1580 - Kathy on Losing her Virginity, her First Threesome With a Chick and More Q&A

0:00Welcome to the Strickly Anonymous Podcast. Strickly Anonymous Podcasts conversations with online strangers. We place ads online. The Craigslist is definitely like the gift that keeps on giving. Real people respond. People are terrible and tired, and you cannot do it. The temptation is too long to help. Real power. Your friend know that you're banging her now. No, he has no idea. And anything goes. Motto of the show, let your freak flag fly. Probably the only good advice I'll ever give you is to rehind your whips and chain. Here is your host, Kathy. Hey, welcome to the Strickly Anonymous Podcast with Kathy. If you want to follow the Strickly Anonymous Podcast on Instagram or Twitter, follow the show at Strickly Anonymous. So today, since it is Labor Day, we get it. Most people are checked out having fun. Like, I'm going to be OK. I'm going to check out and have fun on the left. They have my most favorite season, which is summer. It's over. I'm so depressed. But anyway, I'm going to be out and about.

1:01Same with everybody else. So I'm doing repeats Friday through Sunday. Monday will be a new episode, and it'll be a hot check. I promise. But today is a repeat episode, and each repeat episode on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, I promise, or killer apps. I only repeat episodes that are the best of the best. So today, I have on, actually, episode 740, that was not a repeat episode. OK. That was a redo episode, actually, called in to talk about how she fucked her best friend, stepped out, and mom. Oh my god. And then she gave such a great update at the end. If you didn't listen to that episode ever in your life, go listen to it. It's 10,000 times better. I believed her this time. I knew her story was real, so I didn't ruin it. But what we did talk about on that episode was Ashley had called in around my 500th episode time. When was that probably like many years ago, like three years ago? Two or three years ago. And she wanted to interview me for my 500th episode.

2:05And I'm like, oh, what a great idea. This is before I knew what I was going to do. But I knew I wanted to do something for my 500th. Am I saying that right? Episode? That had to do with me. I never really talked about myself. So she suggested she would interview me, and we decided that she would come up with questions. I wouldn't know anything about the questions ahead of time. I like to just do things very organically and spur the moment. I didn't want to know what she was asking me. I didn't give her any feedback. She just came on and asked me a bunch of questions. And I answered them. Now, I never aired this episode, even though we took that time many years ago to tape the whole thing. Because I decided to change things up after me and her did those questions. I thought, oh, maybe I should get my old co-hosts to interview me for my 500th episode. I thought that would be fucking killer. I tried reaching out to him. He, of course, flaky as usual.

3:06That's why he was fired. He never did it. I tried to get Robert Kelly to do it. He's fucking flaky, too. Never got back to me. He wouldn't do it. Fuck off, everyone. I don't really care. So I decided to do what I always do, which is do it. My fucking self. I put a call out to my listeners, like, what do you want to know for my 500th episode? And they came up with some really great questions. And I wound up doing it that way. No offense, Ashley, because I know you're listening to this. The reason why I decided to do that instead of air this episode is because I felt like most of my listeners would want to know more about sex, more salacious stuff. She does ask about sex the last 20 minutes is all about sex. And we do talk about it. But this episode is interesting, too. So I decided to air it, because we did take the time. I did answer all these questions. A lot of my Patreon members know answers to these questions, because I do Q&As on Patreon for them all the time and talk more about myself over there. But I don't do it typically on my podcast.

4:08So this is for people who listen to my show that want to know more about me. She asked me a bunch of questions, like, how did I start my show? Why do I do a podcast to begin with? Did I always want to do a podcast? Like, what up? My childhood was like, what I was doing in my 20s. Have I ever been in love? She asks about having a child way later in life. She asks me what my toxic personality trait is, all kinds of different questions. Worst call, best call, scandalous calls. She asks for best and worst sex stories for me, three some stories, whether I've ever been swinging. My favorite fantasy, whether I'd ever be with two guys, that kind of stuff. So we get into all of it. It is very different. Like I said, then my 500th episode, and that's why I'm airing it. Why not? I think starting in January of this year, which it is right now, I'm going to be doing four episodes a week.

5:08So is this a bonus episode? I don't know. I think this is just my extra episode that I'm starting to air. And that extra episode will be something different each week. Probably not more of what I do the other days. Probably something a little bit different and or interesting. I don't know, I'm still thinking about it. But anyway, this is an interview with me. You're going to find out some interesting stuff. If you really want to get more salacious stuff, listen to my 500th episode. And if you did listen to my 500th episode and you listened to this, let me know if you think I made the right decision. But this one is definitely going to be interesting as well. So hope you enjoy it. Ashley took the time to come up with these questions. She's great. You're going to love her questions. So I'm going to be right back on with Ashley and me. And this is the Strickly Anonymous Podcast. Strickly Anonymous Podcast. Hey, Ashley. Welcome back to the Strickly Anonymous Podcast. You're here in a different way today.

6:09Thank you so much for having me. You know, I'm excited. I'm excited. It's funny. I over time, for as long as I've been doing my show, people have wrote it. And I always said, like, why don't you do an episode about you? Well, I'll blog. Lately, it's been ramped up a bit because I do show some of myself on YouTube and some of people have just wanted to know more. And I was like, OK, my 500th episode is coming up. And I was thinking I'm going to have that Q&A with me. I'm going to do it. I'm going to set it up. And then you emailed me. Without me even asking you emailed me and said, hey, would you ever want me to interview you? I think your guests would really like it. And I was like, yeah, I was like, what I was thinking about. You are a controversial guest who have been on my show. You like fucked your best friends mom and her stepdad. I'm going to put a link to your episodes in the description so people could get to know you if they don't know who you are. Because today we're not going to be talking about you.

