us that we're trying our f*cking best.

We're doing the best that we could possibly do on a daily, weekly, monthly, annual f*cking basis.

[00:03:30] We've tried for years to win, and it's just not f*cking working.

And our ego says that's enough.

You're doing enough.

You're doing f*cking great.

The reality is no, that's just the weakest version of us, the bitch in us, it's telling us that it's enough, but it's not.

Think about it, what you want out of life.

You got any friends that have that life?

You got family?

That's got the life?

[00:04:00] Who the f*ck do you know in your life that has the life, the exact life, that you want?

If you're like me, f*cking nobody.

There's not one person in your life that actually lives it, that has actually inspired you.

And if there is that one f*cking unicorn in your life, guarantee you don't know what they had to go through unless they were f*cking silver spoon fed.

You don't know what somebody had to go through from hardship, struggling, survival mode to abundance.

[00:04:30] So you gotta understand, whatever the f*ck you're going through, it's gonna get harder.

You're going to want to give up so many f*cking times, you're gonna look at your day and you're gonna be like, “God damn bro, when the f*ck is this sh*t gonna be done? I am so f*cking tired of not sleeping. I'm so f*cking tired of trying, and trying, and trying, and sh*t still not going my f*cking way.”

[00:05:00] I want you to understand you're gonna go through that sh*t.

Who knows what that timeline's gonna look like, by the way.

It's different for you as it is for me.

From 10 years old for me, until I was about 26.

That's 16 f*cking years.

I didn't understand happiness or joy.

All I felt was wrath.

Literally tattooed on my body for a reason.

I didn't even understand that for my whole f*cking life, I've been trying to figure out who I am.

I've been trying to self actualize.

[00:05:30] I've been trying to find my purpose in this f*cking world.

Otherwise, I was just gonna take my life.

I want you to understand, I started my personal development journey so f*cking young.

I had to.

That's how I had to survive.

You might just be starting this year, this month, this week, this day.

You might have just started just a couple years ago.

But I want you to understand, your personal development journey is the very thing that's gonna make or break you.

Because this f*cking game, it doesn't stop.

There's no, there's actually no f*cking finish line.

[00:06:00] Whoever the f*ck told you that there's a finish line to this game, the only finish line that you're ever gonna have is your f*cking death.

That's the f*cking finish line.

Everything between now and then, free game, motherf*cker.

You're gonna have to go through so much sh*t.

You're gonna achieve the highest of highs.

You're gonna experience the greatest sh*t in your f*cking life.

And then God is gonna test you again.

And He's gonna say, ‘Well, let's see. Let's see if you still deserve it at this point.”

The universe will start putting sh*t in your path.

[00:06:30] And you're gonna be like, “Well, what the f*ck? I've been doing everything right. I finally achieved a level. I've been doing everything right, and what the f*ck is this?”

It's going to happen and you got to understand that that's normal because every time you grow, your potential grows.

And if your potential is constantly growing, that means that the hardships must continue.

The hardships must get harder.

The trials must get harder because you have to get stronger because your potential is calling you to get there.

[00:07:00] And the only way you're ever going to self actualize to that potential is by being challenged.

Especially when you don't want to be.

On the days where you're like, “F*ck, if something else pushes me over this goddamn f*cking fence, I'm f*cking done. I'm f*cking done.”

[00:07:30] It's gonna be those days where that f*cking trial shows up and you're gonna be like, “Goddamn motherf*cker. Again. Of course, out of all the f*cking times, for some sh*t to go wrong, right f*cking now, of course.”

And you're gonna get to that point, and God, the universe, life is gonna ask you, ‘Well, what the f*ck are you gonna do, motherf*cker? Are you gonna get so pissed, That you go back into your shell? That you show yourself how small you are? Or are you actually gonna step up this time? Are you actually gonna do something this time? Get to the next level. Again, prove to yourself you're not some f*cking one-hit-wonder.”

You actually got it in you.

Are you willing to dig in you to find that motherf*cker again?

[00:08:00] Prove to yourself again, time and time again, are you willing to do it?

Because the times where you want to have that rest, that time where,

“F*ck. I just wanna breathe, bro. I just wanna f*cking please. Just God, give me some time to f*cking breathe.”

That's where everything starts to shatter.

And during that process, you have to hear the silence.

You have to cut out all the bullsh*t, all the noise.

And you need to start f*cking listening.

[00:08:30] Listen for that whisper.

The guide.

The calling.

What's calling to you, motherf*cker?

You gotta realize that there's something bigger than you happening.

There's something bigger at stake here.

It's not just you.

But through you, you're gonna be able to find this bigger calling, this bigger f*cking purpose.

[00:09:00] And it f*cking sucks because you're gonna be the person that has to sacrifice to become who you need to be that the other people in your life need you to be.

You think that this game is for you?

No, there's something calling to you.

That thing that's calling to you is saying, ‘You're gonna be a f*cking vessel, motherf*cker. And through you, we're gonna change f*cking lives. We're gonna have a massive impact, and you will be the one to sacrifice. You've been voluntold, motherf*cker.’

We don't get to choose this.

If you've been chosen, and sh*t's gonna happen, it's gonna happen through you. And you can either do one of two things.

