003 | PAYING THE PRICE: Word to the 3rd (W3) with Toby Brooks

I am a musician. I have been a drummer since beating on my mom’s pots and pans when I was three. I love most music—especially hip hop. When I was 16, I tore my ACL and had to have surgery. The day I got home from the procedure, I was stuck in bed and I had gotten a new CD in the mail from Columbia House: a new release by the hip hop group Third Bass. I listened to that disc on repeat for the next week, and the catchy beats and fun, light-hearted lyrics helped pull me out of what I now know was post-op depression. It seems fitting, then, that one of my favorite cuts from that album would serve as the name of the recurring segment that will appear every third episode on my show about pulling out of our low places and finding our new victory.

Leadership expert John Maxwell once said, “I’ve discovered that the price of change usually comes sooner than you think, is higher than you imagined it would be, and must be paid more often than expected.”

I’m learning that if I want to find success in my life—true success that is lasting and worthwhile, it requires me to knowingly and willingly pay the price.

This past summer, I completed the 75Hard challenge made popular by podcast personality and entrepreneur Andy Frisella. To complete the challenge, you have to commit to 75 straight days of 5 things: two 45-minute workouts with one of them being outside, sticking to a meal plan with no alcohol and no cheat meals, drinking a gallon or more of water, reading 10 pages in a development book, and taking a progress photo. If you miss even one thing on any day, you have to start back at day one. It’s tough. But it isn’t called 75 easy.

Maxwell says that paying the price is a three-stage process, and I can’t argue. First, we have to LEARN. Every day should be tackled with curiosity. “What do I need to learn today that I didn’t know yesterday?” I was NEVER a reader growing up. In college, I struggled with the assigned readings. But as I’ve become more focused on growth, I have come to realize how important that reading assignment is, and it is serving me well.

The second stage is UNLEARNING. “What do I need to let go of today that I held onto yesterday?” Pride and arrogance make us hard to teach. It’s tough to hold new ideas in hands that are gripping tightly to old ones. Unlearning means being vulnerable and open. It is rarely comfortable. But the toughest questions and hardest answers are necessary steps to the richest growth.

Lastly, Maxwell says we have to RELEARN. “What do I need to change today that I was doing yesterday?” New habits, new strategies, and new ideas are all mandatory if I hope to claim new territories in my life.

For me, this has taken the shape of a three-step process that I repeat to myself regularly each and every day: Strategic in Purpose. Relentless in Pursuit. Better Every day.

Plan the work. Work the plan. And move the needle ever so slightly in the pursuit of being better. I don’t always achieve it. But that’s the goal. Not better than you. Not better than some arbitrary standard. Better than me yesterday.

That’s the goal of Paying the Price, and this has been Word to the 3rd. I’m Toby Brooks, and I am Un-Done. 

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