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1:00complex and power what's next. Because when everything comes together in one place, growth comes easy. Experience one place for all your HCM needs. Start now at Paylossi.com slash one. Welcome to the Make Your Dan Bed Podcast. A daily motivation podcast designed to help you get out of bed every morning with a little company from me, Dr. Limerica. If you struggle with consistency, let's build a little momentum together whether you make your bed or not. Well, good morning sunshine. Welcome to another day of the Make Your Dan Bed Podcast. According to meridianuniversity.edu, you can spend your whole life trying to become a good person and still feel strangely reactive, blocked, or divided inside. You can have a strong moral code, clear goals, even a strong spiritual growth practice, and still find yourself pulled into the same conflict and relationships, or experiencing the same sharp judgments and social settings,

2:04or the same uncomfortable feelings you thought you had to outgrow. In analytical psychology, this is not treated as a failure. It's information. Carl Young's concept of the shadow offers a framework for understanding why your inner life can feel split, and why certain parts of your personality remain hard to open, even when you genuinely want to change. The shadow in this psychology is not a metaphor for evil. It's a structural feature of the psyche that shapes our behavior in unexpected ways, largely outside of our conscious awareness. Shadowwork itself is best understood as inner work grounded in reflection, rather than another form of self-optimization. As I mentioned a few episodes ago, in Young's model, the psyche includes both your conscious ego and the unconscious mind. The unconscious is not some storage unit for forgotten memories. It's an active psychological reality containing personal material and deeper archetypal patterns

3:06that shape our perception, our imagination, our emotion, and the way we make meaning. The shadow belongs to the personal unconscious. It's made of our traits and impulses and effects and potentials that we don't identify with, or we can't comfortably integrate into our sense of our true self. Some shadow materials will feel bad, things we don't want to admit, such as aggression or cruelty or envy, but other shadows can feel good, but just be things we never learned to embody. These are the things I was mentioning yesterday in the Villain Arc series. Our confidence, our assertiveness, our ability to set boundaries, and be hyper focused on what is considered a selfish goal, like creative ambitions. Or maybe your shadow is the tender parts of you that you don't want to let out to stay quote unquote protected. The point is, Young describes the shadow as psychologically real and ethically significant, but not reducible to moral condemnation. We can't just say it's bad

4:10because there is no good or bad. What we should adopt is a more neutral interpretation, so we can integrate these shadows into our whole person. A lot of popular conversations about our shadow side or our dark side treat this as either a villain to destroy or a taboo to romanticize. Young's view is actually more demanding. The shadow is not something you eliminate, but you relate to it. You have to take responsibility for it, and that's what can shift our behaviors that otherwise repeat automatically. Now the shadow does not appear because you are uniquely flawed and different and broken. It appears because human development requires adaptation to survive. From your early life on, you learn what earns approval, what triggers shame, what gets punished, and what makes you feel accepted, or like you belong. You also learn what roles are acceptable in your family system, your culture, your religion, and your workplace. Over time, some parts of your

5:13personality become more allowed, more quote unquote acceptable, and other parts become the more hidden parts. You push them in the background as a coping mechanism. Archetypes in Young's core definition are forms without content, meaning they're predispositions. They're not fixed images. They structure the kind of perceptions and actions that you're capable of generating, and they express themselves through myths or dreams or through symbols, and these deep patterns can be understood in our conversations with attachment and our early relational experience, where emotion and meaning were shaped before our language was fully stabilized. Now this doesn't mean we're going to reduce all of our shadow aspects to all of our childhood trauma, but it does mean that any unhealed trauma or unhealed pains and relational learning can actually intensify the split between what you can openly be and what you tend to keep out of sight. When the split is rigid, the shadow tends to surface

6:14with more force, and you feel like you have less control. You can find your shadow self by noticing, noticing where you're not psychologically free. Where do you have patterns of projection onto other people? Where do you emotionally react that feel disproportionate to the situation? One of the primary pathways is projection. How young explains it, is that the shadow is often encountered indirectly by attributing to others what qualities you don't acknowledge in yourself. When you are intensely judging someone, when you have a moral certainty about someone's character, or you feel a repeated irritation towards similar types of people, this might signal a disowned aspect of yourself and your own personality. When you feel jealous or envious of someone, this might be your shadow speaking up about parts you've hidden, and you don't even realize that you identify with those parts because they've been buried so deep. Now this isn't 100%,

7:19every time that you dislike somebody, it doesn't mean that's your shadow saying, I want to be like that guy, the asshole in the room. But it's more about repeated recurring reactions pointing to the source material that the unconscious is attempting to bring into awareness. If you have disproportionate reactions to people, this might be informational. Projection in our daily life often appears as immediacy and certainty. You feel compelled to correct, to reject, to rescue, or condemn. That compulsion suggests that the unconscious material is active and seeking recognition rather than remaining split off of yourself. A second pathway is your emotional charge. Shadow material frequently registers first through the body rather than through thought. When you have a sudden tension, heat, nausea, sweaty hands, or you just start to feel agitated before any clear narrative forms, this might be that emotional charge that young was speaking of.

8:22From his perspective, the task is not to suppress or dramatize the sensations, but just to observe them closely. Attention turns to what has been touched internally. What self-image feels threatened, which desire is being denied, which vulnerability is being defended against. Taken together, projection, and this emotional charge can offer some reliable access points to the personal shadow. They transform shadow work from an abstract idea into concrete inner work grounded in your lived experience. But it's important to remember that the shadow itself is morally neutral. The only moral issue that it brings up is because it confronts you with responsibility to address it. Young describes the shadow as containing not only are rejected or socially unacceptable impulses, but it's also our normal instincts and creative capacities that have been disowned in the process of adaptation. I've been told my whole life, I'm too chatty,

9:24I'm too opinionated, and as a result it took me a long time to find my voice. I had ridiculous stage fright and still struggle with the concept of being perceived. That's why I do a verbal podcast and not a visual one. And I think that's really important that young clarifies. The problem is not that your impulses exist, but the problem is whether they remain unconscious and therefore can act autonomously without our agency. Because integrating the shadow doesn't mean indulging it or acting it out or becoming more impulsive. It means recognizing that certain impulses and emotions and desires are part of your psychic reality and taking conscious responsibility for how they're held and expressed is actually a very empowering process. This is how we challenge our whole ego personality because it requires sustained ethical effort rather than a dramatic confession or catharsis or release. From this perspective, shadow work doesn't excuse harmful

10:26behavior. On the contrary, it actually reduces your risk of unconscious enactment and harmful behavior by bringing those disowned materials into your conscious awareness. This is why young places ethical responsibility firmly with the ego. Awareness increases our ability to choose. A lack of awareness increases compulsion. Tomorrow I'll talk a bit about how to actually practice shadow work according to young. In the meantime, you can access all of the relevant resources and the show notes if you're interested. Either way, just know I love you so much. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day and I'll talk to you then while you make your damn bed. Goodbye, cutie. Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast. Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss tomorrow's episode. You can follow on Instagram and TikTok at MYDB Podcast for occasional updates and if you could rate and review this episode five stars wherever you're listening, it genuinely helps the podcast at its core. And if you have anyone

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