[00:09:30] You can either say, “Hey, that's not me, that's not my responsibility, I'm a weak motherf*cker, and even though, like, I feel called to do this f*cking thing in my life, I'm just gonna back the f*ck down.”

That's gonna be the biggest f*cking regret of your life.

You're gonna get to the end of your f*cking journey in this life, and you're gonna look back to this f*cking moment, where you could f*cking, just, “LET'S F*CKING GO! Let's get it!”

And you didn't do it.

And you didn't step up.

And you didn't do what it took for you to self actualize.

[00:10:00] On your f*cking deathbed, that's gonna be the very thing that you regret the most.

Or right now, in the hardest f*cking time, right now.

You can choose to dig deep.

You can choose to ask yourself, “Well who the f*ck am I? What am I willing to do? How far am I willing to f*cking go? How, on f*cking empty, can I keep taking this f*cking path right now, before I actually break down? How far? How fast can I move? How fast can I decide? How fast can I execute?”

[00:10:30] And every single day it's like that for f*cking years, it feels like.

It might be.

You don't know.

And all you can do is push.

And all you can do is believe that this is all for a f*cking purpose.

Isn't that the purpose?

Every single day, seeking your purpose?

Seeking to see, is this what I'm supposed to be doing with my f*cking life?

Is this my life's f*cking purpose?

Isn't that the point?

[00:11:00] When's the last time you actually felt that in your life?

When's the last time you actually felt called, pulled, to do something bigger?

I bet you it's been a long time.

Because I bet you've been in a goddamn shell this whole time in your life.

And for some reason, now you're called to watch this.

Now you're called to listen to this.

Now you're hearing the calling.

[00:11:30] But now, all of the f*cking bullsh*t that you've had in your life, all of the bad habits, the self sabotage, all of the times where you just don't believe in you, right now, they're all gonna surface.

Cause you start hearing that f*cking calling, your lower self is calling to you too, ‘Come back, motherf*cker. Come back, it's comfortable over here. You don't gotta worry about your purpose. You don't gotta worry about that. Somebody else can deal with that. You? You're good. You don't have to worry about that sh*t. Just relax.’

And most of you motherf*ckers are gonna listen.

[00:12:00] And you're gonna fail yourself.

And you're gonna lose that purpose because somebody else will take that spot.

Somebody else will be the world changer.

Somebody else will have that impact that you could've had.

That could've been f*cking you.

But you didn't dig deep enough.

You didn't have the courage to look inward.

You didn't have courage to look at all your f*cking darkness and say, “You're mine, motherf*cker. You don't own me. I own you, bitch.”

That's what you gotta understand.

Everything weak inside of you.

[00:12:30] You have power over, but if you continue to give it power over you.

So I want you to understand in this game, you better be ready for a f*cking fight.

This is the fight of your f*cking life.

And every f*cking simpleton out there that thinks all you do in this world is work a f*cking 9 to 5 job and that's all you do until you retire.

Do not listen to the sheep of the world.

[00:13:00] Life is bigger, everything is bigger than this bullsh*t that's being fed to you.

Just understand in the days where you felt the most alive is because you were actually connected to life.

You were connected to a calling.

You were connected to a purpose.

When is the f*cking last time you felt called to something like that?

How many more years do you want to go by where you keep playing this f*cking victim?

[00:13:30] This person that thinks that something outside of them is the reason why they fail at life.

That they don't have everything that they want in life.

How many years has to go by?

Until you're so f*cking old that it's too late to f*cking do anything about it.

How many more days?

How many more weeks?

How many more months?

How many more years?

If you're like me, you choose.

I'm f*cking done.

Now.

I choose discomfort now.

[00:14:00] I choose to live the best life I can live, even if that means I have to suffer in the short term.

A little f*cking blip in my life.

One month, one year, five years, ten years?

In comparison to the rest of my life?

F*ck it. It is what it is.

I gotta do what I gotta do.

Because I'm done living this bullsh*t life that everybody else lives, that everybody bitches and moans about, but does nothing about.

[00:14:30] Does nothing about it.

What the f*ck is the point knowing that you got a problem and you do nothing about it?

What's the point?

You just act hard, you just think you're hard, because you recognize that you got a f*cking problem, but you're too f*cking pussy to do anything about it?

To get into a f*cking state of action?

To actually get f*cking mad at your situation?

Finally wanting to create change and actually executing to create the change.

[00:15:00] You got to understand out of a hundred people, there's only one, there's always one that will succeed that will outperform the 99 percent because the 99 percent are fat and happy doing f*cking nothing with their lives, not willing to sacrifice.

Not understanding what the f*ck sacrifice even means.

Yet they feel entitled to something.

They feel entitled to money.

They feel entitled to success.

They feel entitled to having a purpose.

[00:15:30] You earn your purpose, b*tch.

Understand that.

On a daily basis, you have to find it.

On a daily basis, you have to earn it.

On a daily basis, you have to prove it.

Now is the time to prove it.

[00:16:00] You're either gonna f*ckin be a talker for the rest of your f*ckin life and regret that you never tapped into your purpose, or today you're gonna embrace the f*ckin suck and choose discomfort, choose to grow, choose to unlock that purpose that's been lying dormant inside of you.

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