7:09We're going to be talking about me. And I got to shut the fuck up because it's going to be your show. You're interviewing me. What are the rules, Ashley? You tell me. OK, so here's what I thought. I would just start off with prepared questions that I thought that I would like to know about you and also questions that I'm sure your listeners would like to know also. But I think there should be, like, maybe a please fifth top situation where you only get one question. I think a lot of these are going to be open-ended. You're going to want to talk more about each question I have. So. But wait, I just want to explain that. I have to let everybody know that Ashley asked me ahead of time to want me to send you the questions. And I said, no. I have no idea what she's coming up with. I really like for everything to be super organic. So if you ask me something I don't want to answer, I'm going to explain why I don't want to answer. And I think that kind of content is interesting as well. So ask away. I have no idea what these questions are.

8:10And I might plead the fifth more than once. But if I do, I'll explain why. Oh, no. That was my side. You can't. OK. Oh, no. OK. So some of us already know. But tell us a little bit about how your show came about, like, how it started. It was, it really started backwards, like, most things in my life. I did just sit out to do a podcast. I had worked in the entertainment business. I knew a lot of comedians. Now, back when I started a podcast, those were the people that were doing podcasts. Now, everyone's doing a podcast. But back when I started, it was like comedians were doing podcasts, not everybody. But my comedian friends were like, OK, if you should do a show, because I always liked to talk. You know, this kind of the kind of talk that I do on my show. I liked doing it with my friends. And people would get irritated by me. So I was like, why don't I do a show where I could help people and do what I like to do, which is ask a million questions and really get to know people. With people that want that to happen, right? So I didn't know the name. I didn't know anything. I got a co-host.

9:11I said, it's going to be in a call and advice show about romance and sex and stuff. And I'll just help people with their problems. And I just, I mean, this is the story that I've told before, but maybe some of you haven't heard it. Like, I did not know where to get callers for my show. I, 100% believe my show was going to suck. I was horrified that I was doing it. I was really nervous. And I didn't want to follow my face in front of anyone I knew. So I didn't tell anyone I was doing it. I didn't want to post on my social media to find callers, right? Because like I said, I thought my show was going to suck. And I didn't want anyone to know about it. So I was like, where can I advertise to get these people that are going to call into my show? So I went to Craigslist and I swear to God. I went into the community section and the job section. And it was all like pay 50 bucks to post an ad. And I was like, I'm not paying 50 bucks to post an ad because I'm like, frugal. Where can I do it for free? So it was seriously the, the, what were those called? The personal. So that was the place that you could, that was the only place you could post for free. So I posted on the personal and I posted in every single section.

10:14Men for men, women for women, strictly hook ups, everything. And I struck gold. I got my first five episodes were taped in the, in one day. My co-host was so angry at me because he had to talk for five hours. For me, there's nothing better. I could talk for five hours straight. Not my co-host. He was pissed. He was like, let's never do that many people at the same time. But I was like, this is it. And then I got the name. I decided to change people's voices. It's just all sort of happened backwards. Because like I said, I really didn't plan on it being a show about sex. But it's not like, oh, I was somebody that was like, so close-minded about it. I mean, I was always down to talk about it. I was always super open and non-judgmental. So it wanted to be the perfect fit for me. And now, if I'm not mistaken, that personal is not all Craigslist anymore. Correct? Right? I took that. I took that. And let me tell you, thank God I had been doing my show. Oh, yeah. When I started, because in the beginning, like now I get hundreds of people emailing me

11:19every two days that wanted to be on my show. I just have more people that want to be on my show than I could accommodate. But back in the beginning, for the first couple of years, I had to work my ass off to get people to call in. And there would be weeks where I didn't have somebody. And I eventually created an adult friend finder's profile that I would be emailing people. Just like, I had to really work. And the Craigslist personal was my end-all-beel. I posted ads as well as responded to ads. So that's the way I would work it. By the time Craigslist went under, it was like, thank God I'm at the point where people are emailing me to be on the show. I didn't need it anymore. But I would have been fucked if I had started six months before they went. Bus, because it was, it's hard to find people to call in. I don't, it's not hard for me now, but it wasn't the beginning. Right. So you kind of hit on this a little bit, but was a podcast of something that you ever saw yourself doing, like growing up, or was this ever in your mind, like journalism or anything like that?

12:20Talk show. I was obsessed. I have always, I always talk about how obsessed with like reality TV. I was also obsessed with talk shows, like real shit, like real people stuff was always my thing. I was obsessed with talk shows. And I was always like, I would love to be a talk show host. And not a talk show host that's talking to celebrities, like those shows that were around back in my day, like Sally Jesse, what's his name? Not so much her other Rivera. He was too like bizarre. I like just the regular real people stuff. So anyway, so yeah, I always wanted to have my own talk show. And for me, it was always like, or a radio show. And then it became like, you know, if I could get paid to talk for a living, that would be ideal. So to me, that's what I always wanted. And that's what I'm doing now. Yeah. Okay. So let's talk about you when you were in your 20s. What were you, were you in college, were you working somewhere? What were you up to?

13:21No, I did things very different when I was younger. I didn't know what the fuck I wanted to do when I was super young. And then like, when I was 26, I moved into the city. And then I went back to school. I went to college when I was 26. So you know, my 20s were just me partying, going out, like figuring out who I was and just having a good time. And I really was not taking life so seriously. Right. So what about your childhood? What was it? Yeah. I mean, oh, listen, I was thrown out of not one school, not two schools. I was thrown out of three schools. Okay. So what? Yeah. Three high schools. I was thrown out of three fucking high schools. I, being a child was not fun for me. Okay. Like, I know that some people are like, oh, being like their childhood was like the best times of their lives. I feel like the worst times of my life. I couldn't wait to grow up and just be an adult and do whatever the fuck I wanted.

14:22There was a lot of reasons why I didn't like being younger. One was that like, I wanted to just be my own person. And I think it's hard. Like for me, and I think some personality types, it is hard to be younger because everyone's telling you what to do. You can't do your own thing. So I was super rebellious, but I also had on top of that besides that personality type, what really made me act out was I didn't have great parents at the time of me. And I'm still close with them to this day, but you know, they were like most parents in my generation. They were like pretty fucked up and they fucked me up and I really acted out. And I really hated school and I just threw it in the shitter. I mean, I mean, if I look back, I think what an asshole I was because I could have done so much more. I always was very bright and was skipped grades in school because I was like a high intelligence but I was like horrendous. And it was all came from not being happy and being dysfunctional and all that kind of good stuff. Okay, guys, why better orgasms and way bigger loads that also taste better?

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17:32I don't think I was capable of it because of my childhood. I think in order to really get to love, you have to get past trust and I was always super distrustful and I'm not good at relationships. So no, I don't think I've ever been in love. Not yet. Not yet. Okay. When you're not working because I know the podcast takes a lot of your time up, but when you're not working, what do you like to do on your free time? I mean, it's funny because I've been there done that I did everything and then I had a child late in life. And so at this point, I literally like my show is a full time job for me. It's like my career at this point. It pays all my bills and then some. There's so many different things besides my podcast that I do have a YouTube channel, I have a Patreon, I have my social media. There's just a lot of more work that goes into it. So I don't have a lot of free time. When I'm not working, I'm with my son. I have a child. So on weekends, I'm out and about with him. I was always the type person as much as I hated being a child myself.

18:34I love hanging out with children. I find them to be a little bit more fun. A lot of times than most adults, everyone just wants to do the same shit. They just want to go to a barn drink. I don't drink. Children are just down for adventures. So me and my son go out and about. And when I'm by myself, I love to go to movies because I don't drink. That's like a great way for me to check out. I love going to the movies. I love learning about things. I love googling. I love just being out and about and just going on adventures. I don't know. But mostly with my son, that's what I'm with. So I was going to ask you, are you comfortable talking about having your son later in life? You said you were, are you comfortable telling how old you are when you had your... 46? No, no, no, I was 46. I think it's like when I was 46 at that time. My mom was 43. Yeah. Yeah. It can be really, really hard. And did you do, I don't know what they're called, like the... Yeah, everything. I did everything. You know, nobody believed me. When I had my baby, I had so many friends, like, I mean, like ready to give me like the

19:37fucking medal of honor because they were like, how did you have a baby? Like, I failed at having a baby more times than most people fail. I mean, like, I just never gave up. I had six IVFs. I had not, I think 11 IUIs. I mean, I wound up in the hospital. It was a long, crazy journey, but it was like the best thing that could have happened to me. I learned so much going through that. And it taught me so many lessons. So I really don't look back at that time as something negative. I think it was something amazing. I mean, as a commitment, like I said, I never been in love because I never committed to anyone because I was always too afraid. So committing to having a baby was the first thing I ever really committed to and then failing at it so much and then just still moving on really taught me how to be more committed. Like I feel like I have less fear of commitment and less, a lot of things because I realize that even if I fail or things don't go my way, I'm totally fine.

20:40Like I was fine. I mean, I failed a million times. Like I said, and when you fail at having a baby, like it's huge, didn't I mean it's like you either have a baby and your whole life changes or you don't. Like the extremes of what you get or don't get or so humongous that it's like a rough go and anyone that has been through infertility understands that. But I learned so much and it made me a better person and so it all worked out perfectly for me. And having a baby at 46 was the perfect time for me. If I had a baby at 26, I would have thrown them out the window and been miserable. And I don't think that that's for everybody. Everybody's different. But for me, my motto was like, I would rather be changing diapers no matter what I saw people doing. I was like, that's exactly where I wanted to be and I wanted nothing more than to just be with my child. And I had nothing that I felt like I was missing out on. You know, because if you're really going to be a good mom, like your child takes up like all of you, especially the first like two to three years, two and a half years, it's like learning a new job.

21:41You're just hyper focused. That's all you care about as your child. And nothing, everything on the outside, it's like you doesn't even exist. You're in a different world. But I was fine to be in that world because I had been out doing my own thing my whole life doing whatever the fuck I wanted. Right. So are you seeing anyone right now? No. And I would say, I have a booty call, you know, when I want to get laid, I'm always going to get laid. But I would say that after my son turned like three and a half four, I was like, oh, I could see myself maybe starting to date again. I would always get the other moms like, why aren't you dating? Like you're still hot. Like you get guys like when my son was like two, I'm like, are you kidding me? The last thing on my mind was dating anyone. All I cared about was my babe. But now I would totally be open to dating somebody. And I've been thinking that since he's been about four and then fucking COVID hit. And then now I've just been so focused on like becoming very successful with my podcast that that's like really first and foremost love and finding love is always at the bottom

22:46of the list for me, unfortunately, but it's starting to move up and it needs to be because that's what I believe. Like the minute I'm sort of ready for it, I'll find somebody, but I've been just focused on other things. It was my son. And now it's my success. And then it'll be love. Okay. So tell us what your toxic personality trade is. What do you mean toxic personality trade? Like I feel like everybody has. Oh, I have so many. You mean like what is like the worst part of me? Like the worst one. It's like the worst that you just wish that you could eliminate. But like I would say like Mon is sometimes I'm a little hypocritical. Like I don't look at the situations from somebody else's one of you. That would be my... Oh, mine would be. I think I'm definitely reactive. And I hate that about myself. If something makes me angry or I get upset, like I react without even thinking. I'm very reactive. And I can be a hothead. And I...

23:48That I think that would be it for sure. My personality. I have a very strong personality. I'm like... Oh, absolutely. Half of our call I want to end this. Slap you because you thought I was laughing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm very direct and I'm very... A lot of people would say I have a lot of toxic parts of my personality. But I think that that's why you're so strong in what you do. Yeah. Because you have the reason that a lot of us watch you or not watch you listen to you is because you call people out. Yeah. Yeah, totally. We're going to call and talk about this and you're going to come on my show. If I feel like there's some dishonesty here, I'm going to call you out. And I think that's a part of you that I like. And I think that's a lot of others as well. Yeah, that would be like my good quality, not my toxic, but my talk. Yeah, I'm sorry. Yeah. It's why you look at it, I guess. But I know we kind of hit on this a little bit earlier, but I just wanted you to explain

24:49like how long does it take you to prepare for an episode? Like what all goes into it? Zero. Zero. I love this question because there is zero. I remember when I first started doing my show, one of my comedian friends listened to an episode to give me feedback and he was like, wow, I love the question, like your questions that you have written down were so good. I'm like, what do you mean questions written down? I don't have any fucking questions written down. I never, I do zero work before I- I would have never felt that. Yeah, no. I am just naturally curious by nature. When I am talking, and this is why I get so mad when people on YouTube are like, now fucking interrupting. It's like, fuck off. I'm doing this because I'm actually interested in what the person that I'm talking to has to say. I'm not, there's no bullshit here. I love people so much and like just regular people, I feel like I could have a conversation with a guy in the park that I never met and who's 80 and find him fascinating and want to talk to him for an hour because that's how curious of a person I am and I'm curious

25:50about human nature and people and I find people interesting and that's what my brain loves to do. So that's how the story gets created. And I love the way I do it because you never know what's going to come out. You know what I mean? What I create on the show, I never know. It's sort of just created as we're speaking and I love that flexibility of doing that. It's like art. It's a blank canvas I get on the call and then whatever comes out comes out and I always love what comes out because I don't know. Right. I think too, with you being so inquisitive, it gets more information out of your callers. Like what they wouldn't have said, I get them talking and that's what again, what makes a show such a hit. And I'm going to tell you before I did my show, like I can't tell you how many times I was sitting across from somebody or on the phone with somebody that I just met and they'd be like, I can't believe I'm telling you this. Like I don't know. Anybody this and the reason why people have always sat across from me and told me things

26:54is because they could tell. They could smell on every fucking level that I am actually interested in what they're saying. And I'm not listening because I'm trying to judge them or make myself feel better about myself because they're going to say something like most people listen or ask questions for. They know I'm literally asking questions because I'm interested. And so that unspoken thing that's coming out of me allows that other person to open up and tell me things. And people tell me more because of that and that's why it works. And sometimes I will cut out some of the stuff that I say about myself because it's not about me. It's about the other person. But I do like to put myself out there and I think because I've always been very honest about my stuff, people are more likely to tell me about their stuff as well. Absolutely. Has there ever been a call that was so scandalous or maybe controversial that you decide not to hear it? Yeah, I had to recently. I would never air anything. There's been times that very early on that like it doesn't happen so much now.

27:57It didn't happen actually within the last two years where someone will regret it after and say I just don't want you to air that. It would never. I would never try to fuck somebody up. You know what I mean? I really respect people's wishes, right? But there was one time where a girl called in and she told me like at the end she was like 16. I don't know what it was but she was not legal age. So I was like I cannot air your episode and she kept emailing me like now I'm 17. I'm like no, not until you're fucking 18 years old or older like I can't air it. Yeah, yeah, no, I totally understand. Who is someone that you would love to have on your show? What I really wish I could do, you know how they have the masked singer where they have like a celebrity under a thing and nobody knows who it is. I've never watched a show but I would love for a celebrity to come on and I would never out them and never tell anyone but like have them tell their story, right? And maybe it's somebody that was in a scandal.

28:58I would love to sit down and have a conversation with Louis CK. I love that whole thing that happened to him. I would love to hear his side of the story. I would love to talk it out. I think it would be great. Something like that. I'm sort of sexual scandal with somebody. I would love to get to the real human being part of it and really have a conversation about it. We could dig deep. Right, that's a good idea. Yeah, I just don't know that it would ever happen. Ever saying, neighbor. All right, guys, the next time you have sex, want to feel fully on and ready both mentally and physically. Well then you need to check out Blue Choo Gold. It's listen, Blue Choo has been on a mission to help guys build their confidence and help them perform better in the bedroom. And their new formula, Blue Choo Gold is helping millions of men have better sex. While most ED medications only focus on blood flow, Blue Choo Gold goes further by combining two ingredients for blood flow and two ingredients for mental arousal and connection.

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31:01And I think Blue Choo for sponsoring the pod and the bedroom. Yeah, because I listen. I'm sure there's celebrities that eat by my show and listen. I just don't know that they would call in. Let's see. Who is your least favorite guest? Oh God. I would say it was poor Donna that loved to eat sperm or whatever her fucking thing was. I've learned over time the best guest or the people that email me. I want to be on your show. Okay. When it's like, oh, you should get this person on. They're always not so great. And this was a woman that was her husband or partner email me and said, oh, she's really into eating sperm or I don't know what it was like ingesting it. What do you even say? I forget what the title was, but she is. I heard that one. Oh, and why it was so bad. And it gets the most views on YouTube and everybody says that was the most painful thing I've ever heard because she did not want to talk. She had, she was not interested in being there. It was like amateur hour for me. Like I was doing it now.

32:01I would have shut it down because I felt sorry for her. It's not her fault. I do believe that someone forced her into doing it. It was probably at a time where it was hard for me to get callers. So I still needed this to be an episode. So I went with it and tried to get details out. But like on YouTube, you see a lot of people saying, oh my God. Cat thing. I give you credit for like sticking in there and stuff. But you know, I probably should have never aired it. I probably should have never went on with the episode because it was very obvious that she was being forced into doing it by somebody else and she didn't want to do it. And that's like that's the episode that I think was the worst. Okay. So have you ever considered walking away from your show? Have that ever cost you? Yeah. But you're right before I decided to start monetizing it because I never did. I never focused on monetizing it. I did it for seven years and just took care of my life. And it was just something that I did because I enjoyed doing it, but I didn't make a dime. I never missed one episode every Sunday for seven years. I did it.

33:02And then I was kind of like, you know what? If I'm not going to make money now, like my son is older, I got to go back to work. Like I can't put in all this time when I'm not making money that I'm like, maybe I just have to end it. I mean, it's like too much. But instead of ending it, I decided to really focus on making it something that I make money on and monetizing it and making it my full time gig. And that's what I did. And it took off. And I'm just happy that I didn't. And I remember having a conversation with somebody and saying, I think I'm just going to stop. It was like my old age in front. And he was like, Kathy, I just actually was just thinking that it's getting so good. Like you shouldn't leave that. So I didn't. But yeah, there's been times where I'm like, oh, you know, because it is a lot of work. Now, no way. I love it. I think that it's misunderstood the work that. Yes. The podcasters have to put into this there. There's so much. And that's kind of like what I wanted to make sure that we hit on because it's not respected as much as it should be. And my opinion, people think that you just record something and then you throw it on

34:05a, I don't know. And then it, then you air it. But it's not that easy. There's, you know, so I'm glad that you're hitting on that because a person that is putting all their time and work into this should be getting compensated. Totally. Because you have to. And that's why I always say thank you to my sponsors. They're like everybody who listens to podcasts listens for free. You are getting free content. Somebody has to pay those people to do it because like I said, it becomes a full-time job if your show is big enough. So how am I going to make money? I don't want to shut it down and put it behind a pay wall and charge people for it. But yeah, I have helped a lot of people start podcasts over the years and most people fail because they do think, oh, I'll just throw it out. And whatever like magic you just get a following. But it takes, it takes a while. It's a lot of work. But listen, it's like what I love to do. My co-host very early on when we first started, it was like, when are we getting a famous? When am I going to make money? He just wasn't into the process.

35:05He was into like with the payoff. I mean, for me, obviously, because I never made a dime off of it, I love doing it because I did it for seven years with no money. But it was like, obviously like what I just genuinely like to do. But yes, it is a lot of work. And now because when I did decide to monetize, I started to put more work into my YouTube and my Patreon. And then I really started to work my Instagram. And it all takes a lot of time. I love the way my Instagram looks. It takes me hours to pick the pictures that I want to make it look right to what am I going to say. And that's the part of my job. That's the way I look at it. And I love it. Okay. And then also now that you said you had a co-host to begin with. Yes. That didn't work out right? No, I fired. Well, obviously it didn't work out that much. But was there a big story behind that or just who didn't want to do it anymore? And that was it. No, he was like, he was my co-host. It was devastating actually because I did it for the first six to eight months. But it was like a lot. Listen, I was taught very early on like when you like, and it was a smart lesson.

36:07And this is a good lesson for everybody out there. When you do something like do it, you're fucking self. And if you're going to do it with somebody else, take on all of the responsibility so that when it doesn't work out, there's a clean break. And so when I set up the podcast, I paid for everything. I did all the work. All he had to do was show up. I booked the guest. I found the guest. I paid for the equipment. I did the advertising. Everything. I learned how to edit. I hosted. I paid. Like I said, all he had to do was literally show up. And he couldn't fucking do that. Okay. He was like a piece of garbage. He was someone that I slept with. He was like my long-term booty call. There's many episodes with him. We stayed friends afterwards. But I was devastated when it didn't work out. It was mainly because I was just so hard to coordinate guests as well as him. And he was very flaky. And he had like a bunch of restaurants that he owned and stuff. So he was just never really available. So I had to fire him. And that was the best thing I ever did. I think it's a lot easier to do things on your own and the best thing. And like I said, it was great that I had paid for everything and did everything because that like the minute he left, there was nothing for me to learn.

37:10I was doing all the editing. I was doing all the booking. I was doing everything. So it was a clean, easy break. Devastating at first because I didn't know how my show was going to work. I had never talked to the fucking wall. Like when I had to do my first intro where I'm just talking, it was so hard for me. I felt like I just didn't know what to do. It was weird because and that's why I had a co-host. It was just more comfortable for me to talk to somebody. So but anyway, that was that story. Oh, that kind of answers my next question. You wouldn't, which you do not need a co-host. Have you ever considered maybe having a co-host after all of this happened? No. No. I don't think you need to, but I just wanted to ask. No people loved him and he was like, he was very different than me and he brought something separate to the table and I really was nervous when I lost him that without that sort of normal person's voice. He was like, he would just say stuff that I was like, oh my god, so stupid. Yet my audience like loved him. But no, I really like it to be my fucking show.

38:10I could say whatever the fuck I want and I don't need to hear somebody interjecting with nonsense that I don't think is worth it. It's just me and the gas ton. So no, I would never have a co-host on again. Okay. I'm not supporting it. Okay. Oh, we're getting into the Navy Gritty. Yeah. SCX stuff for all of us. Yeah. Yeah. So how old were you when you lost your virginity? I think it was 15. I couldn't wait to lose my virginity. I was one of those people who I would read magazines and I hated that I couldn't relate to articles in there about sex and stuff. Like I said, when I was younger, I just wanted to grow up and be like an adult. So having sex was a part of that. I just couldn't wait to do it. I had a friend that I really tried to lose my virginity, but like for some reason it never worked. Like we tried to fuck each other. It just didn't work. I remember giving my first blowjob to him. My losing my virginity is pretty, is a pretty crazy story. It's a good story. It's like a losing virginity story that nobody else has. I'll tell it. I'll tell it.

39:10It was in my book, but I'll tell it. It was like, so I was, there was a guy, like I said, that I was like super in love with. And we tried to fuck it. It didn't work for some reason. We never did. And then I started to, I went to this restaurant all the time because I love the French onion soup there with my friend. And I was like 15 at the time. And we went into the bar area and the guy was like my neighbor's friend. He was like this 21 year old guy who was bartending. He was like, oh, aren't you so and so's neighbor? Like I seen you around. We're young girls. Like yeah. And so he starts like giving us drinks, which is like always great, right? You're 15, you're drinking. You know, and you're not checking our ID. And he starts to ask us questions and like we're drunk and he asks us if we're virgin. So I'm like, no, I'm not a virgin. But I was totally lying. And this is why I don't lie. Okay, because there's nothing good comes of it. And so I said, I'm not a virgin. And then it turned out that he was like, oh, we're looking for a hostess for the restaurant. And so I applied and I got the job. And I start working there. Now I think so now I'm 16. So maybe I'm 16 when I was a virgin. So I start working there on the weekends.

40:12And this guy starts to make a play for me. He's 21. But like he's hitting on me and we're like making out in the back. And I'm like, I'm gonna have to date this guy and I'm gonna have to fuck him. And he's gonna find out that I lied about being a virgin. So what do I do? So I called up my friend who I had always tried to lose my virginity with. And I was like, listen, I need you to do me a favor. Like I need you to fuck me until my cherry pops until I bleed. So my boyfriend doesn't know that I lied about being a virgin. And that just tells you so much about me. That is the type of person I am. I'm a problem solver. And that's exactly what we did. I still have the note from the guy. Like we typed letters to each other and wrote them back and forth. This is the instructions and you're gonna get to my house. And I took the bus from my Catholic school to his town and got off and went to his house. And we fucked and I didn't bleed. And I'm like, you gotta fuck me again. Like I was like, it was like, it was like, yeah, I was making sure.

41:12And then I bled and I'm like, okay, thanks. And then I had to act with my boyfriend and he never knew. Oh my God. That's why you don't lie. This is why I don't lie. Okay. So also I don't hear for you to tell us your best sex story. And then also your worst. Oh my God. That's really hard. I had a lot of sex because I was never like with long term boyfriend. I always liked that too. I was single for eight years. And so you fuck around a lot of people like, I had a boyfriend early on. And he was like probably the longest boyfriend I stayed with. And it was definitely because he had the biggest dick I had ever seen in the sex was like amazing. So like that, I wouldn't consider myself a size queen now. But back in those days, he was like one of the first guys and it was just so big and so pleasurable. And I stayed with him for so long. So probably he was someone that stood out as some of the best. But like my co-host that I slept with for eight years, he was like my booty call that

42:15I had. There was just something about him. I would just like go over in two seconds, like fuck him and be done. I mean, it was just like turning on a light. It was so easy and quick. And I don't know what it was. And he wasn't great. He never kissed him, by the way. And everyone makes no one knows that story. No, I hated his mouth. I would never kiss him. We never dated. But I would fuck him and he was great. So you know, there's been a couple guys that stand out that I just had like intense chemistry with that were like my best and my worst. I don't know what worse would be. I did a lot of drunk sex when I would like blacked out drinker. That was how I really acted out when I was younger. So probably all of that sex was the worst. But probably the guys would tell you it was the best. So is that the reason that you try to stay away from alcohol, the reason you don't drink now is because of the... Yeah. Yeah, I was definitely an alcoholic. I was like a functioning alcoholic. I was the type that would.

43:15I'd be at till five o'clock in the morning, but I would not miss work. I would puke in between phone calls when I was like working at the place that I was at. I would keep it together, but I was a black out drinker. And I would have sex with people I didn't want to have sex with. I did not feel like I was taking advantage. It was all in my own doing. I was hurting nobody but myself when I was really acting out because I had issues. The same person that was thrown out of three high schools, I was acting out and I acted out sexually for sure. And when I was drinking, I only quit because I couldn't stay unblacked out for a long time. But it is progressive in that. I could drink for hours and then black out the last hour of the night. But fast forward to the time when I'm almost 34 or around that time, I would take two sips of a drink and black out. I was like, changing all my alcohol drinks because I'm like, okay, I can't. I won't drink tequila or a vach anymore and I'll just try to drink beer and then I'm drinking beer and that's fine and I'm able to stay not blacked out.

44:16And then I started blacking up in that quicker. And my body just couldn't handle it. So I really just quit when I quit because I was doing crazy things and blacking out and I had no control of myself. But it wasn't until I quit for a long time that I really realized like, oh, I was drinking for other reasons. Like alcohol wasn't the problem. The problem was this whole slew of other things and then I started to deal with those when I got sober. But yeah, I stopped drinking because I can't handle my alcohol. It's just not for me. You know what I mean? I'm a classic addict. I have to put dish to children on my son's french fries if I don't want to eat them like seriously because if I like something, I fucking want it and I want more of it and I can't stop. I'm an addict in every way she performs. And I use it to my advantage and you know, I'm addicted to good things now, but I definitely have that personality. Okay. So let's talk like three sons. Have you had them? Yeah. I had. Yeah, I had one that was like set up in a drunken blackout that I didn't even know.

45:17I mean, I remember it and it was like, it is really a funny story. I feel like I've told it on one of my YouTube videos. I don't know, but I was like out at a big club called the limelight. They had rock and roll Sunday night and I was there with two guy friends of mine. One guy friend of mine was like, I think maybe we were banging. I don't know if this was the first time we banging him or he was after me, but anyway, I lived in the city at the time and he was like, oh, this girl needs a place of stage. She can't, she can't get home or whatever. I'm like, sure. I'm like, you know, when you're young, I would never do that now. But so she comes over to our house. I have new roommates at the time. I have two other roommates and one of the people that live in the middle room, the wall wasn't built yet. So they're like laying in bed and this is what they tell me. They said that like they see three people walk in with me and then they see one person walk out. And I don't know anything of this is happening, but these are new roommates. So me, my friend, another guy friend and this girl all go into my room. And then the guy who was trying to bang me or I was banging, like starts filling around

46:20me. And so does the girl. And it turns out that she was like a straight up lesbian. She wanted nothing to do with him. It was like both of them on me and we all fooled around. My other friend left and all my roommates knew. I mean, it was like fucking horrifying. And she was so psychotic and she smelled really bad. I had her, I had her stink in my hair. I mean, it was so gross. I come out in the morning and I'm like, what the fuck happened? And I go out and she's sitting in the living room with my roommates and she literally has her hair. She had like hair extension. She had them out of her hair and she's holding on to her hair extensions and brushing them as she's talking to my new roommates. Like she's like a fucking loon. And now I look like, oh my god, and these are new roommates. They saw three people come in. They saw one person leave and they saw that this girl slept over and now she's like brushing her hair extensions in front of them. Like they were not in her head anymore. She's like holding them. Like this is so embarrassing. So I had to tell them what. Oh my gosh. So that answers my next question was the three so many good.

47:23I'm going to take that as a next one. And then after that, I would always act out. Like whenever I would break up with a guy, I'd go like full around with the girl. Like it was just something that I would do like to get my head out of the game or something that was always like drunk and stuff. So there was one other three, some with a couple and that was bad because that girl, the minute we started to fool around and she could tell that her guy was paying a lot of attention to me. It flipped her out and I could I picked up on her uncomfortableness and I just didn't feel comfortable doing that to her. Like I was like, I'm a girls girl. Like I'm just going to be on her side. You know, I understood and I felt bad for her. So that ended and so the other times what girls were just like solo stuff. But oh, it was when I would break up with a guy but never recently or anything like that. How do you ever involve yourself in any kind of swinging or anything like that? No, no, it's I mean, I talk about it a lot. Like when I was younger and wanting to grow up and learn, do all these things like I was always obsessed with being a swing or like I was always like that's the top of the

48:25mountain, the being evolved. If I could get to a point where you could just be totally into somebody but just open and do whatever you want and not own them sexually and be a swing or I was always obsessed with that when I was younger and that was always like my goal. But no, I'm not there yet. But you know, listen, if I was with the right person, I would I would try it all out for sure. I feel like I would go into my next relationship more open about things. I don't think I would look for a totally monogamous relationship. But not because I want to fuck other people. So you are attracted to women. You would say like it if you're out and about. Can you see a hot shake or like she thought? Yeah, I could totally look at women like a man does. Like I used to sit on my roof with a guy friend of mine where I lived before I lived now. I had a roof. I mean a pool on my building and me and like the guys that lived in the building would like rate the girls. I could see things in women like a man. I never felt like when I fooled around with women like there was always something missing

49:28in it for me. It was like this weird energy thing that fell flat for me. I can't explain it. There's something about like the male energy mixed with my energy when it comes to sex. That's like very hot to me and whereas when I was with women there was like a lack of that and there it just never was like it never felt like something that I was into though I could look at a woman's body and feel the way. So that's why I always say my guy being with other women and that kind of thing is like interesting. But would I need to participate? Probably not. So that's the way I would engage in a with a woman whereas she would be with like my guy but I don't necessarily have to be with her. Right. And I've had three things that you could clearly see that not all parties were equally involved and it just takes the, it changes the maybe it takes the desire out of it and it's not as hot anymore. It ruins it. Yeah, for sure.

50:29Absolutely. What would you say is your naughty as to sexual top of the mountain fantasy? A fantasy of mine was always like two guys at once but it was always something I would never do. Like a DP, two guys, one guy fucking you dick in your mouth like that kind of two guy, one girl thing was always a fantasy of mine but it would never was never something that I ever felt that I would do in real life. But to me that was like the nautical thing like a DP for sure. Double pendant treatment because I was away to anal and I liked a regular sex so why not a both. I had anal in here too and I was going to ask you about. Yeah. So, so if you were to get with someone right now and he had somebody a buddy or whatever so in New York, a comfortable enough with him and comfortable enough with this other guy you wouldn't try. I don't know. I can never say never but I always felt like that's something I never wanted to do in real

51:32life but it was like a fantasy but I don't know. I really don't know because I also always felt like I wanted to be a swing or so that would open up. So maybe if I opened up and had a very successful open relationship that would come into play I don't know but I would say no right now but leave it open to maybe it would progress to that. I would maybe it's a block for me and maybe if I did it I would love it but I feel like right now that would be a no. Okay. Okay you answered this one. How do you ever slept with someone you worked with but you did so. Oh my God so many people. So many people I worked with. I mean I've done the same so it's a problem. Who doesn't? Who does it? I mean work drinks afterwards. I remember I was like training with a boss of mine and his old assistant was training me and we went out and had sex. I mean I didn't even like him. We hated each other. I remember telling my boss because we became really good friends. I'm like oh yeah I fucked that guy. He was like really well I was like when he was like training me I don't know like shit happens because of alcohol.

52:33That's kind of stuff stopped happening to me when I was like 34 because I stopped drinking. I mean most people would do a lot of things if there was no alcohol. Okay that is like what encouragement I was like. My last question is other than me have you ever had an episode that you could tell that the person was lying about every time they were there? Yeah there are so many of them. Yes my favorite was when there was a guy that was talking about fucking his aunt and he was like reading me text messages and I was trying to snag him in a lie when I made him read the text message like three times because I'm like if he's making up these text messages he's not going to be able to save them for batom. So I made him say it like more than two times like in a row and he got it and then I'm like thinking in my head like no you know what I'm going to do I'm going to make him say it like 20 minutes from now pull it you know. So I waited for a little bit and he was like driving and I was trying to catch him in a lie we were how totally talking about how I thought he was full of shit and I'm like why

53:35don't you get back that text you read me and read it and oh my god it was like what of my favorite moments ever because he's like he's still like doubling down he knows he's never going to find it because he was totally lying and he like pulls over on the side of the road and I think he says that a cop stopped him I don't remember exactly what happened but it was like the great one of the greatest moments ever because he was totally lying and he had no text message and he couldn't read it back because he was full of shit everything he said. So did that episode air? Yes. Yeah I'm going to have to go hunt those. It's hilarious and so and so fucked his aunt he never fucked his aunt it was all a lie it was so obvious and then I and I say because in the beginning there's one point where I'm really trying to get him on those text message things and then I'm like in the intro I tell people like just wait because it comes a little bit later I bring that back around and then he's totally busted into me it's hilarious. I have to go in the middle. Yeah there's been a lot when listen there have been a couple times where I haven't called

54:40somebody out and sometimes it's like it's just my mood I sometimes just make a decision because like I said I'm never really prepared I never know who I'm getting on the phone with right so sometimes I go with it there was a guy I think his name was Steve he's very popular on YouTube and he had some wife and her friend and he'd take him up to the gang bings on the hill and all this stuff when he was so good I mean I really believed everything he said until he got more towards the end and we started talking about kids and what went on and he just got a very outlandish and I'm like oh my god but it was it to me was so fascinating that I really didn't like say anything about it and didn't call him on it because this was like a guy that I really believe believes his stuff do you know I mean like I can't explain it. There's a comment on the episode on YouTube or somebody's like she really believes that this happened and I'm like no it did. Yeah yeah yeah no for you it really did but sometimes I feel like there's some truth or a lot of truth and then some fantasy so every now and then there's somebody that was lying

55:44and I go with that because they're just like a great storyteller and then sometimes I'm in a weird mood and I'm like I just call them out and I'm totally wrong so really there's no rhyme or reason I'm always making up the rules as I go along and why did I say something to you because I thought you were lying but you weren't and why didn't I say something to the guy who I thought was who knows yeah I think it's hormones I would absolutely love we mentioned that we may do this again and make it a little bit longer and get everybody out. Well why don't we do this so why don't we now those were your questions why don't we now spend another half hour this could be a longer episode it's my 500th episode why don't we now do the questions that people sent in okay perfect okay so that's what I'm going to do okay sounds good thank you Ashley okay I just want to tell you before you go that my book it's called Strickly Not A Miss Confession Secret Sex Lies of Total

56:46Strangers is now available not only in paperback in ebook but you can pre-order the audio book it's still not going to be out till August 25th but you can pre-order it the book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show like there's a hot wife story there's a cuck queen story there's a cuck story there's a gang being girl story like I said 17 stories and they're all told in the third person and they're all true I took the interview and re-wrote it in the third person and I wouldn't really call it like a total erotic a book think like penthouse letters it's more direct it's not so over the top like erotic I don't really like that kind of vibe right but these are true stories 17 of them they're really short chapters easy read you could read you know one or two and then skip around you could read the whole book it's available in e-back format paperback format and finally the audio book is available

57:54coming out August 25th but you could pre-order it now and if you buy my book in any format or pre-order I will throw in a complimentary link to my discord my discord does not just a point okay there's no way you get into my discord any other way then getting the link from me okay I give it to people who buy my book there's tons of people in there everybody shares content with each other and that's what you get to do there you could post your own pictures and videos there's tons of channels we have lots of contests where you could win a lot of money it's a super fun place to be it's a total strictly anonymous community and you will love it I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my discord it's private like I said all you got to do is email me a screenshot of your purchase whether you did the audiobook the ebook or the paperback send it to me at strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com that's strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com and I will send you the link to a discord so anyway thanks so much for tuning in